Bokomaru

For the philosophers among us, a hypothetical. Scenario 1, you are at a market and see a painting you love. It’s $50. You are familiar with the artist and are certain that its value is in excess of $2,000. You pay $50 and walk away with no ethical concerns. Scenario 2, you go to a friend’s place for dinner. You see a painting and mention that you love it. Your friend says that he inherited it and never liked it much. He’s thinking of selling it and you could have it for $50 if you want it. You think that he’s possibly not familiar with the artist and you don’t want to take advantage of your friend. You tell him that it’s probably worth $2,000. Which scenario describes your situation? I think the answer is that it lies somewhere in between. Closer to #2… maybe? Hard to say. There are no right or wrong answers. Just bear in mind that if you choose door #1 you do so to your own advantage, and an ethical person would at least take that into consideration.

Back on the topic, I wanted to mention how struck I was by my NHS care in the UK as it compared to the US. Here it seems doctors are often very rushed and don’t take time to really dig into the issue. Especially if it’s something difficult to pin down. In the UK I had the (admittedly anecdotal) opposite experience. With two separate heath issues, the doctors I encountered took the time for very thorough questions about medical history and symptoms. A 30+ minute discussion is a rarity in the US and it seems I’m often suggested a pill to take to see if it helps… “come back if you’re still having trouble.” But in the UK, careful discussion yielded great results for me. I’m generalizing of course about US care. And I will admit that the many Brits in my life seem to have a low opinion of NHS. They all seem to have private insurance.

Of course it could be an insult to him. It just depends on how it’s presented. I think the advice so far hasn’t taken into account just how young, naive, and inexperienced guys in that age range can be. Do what you already know is the right thing to do. Gingerly mention it to him in case he’s not aware of market conditions and what he’s worth. You do not want to “educate” him but rather to (actually) educate him. One way is condescending. The other is an offer of information that might be useful. Then he can decide what to do.

Seems like a plausible possibility. But I’m not sure what the point would be. You can easily create a shortcut on your Home Screen and it then functions separately from your browser, like an app. If going into the Apple App Store they’d have to give Apple 30% of in app purchases. I agree with others. The new policies read as a cash grab.

I implore you when you hire a financial advisor to go with a fiduciary advisor. Perhaps this is obvious, but since you say you’re worried about having inappropriate financial products pushed on you, this suggests that you’re not aware of the difference. A fiduciary advisor is required by law to act in your best interest (not their own). And they tend to be less expensive anyway.

True story I was in the early stages of dating a sub guy and as we lay in bed he mentioned that he got in trouble for being late to work that morning. “It’s your fault, I didn’t want to leave you this morning,” he said. I asked if his clothes were prepared for tomorrow morning. He said no. So I made him drag his ass out of bed and iron his clothes for the morning. He was rock hard the entire time. Ah, young love…. We’re still together. I haven’t done my own laundry once in the last two decades.

The only review on RM of this guy comes from a member of this forum. @Fahayek care to enlighten us on your encounter?

So you threaten to ruin the lives of clients who flake on you? Hmm… Seems a bit heavy handed.

Correct. Will cost $19.95 to become premium again. I see no option for a discount for multiple months either, which is a bit strange.

It seems myophile posted Apollo P’s ID here so you could DM him on CoM.

Is this true? I’ve never had a problem using a burner number (that I’m aware of). I’ve tested burner numbers by using them to call and text my real number, and I don’t see how they could be identified as such. I’d appreciate more on this, if anyone knows.

Sorry but it’s mostly true. Congress could have fixed it by now, that’s true also! But definitely the problem is cyclical because of the Reagan era firings. I’m not arguing that he should or shouldn’t have done that. The strike was illegal and would have affected the country terribly. I attempted to become a controller in the early 90s. I even had a close friend who worked as a controller at a center (not airport) who was helping me. It was a no-go. Nearly the entire lot of them were hired all at once after the mass firing. There was no more hiring for quite a few years (the odd replacements that were done were sourced from controllers who were ex-military with experience).

Was $160 not long ago. He mentioned that he was going to have a moderate increase so don’t be surprised if it’s slightly higher when you inquire.

