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Well I never use this forum as the primary source of browsing page. Instead would go to RM to search for providers in my area, identify providers i am interested in and only then run those providers' RM's handle names using the 'search' feature in this forum simply to check if any thread on those providers posted here for references. Seems to me that would be much more efficient than going through this forum to identify providers in my area.

Wouldnt it be easier to search by their RM's handle name?

Unless I misread your situation (and noting there is no other alternative timing feasible) I prolly would have just stay and enjoy the 60mins session. Room is booked for the night so thats a fixed cost nonetheless. I will pay his rate for 60mins + (depending on service rendered) tips. Seems to me that scenario actually cost less financially. Something is often better than nothing.

Vids "bottoming" vids are much better than his "topping" ones.

Just be upfront that this is your first hire and you would like to ask some qns. Clear communication is key. Never assume, always ask and clarifies where needed.

Mate if all my fee quotes were accepted, I will earn 5/6 figures monthly. I earn quite signifiant amount and live a comfortable life, do I want more monies....heck yeah. That said, i am deff not disfrenchised in any manner whatsoever. If me saying better to donate than to throw monies to non-performing provider hurts your ego, i suggest you to look deep inside.

In such scenario, its really not customer job to safeguard provider's or business owner's feeling. As customer you simply do what you gotta do. Same goes to business owner.

This hobby is banking on pure fantasy and if you cant recognise it, this is not for you. Given the nature of this hobby, you will meet a lot of providers who excell in emotion manipulation to hustle $$$ out of you. Learnt to recognise and deal with such situation. If you ever think a provider is 'jelous' bcs you hire other provider, that is not bcs he has feeling for you....its simply bcs lose of potential income. If a provider tells you on repeat all the gifts he received from his others clients, thats his way of asking you to buy gifts for him. Customers might think they have the upper hand as the payor but thats just not the case. Most if not all customers are not a relationship savvy but them providers are professional in this field. They knw you hire then because you are to some extent attracted to them. So its just a matter of figuring out your bottom line as to how much you are willing to pay for them to create this fantasy of them being interested in you. Now i am not saying all providers will try to hussle $$$ out of you. There are some ethical professionals out there who wont do that. But i truly believe anyone who is thinking to get into this hobby should first have the ability to identify a hussler. Only then you can protect your self (or heart).

Y'all are overthinking it. They see you as their customer, thats it. Any relationship between you and any of them is a pure business one. Your fear that by seeing the BF would create tension between you and the regular is rooted in an illusion that the regular would get jelous. Mate they are professional, its you who is delusion to overestimate the nature of your relationship.

Would you not change your doctor/lawyer/accountant if he was not performing well? He is not for you. Move on. I understand the urge to stay because his outlook matches your dream etc but if he cant satisfy your needs why keep throwing $$$? If you were feeling particularly generous, donate those monies to disfrenchised ppl instead. And no providers arent disfrenchised ppl, many of them make much more than your average joes. Even if they didnt, they still arent disfrenchised in any way. Give to homeless, children with cancer etc.

He ought to have a grade 10 🍑/ 🍆 for you to take that abuse......... A provider once asked for a rolex, I replid with a story where I cut off contact with provider who repeatedly asked for a nike.

Take every compliment with a grain of salt and sense of reality. Save for those compliments which are matter of fact in nature (ie colour of your eyes), they are simply flirting and hussling to keep business. Pretty much similar to what ppl in other line of business do in any networking event, minus the flirting. But by all means, stroke your ego and enjoy that moment. Just dont bring the feeling home.

I am honestly lost.......what am I reading 😅

Ghosted: yes. Ignored: yes. Under performed: yes. Never rejected upfront tho.

Echoing this logistic. Exactly what I been doing. Not necessarily an economical mode of hiring but often most convenient. Also to provide uber fare from and to airport. Always add him on the the reservation for smooth logistics.

This I can get behind

All my multiple days hire come with an 'expected itinerary' - a very flexible schedule and discussed real time day or 2 before. All main meals time should be spent together (breakfast, lunch, dinner). Gym time is allocated daily (most of the time), no spefic fix time in the day though very much depending on the plan for that day, it can be after breakfast or in the afternoon before dinner. When schedule is fully packed with outdoor activities, then gym would be in the evening after dinner or none at all for that day. I never check in or monitor when he is at the gym but all my regulars would always proactively check in periodically throughout their gym session, some even would send me live location throughout his gym session so to give comfort that he is at the gym. I do honestly favour his gym session as it allows me my own personal time. Some might take extra personal time outside of gym time to take care of personal stuff but they always did it in such a clever way that would not affect the agreed 'quality time'. Find a provider who actually can communicate with you well and respect your needs.

First hand experiences, most definitely. For better or worst. One situation resulting in a good referral and the other in complete chaos.

Am I the only client who sees this hobby as a tertier needs. In a way that I only partake when I have extra fun funds enough to afford a provider who I fancied. When purse is tight or price is too high, I simply go look for free fun or look for other provider within my budget. Same when I budget for vacation. When Four Seasons or first class seat are out of my budget, I go for cheaper option. As someone who works in service, customer who ask for a discount but expect high quality service in return is an ick. People gotta eat and make a living.

THIS ONE! some providers equate kissing with light peck on the lips or letting the client kiss them whilst they make no effort to reciprocate, its like kissing a pillow

I know for fact all of my regulars (who advertised as a T only) do bottom (for the right guy or right price). Doesnt negatively affect my experience with them (me as a B). I think key point should be their technical skill. So long as he perform great, I couldnt care less what is his preference in his personal time. If any, I always try to get them to bottom in a 3s for me to watch.

Second this. Had many of these perks, in various forms. And for obvious reasons, I would never speak of them in details to others. IMO membership/loyalty program works best in a non-interpersonal relationship.

This usually lands me in all sort of drama. Had to cut off 2 of my regulars. Arranged a 3s with them (say A and B - both advertised as a T only), notice heavy chemistry between them that evening. Fast forward couple weeks, met with A who told me that he had actually went back to B's place after the 3s and B had bottom for him. A went on to spill tea on B. Being curious myself, I book B for the week after, surely right on cue B start babbling about A (including that A had bottom for him). All fun drama until B snitch on A for whatever he told B about my personal life (go as far as showing me A's texts). One other instances, arranged a 3s with my new regular (C) and this one other provider (whom I have never met (D), recommended by C). Again, heavy chemistry between C and D, though expected as D was recommended by C. C was booked for 3hrs and D only for 1hr (his booking ends on the 2nd hr of C). C ended the evening early (at the same time as D) saying he is double booked with other client and C promised to replace that 1hr for the next day. Annoying but since I was spent and tired that evening, fine with me. Fast forward weeks, I booked D and to my surprise D let it slip that he had actually went home with C that evening (hence C ended his booking with me early). Had to cut off both of them.

IMO (as a client), depending on your financial condition, do consider requiring a deposit (noting ofc such practice might undeliberately deter legit customers). Pick your battle I reckon.

Word of caution. A subscriber once share my posts to the provider who is the subject of those posts.