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Move on. There are literally lotsa fishes in the sea....if you cant afford it, you probably shouldnt force it. No point putting yourself in a financial risks for this.

Do you tip your lawyer (on top of their hourly rate)? Doctor? vet? Therapist?

Pretty sure majority of clients have had these sort of experiences. Me self have lost count where providers simply failed to get their tool to stand to attention. Cost of doing business. Echoing others, them most stunning providers not always the best suited option.

Was stalked.....no harm me safe just surprised and (frankly) hilarious lol

In so far re resonding to any and all advances on grindr or IG.....I reckon there would be a quite opposite view between the average looking joes and the hotties. Imagine sending say 10ish texts and got ignored 80%/90% of the time on daily basis. Must be disheartening, what a blow to self esteem. Now imagine for a sec being on the other end, receiving wayyy more than 10ish texts and be expected to respond to every single one on daily basis. That must be tiring and well annoying. I knw a mate (who is an absolute sex magnate) who got crazy amount of texts on grindr daily. And more so on IG. Understanably he would only respond to guys he attracted to. Is he rude? Certainly priviledge but wouldnt call him rude.

Some providers market through grindr (in addition to RM) thus see ppl reaching out to them on grindr as potential customer and would expectedly direct them to his RM. That said, some others use grindr for non-business reasons, they be looking for potential free hook-up and not potential customer. In such case cant really fault them for not responding. I bet most of us regular folks often ignore advances on grindr for whatsoever reasons - so why should pretty ppl be held on higher standard? IMO, for a client to enjoy this hobby long term, one should readily upfront accept and acknowledge that none provider will happily spend their time and effort on you if not for $$$. Key is not how they feel towards you but how good is their acting/ performance on the clock. Everytime a provider compliment my looks, I know for sure thats a lie. This is not me looking down on my self but me knowing and accepting the nature of the relationship. Make life easier on my end as a client.

Put yourself in the shoes of a client. You should have answer of what to do.

Thanks....was asking solely bcs no provider ever quoted me 1k+ for a 24ho hire. Lowest was north of 3,5k.

This is eerily familiar. A colleague of mine was a victim recently, wiped him out of 150k+ just shortly after he paid a deposit for a house. On those dating apps scammer, I had found that telling them I am a lawyer usually an instant show stopper lol

Honest qs here, is this a market rate?

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Echoing this. I have this one provider who I used to see regularly, overnights, weekends, trips. We text daily, purely professional at the start then slowly becoming more casual and personal. Communication always gets intense pre and (for days, a week or so top) post the first couple of trips. I called it customer service period. There was this period where I was seeing him intensely, went on several trips (ranging from 3/5 days each) in a short 2 months. I was honestly on the brink of catching feeling (or maybe I was if i am being honest). Then he pulls away, slowly but noticeably. We never talk about it. Communication just stop. I stop seeing him for months till recently but no intense communication pre or post this time. He reaches out, we set up a meet. It was a great one, no awkwardness. Nowadays, we would trade check-in texts every couple weeks, nothing intense. I would say prior to the hiatus he would text like a flirt, nowadays more like a mate.

Its a bit more nuance IMO especially where intimacy is involved. He might see keeping client at arms lenght is a way to maintain professional relationship, to avoid said client feeling too deep (in particular after a trip). Its a subtle way to maintain boundaries without being rude or harsh. Been there....so kinda see the provider's pov.

Unless absolutely necessary, I won't randomly text my regulars (not even the one who I have been on trips with or had met free of charge several times for meals). When it comes to paid time, client controls the dynamic but if otherwise its the provider. All my free of charge meets have been proposed by the provider, its their free time afterall. On the other note, he did such a pro job that you geniunely enjoy your time together, so much you believe he would do it again (though in a much smaller scale, say for coffee) for free. If he really keen, he would ask you. I once invite my regular to dinner prior to scheduled session (which would be non paid hour), he politely declined and offer to buy me dessert after play (within paid hours). Couple days forward, he invite me to a brunch free of charge (I paid for meals, he paid for dessert). All in all, very subtle but message is crystal clear.

Echoing others, I think multiple rounds play is expected for a mutiple hours hire. Its always happened organically in my experiences....a pro provider knows how best to time himself and, on the other hand, you ought to know your body and time yourself accordingly. My go to formula is play-converse-play (might throw in hot tub/pool if accomodation permits) on repeat and only finish shortly prior to end of agreed hour. I once ask for a rest time to cook because I was starving lol If you need a break time to delay the finale, ask for it. Communication is the key.

90% providers I met charge 450 - 600/ hour....I never haggle on their pricing and that said I dont generally tip. 100% of their earnings are for their own account, safe to assume that they dont pay cut to anyone else. None of my clients ever tip me for my counsel lol Though I would tip if provider go above and beyond providing services outside of agreed/ expected scope....I once tip 1k for a 4days trip.

We simply have a very different views. To me, such comment is a mind game, but a pro move nonetheless. Professional to me simply means one is excellent at what they do - are they honest or ethical? Thts beside their competency. I simply see that sort of comments as part of escorting business - so a provider excell at such game is a pro from my pov. Whether or not I be keen to participate in the game is another story.

I would agree if it were any other field of business - one that doesnt resolve around sex and feeling. Honey baiting is also a professional (or at least a calculated) move on provider's part. Might not work on you, cant say the same for others. Some clients would open their wallet more on the back of a well designed illusion - heck perhaps they themselves are willing participants. Is it professional? Depends on who you ask I reckon

More like he prefers you as a client (compared to his others). Think nothing of romantic feeling, you are simply a better client option. Why go for difficult client when a manageable one is willing to pay. My regular would often reschedule his other clients to fit me in, but I wouldnt ever think he sees my anything more than a preferred client - akin of a priority customer at your bank. Doesnt mean your bank rep geniunely like you

How does a client measures provider's genuinity when sweet talking is literally within said provider's scope of work? Is it his real thought or just a way to butter my feeling? Human interaction is tricky enough between amateurs, now extra complication added when dealing with professional. IMO just enjoy his compliments (nothing wrong with stroking one's ego now and then) but take everything with grain of salts - they all be hustling 💰

Echoing this sentiment. Baseline (for client) is getting what they paid for. Its provider's discretion to give extras (then or after) be it a discount, booking priority, special treatments etc.

Any recent exo? Thks

Any recent exp? Thks

My 2 cents, IMO, experienced providers are likely better at non-sex services - they seen a lot of ppl over the years and have much to talk about. Better at navigating conversation and playing the 'service business' game. New providers often get too much into their head and try too hard. They are eager to perform but not as smooth as veterans. But that I mostly do multiple hours hire might play into my experiences above.

Some of y'all are cruel.....one thing to call out provider's bad practices but to shame his looks is just unbelievable. Lets be honest, take a look in the mirror yeah....if not for your $$$, none of them hot sexy providers will even think to spend the evening with you.