Very highly recommend Ken. Kenergy Fitness & Bodyworks WWW.KENERGYFITBODY.COM Licensed Massage Therapist that has the education, touch and intuition to help heal, repair and recover a client back to their... Strictly therapeutic no extras. Very professional. Works out of a dedicated space (an apartment near Union Square that’s just for his business). He has a warm personality. Very talented with his hands. I go for relaxation only, but he specializes in deep tissue therapeutic work. One caveat, you download his app to make an appointment so it means entering info, creating a password etc. Makes rebooking a snap though. Generally won’t book same day. Plan a day or two in advance. He’s been quite busy lately as word has gotten out about how good he is.

His profile says satisfaction is guaranteed. Maybe he was just having an off day. The easy way out is to ask him to stand by that guarantee. If he gives the money back, agree to rescind the review. Win-win. He keeps his reputation and you don’t have to put up with the threats nor pay for an encounter which didn’t satisfy.

I agree caution is advised. Try hanging out with the finance bros of NYC. They love to brag about hiring and compare notes so that’s one situation where it adds to one’s social status. On the other hand, in my main social circle of middle aged professionals, they are very sex positive and yet… there’s an undercurrent of judgement about promiscuity. Sex is good. Too much sex is a sign of a character flaw it seems. It’s bizarre and contradictory, but then people are complicated. A younger friend of ours who is a struggling performer turned to escorting to make ends meet. I was deeply saddened by my friends’ hushed tones and vaguely judgmental statements when gossiping about it. I have not and will not share with my friends regarding this hobby.

@DrownedBoy what information are you comfortable putting in your RM profile? Mine has only the very basics… nothing meaningful regarding what activities I’d be into. I’m curious what would be helpful to providers while not compromising myself.

Even the RM profile is dicey. “NO WYNN OR RESORT WORLD PROPERTIES” = banned at those properties = huge red flag.

In the immediate term it makes sense that it’s a gamble to travel to a city, pay for hotels etc. But in the bigger picture, isn’t success more about building a loyal client base due to a consistently excellent experience?

Traffic in Miami is horrendous. In Ft Laud it’s merely bad. Bright line is a great initiative but it does come at a cost. In South Florida those tracks are not conveniently going through an interstate hi-way median. They have utilized tracks that cut through heavy east-west traffic. The trains are very frequent. Brightline has significantly contributed to traffic congestion. I know this first hand.

Great point! It’s just that it’s hard to keep that in mind when you really look forward to having a good time with a hot guy and get a cancellation instead.

This mystifies me. When someone is getting (generally speaking) $300-$500 an hour in cash you’d think they would be highly motivated to show up. My initial thought is that some providers lives are such a mess that they can’t make rational decisions, and I know that this is the case sometimes. But it doesn’t seem to explain the amount of flakiness that occurs. Maybe they just aren’t motivated that much by the money, in contradiction to what is often stated on this forum. “I’m tired” is the type of excuse you often hear. Too tired to make $800 in two hours? I guess it’s just an on-the-side thing to do, when it’s convenient? I’m not a provider so I can’t really fathom why this happens so much. Your opinions?

@Medin that pretty much nails it, thank you. I need to take a different approach though. My attempts to communicate this haven’t worked. The responding providers are right, I definitely can’t say “what are you into?” (and I have not been that blunt about it). And it’s an uphill (impossible?) battle to get a provider to suggest things. I’m wondering if I should perhaps try something like, “I get turned on when the person I’m with is a bit selfish and does what he wants, without asking.” Then I’m suggesting a style of interacting rather than asking them to name specific activities. I’m skeptical that this would work, it seems too vague, but I might give it a try.

When I communicate with providers I try to be specific, direct, and to not dripfeed my needs or limits as a client. So I say some version of: “I like this and that (I’m quite specific), I dislike these things (again, with specifics), I’m open to much more depending on your own wants. What works for you and what would make it a fun session that you could get into? It’s very important to me that you are enjoying our time, or I will not be able to get into it.” The typical response back is, “Sounds great! Let’s meet.” That is, I get zero feedback on which activities will be of most interest to the provider, and zero insight into what he really likes. I find this very annoying because I’m so clear that I actually need that information. Asking multiple times gets me nowhere. Am I being unrealistic? How can I get a provider to understand that I want to please him as much as be pleased, so that he’ll make suggestions?

I know it’s cliche but at work, dress for the job you want, not the job you have. Even though most places have gone casual it’s still true. Simply putting effort into one’s appearance can make a person stand out, ie never wearing scuffed, dirty shoes, being relatively wrinkle free, throwing out that worn looking belt, etc.