ShortCutie7

Sounds like you worked your ass off to be accommodating to your friend and it still wasn’t enough for her- you did nothing wrong in this situation.  The pandemic has altered peoples’ brain chemistry in many ways (especially when it comes to things related to their health… myself included) and she’s not the same person you became friends with.

I HAVE seen plenty of people of all ethnicities/races (including white) smoking in NYC, but yes, it does seem like Chinese people (more than any other group) are the biggest offenders.  What’s baffling about the weed in the air is that you smell it without being anywhere near someone smoking it… this is not the case with tobacco smoke or vape.

I rarely see white people people smoking tobacco in NYC anymore. Years ago when you'd go out to a bar it seemed everyone smoked while inside drinking. Now you rarely see anyone. Just the occasional addict who slips outside to indulge.
If you do see people walking around smoking a cigarette, it's Asians. I am guessing the Tobacco companies saw the writing on the wall and moved their advertising to China.
The majority of smoking habits I see on a daily basis are 20-somethings  vaping or people smoking weed.
I agree with ShortCutie: It's unfortunate that the smell of weed is in the air everywhere now. I know lots of people smoke weed, as did I myself when I was younger....I just wish they were a little discreet about it. Changing times.

Back to the topic at hand….ditch your "friend".
She’s not a friend and I’d bet $1,000 that she doesn’t have Celiac disease.
And I’m sorry, if you’re allergic to dogs….you don’t plan a trip where you’re staying in a house with a dog for 4 days. 
Insane. 

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I’d think a description of yourself would be sufficient so that there’s some amount of familiarity that the person the escort is meeting is the one who contacted him, as well as to alert the escort to anything major that could be a dealbreaker (ie I think it’s important that he knows how short I am).

It's always good to let the provider know whom to expect so he's not confused.
For example: "When you ring the doorbell and the door opens, I will be the one standing there naked"

I’d think a description of yourself would be sufficient so that there’s some amount of familiarity that the person the escort is meeting is the one who contacted him, as well as to alert the escort to anything major that could be a dealbreaker (ie I think it’s important that he knows how short I am).

I’d think a description of yourself would be sufficient so that there’s some amount of familiarity that the person the escort is meeting is the one who contacted him, as well as to alert the escort to anything major that could be a dealbreaker (ie I think it’s important that he knows how short I am).

I don’t think so… I made it very clear that I wasn’t looking for “now”.  The nature of my conversations weren’t time-wasting (they weren’t lengthy, I just took a reasonable amount of time to respond) and part of the purpose of this tactic was to eliminate guys who were aggressive etc.

But don't those repeated chats run the risk of him thinking you are a time-waster?  Much respect for your thoughtful comments and I certainly mean no insult.  Just curious.

As a 100% gay guy, I must say that the most passionate kisser I have ever been with (and in my top three for best chemistry in general) was a bi guy.
ETA: he was not a provider.

I have only engaged in anal at all a handful of times, and bottomed all of those times except once… being a little guy means that the vast majority of suitors want to top me.  Bottoming was painful every time I tried it, despite being very turned on by it.  Part of the reason I’m interested in providers is to do a few “test runs” of topping before I have to worry about the bottom enjoying it.  I chickened out on my one and only session with a provider (last week) but will try to go for it next time.

I just love a short muscular guy, especially if he's under me 🐽

Lmfao as a 5’3 guy, it’s hilarious how some guys have no perception of how the number translates to a human… so many guys have told me I was shorter than they were expecting 🤣

I wouldn’t call any of these “horror stories”, but do have some negative experiences that come to mind.  Pre-pandemic, when I was actively looking to meet guys on Grindr, I was picky as to who I would message/respond to and then would vet hookups by chatting on and off for at least a few days prior to meeting.  I was lucky to have never been in a dangerous situation, due in part to these measures.  Anyway, here are some of these negative experiences:
1- A cute guy invites me to come to his place for a hookup. A few minutes before I arrive at his place, he sends a pic of his (slightly less cute) husband and asks if he can join us. I say yes despite not generally being into three-ways. When I arrive, the guy I had been messaging looks about 20 years older and 50 pounds heavier than his pics, but the husband looks like his pic so I went through with it. I honestly didn’t have a terrible time, but guys sending outdated and/or edited pics became a theme (which I won’t go into since it’s self-explanatory).
2- I’m giving a hot guy a bj in his living room and his (likely Orthodox Jewish female) roommate walks in, screams, and runs out.
3- Another theme: guys I [think I] have a great time with blocking me seconds after I leave.  Or better yet, blocking me or stopping responding/not giving an exact address right before we’re about to meet (I once waited on a guy’s corner for almost an hour before I realized he had ghosted me despite making plans).
4- I see a guy on Grindr who appears to be incredibly close, like 50 feet away.  I’m intrigued and we hit it off.  He then sends a face pic which I am not remotely attracted to, so I block him.  The very next day, we got on my building’s elevator together.  What an introduction to a new neighbor!
5- This one was completely my fault and I wonder if this guy could have become a boyfriend had our first encounter gone differently.  He was gorgeous and our chemistry via messaging was amazing.  In a nutshell, he asked if I could meet him for a quick drink and I should have said “not today” instead of “yes”… I arrived at the bar very sweaty/unkempt from a particularly physical day of work and didn’t realize I only had a few dollars in my wallet.  I fortunately noticed the latter before I ordered so only got a water.  I proceeded to be judgmental of my date for drinking “heavily” before his work function (I was an innocent 22 so my perception of heavy drinking was skewed).  I then walked my date to his function and he gave me a kiss on the cheek (which I could still feel), but I knew I’d never see him again.  Despite knowing his (relatively common) full name and vocation, I have not been able to track him down to apologize and ask for a second chance.

Lmfao as a 5’3 guy, it’s hilarious how some guys have no perception of how the number translates to a human… so many guys have told me I was shorter than they were expecting 🤣

Lmfao as a 5’3 guy, it’s hilarious how some guys have no perception of how the number translates to a human… so many guys have told me I was shorter than they were expecting 🤣

Rather, meooooow...

You’re not alone!  I once had a very very mild/vanilla hookup with a guy who was undetectable… I was too scared to go anywhere near his cum, and my mind was racing for weeks afterwards, thinking that I could have caught something just from making out with him (what if we both had cuts in our mouths and he didn’t take his meds, etc).  This fear of STIs in general has essentially made me celibate for the last few years. I know my fear after that particular encounter was illogical, but I can’t deny that I had it and have to accept that it’s best for my mental health to simply avoid.

Now I see what you mean!  They are both significant differences but not comparable to each other.

Yeah...I know it's not entirely logical.
Just can't do it with someone who I KNOW is infected. Total turn off.
 

You don’t think a 33% increase over the span of two years qualifies as “sky rocketing”?  How much do you think wages have gone in that same span of time?  Per the US inflation calculator, the increase from 2022 from 2024 should be 7.1%.

You don’t think a 33% increase over the span of two years qualifies as “sky rocketing”?  How much do you think wages have gone in that same span of time?  Per the US inflation calculator, the increase from 2022 from 2024 should be 7.1%.

Agreed, restaurant prices in NYC have skyrocketed, especially in the last couple of years.  The other day, a basic dinner for two in a casual Chinese restaurant was $80!  Two years ago, the exact same meal was less than $60.  Since food is where I spend the bulk of my income, I have been hit particularly hard.