JamesB

If you’ve hired him recently, I don’t see any problem with reaching out. But if it’s been a long time since your last session and he hasn’t advertised in several months, I’d probably just let it go. It also depends on how good of a relationship, if any, you had with him back then.

I can see the X pics as long as I’m in the US, but once I’m outside (using a VPN), no luck. So at this point, it’s either I get to see dicks or read the reviews but apparently not both at the same time. 😒

I wouldn’t describe Dubai as gay-friendly. Homosexuality is illegal throughout the United Arab Emirates, including Dubai, and sex work is also prohibited. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide what feels safe for you.

You’re definitely a better person than me. If I see gloves, they’d better be for a prostate massage… otherwise, I’m out the door.

I’ve always paid in cash and never once had a provider complain. The only exception was with a long time regular who traveled with me a few times a year, between covering travel expenses and fees, cash just wasn’t practical in that case.

It sounds like you’ve got a really good thing going, you enjoy his therapeutic style and there’s already some level of friendship there. I stick with my earlier advice: show appreciation for the new extras and let him take the lead. No need to risk what you have by pushing his boundaries, just be patient and let things develop naturally.

It’s tough to give advice without knowing more about the dynamic between you two, but initially I’d suggest starting by increasing your usual tip to show appreciation for the new extras, and then letting him take the lead on how any additions to the session unfold.

You posted your story on a public forum, that means it was never private to begin with. Expecting that what you share here somehow stays contained is, frankly, wishful thinking at best. Once it’s out in the open, anyone can screen-grab, copy, or pass it along. That’s the nature of the internet. If your intent was to warn others, then you have to accept that the subject of your warning might eventually hear about it. Complaining that it got back to him doesn’t make sense, it was always a possibility the moment you hit “post.” The provider reaching out is just a harmless consequence

List from AI: 1. **Mutual masturbation** - Stimulating each other’s genitals by hand. 2. **Oral sex (fellatio)** - One partner performing oral stimulation on the other’s penis. 3. **Deep kissing** - Passionate, prolonged kissing on the lips. 4. **Body worship** - Kissing, licking, or caressing areas like the chest, abs, or thighs. 5. **Nipple play** - Touching, licking, or sucking on each other’s nipples. 6. **Handjobs** - Using hands to stimulate the partner’s penis to orgasm. 7. **Frottage** - Rubbing genitals or bodies together, clothed or unclothed. 8. **Intercrural sex** - Rubbing one partner’s penis between the other’s thighs. 9. **Erotic massage** - Sensual massage focusing on erogenous zones. 10. **Dry humping** - Grinding against each other while clothed. 11. **Mutual nipple stimulation** - Simultaneously stimulating each other’s nipples. 12. **Testicle play** - Gently caressing, licking, or sucking on a partner’s testicles. 13. **Perineum massage** - Stimulating the area between the scrotum and anus. 14. **Foot fetish play** - Kissing, massaging, or licking a partner’s feet. 15. **Role-playing** - Acting out consensual erotic fantasies or scenarios. 16. **Edging** - Bringing each other close to orgasm and pausing to prolong pleasure. 17. **Shower play** - Mutual touching or washing in the shower or bath. 18. **Body painting** - Using body-safe paint to create art on each other’s skin. 19. **Sensual tickling** - Lightly tickling sensitive areas for arousal. 20. **Erotic wrestling** - Playful, intimate physical grappling. 21. **Clothed stimulation** - Rubbing or touching genitals through clothing. 22. **Ice play** - Using ice cubes on sensitive areas like the neck or inner thighs. 23. **Blindfold play** - One partner blindfolded while the other stimulates them. 24. **Mutual stripping** - Slowly undressing each other as foreplay. 25. **Erotic storytelling** - Sharing or acting out sexual fantasies verbally. 26. **Body-to-body massage** - Rubbing bodies together with oil or lotion. 27. **Mutual spanking** - Light, consensual spanking on the buttocks. 28. **Earlobe play** - Kissing, nibbling, or licking a partner’s earlobes. 29. **Mutual teasing** - Light touching or kissing to build anticipation. 30. **Tantric touch** - Slow, mindful touching for emotional and physical connection. 31. **Sensual feeding** - Feeding each other fruits or sweets erotically. 32. **Mirror play** - Watching each other in a mirror while touching or posing. 33. **Temperature play** - Using warm or cool objects (e.g., warmed oil or chilled toys). 34. **Light bondage** - Using soft restraints like scarves for playful restriction. 35. **Sensory deprivation** - Using earplugs or headphones to heighten touch sensations. 36. **Hair play** - Running fingers through or gently pulling a partner’s hair. 37. **Mutual grooming** - Shaving or trimming each other’s body hair sensually. 38. **Candle wax play** - Dripping body-safe warm wax on skin for stimulation. 39. **Feather play** - Using feathers to tickle or tease sensitive areas. 40. **Mutual body licking** - Licking non-genital areas like the neck, back, or arms. 41. **Erotic dancing** - Dancing closely or performing a striptease for each other. 42. **Scent play** - Using scented oils or cologne to enhance sensory arousal. 43. **Mutual bathing** - Washing each other’s bodies in a bath or hot tub. 44. **Pressure point stimulation** - Applying gentle pressure to erogenous zones like wrists. 45. **Clothed frottage** - Rubbing against each other in tight clothing for friction. 46. **Mutual toy play** - Using non-penetrative sex toys (e.g., vibrators) on each other. 47. **Erotic photography** - Taking consensual, intimate photos of each other. 48. **Body mapping** - Exploring each other’s bodies to find new sensitive spots. 49. **Vocal play** - Moaning, whispering, or talking seductively to enhance arousal. 50. **Mutual stretching** - Helping each other stretch in intimate, close-contact positions.

