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Interesting conversation, thanks for taking the time to discuss. As a provider, I've had some very "real" intimacy with my clients. I think it is more about the connection between people than whether one pays or not. I really make an effort to convey certain things during the time spent. I think if a provider doesn't care about the experience of his client, he shouldn't be an escort or provider. I'd encourage you to consider exploring this. Whether you pay or not is between both of you. Don't set up expectations, but enjoy the experience with an open mind. You never know what you will find out there. Be optimistic, but realistic.

Interesting information to analyze and review. It does seem to make sense. Would be intriguing to compare "notes" and data from year to year and see about changes.

Always important to remember those who sacrificed. Wet weekend here in the middle of the country. A busy weekend. Wishes to all for a great holiday.

So I have discussed my interest in travel throughout the US Southwest and visiting a number of National Parks. Love New Mexico, Colorado and Utah. It all started with my parents and our visitation of numerous national parks in the west when I was a small child. Now I not only want to return, but to explore more. I talked about my visit of 2 Utah national parks last summer, "Bryce Canyon" and "Zion". We usually do a fitness photo shoot as well as I'm into that. So I've been talking "Yellowstone" and the return for the last 3 years. Weather and infrastructure in the park were problems and so I just decided to go elsewhere. I was there when I was 5 years old and will never forget Old Faithful and the smell. Some things you never forget. So, want to hear from others about what to see when at the park, areas I might want to consider for fitness photo shots and best entrances into the park. I might say the input from a certain member last year was VERY important to my enjoyment of Zion National park. It was all awesome. Thoughts please!

Interesting conversation. My own situation maybe wasn't that atypical. While in college and law school, I basically chose to ignore it. Maybe "not accept" the reality with some sort of inner explanation. We all do that it seems with this or that. As I got into work I certain event came up that made me realize I wanted to address this part of my life and so I did. I don't think I ever have really been one to "worry about others finding out" kind of thing. But I also don't feel the need to make everybody around me aware of my sexual orientation. I do my thing and I live my life with confidence.

With only catching a small part of the "facts" with this case, I'm still probably not very articulate, although certainly am aware of the criminal charges alleged. I am aware of the apparent role of the male prostitutes. I was curious to see if there were any gay male prostitutes involved in some manner. Definitely going to catch who is testifying and who both the prosecution and defense call as witnesses.

So while I'm a very political person, I do my best to keep any politics out of it. Professionally it doesn't make sense to discuss politics and that extends to my escort work on the side. I don't need to know the political views of a client. There are exceptions. I have 2 regular clients that do talk politics and while I may join in, the conversation is limited. We have other things to discuss ..... and to do.

For years I would always say, "I've never spent any money toward a lottery ticket" and then with the jackpot at some unbelievable level, I bought two. Haven't ever since.

I think most of the answers here are helpful. To be a "tip" is at the discretion of the client. As a provider, if I see a regular client and know I'm doing a good job, a tip is certainly appreciated, but not absolutely required. I have different situations. One client has to reschedule quite a bit and always gives me a tip as his way of thanking me for extra effort toward making that booking happen. He's told me so. I have other regular clients that tip me simply because they know I do my very best to see they are satisfied. That's important to me. I am not offended if a client doesn't tip me and know it's more a financial decision.

Sounds like a great time! I would like to be there and meet everybody. Just a really busy period and with Monday being the tax deadline, just can't get away! Looking forward to meeting several in the year ahead and hope this can be planned for next year. Have a fantastic time!

I would welcome that, Steve!

I was hired to mow a client's lawn shirtless. Happy to do it. I'm very much into landscaping and mowing shirtless is very comfortable. There was a reason to his "madness" , however. It wasn't really about having his yard mowed. He wanted a video and photos of me doing it and displayed them to friends. Kind of funny.

The stock market issue has created issues, but maybe not in the way most here think. It is taking me away from as much time with escort clients. My time and attention has had to be elsewhere, although I haven't noticed any less bookings on the escort side. It is definitely a topic of discussion even with my escort clientele. It can be challenging to discuss without politics and that... isn't a very good thing , just as on here site!

What a topic...lol. I think the reason it appears to be so unattractive is it runs against the grain on what is appropriate. A "hole" picture might be getting the "cart before the horse" so to speak. Some may say that "holes" are not all that different, while the men who have them may vary widely. Who knows? For me personally, I'm not offended, but I do think they should come with other photos, not as a "stand alone"....lol

Well first, from a positive viewpoint. Great that you decided to explore this and took the initiative. As a provider, my immediate reaction was thinking you went way too far too fast. Book the dude for an hour, communicate what is expected and make sure you have a fantastic time for an hour. Gradually expand, add or "explore" with more time as you gain experience and confidence about what is important to you and communicate that to the provider. I would encourage you to continue to hire, make sure you know what you want out of it and no doubt hire those with references. Talk to them, make it simple in the beginning and I'm confident you will be satisfied.

As a provider I swallow for several reasons: First I'm asked (and/ or expected) to do so by clients and I have no objection. I'm also quite turned on by doing so. It pleases them, they are satisfied and I find it quite a turn on My embrace of their satisfaction. Taste can very from quite good to a bit less than, depends on their diet.

Very interesting topic of conversation. Never participated in anything like that as a provider, but certainly have been asked.

Greasy hair. That always is a deal braker for me. Not sure why.

Interesting conversation. I could certainly "do it" with someone who was less than attractive provided he was clean and no drugs. There are various definitions of clean. I can handle sweat odors without any issues, but if the client wasn't "clean" I wouldn't proceed. I've never had that experience. I usually talk about my own prep and readiness when I talk to a potential new client. A client should always expect a provider to be clean and prepped and the same in reverse.

Well congrats for losing the weight. I would hope you would do it for your own health, confidence and fitness and for attention by others. I know that positive remarks and work can help with confidence, so I recognize the "hand in hand" approach they may take. My suggestion is to continue the work and challenge yourself to be more outdoing with others. Be friendly, be supportive and you will gain more the same. Being helpful to those who are trying to improve their heath, is of itself, very helpful. I'm confident you will gain more by giving to others. Just my thoughts.

I think it would be interesting for the original OP to define "later in life". For me I was in my late 20's when I came out. A variety of reasons, I was in college and graduate school, additional education and then had to apply myself in establishing my career. I didn't make time for my sexuality and I had made the decision I wanted to ignore it. What changed my mind? I decided I was worth exploring who I am as a person, being gay a part of it. That was interesting and fun.

It can be frustrating. They don't seem to be very reliable employees. I've found they seem to be in a world of their own and things like job responsibilities seem to be a secondary consideration. That said, there are some that are dedicated and I do find conversation with some of them enlightening. Some no.

I think it's very fair to say that as a provider, my "sexpectations" have been exceeded by reality. I rarely have letdowns and what I have learned and experienced is far greater than what I would have expected. No complaints. Sure, you can have a disappointment with a client, but use that to learn.

It was a tragedy for us in Kansas. Many heartbroken families and the Wichita community was certainly very sad. My thoughts and prayers to all those involved, those lost and their family and friends.

When I'm with a client, we do what he prefers. Most of the time there is little music or something very subtle. For me personally, music can enhance or distract from the mood at hand. The atmosphere and scene also makes a difference. Music can also help create or advance an intense session if done correctly. I would never rule it in or out!