soloyo215

Nothing is, there are no specific rules for what goes on in those rooms, or how far a provider will go. Feel good if you feel good, set boundaries if it doesn't feel right. The provider will do the same. Yes, in my opinion. Seems like the provider either likes you or wants a larger tip. Scratch the part about the larger tip. "Supposed to", I do not know. I can only speak for my experience. What I do when I feel that the provider has gone the extra mile (or the extra inch, rather), I do tip more. However, a 40% tip is a little high. It might be that the provider might be taking it as you wanting more for a higher than usual tip, or again, maybe he just likes you. Since it's a 40% tip, personally that's quite high. Use your discretion, enjoy, but don't go bankrupt over it.

I imagine that you have first looked for providers that can acommodate for your interests (not all are). Their profiles might give you an idea of the things that they are prepared to provide. If you have chosen a provider who you know by their profile caters what you are interested in, you can ask in the initial conversation while you are coordinating the encounter. Always ask, never assume just because you read it in the profile. If otherwise you are either blindly looking for providers without knowing if they specifically cater to your interest, it's still good to ask, but you might want to be more sensitive to them. I know of at least one provider who (IN MY OPINION) overreacts a little when people ask him questions about things that are not in his profile. The same goes if you are interested in a provider that doesn't list your interest, but you are thrilled to talk him into it (willing to accept his fee, of course). Also, not sure how necessary your fetish is (not being insensitive, please read on), as there are some people who only feel aroused when doing things of their particular interest (aka, fetish). I know people and have friends who have different fetishes, and some have mentioned that they cannot function without the fetish. Others said that it's a preference. I imagine that can determine how relevant in the conversation it is for you. It boils down to asking the provider, but how you ask matters if the provider doesn't list openness to it, and when you ask might depend on how important it is to you.

The topic of hygiene has come up in the past. Like others have mentioned, I too make sure that I am at my best in terms of bein presentable for the provider. Not only do I care that the provider feels comfortable, but it's just basic to have good hygiene. As I mentioned in other posts, the reality is that some men never learned to properly wipe their own butts. It's just reality. I remember in another post, was about massages, a client noticed that the provider had dude wipes available. I'm not a provider, but some of the ones I know have mentioned that some clients might not show up at their best in terms of cleanness, although that doesn't necessarily mean that they have poor hygiene. I do not think it's on purpose, at least I don't think doing that on purpose is the norm. I woundn't call fetishes "gross", at least the fetish people I know are the cleanest, neatest people I've ever known. Having a fetish doesn't mean that you run your house and maintain your body that way. I'd just call your client and asshole for doing that to your towel.

I agree about that model, and many others that are more convenient. Unfortunately, in the USA the model is not the problem. Regardless of the model we have in place, they are always going to find ways of making it pricey, racist and difficult to access. The American culture is anti-education, anti-critical thinking and anti-equitable access. The model that we use doesn't matter in that respect. The moment we start admitting how we in USA do things, then we will start having real solutions.

That's a shitty move from RM, but I guess as a company that advertises hustling, why not joining it. I never trust reviews individually. I pay more attention to themes I find in reviews, that is, things that I see repeated multiple times. Number of reviews could be for many reasons, change of accounts, type of clients, etc. For a new provider I think it's always a little bit of a struggle to establish themselves as a reliable ecort. I don't necessarily care about how many reviews.

Leave and negotiate paying less than agreed. If I want to fuck a dead body, I'd break into the morgue. You are paying to receive an experience that you enjoy, and that's not it. Part of the fantasy (and the reason many of us hire) is for feeling desired and wanted, even if it's not real. That's poor customer service. THAT SAID, I know of some clients who can't care less about it, as they care more for having a way with a beautiful, hot man. That's why I'm keeping this in "I" statements, as I know that some men care more about the hot body than attitude or mental presence. Without attacking the provider, I'd give a review based on your experience, but there's a way to express your dissatisfaction without making it a personal attack,

It's extreme and a terrible business practice to shut donw a client who has paid his due and tipped well simply because he's not available on queue. That attitude is terrible to have on both sides over the other. Even when I don't have the intent to rehire, I am polite and pleasant, and I don't need to lie or give excuses. A simple "I am not available at this time" should siffice. There have been times when I am not available for different reasons, not just financial, and I still use the same line. Some times I have added, "I'll reach out to you when I'm ready" or something similar when I want to actually reach out later when I can or want. I don't ignore providers I have received services from, and I've never gotten attitude from any. If a provider is in high demand, I doubt the he's going to reach out to prospective clients blindly, as that seems to be more of an indication to the contrary. I just never see the usefulness of nastiness or attitude, and I think that a provider placing a client in their no-rehire list over simply not being available at a given time is as bad as the client placing the provider in his no-hire list for the same reason. I'm not a provider, but if I have a set rate for services, I can't care less for where the money is coming from, shouldn't matter if the money comes from this week's pay check, a trust fund, accumulated wealth or the welfare system. That's on the client to know where the money will come from. That's just me and my opinion, not law.

Ask. It's the best way of having clarity. I have seen providers who have actually done the opposite. They removed therapeutic from their options. I think it's ok to inquire, especially since there has been a change in their profile. Nothing wrong with inquiring for clarification.