You could host your pics outside of RM and provide a direct link in your profile. Not ideal but something to consider.

I don’t have much experience setting up group sessions, but one thing I’ve learned is that it’s crucial to lay out clear ground rules for both, what you want to happen and what you don’t. At the end of the day, you’re the client, so it’s in your best interest to make your expectations crystal clear from the start.

I used to pay for RM and only bothered writing reviews when things were either amazing or a total disaster. I finally canceled after one of my honest, 100% accurate bad reviews got deleted at the provider's request. No reason for me to pay or trust RM reviews anymore.

I’m in the .men team. The .eu site looks and feels outdated to me.

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I don’t think that’s accurate. I don’t have a premium membership right now, and I can see different pictures depending on whether I log in on .men or .eu. On .men, only PG pics show up, but on .eu I can see all photos except the ones in premium or private galleries.

When you’re young, school and college make it easy to meet people and build friendships. As adults, though, life looks different. Work isn’t always the best place to form close bonds, and free time is limited with careers, family, and responsibilities pulling us in different directions. On top of that, most of us get pickier with age, we’d rather have a few solid friendships than a crowd of so-so ones. The catch is that real friendships take effort and consistency, which isn’t always easy to give. And let’s be honest, putting yourself out there feels riskier as you get older, rejection stings more, and it’s harder to trust people’s intentions.

Nobody’s asking for a discount here, we’re talking about multi-hour rates. Big difference.

Extra hours usually come at a discount. For example, if the first hour is $300, two hours often go for around $500, and three hours land somewhere between $600–$700. That said, I’ve noticed some providers, especially masseurs, set rates that don’t really add up. Sometimes a 90-minute session costs more than 1.5 times their 60 minute rate. I take that as a pretty clear sign they’d rather stick to shorter sessions.

The technology is already here and accessible to pretty much anyone. So what’s the holdup? In one word: censorship. Most of the high-end AI video generators come with heavy restrictions on what you can and can’t create. Honestly, I’m not even a big porn watcher but let’s be real, the second those restrictions drop, I’d be tempted to test how far my “artistic vision” can go.

One’s on Masseurfinder, the other’s on Massagefinder, two different sites.

Also here for cross reference: https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/48158/ And here: https://www.massagefinder.com/massage-therapists/49552/

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this. What you describe is serious, it sounds like stalking and harassment and you deserve to feel safe. Based on best practices for situations like this, here are some steps I would strongly recommend: 1. Cut off all contact. Block his phone number, email, social media, and any other channels. Don’t respond to messages or calls, even if they’re apologetic or manipulative. If he creates new accounts or uses unknown numbers, document them but do not engage. If you haven’t already, you may send a single clear message such as “Do not contact me again” (ideally via email so it’s traceable) and then stop responding entirely. 2. Document everything. Keep a detailed log of every incident, dates, times, screenshots, voicemails, emails, and any evidence that he knows your address or has compromising information. This documentation is vital if you need to involve law enforcement. 3. Make a safety plan. Since he knows where you live, be prepared in case of an unexpected visit. If he ever shows up or makes direct threats, call 911 immediately. Regarding your question about authorities in different counties. Yes, they can do more than just take a report, though it depends on the specifics. And yes, you can absolutely file a restraining order (also called a protective order or order of protection) against someone you've never lived with, as long as their behavior meets the criteria for stalking, harassment, or threats; living together isn't required.

Remember that VPN providers recycle the same IP addresses across many users. When one person engages in suspicious or unwanted behavior, that IP can get blacklisted, and everyone else on that VPN ends up paying the price. That’s likely why CrowdSec is blocking you. If you’re still in the Surfshark trial, I’d honestly recommend dropping it and going with what I consider a much better option: ProtonVPN. If switching providers isn’t something you want to do and you only care about accessing RM reviews, you could try using Chrome with the 1vpn.org extension. They have a free tier with an European server that should work for you.