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THIS!  He's absolutely right.  There are lots of guys out there attempting to monetize their sex life, and that doesn't make them escorts.  And that doesn't mean you have to hire them.  When an early concern is, "Are you hot enough to be with your provider?" that's not a question that easily goes away.  That sounds like a great way to spend a few high dollar hours totally stressed out.
A good provider will ask you lots of questions in advance, in hopes of learning about you and what you enjoy.  But the red flag is when those questions veer into demographics - age, race, body type, cock size, etc.  Yes, I decide whether or not we meet.  But I'm deciding based on whether or not I think I'm the best provider to give you the experience you're looking for.  Not based on any of your externals.  Typically, I go into new client situations 100% ignorant to those demographic questions.  I'm literally blind to who will open the door or appear in the hotel lobby.  This isn't meant as a brag or a flex.  This is just to say that we're out there.  There actually are providers who won't put you through that shit. 
It just means you have to keep searching.  

This is absolutely okay, even encouraged.
First of all, if you knew the fucked up things that providers get asked on a regular basis, you wouldn't worry!  
But truly, as a provider, it can only be helpful to have a clear erotic sense of your client in advance.  And chat is usually the way to learn that.   I never ask demographic questions beforehand (age, race, body type, cock size, etc) because that can lead all too often to a sense of the client feeling judged by be.  Definitely not the dynamic I'm after.   But I will ask lots of questions about their sexual interests.  It helps me know how to prepare for the session in advance.  But also, it helps ensure that the client is actually communicating his desires for our time together.  And guys will often open up more over chat than they will face to face. 
I put a lot of effort into making guys feel safe to open up and communicate what they want, but sometimes you can't fight years of repression and homophobia just by commanding someone to feel safe.  If sending a porn link feels easier that just explaining what you like... why not?  By all means, show me what you like!  

THIS!  He's absolutely right.  There are lots of guys out there attempting to monetize their sex life, and that doesn't make them escorts.  And that doesn't mean you have to hire them.  When an early concern is, "Are you hot enough to be with your provider?" that's not a question that easily goes away.  That sounds like a great way to spend a few high dollar hours totally stressed out.
A good provider will ask you lots of questions in advance, in hopes of learning about you and what you enjoy.  But the red flag is when those questions veer into demographics - age, race, body type, cock size, etc.  Yes, I decide whether or not we meet.  But I'm deciding based on whether or not I think I'm the best provider to give you the experience you're looking for.  Not based on any of your externals.  Typically, I go into new client situations 100% ignorant to those demographic questions.  I'm literally blind to who will open the door or appear in the hotel lobby.  This isn't meant as a brag or a flex.  This is just to say that we're out there.  There actually are providers who won't put you through that shit. 
It just means you have to keep searching.  

THIS!  He's absolutely right.  There are lots of guys out there attempting to monetize their sex life, and that doesn't make them escorts.  And that doesn't mean you have to hire them.  When an early concern is, "Are you hot enough to be with your provider?" that's not a question that easily goes away.  That sounds like a great way to spend a few high dollar hours totally stressed out.
A good provider will ask you lots of questions in advance, in hopes of learning about you and what you enjoy.  But the red flag is when those questions veer into demographics - age, race, body type, cock size, etc.  Yes, I decide whether or not we meet.  But I'm deciding based on whether or not I think I'm the best provider to give you the experience you're looking for.  Not based on any of your externals.  Typically, I go into new client situations 100% ignorant to those demographic questions.  I'm literally blind to who will open the door or appear in the hotel lobby.  This isn't meant as a brag or a flex.  This is just to say that we're out there.  There actually are providers who won't put you through that shit. 
It just means you have to keep searching.  

