Mark_fl

They can be. I saw one guy whose every answer worked in how great his services are. You can also tell if someone is eloquent, at least if english is their first language.

I agree100% of course we all look at an ad because of a photo, but I can pretty much tell with the text and photos if a guy would be a good match for me. Yes: texts showing personality, finding a comfort level and being somewhat interesting. Literacy. Photos smiling and showing their face and torso. I don't even need dick shots. Interview answers about their other interests. No: telling me how great they are and unforgettable it will be. Looking for generous men. 10 dick shots or bent over shots. I don't want a dick. I want a real person who happens to have one. An asshole is not going to tell me how much I will enjoy spending time with you. Auto responses to specific questions with no follow up.

That I would understand. Canceling if it became a relationship problem. But ghosting is just rude and unacceptable.

Rubix Symplex 9

Don't know about you, but a "particularly unique" penis would have me running the other way.

Also if you post a link, there's a good chance someone here has seen him and done the Intel already.

I bet he remembers yours!

There ya go. If he's posting shirtless pics, he can't be too upset when you want him that way. Purely therapeutic masseurs would never do that.

Are the photos he posted suggestive? I would simply ask if he provides a sensual massage and if so, what that entails. He'll read between the lines, I'm sure.

I agree, but when a client cancels at the last minute, he can and should offer a small compensation for time. Do providers ever add time to a future appointment for the inconvenience? Would be nice, and more in line with what a business would do.

Yes, we've spent a couple of overnights together on a different trip last year. (After a couple of failed attempts, I admit). He often takes a couple of days to respond, but always has before. And unless I'm wrong, I don't think he's a drug user or anything like that.

We've been texting for quite some time, so I think just not answering. Also his RM ad expired, but he's always bad about letting it lapse and then renewing. I'm at a loss, as we had a good conversation setting it up and he excitedly sent me the flight confirmation. Then ghosted when I reachedout a week before for logistics and havent heard from him since. I really hope he's OK.

Must be something in the air. Had plans with my favorite provider to meet me on a trip I'm on. He even sent me a copy of his ticket revealing his name! Then ghosted leading up to the trip and still haven't heard from him! I came here a couple of days early because he was meeting me. I'm actually torn between pissed and worried, as this hasn't happened before.

Unless I'm in a committed relationship, I would continue to hire because I desire a very specific type which 99% of the time would not be interested in me sexually. (My estimate may be a little low)

https://rentmasseur.com/GabesSpace He says he's back. Anyone have any experience with him? No pic either.

I would hope a provider showers between encounters if they provide anything other than legitimate massage.

I don't see it as "knowing their value." There are a lot of things that may be worth the value. That doesn't mean I can afford it. There may be a great house at a great value. But if I can't afford it, what's the difference. But if someone sells me the house for the price I can afford, they lose out on the market value when the right buyer comes along. Like they say in the Hotel business, an empty bed is lost revenue. A provider has to decide if they'd rather have the night off or accept a lower rate on some nights. Neither decision is wrong. Its just economics. Accepting 200 vs 300 on a slow night doesn't mean he isn't worth 300. It just means he isn't worth 300 to anyone that night.

Does anyone who has an exterminator or roach baits still not had a roach in their house? When one runs out, would you not eat at home any more? The restaurant is probably cleaning better than you are. They probably should have comped the meal that day though.

The review situation on RM is less than worthless. Anyone who contacts a provider through the site and sees them should be able to post a permanent review. And the provider should be allowed to respond. If a reviewer turns out to be illegitimate, block them from reviewing. That's it. And there should not be shade throws for a less-than 5 star review. Every provider isn't for everyone. Because all they seem to allow are 5 star reviews by paying members, they all mean zippo. And you can't even read the details. Idiotic. Probably providers reviewing their friends or themselves through other IDs. Better off eliminating the rating system completely then leaving it as it now stands.

I hope I grow out of it, and maybe it's because Im relatively new to this whole thing, but older guys haven't appealed to me. I also like the illusion that the provider hasn't already done this 500 times. My BFE should be special for both of us. Don't screw up my fantasy.

I know we get attached to providers more than we should (and I'm as guilty as the next guy). But providers are the professionals who don't get attached to us except financially. We shouldn't need to defend seeing other providers. We don't go to a restaurant and tell the owner how much we liked another restaurant up the street. They are just happy to see us when we make it there. Maybe they capture our email address and reach out now and then with a promotion or discount. Some even track visits and give a deal to come back and a special gift for our birthday. If a provider wants to get my business again after an absence, he can certainly reach out, but I feel no need to make an excuse why I'm not. My finances or other hobbies aren't their business any more than they are for Hand and Stone Massage or Sam's club. If their services aren't enough to get me to rebook often enough for them, maybe it's on them to make it worth my while. Im not even convinced that "want to meet?" is a solicitation of business. Is that supposed to mean "do you want to pay me to see you?" E"You haven't reached out in a while. Is everything ok?" seems more like an invitation to book rather than an offer to hang out.

I get that they are unavailable in their host location, but why not just say "away xxx to xxx" rather than post a location where they will be working and unavailable. I found it odd that when hiring someone for a couple of days (and providing airport transportation both ways) he listed the location on his ad. Makes no sense to me.

Yes

I don't agree with the attitude given providers, but that wasn't my point. When I said we expected to be treated like valuable customers until proven otherwise, I meant individually. You make it seem like we shouldn't expect that based on how OTHERS have treated you. That's the disconnect. I shouldn't have to pay a deposit because some asshole did what assholes do.

I think it's a double-edged sword. In 99% of businesses, the customer is treated like they are the valuable commodity. Business preach customer satisfaction, customer retention, "the customer is always right", rewards programs, promotions, etc. And I thought this was a business arrangement? Or at least that's what we're told by providers. So in what other businesses do the establishments critique their customers? Difference being a restaurant or Walmart can call the police or dispute a charge back. But it shouldn't be surprising that the customers expect to be treated like valued customers until proven otherwise.