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I know for fact all of my regulars (who advertised as a T only) do bottom (for the right guy or right price). Doesnt negatively affect my experience with them (me as a B). I think key point should be their technical skill. So long as he perform great, I couldnt care less what is his preference in his personal time. If any, I always try to get them to bottom in a 3s for me to watch.

Second this. Had many of these perks, in various forms. And for obvious reasons, I would never speak of them in details to others. IMO membership/loyalty program works best in a non-interpersonal relationship.

This usually lands me in all sort of drama. Had to cut off 2 of my regulars. Arranged a 3s with them (say A and B - both advertised as a T only), notice heavy chemistry between them that evening. Fast forward couple weeks, met with A who told me that he had actually went back to B's place after the 3s and B had bottom for him. A went on to spill tea on B. Being curious myself, I book B for the week after, surely right on cue B start babbling about A (including that A had bottom for him). All fun drama until B snitch on A for whatever he told B about my personal life (go as far as showing me A's texts). One other instances, arranged a 3s with my new regular (C) and this one other provider (whom I have never met (D), recommended by C). Again, heavy chemistry between C and D, though expected as D was recommended by C. C was booked for 3hrs and D only for 1hr (his booking ends on the 2nd hr of C). C ended the evening early (at the same time as D) saying he is double booked with other client and C promised to replace that 1hr for the next day. Annoying but since I was spent and tired that evening, fine with me. Fast forward weeks, I booked D and to my surprise D let it slip that he had actually went home with C that evening (hence C ended his booking with me early). Had to cut off both of them.

IMO (as a client), depending on your financial condition, do consider requiring a deposit (noting ofc such practice might undeliberately deter legit customers). Pick your battle I reckon.

Word of caution. A subscriber once share my posts to the provider who is the subject of those posts.

Better ask him for recent picts 😅 he is not hairy to me

Porn creates unrealistic expectation, so does provider. They are professional for a reason. Hire them long enough you will get a peek of their true thought. I wouldnt do it but if you were desperate enough, lower your standard. Date any joe however they look.

I would pass if you were looking for a top. Stunning to look at, a dissapointment in bed. Reckon he is more of a bottom. A good kisser tho.

Business worthiness varies. Its not uncommon for thriving business to not chase potential client for myriad of reasons. That aside, your last response ia deff a conversation stopper. I would have propose alternative timing instead of waiting for a proposal from him. He is unlikely to 'move mountain' for a potential one hour booking.

I enjoy straight porn at times but would strongly steer away from any provider highlighting their sraight sex on his RM ads. I found sex with gay-for-pay only work for 3s (or more) where I am looking to get my gut rearrange, preferably heavily on substance. No intimacy, just hard pounding.

If your main aim is to impress a provider, THE sure way is by giving him excessively massive cash tips - or a high end jewelry or a watch. No one will say no to a Patek. Otherwise, its him, the provider, who should strive to impress you - your job is to be respectful and pay for his service. His job is to peform within agreed parameter. That said, I would always go for places with great food, doesnt have to be a michelin, just gotta be great food. Or new resto that I wanted to try. Went to dessert bars couple times - had even bought ice cream to eat whilst walking on beach, spent hours just waking and talking. Its all about the connection. My reguler would sometime meet me on super casual clothing, tee and gym short at public park. As far as accomodatiob, now this is where I would splurge. Pick your accomodation based on what you plan to do in the evening....do you need a bathtub? Jacuzzi? King size bed (for obvious reason)? Balcony (for late night talk before bed or smoke)? Extra spacey room (for 3s)? 24hr room services? Good sound proofing (especially for rough play)? Good room service (for extra towels)? Full set kitchen (I once cook late night snack after play with provider)? Or private pool (for overnight)? IMO for consideration, a suite in a 4 stars might be a better option than a standard room in a 5stars. A service apartment (that operates like a hotel) is also often a great option.

He is indeed quite mechanical - not one for passionate BFE.

If $$$ is not a problem, just fly in whoever you fancied. It really is not a novel idea. Hiring someone local will prolly bring down total costs (eg flight tickets). Providers rarely advertise multiple days hire rate (RM only provides up to 'overnight' option), but that is not to say they will not be opened to it. Just ask them. I have had multiple days hire with local, fly provider into my state/city, fly out to visit provider at his state/city, went on multi days trips with provider out of city/state - IMO, there is no right or wrong ways. All depend on how much $$$ you would be willing to splurge. Unlike overnight or hourly, multi days hire can get pricey very quickly.