THIS!  He's absolutely right.  There are lots of guys out there attempting to monetize their sex life, and that doesn't make them escorts.  And that doesn't mean you have to hire them.  When an early concern is, "Are you hot enough to be with your provider?" that's not a question that easily goes away.  That sounds like a great way to spend a few high dollar hours totally stressed out.
A good provider will ask you lots of questions in advance, in hopes of learning about you and what you enjoy.  But the red flag is when those questions veer into demographics - age, race, body type, cock size, etc.  Yes, I decide whether or not we meet.  But I'm deciding based on whether or not I think I'm the best provider to give you the experience you're looking for.  Not based on any of your externals.  Typically, I go into new client situations 100% ignorant to those demographic questions.  I'm literally blind to who will open the door or appear in the hotel lobby.  This isn't meant as a brag or a flex.  This is just to say that we're out there.  There actually are providers who won't put you through that shit. 
It just means you have to keep searching.  

THIS!  He's absolutely right.  There are lots of guys out there attempting to monetize their sex life, and that doesn't make them escorts.  And that doesn't mean you have to hire them.  When an early concern is, "Are you hot enough to be with your provider?" that's not a question that easily goes away.  That sounds like a great way to spend a few high dollar hours totally stressed out.
A good provider will ask you lots of questions in advance, in hopes of learning about you and what you enjoy.  But the red flag is when those questions veer into demographics - age, race, body type, cock size, etc.  Yes, I decide whether or not we meet.  But I'm deciding based on whether or not I think I'm the best provider to give you the experience you're looking for.  Not based on any of your externals.  Typically, I go into new client situations 100% ignorant to those demographic questions.  I'm literally blind to who will open the door or appear in the hotel lobby.  This isn't meant as a brag or a flex.  This is just to say that we're out there.  There actually are providers who won't put you through that shit. 
It just means you have to keep searching.  

THIS!  He's absolutely right.  There are lots of guys out there attempting to monetize their sex life, and that doesn't make them escorts.  And that doesn't mean you have to hire them.  When an early concern is, "Are you hot enough to be with your provider?" that's not a question that easily goes away.  That sounds like a great way to spend a few high dollar hours totally stressed out.
A good provider will ask you lots of questions in advance, in hopes of learning about you and what you enjoy.  But the red flag is when those questions veer into demographics - age, race, body type, cock size, etc.  Yes, I decide whether or not we meet.  But I'm deciding based on whether or not I think I'm the best provider to give you the experience you're looking for.  Not based on any of your externals.  Typically, I go into new client situations 100% ignorant to those demographic questions.  I'm literally blind to who will open the door or appear in the hotel lobby.  This isn't meant as a brag or a flex.  This is just to say that we're out there.  There actually are providers who won't put you through that shit. 
It just means you have to keep searching.  

THIS!  He's absolutely right.  There are lots of guys out there attempting to monetize their sex life, and that doesn't make them escorts.  And that doesn't mean you have to hire them.  When an early concern is, "Are you hot enough to be with your provider?" that's not a question that easily goes away.  That sounds like a great way to spend a few high dollar hours totally stressed out.
A good provider will ask you lots of questions in advance, in hopes of learning about you and what you enjoy.  But the red flag is when those questions veer into demographics - age, race, body type, cock size, etc.  Yes, I decide whether or not we meet.  But I'm deciding based on whether or not I think I'm the best provider to give you the experience you're looking for.  Not based on any of your externals.  Typically, I go into new client situations 100% ignorant to those demographic questions.  I'm literally blind to who will open the door or appear in the hotel lobby.  This isn't meant as a brag or a flex.  This is just to say that we're out there.  There actually are providers who won't put you through that shit. 
It just means you have to keep searching.  

THIS!  He's absolutely right.  There are lots of guys out there attempting to monetize their sex life, and that doesn't make them escorts.  And that doesn't mean you have to hire them.  When an early concern is, "Are you hot enough to be with your provider?" that's not a question that easily goes away.  That sounds like a great way to spend a few high dollar hours totally stressed out.
A good provider will ask you lots of questions in advance, in hopes of learning about you and what you enjoy.  But the red flag is when those questions veer into demographics - age, race, body type, cock size, etc.  Yes, I decide whether or not we meet.  But I'm deciding based on whether or not I think I'm the best provider to give you the experience you're looking for.  Not based on any of your externals.  Typically, I go into new client situations 100% ignorant to those demographic questions.  I'm literally blind to who will open the door or appear in the hotel lobby.  This isn't meant as a brag or a flex.  This is just to say that we're out there.  There actually are providers who won't put you through that shit. 
It just means you have to keep searching.  

