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I’ve had truly amazing experiences with clients bringing toys. But only as a bottom so far. I love an aggressive toy moment. 😈 If a bottom client brought toys and wanted me to use on him? Zero issue. For sure into it! I’d just rather not provide the toys. But most importantly: this is 100% in bounds for a beforehand conversation with a provider. Don’t worry so much. Ask for what you want.

Nice work if you can get it INDEED. But more than that, I just love that you used the phrase… … internal intimacy. Bravo, sir! 👏🏻

I’ve for sure been asked to play dress up and it can be really fun! Though it’s so specific, a conversation beforehand is required. Also - based on many of those conversations - I’ve been able to contribute my own gear. Fishnets, lace, lingerie… all of this has become much more mainstream. If you look at the great male erotic photographer Mark Henderson’s work, which has always been hypermasculine, lately now you see models in fishnet bodysuits and lingerie all the time. I’ve had the opportunity to play in lingerie - sometimes with leather, sometimes not - and it’s super hot. Sort of takes both parties outside of themselves a bit. I think a lot of guys could do well to open up to it. Short answer: this isn’t as weird as you think. You shouldn’t have a problem finding a willing provider.

Vers provider here, chiming in! Yes, flipping is the undeniable best. But this is 100% a conversation to have before you meet. Just because a provider identifies as vers doesn't mean that that's the expectation on every occasion.

What exactly does a porn(guy) wear to an awards show? Love seeing all the attempts at answering this. Every variation of shirtless with a suit!

Well put! I have a similar appreciation of smaller guys. I feel like there are more of us out there than you’d expect. This guy can get it: @hadesxpluto.bsky.social

This is a major fact of life in New York City this time of year. I had the winter crud right before Christmas and for sure had to cancel on clients. I've had a number of cancellations already this cold/flu season. And it's especially challenging when it happens with new clients, when both parties are still working to establish trust. But showing up under the weather - for either party - is the actual violation of trust. We owe it to each other - client and provider - to only show up when we're 100%. We just have to remember that cold and flu season is real, and we need to give each other grace.

Weird, cause this for sure did not work for me. What did I miss?

Are you looking to hire a bottom provider who can take all of your guests'? Or are you looking to hire a room full of top providers to gang bang you? Or are you looking for a provider to arrange the logistics of a gang bang for you? Lots of possibilities here!

#reasonstohire

This is a complaint? You can bring your shoots-too-much right here! 👄👅

I’m a regular at The Sugar Daddy and have been doing to Tom for a few years now. I heartily recommend. They’re great at creating a safe space. It feels very fresh and normal, like a gay barber shop but with more privacy. In fact you walk through a podiatrist’s office to get there. Not shady feeing at all. And they’re really good about guiding first timers step-by-step through what to expect along the way. And buy the products! Your skin might freak out, and they’re great for easing any issues.

Valid correction! Something to aspire to! 🙏🏻

I’ve tried some of the herbal volume enhancers and they really do work. But some of them require an unsustainable number of daily pills. 4 pills 4 times a day with food is something I could only sustain during Covid. I’ve had some luck with a product off amazon called Popstar. 4 pills once a day, manageable. Seconding what King Benjamin says about the gym. No better way to keep the plumbing strong.

If only because you didn’t enter! 🏋🏼‍♀️

How is it I nearly missed a chance to post a bunch of ass shots?? I must be slowing down. Keeping these PG13. I guess…

This kind of thing never ceases to amaze me. As gay men in the dating world, we all stress about our insecurities.. Is he into me? Am I hot enough for him? Am I doing it right? Do I live up to his other sex partners? Hiring a provider is the one scenario where you can - at long last - unburden yourself of all that bullshit. And if you're hiring the right provider, and he cares about your experience, he knows it's his job to create a safe space and to facilitate that unburdening. The lengths that we'll go to to sabotage that unburdening really speak to how deep these insecurities cut. Give yourself a break from worrying about the bullshit! Let yourself enjoy the purity of the actual situation you have available to you. Let your provider be the one to worry if you like him. Let him be the one to worry if you'll hire him again. And let him have the freedom to compartmentalize his private sex life the way he pleases.

Okay, well, open curtains is just basic generosity!

Agreed! Consent is an important part of exhibitionism. I want to be watched, yes. But only by people who want to watch! Otherwise it’s an actual sex crime!

General aesthetic poll here. Hopefully any associated controversy will be lighthearted. As a vers/often-bottom provider I’ve been maintaining a fully sugared ass for a few years now, with the help of @thesugardaddy.bsky.social. (Highly recommended if you go for that kind of thing.) But lately I’ve been getting some feedback that something more natural is preferred, so I’ve let it grow back in. Is there a consensus for how a provider maintains the bullseye when it comes to hair?

Same! I definitely get off on the public aspect, the audience etc. But the actual legal risk is real for some of these things. That's a great way to get the same kind of experience but in a safe space. Some of us get off on the audience but not the actual risk!

I think this is a struggle that goes both ways too. Telegram has always been my preferred platform for the nitty gritty client chats. (Maybe I should be using Signal?) But getting clients to chat there is often like pulling teeth. Very few seem willing to use it. WhatsApp is an acceptable alternative, but it requires sharing my phone number. Which I’m certainly not squeamish about. Until guys instead invite themselves to use iMessage instead… 🤦🏼‍♂️ It would seem that if you’re a sex work enthusiast on either side of it, you’d value the discretion. I’m not sure if the issue is a convenience issue? Or not understanding the value of encrypted chat?

I did a duo photo shoot with him a couple of years back, and got to know him pretty well. One of the most genuinely decent, thoughtful, and caring people I’ve met. Truly vers, great at sex, and physically hotter in person. That and he smells amazing. If you can connect with him, you’ll find nobody better!

Marcus Mojo was for sure my porn crush in a different life! And I had the privilege of doing an erotic duo shoot 📸 with Aiden Ward, and he's everything you'd imagine.