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There’s a lot of gay fiber gimmicks out there that are preying on body shame and half truths.   A lot of them are selling gummies as a replacement to douching which simply isn’t true.  And most of these products can be purchased way cheaper at a regular pharmacy. 

There’s a lot of gay fiber gimmicks out there that are preying on body shame and half truths.   A lot of them are selling gummies as a replacement to douching which simply isn’t true.  And most of these products can be purchased way cheaper at a regular pharmacy. 

Oh jeez.  THIS question.  🙄
I didn’t card him.  But I can say he looks exactly like his photos and is stunning in person and looks believably like the age he’s stating. 
Fit men in their 30’s and 40’s it can be impossible to discern.  But he’s definitely man not twink. 

I know him in person, but am also a provider.  I’ve never hired him. 
But his photos are absolutely true to life.  Face pics are current.  Body is even more impressive in person.  
No smoke and mirrors here!

I’m very much into joining, and this feels like ample heads up for planning. 
Just need to assess the actual business model here, if it’s just a single weekend.  😬 
A Palm Springs jaunt from NYC is pricey enough, I wouldn’t expect it to be a moneymaker.  But it would be nice if it could at least pay for itself.  
Any other providers with experience/insight feel free to DM me.  😇 

I know him in the real world, and he 100% looks like his photos.  The physique is flawless.

Does anyone remember Philip Seymour Hoffman in the movie HAPPINESS?  If not, do yourself a favor and watch it.  It’s an amazing film. 
Literally every client who’s called me has been that dude.  Full-on 100%.  None of them has even been good at pretending they were serious about hiring.  

I'm not sure if I'm an anomaly or what, but friendship with clients seems like a very natural result of this kind of work.  If you show up and bring any of your human self to bear in the moment, real connections do happen.  Sometimes you find you have common interests.  Sometimes you just get to know each other over repeated sessions.  There are any number of client/provider situations where people make friends and think nothing of it.  Personal trainers, yoga instructors, hair stylists.  An escort is a more intimate relationship than any of those, so it only stands to reason.
Yes, boundaries are always important.  Most of us juggle varying degrees of complicated lives.  And we can't always be available to everyone all the time.  I've been lucky that pretty much everyone I've met so far has intuitively understood that. 
 
On the question of answered texts, I think what you're observing is not unique to escorts and their clients.  This is an issue with humans who text.  
As a general rule, do not presume to know why a person has left you on read.  You literally have no idea what someone's life might be at any given moment.  Maybe they're driving.   Maybe they opened your text by accident.   Maybe they're about to go into surgery.  And don't presume to know why someone's not looking at your text but their chat light is green.  Maybe they're texting their grandmother on her death bed.  Maybe they're late to an event and texting for directions.  Maybe they just don't have time for you in that moment.  None of this is inconsistent with friendship.  None of this is inconsistent with checking in on you at later time.  You need to be careful not to confuse the access that comes with friendship with 24/7 availability.

Does anyone remember Philip Seymour Hoffman in the movie HAPPINESS?  If not, do yourself a favor and watch it.  It’s an amazing film. 
Literally every client who’s called me has been that dude.  Full-on 100%.  None of them has even been good at pretending they were serious about hiring.  

Maybe he doesn’t appreciate the double standard at play here. 
The best providers offer the solemn promise of absolute discretion.  Meanwhile, intimate details of their sexuality are shared in a public forum without a thought.  
Even crazier: he expressed his direct displeasure with the public sharing about him.  And you said: “I’m gonna make a  post about this with a link to his profile.”
It’s not a sensitive subject.  Sounds perfectly reasonable to me.

 
 

I think both kinds of meetups have their place!  I've found real value in getting to know other sex workers.  You have moments where you realize how strange the provider life can be, so it can be really nice to get to meet guys who've had similar experiences. 
The provider/client meetup would be great too.  A chance to get to get to know guys on both sides of the industry in a low pressure environment could be really nice!
The Palm Springs meetup is a terrific ambitious event, and I hope I can make it someday.  But a casual happy hour meetup is a great way to start. 

This is a complaint?  You can bring your shoots-too-much right here!   👄👅
 

This is VERY true, and in my mind, it’s one of the things you’re paying for when you opt to hire a provider rather than going the Grindr route.   The burden of EVALUATION is entirely taken on by your provider.   

You evaluate their profile and whether or not you want to reach out.  You evaluate their correspondence, whether they seem like a good fit.   You rate their performance after the fact with a number of stars.  You evaluate them publicly in The Deli for other potential clients.
The same imbalance goes for discretion!  Clients regularly post about who they hire and discuss all the private things about them here.  Meanwhile I’ll fully take my client list to the grave. 
If you can’t get onboard with - and even fully embrace - these imbalanced structural dynamics, you shouldn’t be a sex worker. 

