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And maybe some of them have been working at it all day and are just exhausted!

Just a hair under 6'3" here, if you're looking for tall providers.   😇
Available in NYC again in January.  

Just a hair under 6'3" here, if you're looking for tall providers.   😇
Available in NYC again in January.  

Just a hair under 6'3" here, if you're looking for tall providers.   😇
Available in NYC again in January.  

I definitely maintain a 9-5 work life and a strong part time escorting life.  It can be challenging.   I’m exhausted 24-7.  But I make it work!
Typically I limit mid-week after work bookings to one in a week.  And I limit those to known regulars who prefer to bottom only.  That way I go directly from work to gym to shower to client.  I try to keep Fridays through Sunday as available for extended client situations as much as I can.  But realistically, I can only fill Friday, Saturday, OR Sunday.  Ambitious as I might get, I still do need day to myself. 
I usually end up taking about 3-4 bookings a week.   There's admittedly all kinds of drawbacks to this situation.  
 If you’re like me, you want to help out every guy who reaches out to you, even if you know it’s logistically impossible for you.  I think it's probably part of my provider brain wiring, I want to show up and provide for everybody.  I literally hate saying no.  But I end up having to say no a lot.  There are entire client populations who are only looking during business hours.  Or weeknight business travelers.  Or I get endless recurring message from the same guys: "Available Tuesday over lunch?"  Unfortunately, never.  I think part of what drives me toward providing is the genuine desire to say yes to everyone.  So the repeated nos do become draining. 
One of the benefits of a part time situation is that I don't run the risk of burnout.  If I show up at a booking, I know it's my only one of the day.  I'm charged up.  I'm horny for it.  I've got the mental and sexual energy to be who I need to be.  I have a confidence that my client is getting the best version of me in a way that I might not have if I was seeing multiple clients in a day.  
Do I imagine my life as a full time sex worker?  Absolutely!  Is that remotely possible for me given the nature of the US health care system.  For sure not!  How do full time providers solve the health insurance dilemma?  No idea.
Suffice to say, the flexibility of sex work is a major bonus in my life, and I'm not looking to give it up anytime soon. 
 

Honestly though, I love this sentiment.  Sounds like he’s a super lucky guy.  And I don’t think a thoughtful gift is going to make anyone feel weird!

Me photographed by Kevin D Hoover 

I definitely maintain a 9-5 work life and a strong part time escorting life.  It can be challenging.   I’m exhausted 24-7.  But I make it work!
Typically I limit mid-week after work bookings to one in a week.  And I limit those to known regulars who prefer to bottom only.  That way I go directly from work to gym to shower to client.  I try to keep Fridays through Sunday as available for extended client situations as much as I can.  But realistically, I can only fill Friday, Saturday, OR Sunday.  Ambitious as I might get, I still do need day to myself. 
I usually end up taking about 3-4 bookings a week.   There's admittedly all kinds of drawbacks to this situation.  
 If you’re like me, you want to help out every guy who reaches out to you, even if you know it’s logistically impossible for you.  I think it's probably part of my provider brain wiring, I want to show up and provide for everybody.  I literally hate saying no.  But I end up having to say no a lot.  There are entire client populations who are only looking during business hours.  Or weeknight business travelers.  Or I get endless recurring message from the same guys: "Available Tuesday over lunch?"  Unfortunately, never.  I think part of what drives me toward providing is the genuine desire to say yes to everyone.  So the repeated nos do become draining. 
One of the benefits of a part time situation is that I don't run the risk of burnout.  If I show up at a booking, I know it's my only one of the day.  I'm charged up.  I'm horny for it.  I've got the mental and sexual energy to be who I need to be.  I have a confidence that my client is getting the best version of me in a way that I might not have if I was seeing multiple clients in a day.  
Do I imagine my life as a full time sex worker?  Absolutely!  Is that remotely possible for me given the nature of the US health care system.  For sure not!  How do full time providers solve the health insurance dilemma?  No idea.
Suffice to say, the flexibility of sex work is a major bonus in my life, and I'm not looking to give it up anytime soon. 
 

