Nodalguy

I don't really think this is accurate in my personal experience. I could definitely meet up with someone I'm into and have a fun time without PNP. What is True is that if things sort of align perfectly or you manage to set them up perfectly, you can have an utterly amazing experience PNPing that I think would be hard or impossible to match otherwise. The huge downside to PNP can be its impact on performance (sometimes affecting hardness, or making it very challenging or, let's say, extremely time-consuming to cum).

Yep. Never again. 

Yep. Never again. 

Yep. Never again. 

Yep. Never again. 

When you hit 30 as a gay man, no one gives a crap about you anymore.

I think much of the time (if they're vers), it means they are perfectly willing to top BB. I don't have a good sense of what it means if they are a bottom or you want them to bottom. But I could see them being less open to that.
The other part is I think there are a lot of people into "anything goes" but just don't want to advertise that.

I have run across innumerable "safe only" guys where, if you really examine the full profile including description text, there is no doubt that they are into BB and breeding. Honestly my mind kind of freezes and I struggle to process it for an instant or two. It's just so weird to me.

I didn't mean literally no one. Yes, there are those who like more mature men. But just in general, responses and interest decline dramatically when you hit 30. At least from everything I've seen.

When you hit 30 as a gay man, no one gives a crap about you anymore.

When you hit 30 as a gay man, no one gives a crap about you anymore.

Yes, definitely give a bit of time for water to drain out, and jump up and down a bit to try to encourage it. And be sure to use a dildo or something like that, as it will push out the pockets of trapped water and help them drain out. In my experience, it's not a two-minute kind of thing: you really do need to spend a bit of time and really work your rear with it. Otherwise, if later on someone is in there really working it hard and/or deep for a while, they will push the water out that you didn't.

Yes, definitely give a bit of time for water to drain out, and jump up and down a bit to try to encourage it. And be sure to use a dildo or something like that, as it will push out the pockets of trapped water and help them drain out. In my experience, it's not a two-minute kind of thing: you really do need to spend a bit of time and really work your rear with it. Otherwise, if later on someone is in there really working it hard and/or deep for a while, they will push the water out that you didn't.

Yes, definitely give a bit of time for water to drain out, and jump up and down a bit to try to encourage it. And be sure to use a dildo or something like that, as it will push out the pockets of trapped water and help them drain out. In my experience, it's not a two-minute kind of thing: you really do need to spend a bit of time and really work your rear with it. Otherwise, if later on someone is in there really working it hard and/or deep for a while, they will push the water out that you didn't.

That is a HUGE generalization.  I happen to have a thing for Bi and DL guys, but that is more about me than about them.  In my mind, their appeal is that they are slightly exotic, but sex with them is no different than with gay guys - some great, some not so great.    It is true that DL guys traveling on business with wives at home are extra hungry.

Just re-reading this now. You complain about Americans, even identifying particular geographical subsets that especially offend you, and yet dismissive arrogance and you are never far apart. You have got to be trolling 😂. Is it even possible for someone to hold these beliefs and spew such invective and yet be so unaware of himself?
I want to be clear I hold zero ill will toward you and do not mean to offend you. My point is that I think it may be a good idea to take a step back and reconsider your views and attitude.

I haven't hired many bottoms at all in my late escorting phase, although in my twenties I used to top a lot more (almost exclusively for the first half), so I figure I should ask what people's thoughts are on something I've been thinking about. If a bottom has "ask me" or "anything goes" safe sex status and is fine barebacking with you, is it generally the case that they are fine if you actually finish inside them, or is that a separate point to discuss?
I'm sensitive to it because in my early twenties, I was topping a guy BB and he was totally fine with that, but then he had a very memorable reaction when I finished that always stuck with me. After that I mostly met up with guys from a site where everyone was into that, so never really ran across exactly the same thing that I remember.
I find it a little embarrassing to confirm with the bottom in advance if he doesn't say anything about it... So I'm thinking it should be acceptable just to warn him when going at it that I'm going to cum soon, and then if he has some objection he can speak up?
Does anyone have more experience with BB bottom escorts or ideas on how to ask about this subject in advance?

The very best providers, in my experience, do not ask for any money upfront. But I am okay with that if they have some history, many reviews, and all good ratings.
Related, but if I pay up front, there will generally be no tip. If I pay afterward and I had a decent time, there will be a tip. I don't think I've ever paid in advance and then given a tip after the fact, but I suppose it could happen if it was really enjoyable.

A close reading will see that said member poked the bears first! 

Have you ever met up with a guy and realized during it or shortly afterward, "Damn, this is literally a once-in-a-lifetime experience. I will never meet someone so _____ again"?
I was in another thread where I alluded a bit ago to an event that happened to me and made me think of this topic. I have a few experiences that begin to approach once-in-a-lifetime, but for me there is one clear guy in my mind who never be beaten.
I was in South Carolina for work and browsing Grindr in my hotel room at night, and I made contact with this barely-legal bi-curious guy. He wouldn't send a facepic, but the photos he did send showed he had a great body. He came over to my hotel room that night, and I just couldn't believe it. Pretty deep voice given his age, dark blond hair, really handsome face, flawless smooth tanned skin, very masculine and muscular (without being too muscular) and really lean. He had a thick, meaty cock and big balls and a really cute but beefy butt. I spent the first ninety minutes literally just massaging, rimming, sucking, and generally worshipping every millimeter of his body.
I am confident it will never happen to me again. I think I've had more actually fun sexual things happen (obviously I didn't party with the blond stud, and he wasn't experienced or very adventuresome), but I am speaking just in physical terms.

I agree and think he is trolling. But let's just say I am a little unimpressed with his efforts thus far.

I hired a rentboy for a bit and we became really good friends after he gave it up. I took him traveling, visiting my favorite places. I've lent him money, which he has always repaid. I used to give him cash whenever I saw him, but it's actually been a bit since we last met in person, as we both moved to different states. These days I'll send him something via app for his birthday (or half-birthday in the latest case).
We still text and talk very regularly. He called me and was close to tears years ago when I was going through a health issue and needed a couple major surgeries. He is a very genuine guy and I think consistently tries to do the right thing.
So I know in at least one case a client and provider ended up getting along and started to like each other mutually.

I think much of the time (if they're vers), it means they are perfectly willing to top BB. I don't have a good sense of what it means if they are a bottom or you want them to bottom. But I could see them being less open to that.
The other part is I think there are a lot of people into "anything goes" but just don't want to advertise that.

The very best providers, in my experience, do not ask for any money upfront. But I am okay with that if they have some history, many reviews, and all good ratings.
Related, but if I pay up front, there will generally be no tip. If I pay afterward and I had a decent time, there will be a tip. I don't think I've ever paid in advance and then given a tip after the fact, but I suppose it could happen if it was really enjoyable.

I hired a rentboy for a bit and we became really good friends after he gave it up. I took him traveling, visiting my favorite places. I've lent him money, which he has always repaid. I used to give him cash whenever I saw him, but it's actually been a bit since we last met in person, as we both moved to different states. These days I'll send him something via app for his birthday (or half-birthday in the latest case).
We still text and talk very regularly. He called me and was close to tears years ago when I was going through a health issue and needed a couple major surgeries. He is a very genuine guy and I think consistently tries to do the right thing.
So I know in at least one case a client and provider ended up getting along and started to like each other mutually.