TRT is for life...there is no 'stopping' it - more like cruising on PCT whilst off TRT.

Afraid you might be in the wrong hobby......the only fool proof solution is a compete stop. Second best is to oral with condom on. There are really no other options unfortunately. PS: you are a married men, have your priority right mate.

Keen to check if anyone had hired Dato Foland? Thanks

$$$ moves needle. Just say you are looking to book them 3x market rate/hour for a private event.

This guy clearly lacks work ethic. Sure shite happens but there ought to be ways to compensate the 'losing' party. Gotta look at this from a business perspective, that is literally his job. A provider (whom I met for 1st time) had offer me 1 free session as compensation because he wasnt able to 'get it up'. I had forgot about that offer until he reminded me couple weeks after. That gesture speaks volume of his character. Other provider had to cancel on me a couple hours before appointed time, he then scheduled me in for the next day and stay past the agreed time (with no extra charge). That said, if I were you I wont be booking that guy in the future. There is no point of talking it out with him, trying to suss out his reasonings.....not with how he had treated you. I would inclined to say otherwise had he offer some sort of compensation for your loss.

They prolly think you are scam caller....

I always do in-peeson checkout...if not just due to habbit. Nonetheless, front desk wont care if you have a companion. Or you can easily check out by yourself and have your companion wait at the lobby. I would go as far as putting my regular's name on the booking just so he can pick room key up at the front desk when he arrives....safe me time going down to lobby.

Indeed he does. He was very honest on reasonings. All good, I pay agreed rates and give him a 5-stars review. Him opting to save his cum did not negatively impact my satisfaction of the session. I merely would prioritise booking providers who would cum as I dont typically book for 1h session. And I always book for evening/ late evening session.

I always invite providers to cum at the end of session. Only one rejection to date, that is discounting fake orgasm and non-perfomer. Whilst its not a deal breaker, I am unlikely to repeat book that one provider unless situation so requires.

If you dont or cant understand or see the silver lining here....nothing much I can say on the topic. Providers are ultimately businessmen, they work to better their life....so if they wish to charge premium so they can have $$$ to enjoy their life be it buying property, fancy car, business class flight etc...I dont see the issue here. If I can afford such premium rate then all good, if not I would simply move on. I simply cannot understand clients being outrage at high rates as if hiring provider is a primary need. One can live all right without ever paying for sex. Hiring provider is secondary or even tertier needs. Its like hoping to buy a ferrari at a price of a honda. Again, if monies is a concern, why bother visit ferrari showroom? Just go straight to toyota or honda. Surely y'all dont think providers are social service workers who are expected to provide stellar services at low price; where they are not expected to earn $$$$ so they can hopefully retire young. One of my regulars charge premium $$$$ and nowadays he has slowly cutting back working hours, invest wise and has proper passive incomes.....so yeah good on him for bettering his life and future. I see no problem whatsoever him charging premium $$$, I can afford him after all.

If quoted rate is outside of your budget....simply move on, look for cheaper options. I recently pivoted to less known brands as the likes of Gucci etc are no longer healthy for my bank account. Monies better spent elsewhere. I dont feel the need to call Gucci etc to lower their prices. Simply stop buying their products. I reckon same for everything else in life, hiring provider included.

Frankly bit lost here. Are you looking for a BFE with him (hence thinking to offer $$$) or rather leaning towards real life dating (which wouldnt customarily involve $$$ offer)? Each has vastly different implication. If the former, ask him nicely I reckon - rejection is a possibility but he unlikely be offended. Surely he has similar propositions in the past. If the latter, now this is a different ballgame. Whats your plan here? Ask him out on a date in real life but would still be paying him for massage? Or you would stop being a paying customer? So he stand to lose a line of income and supposed to gain what? Are you a catch? Financially ready to support his life? Has he ever insinuated that he is willing to provide same service for free? Bottomline - if you are still paying for his time, he deff without a doubt see you just as a customer (might be his best customer but a customer nonetheless). All my regulars treat me with extra care and super accomodative (e.g. moving their prior engagment to meet my annoyingly erratic schedule; let me pay days after session; pick me up to go to dinner; treating me meals; off-clock lunch/ dinner etc) - none of the above indicate any of them would look at me beyond a preferred customer. I pay premium $$$ for their time.