I definitely maintain a 9-5 work life and a strong part time escorting life.  It can be challenging.   I’m exhausted 24-7.  But I make it work!
Typically I limit mid-week after work bookings to one in a week.  And I limit those to known regulars who prefer to bottom only.  That way I go directly from work to gym to shower to client.  I try to keep Fridays through Sunday as available for extended client situations as much as I can.  But realistically, I can only fill Friday, Saturday, OR Sunday.  Ambitious as I might get, I still do need day to myself. 
I usually end up taking about 3-4 bookings a week.   There's admittedly all kinds of drawbacks to this situation.  
 If you’re like me, you want to help out every guy who reaches out to you, even if you know it’s logistically impossible for you.  I think it's probably part of my provider brain wiring, I want to show up and provide for everybody.  I literally hate saying no.  But I end up having to say no a lot.  There are entire client populations who are only looking during business hours.  Or weeknight business travelers.  Or I get endless recurring message from the same guys: "Available Tuesday over lunch?"  Unfortunately, never.  I think part of what drives me toward providing is the genuine desire to say yes to everyone.  So the repeated nos do become draining. 
One of the benefits of a part time situation is that I don't run the risk of burnout.  If I show up at a booking, I know it's my only one of the day.  I'm charged up.  I'm horny for it.  I've got the mental and sexual energy to be who I need to be.  I have a confidence that my client is getting the best version of me in a way that I might not have if I was seeing multiple clients in a day.  
Do I imagine my life as a full time sex worker?  Absolutely!  Is that remotely possible for me given the nature of the US health care system.  For sure not!  How do full time providers solve the health insurance dilemma?  No idea.
Suffice to say, the flexibility of sex work is a major bonus in my life, and I'm not looking to give it up anytime soon. 
 

I definitely maintain a 9-5 work life and a strong part time escorting life.  It can be challenging.   I’m exhausted 24-7.  But I make it work!
Typically I limit mid-week after work bookings to one in a week.  And I limit those to known regulars who prefer to bottom only.  That way I go directly from work to gym to shower to client.  I try to keep Fridays through Sunday as available for extended client situations as much as I can.  But realistically, I can only fill Friday, Saturday, OR Sunday.  Ambitious as I might get, I still do need day to myself. 
I usually end up taking about 3-4 bookings a week.   There's admittedly all kinds of drawbacks to this situation.  
 If you’re like me, you want to help out every guy who reaches out to you, even if you know it’s logistically impossible for you.  I think it's probably part of my provider brain wiring, I want to show up and provide for everybody.  I literally hate saying no.  But I end up having to say no a lot.  There are entire client populations who are only looking during business hours.  Or weeknight business travelers.  Or I get endless recurring message from the same guys: "Available Tuesday over lunch?"  Unfortunately, never.  I think part of what drives me toward providing is the genuine desire to say yes to everyone.  So the repeated nos do become draining. 
One of the benefits of a part time situation is that I don't run the risk of burnout.  If I show up at a booking, I know it's my only one of the day.  I'm charged up.  I'm horny for it.  I've got the mental and sexual energy to be who I need to be.  I have a confidence that my client is getting the best version of me in a way that I might not have if I was seeing multiple clients in a day.  
Do I imagine my life as a full time sex worker?  Absolutely!  Is that remotely possible for me given the nature of the US health care system.  For sure not!  How do full time providers solve the health insurance dilemma?  No idea.
Suffice to say, the flexibility of sex work is a major bonus in my life, and I'm not looking to give it up anytime soon. 
 

