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I wouldn't feel weird, but I'd let him decide if he wants to say hello or acknowledge me. Some providers prefer not to have any contact with clients in public, and I respect that. Never experienced seeing a provider outside the business setting regularly, so I don't know how I'd react.

I'm a client, so I do not know how a provider might handle the "consultation" (I personally don't see it as such since to me that's the same as having communication about expectations and interest, but again, I'm not a provider). A good way of ensuring that it's free of phishing and malware, you can use screen recording software to create a copy, and then send him the file, of course, explaining that the file is not attached to any website. Also, it could be something that you communicate in person, that what you want is in a video, and show him. There's also the possibility of just being able to articulate it in words (unless it's something too complex to describe in words).

In my dating history, I've had guys hung up on things that I've shared with them, on religion, family history, my last name, my ethnicities, my change of careers and past relationships. Some have become quite annoying, repeating and bringing up the topic. To me that has been a reason to end it. I've brought the question directly to them, asking why he keeps bringing up the topic, and if there's anything that bothers him about it. Never got a direct answer, and what I get from the whole interaction is that he's being passive-aggressively, showing that he has an issue with me. What issue? I do not know, but also don't care to find out. A person who is unable to get that he's making me uncomfortable by constantly bringing up a given topic, and continues doing so in spite of my boundaries, shows that he might be a boundary trespasses, being disrespectful from the get go. Just my experience, I can't tell that that's the case with you and your date. I'd suggest to just ask him what's the deal with him bringing up the matter.

Just my experience. The vast majority of the young guys I've been with (hired or hookups) are "too much enthusiasm, too little essence". I don't discard younger guys, but I scrutinize them more when hiring or hooking up, even now when I am their "daddy". The rest of the daddy thing I just see as a preference the same way that some prefer certain physical attributes or activities.

Interesting reading. I personally don't like the way the story is told. Seems biased towards presenting only the salacious side of the story and portraying only him as the wrongdoer. I'd like to know the background of the accuser, and also how Equinox ended up hiring that guy without a background check (or hiring him anyway after a background check).

As others have said, in a settled way or directly, you can communicate what/how you want. I doubt that the provider will be offended, annoyed or hurt by you telling them what/how you expect things. Best.

I think I understand. I relate to that situation. That is one of the main reasons why I rarely bottom. Very few tops (in my experience) are not that great at taking the time when someone is not into the power top or aggressive top thing. Some of us have to be led to like it, and some tops are just not that experienced in that. I agree about communicating that with him, especially now that you have had encounters with him. I'd suggest that you can frame it as trying something different or new, as expanding your range of activities. No need to mention anything about him not knowing how to do things. He actually might know and he's just not sure what approach works best for you. You can use your history to improve your encounters. If he's a young man, chances are that he's still in the learning curve of the business. Properly communicated, he can become the top of your dreams. Aside from just communicating what/how you prefer, how you present it can also help it become a better way of connecting with him. Turn the negative into a positive. Best.

I find that unprofessional. Some of us can't care less about discussing politics, and as a client, the provider is supposed to provide an environment that leads to what he's paying for. The provider's job is to give the client a good time, not to make a political point.

Welcome. Feel free to ask questions, research the discussions and read as much as you'd like.

Without details of the interactions it's difficult to establish any thoughts on it.

Thanks, great information, but that doesn't address the question I asked.

Even if that's a socially acceptable norm, which I don't think it is (times have changed, though people, injustices, violence, rape, prejudices and sociopolitical nonsense haven't), it still doesn't answer my question or address my point, which is, have there been instances when the "assault" to use your wording, has been welcome? In my experience, many people (including a lot of the "me too" people) complain only and exclusively when it works for their purpose, not labeling it "assault" when they like it. The "Me too" thing to me is a big fat failure. As some comedian pointed out, it became a tool for discrimination. The hashtag sign is also the pound sign. It makes more sense to call it "pound me too". It has not done a single thing to advance any rights, to end violence, to raise awareness. What it has done is creating more segregation more violence and more discrimination. Rather than a news story, there's research to support my statements (just go to Google Scholar or Pew Research and do a search on the effects of the Me Too "movement"). The Me Too Movement had migrated from a defender of the vulnerable, to a censor and then political machine that only serves to water down and detract from the Movement's original, righteous purpose. And of course, there are many of us who rely on reason and don't support any nonsensical definitions at people's convenience. So I ask again directly this time, what do you do when you like the "assault"? Is it still "assault"?

Assault? Sounds a little dramatic. Unwanted advances, boundary crossing, poor judgement, harassment, not respecting personal space maybe, but assault? To me assault involves a level of aggressiveness where you need to physically defend yourself, not fend off unwelcome touch. REGARDLESS, I agree that it could be quite uncomfortable. However, if I could ask, had there been instances when you have welcomed such "approach"? I ask since this has been the topic of many conversations I've had with friends, family and in many other social settings for decades. The thing is that the vast majority of the time the person complaining does so only when they feel the touch and groping is unwanted, neglecting to recognize the other times when the same touching and groping has been welcome and wanted. Of course, I don't know you, which is why I inquire. Every time I have a conversation about this, that's my starting point. Many times we focus on the touch we don't welcome, neglecting to recognize that the same approach is used with the touch we have welcomed from other people. Just my thoughts, not law.

For real? There are ads stating that?

Great information. Thank you for your efforts and for sharing it.