THIS!  He's absolutely right.  There are lots of guys out there attempting to monetize their sex life, and that doesn't make them escorts.  And that doesn't mean you have to hire them.  When an early concern is, "Are you hot enough to be with your provider?" that's not a question that easily goes away.  That sounds like a great way to spend a few high dollar hours totally stressed out.
A good provider will ask you lots of questions in advance, in hopes of learning about you and what you enjoy.  But the red flag is when those questions veer into demographics - age, race, body type, cock size, etc.  Yes, I decide whether or not we meet.  But I'm deciding based on whether or not I think I'm the best provider to give you the experience you're looking for.  Not based on any of your externals.  Typically, I go into new client situations 100% ignorant to those demographic questions.  I'm literally blind to who will open the door or appear in the hotel lobby.  This isn't meant as a brag or a flex.  This is just to say that we're out there.  There actually are providers who won't put you through that shit. 
It just means you have to keep searching.  

THIS!  He's absolutely right.  There are lots of guys out there attempting to monetize their sex life, and that doesn't make them escorts.  And that doesn't mean you have to hire them.  When an early concern is, "Are you hot enough to be with your provider?" that's not a question that easily goes away.  That sounds like a great way to spend a few high dollar hours totally stressed out.
A good provider will ask you lots of questions in advance, in hopes of learning about you and what you enjoy.  But the red flag is when those questions veer into demographics - age, race, body type, cock size, etc.  Yes, I decide whether or not we meet.  But I'm deciding based on whether or not I think I'm the best provider to give you the experience you're looking for.  Not based on any of your externals.  Typically, I go into new client situations 100% ignorant to those demographic questions.  I'm literally blind to who will open the door or appear in the hotel lobby.  This isn't meant as a brag or a flex.  This is just to say that we're out there.  There actually are providers who won't put you through that shit. 
It just means you have to keep searching.  

THIS!  He's absolutely right.  There are lots of guys out there attempting to monetize their sex life, and that doesn't make them escorts.  And that doesn't mean you have to hire them.  When an early concern is, "Are you hot enough to be with your provider?" that's not a question that easily goes away.  That sounds like a great way to spend a few high dollar hours totally stressed out.
A good provider will ask you lots of questions in advance, in hopes of learning about you and what you enjoy.  But the red flag is when those questions veer into demographics - age, race, body type, cock size, etc.  Yes, I decide whether or not we meet.  But I'm deciding based on whether or not I think I'm the best provider to give you the experience you're looking for.  Not based on any of your externals.  Typically, I go into new client situations 100% ignorant to those demographic questions.  I'm literally blind to who will open the door or appear in the hotel lobby.  This isn't meant as a brag or a flex.  This is just to say that we're out there.  There actually are providers who won't put you through that shit. 
It just means you have to keep searching.  

This was actually a pretty complicated question for me when I was setting up my profile, and it took a bit of trial and error to land where I ended up identifying: versatile/bottom.  
The truth of the matter is that I'm genuinely a case-by-case versatile guy.   I love both.  I do both as much as I can.   Left to my own devices, sexual position is determined by situation and chemistry, which means I usually end up topping.  But losing either from my life would be a genuine loss. 
The real complicating factor for me is that this isn't my full time job.  A very full week for me is four bookings.  So for me, I feel like it makes sense to be a bit more intentional in connecting with guys whose needs best align with my skill sets, more so perhaps than guys who are seeing clients daily.  And one of my favorite things - I might even say a skill of mine - is the versatile flip session.  Come to find out, there's a real population who thrives on that.  Similarly there's a population who leans one way or the other and wants to explore the other side too.  I still love a strict top and and a strict bottom always!  But it would be a big personal loss - not to mention a waste of some skills - for me to miss out on those vers flip guys.
Well, come to find out, the hiring population is so heavily slanted towards bottoms... (is this shocking news?) ... that listing as versatile is still the functional equivalent of listing as a top.  Meanwhile guys who are actually versatile or tops don't seem to find you without the word "bottom" in your profile.
Long story short,  I've settled into a somewhat inaccurate identifier as a way to navigate the reality of the landscape as it is.  And even with that, I'm still definitely topping more than I'm bottoming.  
Suffice to say, consider when you're looking at providers that their chosen position identifier might involve more nuance than you think.  Anything with the word "versatile" in it requires a conversation.  The broad demographic assumptions above are mostly true, but be careful applying those assumptions to individual providers!