I definitely maintain a 9-5 work life and a strong part time escorting life.  It can be challenging.   I’m exhausted 24-7.  But I make it work!
Typically I limit mid-week after work bookings to one in a week.  And I limit those to known regulars who prefer to bottom only.  That way I go directly from work to gym to shower to client.  I try to keep Fridays through Sunday as available for extended client situations as much as I can.  But realistically, I can only fill Friday, Saturday, OR Sunday.  Ambitious as I might get, I still do need day to myself. 
I usually end up taking about 3-4 bookings a week.   There's admittedly all kinds of drawbacks to this situation.  
 If you’re like me, you want to help out every guy who reaches out to you, even if you know it’s logistically impossible for you.  I think it's probably part of my provider brain wiring, I want to show up and provide for everybody.  I literally hate saying no.  But I end up having to say no a lot.  There are entire client populations who are only looking during business hours.  Or weeknight business travelers.  Or I get endless recurring message from the same guys: "Available Tuesday over lunch?"  Unfortunately, never.  I think part of what drives me toward providing is the genuine desire to say yes to everyone.  So the repeated nos do become draining. 
One of the benefits of a part time situation is that I don't run the risk of burnout.  If I show up at a booking, I know it's my only one of the day.  I'm charged up.  I'm horny for it.  I've got the mental and sexual energy to be who I need to be.  I have a confidence that my client is getting the best version of me in a way that I might not have if I was seeing multiple clients in a day.  
Do I imagine my life as a full time sex worker?  Absolutely!  Is that remotely possible for me given the nature of the US health care system.  For sure not!  How do full time providers solve the health insurance dilemma?  No idea.
Suffice to say, the flexibility of sex work is a major bonus in my life, and I'm not looking to give it up anytime soon. 
 

Actually, if you are actually reporting the right amount of income,  the ACA will cover most, if not all, of the premium. I know nobody here would ever think of not reporting all their income, but if you are able to report the right amount of taxable income, either through actual earnings or pulling income out of pretaxed income like a Roth IRA, its actually very cheap, if not free.
Sometimes it pays to be the editor of a financial planner.

No real need to stretch your balls.  By the time you reach my age, they’re headed toward your knees anyway.

I started very loosely when I was 21. Then over the next 10 years, every few years I would dip in and out for a few months.when I needed extra cash. 
Then when I was 30 i decided to dip my toes back in it to supplement my income and save for a trip through Europe.
When I got home I lost my job to a company restructure and I started doing sex work full time and was making way more money than I was working my shitty full time job anyway. 
It's been just over 7 years now full time. 
 

Gunnison Beach in Sandy Hook NJ is still my go-to. 
 
Creeper photo of me there turned up on Twitter this summer.  Lol.  I was delighted to see it.  

I have literally always wondered this question.  
And for the first time in my life on RentMen, I've let my profile expire.  I have unrelated seasonal work that makes it all but impossible to see clients - apart from the occasional existing regular - during November and December.  I've struggled with how to manage this.  Do I keep my face and name out there for when I'm back at it in January?  Or is that just promoting a brand around the idea of Unavailable?  Also, RentMen is an expensive racket for a provider.  Between gold memberships and platinum boosts, it's a lot!   So it feels like an unjustifiable expense at this point. 
The point being: for the first time ever, I'm a viable recipient for this gift!  🎉
That said, the question of this topic remains.  Why would anyone ever do that for me?  Literally no idea.  A tip/bonus from a happy client?  Makes perfect sense.  A material gift from a happy client?  Makes perfect sense.  This one... I honestly can't imagine it's a thing. 
But definitely expect my ad on your front page in January, New York.  Paid for by yours truly... 

I have literally always wondered this question.  
And for the first time in my life on RentMen, I've let my profile expire.  I have unrelated seasonal work that makes it all but impossible to see clients - apart from the occasional existing regular - during November and December.  I've struggled with how to manage this.  Do I keep my face and name out there for when I'm back at it in January?  Or is that just promoting a brand around the idea of Unavailable?  Also, RentMen is an expensive racket for a provider.  Between gold memberships and platinum boosts, it's a lot!   So it feels like an unjustifiable expense at this point. 
The point being: for the first time ever, I'm a viable recipient for this gift!  🎉
That said, the question of this topic remains.  Why would anyone ever do that for me?  Literally no idea.  A tip/bonus from a happy client?  Makes perfect sense.  A material gift from a happy client?  Makes perfect sense.  This one... I honestly can't imagine it's a thing. 
But definitely expect my ad on your front page in January, New York.  Paid for by yours truly... 

I love to edge a provider and see their body squirm just wanting to shoot that load.  Typically I'll finger them and give them a handjob at the same time.