 
 
Old age is the great universal!  We’ll all be there eventually if we’re lucky.  Empathy for that is empathy for your future self  
I see no better way to embrace that universal truth than to do it sexually.  Wrap your lips around it and get to work.  😏 

Yeah, as a BFE provider, I would never ask a prospective client to send a photo.  And - if I’m being honest - I prefer that they don’t.  I never want a client to feel like they’re up for evaluation by me.  I prefer that they enter a session unburdened by such concerns.
There’s plenty of warning signs that you pick up on that might cause you to not meet a particular client.  Sometimes they wave the crazy flag.  Sometimes they’re asking for a scene that would be better fulfilled by a different provider.   (That one happens from time to time, but I try to be honest when I sense that I’m not the guy for you.)  But none of the above involves the external superficials: age, race, body type, or general appearance.  None of which would be reasons to not meet a client.  
Sometimes the client wants to share a photo for his own peace of mind.  I suspect to ease his own fears of how a provider might respond to meeting him in person.  I welcome it if it puts the client at ease.  But I usually feel bad when they feel the need.  

VERY this!  The massive population of men that have learned that RentMen is where you can go for free sexting with escorts.   And that is their hobby, not hiring at all.  Many of those folks populate this very forum. 
There's no overstating the impact of that population - soughing distrust - in all of our interactions. 

I think both kinds of meetups have their place!  I've found real value in getting to know other sex workers.  You have moments where you realize how strange the provider life can be, so it can be really nice to get to meet guys who've had similar experiences. 
The provider/client meetup would be great too.  A chance to get to get to know guys on both sides of the industry in a low pressure environment could be really nice!
The Palm Springs meetup is a terrific ambitious event, and I hope I can make it someday.  But a casual happy hour meetup is a great way to start. 

I think both kinds of meetups have their place!  I've found real value in getting to know other sex workers.  You have moments where you realize how strange the provider life can be, so it can be really nice to get to meet guys who've had similar experiences. 
The provider/client meetup would be great too.  A chance to get to get to know guys on both sides of the industry in a low pressure environment could be really nice!
The Palm Springs meetup is a terrific ambitious event, and I hope I can make it someday.  But a casual happy hour meetup is a great way to start. 

I think both kinds of meetups have their place!  I've found real value in getting to know other sex workers.  You have moments where you realize how strange the provider life can be, so it can be really nice to get to meet guys who've had similar experiences. 
The provider/client meetup would be great too.  A chance to get to get to know guys on both sides of the industry in a low pressure environment could be really nice!
The Palm Springs meetup is a terrific ambitious event, and I hope I can make it someday.  But a casual happy hour meetup is a great way to start. 

I think both kinds of meetups have their place!  I've found real value in getting to know other sex workers.  You have moments where you realize how strange the provider life can be, so it can be really nice to get to meet guys who've had similar experiences. 
The provider/client meetup would be great too.  A chance to get to get to know guys on both sides of the industry in a low pressure environment could be really nice!
The Palm Springs meetup is a terrific ambitious event, and I hope I can make it someday.  But a casual happy hour meetup is a great way to start. 

I think both kinds of meetups have their place!  I've found real value in getting to know other sex workers.  You have moments where you realize how strange the provider life can be, so it can be really nice to get to meet guys who've had similar experiences. 
The provider/client meetup would be great too.  A chance to get to get to know guys on both sides of the industry in a low pressure environment could be really nice!
The Palm Springs meetup is a terrific ambitious event, and I hope I can make it someday.  But a casual happy hour meetup is a great way to start. 

I think both kinds of meetups have their place!  I've found real value in getting to know other sex workers.  You have moments where you realize how strange the provider life can be, so it can be really nice to get to meet guys who've had similar experiences. 
The provider/client meetup would be great too.  A chance to get to get to know guys on both sides of the industry in a low pressure environment could be really nice!
The Palm Springs meetup is a terrific ambitious event, and I hope I can make it someday.  But a casual happy hour meetup is a great way to start. 

A couple local provider friends and I were recently lamenting the lack of community among escorts.  And how lovely it can be to meet up with guys who’ve had similar experiences. 
Do we feel like there’s an appetite out there for a NYC provider meet-up of some kind?

A couple local provider friends and I were recently lamenting the lack of community among escorts.  And how lovely it can be to meet up with guys who’ve had similar experiences. 
Do we feel like there’s an appetite out there for a NYC provider meet-up of some kind?

A couple local provider friends and I were recently lamenting the lack of community among escorts.  And how lovely it can be to meet up with guys who’ve had similar experiences. 
Do we feel like there’s an appetite out there for a NYC provider meet-up of some kind?

Very sexy.. love that video he posted to his account!