This is absolutely okay, even encouraged.
First of all, if you knew the fucked up things that providers get asked on a regular basis, you wouldn't worry!  
But truly, as a provider, it can only be helpful to have a clear erotic sense of your client in advance.  And chat is usually the way to learn that.   I never ask demographic questions beforehand (age, race, body type, cock size, etc) because that can lead all too often to a sense of the client feeling judged by be.  Definitely not the dynamic I'm after.   But I will ask lots of questions about their sexual interests.  It helps me know how to prepare for the session in advance.  But also, it helps ensure that the client is actually communicating his desires for our time together.  And guys will often open up more over chat than they will face to face. 
I put a lot of effort into making guys feel safe to open up and communicate what they want, but sometimes you can't fight years of repression and homophobia just by commanding someone to feel safe.  If sending a porn link feels easier that just explaining what you like... why not?  By all means, show me what you like!  

That is such a perfect approach!  I love guys that do exactly as you describe!  Those meet ups are always the most fun and result in ongoing meetings!
Looks like a NYC visit 😉🤤

And this, my fellow forum member, is the difference between a true professional and someone just looking to make a quick buck. My hat’s off to you, sir.

This is absolutely okay, even encouraged.
First of all, if you knew the fucked up things that providers get asked on a regular basis, you wouldn't worry!  
But truly, as a provider, it can only be helpful to have a clear erotic sense of your client in advance.  And chat is usually the way to learn that.   I never ask demographic questions beforehand (age, race, body type, cock size, etc) because that can lead all too often to a sense of the client feeling judged by be.  Definitely not the dynamic I'm after.   But I will ask lots of questions about their sexual interests.  It helps me know how to prepare for the session in advance.  But also, it helps ensure that the client is actually communicating his desires for our time together.  And guys will often open up more over chat than they will face to face. 
I put a lot of effort into making guys feel safe to open up and communicate what they want, but sometimes you can't fight years of repression and homophobia just by commanding someone to feel safe.  If sending a porn link feels easier that just explaining what you like... why not?  By all means, show me what you like!  

This thoughtful response is fantastic.  I think this escort may have just won me over as a future client. 

This was actually a pretty complicated question for me when I was setting up my profile, and it took a bit of trial and error to land where I ended up identifying: versatile/bottom.  
The truth of the matter is that I'm genuinely a case-by-case versatile guy.   I love both.  I do both as much as I can.   Left to my own devices, sexual position is determined by situation and chemistry, which means I usually end up topping.  But losing either from my life would be a genuine loss. 
The real complicating factor for me is that this isn't my full time job.  A very full week for me is four bookings.  So for me, I feel like it makes sense to be a bit more intentional in connecting with guys whose needs best align with my skill sets, more so perhaps than guys who are seeing clients daily.  And one of my favorite things - I might even say a skill of mine - is the versatile flip session.  Come to find out, there's a real population who thrives on that.  Similarly there's a population who leans one way or the other and wants to explore the other side too.  I still love a strict top and and a strict bottom always!  But it would be a big personal loss - not to mention a waste of some skills - for me to miss out on those vers flip guys.
Well, come to find out, the hiring population is so heavily slanted towards bottoms... (is this shocking news?) ... that listing as versatile is still the functional equivalent of listing as a top.  Meanwhile guys who are actually versatile or tops don't seem to find you without the word "bottom" in your profile.
Long story short,  I've settled into a somewhat inaccurate identifier as a way to navigate the reality of the landscape as it is.  And even with that, I'm still definitely topping more than I'm bottoming.  
Suffice to say, consider when you're looking at providers that their chosen position identifier might involve more nuance than you think.  Anything with the word "versatile" in it requires a conversation.  The broad demographic assumptions above are mostly true, but be careful applying those assumptions to individual providers!