I have been to similar situations. I reply, politely stating that at this time I am not interested in scheduling something. However, it doesn't bother me to receive another text from him. I'm ok with that. Also, I might change my mind, I in fact have changed my mind and seen providers that I deemed "good but not great", and it's been good. I don't need to go to any of the extremes. I don't have to say why I'm not scheduling him. It's business, and they might even feel the same about me; I might not have been the best client. It's just bsuiness, reaching out to customers. Again, it doesn't bother me that they reach out, but if you feel differently, you might want to find a way of stating that you are not interested in receiving furhter communication. There are nice ways of doing that, but it's up to you.

Back shoulders. Most of my therapists spend a great deal of time on my lower back, which I'm fine with, but I believe that some spend too much time on that part of my body. My favorite masseur is in PV, MX. He starts from the neck and he does stretches, and twists my neck. Nothing sensual or erotic about his massage, but it's a great massage.

Which is why I said "I wonder", so what exactly is your point?

No different than the rest of the world. Some are cut, some are uncut. I have been with chinese, japanese, philipinos, thai, cambodian and korean, and I have seen both cut and uncut in all of them. I know that some gay men treat the cut/uncut thing the way people treat their religious beliefs, so I wonder, if you have interest in a particular person, will it be better to just ask? The fact that they are from Asia or of Asian descent shouldn't make a difference in finding out. Just my opinion, not law.

I still have my dirty, disgusting and constant sexual desire towards every other man I see. Of course, my brain reacts faster than my body, and my body certainly isn't the 24/7 walking erection that I was back in the day. I still function well when I need it, with a little help here and there. The additional help (magic pill) is optional, for when I have a more expensive provider.

Sure. They want others to address them as "they", but they still refer to themselves as "I", not "we". How convenient.

The whole thing looks to me like publicity stunt. The long coverage, the bragging, I mean, background stories about activism and elitism by victimhood, and the fact that not taking HIV meds is not as horrible as it was back when there was less known and less treatment for it. When I compare that action with when in the 90s people did that and actually died, or when there have been people who have set themselves on fire, or going on long hungre strikes, then you see how silly that guy looks (or should I say "those guys look"? Or maybe "guys" is not correct to use, so "those *** look"?).

Maybe he's one of those "gender queer" types who uses they as his pronoun. In any event, it's insane, but I wish this is the first time I see people pulling that nonsense.

I have heard and read similar posts expressing the same. You try some, you like some, you keep some, you love some more than others. I've also known of others who prefer finding one or two and forget about the rest of the universe, and that works for them. You were able to reach out to the other providers and work everything out. It shouldn't be different with the one that you have. Keep in mind that he doesn't know any of what you thought to make him the one to reach out.

I graduated from NYU last year at... not 22 anymore. Same here and with all the males in my family. We look better older. My two cents. This is not exactly a regulated profession, there's no code of ethics. That means that each provider establishes his rules as he sees them fit. If a provider wants to give a dicount or discriminate based on looks or age, there's nothing anyone else can do other than deciding to becoming or not his client. I imagine it will feel great to be told that because I'm beautifull I'll pay less, but if it doesn't happen, who cares. I personally have a dedicated budget already, and if a provider is above it, too bad, too sad.

Depends. Some men are not that great at cleaning that area, some are, and some actually like it dirty. I have met guys who treat the cut/uncut thing the way some people treat politics. I have a hard time understanding people who have this polarizing mindset about it, but again, I have my own quirks, so whatever, I just let them be.

None. Let him be. Especially since he has safer sex with you. The only difference between him and many others is that he lets you know. Providers are in a high-risk line of work, that's no secret. Having first-hand knowledge and details about it might cause concern, but the way I see it, it's just awareness. I've herad of The Eagle in NYC. Seems to be the one of that type of establishment that has survivied. In my experience, the sex party scene in NYC is almost exclusively unprotected sex. Rarely have I seen a person using protection. And that's since way before PreP. That's not exactly that cut and dry. It depends of what you do and through which orifice. This is best thought of as levels of risk, rather than in absolute terms. Doing something increases or decreases the risk of transmission. That's why health educators (like I was once upon a time) use the term "safer sex" instead of "safe sex".

You might be right. The newer generation seems to be more into spontaneously doing things than planning ahead. I see a similar effect in my work with the younger crowd, "planning" to them is just making a mental note a few minutes before the meeting. Just my opinion, not law.

The provider might need to have a saying on it, so I believe that as much as we could suggest you to propose availability and timing, you might still need to obtain the input from the provider. When reaching out, have an idea of the setup, including timing, so you can let the provider know. Also, providers might have experience in setting up a 4-hour session. I guess that depending on what is expected to happen, it could be as simple as scheduling a time/space, or as complex as bringing and setting up equipment and gear, or traveling. How simnple or complex the session will be can determine the logistics of it. (I feel like I said a lot and nothing at the same time).

Yes. Your point?

Again, not judging. Just curious. What do you mean versatile is too much of a risk? Risk of what exactly. I'm just trying to understand. If you're not comfortable replying feel free to ignore.

Long ago I learned that people have preferences, some people have fetishes, and some people are just very clear about what does it for them and doesn't do it for them. I want to agree about just "enjoying men", but I have to admit that there are quite a long list of men types that I want nothing to do with, leave alone get sexually involved with. I wounldn't judge. It might be just the craving of the hour that will go away as soon as it's satisfied, or it might be tied up to preferences, fetishes, even trauma. I just try to meet people where they are.