I have literally always wondered this question.  
And for the first time in my life on RentMen, I've let my profile expire.  I have unrelated seasonal work that makes it all but impossible to see clients - apart from the occasional existing regular - during November and December.  I've struggled with how to manage this.  Do I keep my face and name out there for when I'm back at it in January?  Or is that just promoting a brand around the idea of Unavailable?  Also, RentMen is an expensive racket for a provider.  Between gold memberships and platinum boosts, it's a lot!   So it feels like an unjustifiable expense at this point. 
The point being: for the first time ever, I'm a viable recipient for this gift!  🎉
That said, the question of this topic remains.  Why would anyone ever do that for me?  Literally no idea.  A tip/bonus from a happy client?  Makes perfect sense.  A material gift from a happy client?  Makes perfect sense.  This one... I honestly can't imagine it's a thing. 
But definitely expect my ad on your front page in January, New York.  Paid for by yours truly... 

I don't think there's been a more widely covered topic here, but it's a hot one!   So I feel like it's worth re-weighing in.
Reasons I will never ask a client for a photo:
At no point do I ever want him to feel up for evaluation.  Like it or not, just like on any other app, this is the headspace you create when you send a photo.  You're an anonymous faceless person, then you send a photo revealing your face, then you wait for approval.  Yes, you're attractive enough to meet, or not you're not.  By that point you've already spiraled:  Is my provider into me?  Am I attractive enough for him?  You're already in that self-conscious worried headspace. This is exactly what you're meant to avoid when hiring a sex worker.  Discretion is one of the sacred promises of sex work.  If a prospective client doesn't want to put a photo of himself out into the world in a looking-for-sex context, that's what he's paying for.  That's his prerogative.  Is it that risky to send face photos to providers?  Probably not.  But that's the client's call.  He gets to decide what discretion means to him. Of course, lots of men who hire prefer to share photos in advance.  They want all parties to know who and what to expect, and that also makes complete sense.   But as the client, that's their choice to make.  For my own personal safety concerns, I require a cell phone number to meet, not a photo.  A phone number adds a level of safety for me.  A photo does not. 
All that said, I get why providers ask for photos.  Meeting a new client for the first time is always a source of at least some anxiety.  The services we provide are extraordinarily intimate, and you really never know who's going to open that door when you knock on it.  In fact, I had that moment just this weekend with a new client.  Sitting in a hotel lobby waiting for him, no idea his age, race, body type.  It can indeed be an unsettling moment!  But when you're a provider with a certain minimal level of experience, you know you can work with any age, race, or body type, and none of it truly matters.  
Everyone is entitled to ask for what they need to get the job done.  But pay attention to the ask!  It can be a larger indicator about the provider you're hiring.  

I don't think there's been a more widely covered topic here, but it's a hot one!   So I feel like it's worth re-weighing in.
Reasons I will never ask a client for a photo:
At no point do I ever want him to feel up for evaluation.  Like it or not, just like on any other app, this is the headspace you create when you send a photo.  You're an anonymous faceless person, then you send a photo revealing your face, then you wait for approval.  Yes, you're attractive enough to meet, or not you're not.  By that point you've already spiraled:  Is my provider into me?  Am I attractive enough for him?  You're already in that self-conscious worried headspace. This is exactly what you're meant to avoid when hiring a sex worker.  Discretion is one of the sacred promises of sex work.  If a prospective client doesn't want to put a photo of himself out into the world in a looking-for-sex context, that's what he's paying for.  That's his prerogative.  Is it that risky to send face photos to providers?  Probably not.  But that's the client's call.  He gets to decide what discretion means to him. Of course, lots of men who hire prefer to share photos in advance.  They want all parties to know who and what to expect, and that also makes complete sense.   But as the client, that's their choice to make.  For my own personal safety concerns, I require a cell phone number to meet, not a photo.  A phone number adds a level of safety for me.  A photo does not. 
All that said, I get why providers ask for photos.  Meeting a new client for the first time is always a source of at least some anxiety.  The services we provide are extraordinarily intimate, and you really never know who's going to open that door when you knock on it.  In fact, I had that moment just this weekend with a new client.  Sitting in a hotel lobby waiting for him, no idea his age, race, body type.  It can indeed be an unsettling moment!  But when you're a provider with a certain minimal level of experience, you know you can work with any age, race, or body type, and none of it truly matters.  
Everyone is entitled to ask for what they need to get the job done.  But pay attention to the ask!  It can be a larger indicator about the provider you're hiring.  