This was actually a pretty complicated question for me when I was setting up my profile, and it took a bit of trial and error to land where I ended up identifying: versatile/bottom.  
The truth of the matter is that I'm genuinely a case-by-case versatile guy.   I love both.  I do both as much as I can.   Left to my own devices, sexual position is determined by situation and chemistry, which means I usually end up topping.  But losing either from my life would be a genuine loss. 
The real complicating factor for me is that this isn't my full time job.  A very full week for me is four bookings.  So for me, I feel like it makes sense to be a bit more intentional in connecting with guys whose needs best align with my skill sets, more so perhaps than guys who are seeing clients daily.  And one of my favorite things - I might even say a skill of mine - is the versatile flip session.  Come to find out, there's a real population who thrives on that.  Similarly there's a population who leans one way or the other and wants to explore the other side too.  I still love a strict top and and a strict bottom always!  But it would be a big personal loss - not to mention a waste of some skills - for me to miss out on those vers flip guys.
Well, come to find out, the hiring population is so heavily slanted towards bottoms... (is this shocking news?) ... that listing as versatile is still the functional equivalent of listing as a top.  Meanwhile guys who are actually versatile or tops don't seem to find you without the word "bottom" in your profile.
Long story short,  I've settled into a somewhat inaccurate identifier as a way to navigate the reality of the landscape as it is.  And even with that, I'm still definitely topping more than I'm bottoming.  
Suffice to say, consider when you're looking at providers that their chosen position identifier might involve more nuance than you think.  Anything with the word "versatile" in it requires a conversation.  The broad demographic assumptions above are mostly true, but be careful applying those assumptions to individual providers!

God I don't hear that nearly enough.   LOL

God I don't hear that nearly enough.   LOL

God I don't hear that nearly enough.   LOL

God I don't hear that nearly enough.   LOL

This was actually a pretty complicated question for me when I was setting up my profile, and it took a bit of trial and error to land where I ended up identifying: versatile/bottom.  
The truth of the matter is that I'm genuinely a case-by-case versatile guy.   I love both.  I do both as much as I can.   Left to my own devices, sexual position is determined by situation and chemistry, which means I usually end up topping.  But losing either from my life would be a genuine loss. 
The real complicating factor for me is that this isn't my full time job.  A very full week for me is four bookings.  So for me, I feel like it makes sense to be a bit more intentional in connecting with guys whose needs best align with my skill sets, more so perhaps than guys who are seeing clients daily.  And one of my favorite things - I might even say a skill of mine - is the versatile flip session.  Come to find out, there's a real population who thrives on that.  Similarly there's a population who leans one way or the other and wants to explore the other side too.  I still love a strict top and and a strict bottom always!  But it would be a big personal loss - not to mention a waste of some skills - for me to miss out on those vers flip guys.
Well, come to find out, the hiring population is so heavily slanted towards bottoms... (is this shocking news?) ... that listing as versatile is still the functional equivalent of listing as a top.  Meanwhile guys who are actually versatile or tops don't seem to find you without the word "bottom" in your profile.
Long story short,  I've settled into a somewhat inaccurate identifier as a way to navigate the reality of the landscape as it is.  And even with that, I'm still definitely topping more than I'm bottoming.  
Suffice to say, consider when you're looking at providers that their chosen position identifier might involve more nuance than you think.  Anything with the word "versatile" in it requires a conversation.  The broad demographic assumptions above are mostly true, but be careful applying those assumptions to individual providers!