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I have the feeling that it's a generational thing, expecting people to do things for them out of self-entitlement. By gay hookup site standards, I don't think it's too harsh. By outside standards, maybe.

Never thought of Sniffies for hiring, but makes sense. As a hookup app I find it a little too intrusive and with too many lurkers. Thanks for sharing this.

You're a desperate perv, and welcome to the club. Mine are way above that mark, but like others, it includes travel expenses for my 5 trips last year, not counting escapades to other states. I remained within budget, though.

Interesting questions. I had to put some thought on this. Decades. I'd say better in the sense that I didn't have to pay the second time. The interaction was as enjoyable as it was the first time (or at least as I remember it). He was a street hustler that I one brought home. At the time I didn't know that he charged, but the experience was good, I felt that he enjoyed the sex as much as I did. Decades later I saw him and we recognized each other. He told me that he "improved his life" and he was happy to just enjoy his body with people that he wanted (or something like that. I was more interested in having sex with him). He looked different but still very attractive. So we had great sex again. Never saw him again after.

Sorry about that. It's never a good thing to be ignored. What others mentioned about escorts not mixing their Grindr lives with their RM lives is to be respected. It's difficult for us clients to see a provider in a different setting and not seeing him as a provider, but there are lines and boundaries set by them that we should respect. However, it is unrealistic to expect that we magically know which escorts are in Grindr outside of their provider realm and which aren't. I don't think you did anything wrong. That said, if you fear rejection, and if you think that what you got from Grindr was information about a negative way in which they perceive and see you, then there's the need to consider than if you reach out to them in RM. Will that affect your interaction if you hire them? Will it be enjoyable for you? That's something than only you can answer. I know I sometimes see a provider,love what I see, love the profile, but when I reach out I don't get the same vibe/feeling I thought I was going to get. I just move on. There are plenty of people out there, if one doesn't work, like the subway, there's always a next.

Why not? Remember the afluenza case? Ethan Couch was found not guilty because he's too rich and self-entitled to be guilty.

That line of work exists since humanity became civilized. That means, people have been providing without Internet for quite a long time. Just search info about the old fashion way of doing things, and the type of clients that cater to that level of discretion. I'm sure that there's clientele out there that prefer that level of secrecy too. I think that's quite a niche for some.

Different look but still hot as hell.

I agree.

Propose, and one of the three of you is not on board, then it won't happen. My guess is that this might not be the first time than people in an open marriage come across a person they have both met separately. If they really are that in sync with each other, chances are that they might already had that discussion about crossing paths with the same person

Actually, that's very easy to find out. I'll reach out to him in Hungarian/Magyar. Let's see how it goes.

To me it's more confusing that he says that he's straight and a top. He also list all these languages: English • Español • Français • Italiano • Dutch • Português • Deutsch • Ру́сский • ελληνικά • بهاس ملايو • Magyar • العَرَبِيَّة‎‎ • हिन्दी • বাংলা • 官话 • 日本語 Guy has issues.

I find it a little odd, but I also think that there's a factor around the level of comfort that a provider feels about being fully open about the work that they do. As others have mentioned, a vast majority of the guys in rentmasseur have no formal training or certification as masseurs. It's not a fully regulated profession, so anyone can call themselves a masseur. Other prefer the convenience that the masseur title gives them, but do whatever they want. They might feel like using it as a cover for escorting, or as an excuse to say no to clients that they don't want to "escort". The masseur title gives them a little more control over how the encounters go, though for less money. Just my thoughts, not law.

Let him know (if you are willing to move the appointment) that you are willing to wait for him to be ready for you. How exactly, I'm not sure, but you should have a comfortable, private and discreet experience.

He has a WhatsApp account, so you can have a video call with him, that will give you proof that he exists, looks like in his profile and at least that part is real. Not a guarantee about not being a scam, but it helps.

Nothing like I've read, I saw a masseur in Puerto Vallarta, and I had a great time with him, but when I returned he was all business, no extras. later in the year when I returned, he was no longer at the place where I met him. The rest of the year was rather uneventful in that respect.

Details? How was he rude?

Thank you. Count on me for it.

In NYC, I dare to say that it's more than that (at least in my experience). As a person who has been to this type of venues in many cities around the world, there's definitely what you mentioned, but in NYC is part of the culture, it's expected, it's ever present. Many people there just posing and being seen by others, and that's it. There's no "strategy" in what I see there. The funniest moment around the posing thing that I experienced was at the now gone west side club where there was almost one person per room just standing there by their room doors, looking stupid, and suddenly in the background they played Madonna's Vogue. I and a few others looked at each other and couldn't stop laughing, plus that was my cue for me to just leave the place.

Enjoy. Please do share how it goes.

I remember going there once, and I can't judge a place for only one time. The facilities are conducive of what it's intended for. It' a sex club, but as my experience has always been in sex clubs in NYC, it's always jammed packed... with attitude. People are just there posing, looking stupid.

I've heard of it, never cared for it, and people who like to be on the receiving end of it should use their financial resources to get therapy.

There are many right and wrong ways of asking. Though others have pointed at the way you asked, I also have to point at the way the masseur takes your communication. I have been rejected by masseurs when I have inquired, and I have done it in the exact same way some here suggest, and pasting the exact same words in the initial text. Is this the first time you reach out to a masseur? If not, has this time been differently in the way you initiated the conversation? There's never going to be a perfect way of communicating. As others suggest, look into the way you inquire, but also be aware that the masseur himself might take it differently than its original intent. There's no guarantee either way. I'd just move on to the next. Just make sure that your 50% of the conversation is right and adequate.

To add to the weirdness, the ad is now gone.

If he's still in Havana when I'm there, I reach out to him.