I don't think there's been a more widely covered topic here, but it's a hot one!   So I feel like it's worth re-weighing in.
Reasons I will never ask a client for a photo:
At no point do I ever want him to feel up for evaluation.  Like it or not, just like on any other app, this is the headspace you create when you send a photo.  You're an anonymous faceless person, then you send a photo revealing your face, then you wait for approval.  Yes, you're attractive enough to meet, or not you're not.  By that point you've already spiraled:  Is my provider into me?  Am I attractive enough for him?  You're already in that self-conscious worried headspace. This is exactly what you're meant to avoid when hiring a sex worker.  Discretion is one of the sacred promises of sex work.  If a prospective client doesn't want to put a photo of himself out into the world in a looking-for-sex context, that's what he's paying for.  That's his prerogative.  Is it that risky to send face photos to providers?  Probably not.  But that's the client's call.  He gets to decide what discretion means to him. Of course, lots of men who hire prefer to share photos in advance.  They want all parties to know who and what to expect, and that also makes complete sense.   But as the client, that's their choice to make.  For my own personal safety concerns, I require a cell phone number to meet, not a photo.  A phone number adds a level of safety for me.  A photo does not. 
All that said, I get why providers ask for photos.  Meeting a new client for the first time is always a source of at least some anxiety.  The services we provide are extraordinarily intimate, and you really never know who's going to open that door when you knock on it.  In fact, I had that moment just this weekend with a new client.  Sitting in a hotel lobby waiting for him, no idea his age, race, body type.  It can indeed be an unsettling moment!  But when you're a provider with a certain minimal level of experience, you know you can work with any age, race, or body type, and none of it truly matters.  
Everyone is entitled to ask for what they need to get the job done.  But pay attention to the ask!  It can be a larger indicator about the provider you're hiring.  

I don't think there's been a more widely covered topic here, but it's a hot one!   So I feel like it's worth re-weighing in.
Reasons I will never ask a client for a photo:
At no point do I ever want him to feel up for evaluation.  Like it or not, just like on any other app, this is the headspace you create when you send a photo.  You're an anonymous faceless person, then you send a photo revealing your face, then you wait for approval.  Yes, you're attractive enough to meet, or not you're not.  By that point you've already spiraled:  Is my provider into me?  Am I attractive enough for him?  You're already in that self-conscious worried headspace. This is exactly what you're meant to avoid when hiring a sex worker.  Discretion is one of the sacred promises of sex work.  If a prospective client doesn't want to put a photo of himself out into the world in a looking-for-sex context, that's what he's paying for.  That's his prerogative.  Is it that risky to send face photos to providers?  Probably not.  But that's the client's call.  He gets to decide what discretion means to him. Of course, lots of men who hire prefer to share photos in advance.  They want all parties to know who and what to expect, and that also makes complete sense.   But as the client, that's their choice to make.  For my own personal safety concerns, I require a cell phone number to meet, not a photo.  A phone number adds a level of safety for me.  A photo does not. 
All that said, I get why providers ask for photos.  Meeting a new client for the first time is always a source of at least some anxiety.  The services we provide are extraordinarily intimate, and you really never know who's going to open that door when you knock on it.  In fact, I had that moment just this weekend with a new client.  Sitting in a hotel lobby waiting for him, no idea his age, race, body type.  It can indeed be an unsettling moment!  But when you're a provider with a certain minimal level of experience, you know you can work with any age, race, or body type, and none of it truly matters.  
Everyone is entitled to ask for what they need to get the job done.  But pay attention to the ask!  It can be a larger indicator about the provider you're hiring.  

This is a shining example of the way a genuine professional provider’s mind operates.