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You should be clear with clients about your role though. I think they’ll be reluctant to book if you say you’re a bottom but will top. Be a clear bottom or clear top. If you’re uncertain about whether you can top in a professional capacity maybe try it with non client partners first. I’d say also that ideally you need to be above average size if you’re going to top. Most clients go for big boys lol.

Awesome! Thanks for the reply, I'm very open to topping and trying new things. I wouldn't say I'm a COMPLETE bottom. Moreso, a vers bottom who is interested in topping. I'm fine with BJ's, they require little effort. I just want to ensure that my client is well taken care of, and I get what I deserve

I never wear cockrings with clients. I wear one sometimes doing yoga but that’s a different story!!
 
I don’t have a problem getting hard or staying hard but if I’m doing a filming session (I make massage porn) and I know I’ll need to be hard for 3 sessions (we tend to film a few massage videos in a day) then I’ll take half a viagra pill just to be sure. But generally I don’t like to use it.
 
I think if you wear a cockring it can help to keep you hard but don’t wear it for too long. In my experience if you get anxious about staying hard then you’re likely to struggle to stay hard...it’s often all in the mind.
 
I’d suggest having a dildo available. It will give you confidence that if you didn’t stay hard you can use the dildo on your client until you are hard again. Just by having the dildo there it will reduce your anxiety and therefore you’ll stay hard...see what I mean? Find ways to reduce the anxiety about going soft and you’ll discover that the problem goes away. It’s better than using viagra or cockrings.

I don't want to say that you're in trouble but you should try (and learn if possible) ASAP. 80% of your clients will ask you to top them.

It depends. If you'll get soft WAY too quickly for cumming that's ok, you can learn to control it or use creams to delay orgasm.
If you'll get soft WAY too quickly because you don't have a top (insertive) mindset and are unable to maintain a hard-on, that's a problem.
I've been with guys using cock rings and everyone uses a different type, it depends on size too. It should help used in combination with Viagra.
You can always offer your services as a bottom but be aware that you might have fewer clients. If you're in your 20s, that should help as well.
As last resource, you can try becoming a masseur and advertise on rentmasseur.com as there are fewer expectations for you to top but to get more clients you should be open to the idea to give blowjobs.

Although age is something that is part of it for me, I tend to more think of a twink being defined by their body type. Here is something that I came across that seems, for the most part, pretty good at defining the various terms (ref: https://pairedlife.com/dating/Gay-Men-Are-you-a-Jock-Otter-Bear-or-Wolf):
 
Gay Body Types
[TABLE]
[TR]
[TH]Type[/TH]
[TH]Build[/TH]
[TH]Hair[/TH]
[TH]Age[/TH]
[TH]Example Celebrity[/TH]
[TH]Notes[/TH]
[/TR]
[TR]
[TD]Otter[/TD]
 
[TD]Thin or athletic[/TD]
 
[TD]Lots[/TD]
 
[TD]Any age[/TD]
 
[TD]Scott Caan[/TD]
 
[TD]Part of the extended bear community[/TD]
[/TR]
[TR]
[TD]Wolf[/TD]
 
[TD]Lean, muscular[/TD]
 
[TD]Semi-Hairy[/TD]
 
[TD]Any age[/TD]
 
[TD]Joe Manganiello[/TD]
 
[TD]Sexually aggressive; Silver or grey wolf is an older wolf[/TD]
[/TR]
[TR]
[TD]Bear[/TD]
 
[TD]Big, often with a belly[/TD]
 
[TD]Lots[/TD]
 
[TD]Any[/TD]
 
[TD]John Travolta[/TD]
 
[TD]Very masculine[/TD]
[/TR]
[TR]
[TD]Cub[/TD]
 
[TD]Husky[/TD]
 
[TD]Lots[/TD]
 
[TD]Young or younger-looking[/TD]
 
[TD]Jack Black[/TD]
 
[TD]Sugar cubs and muscle cubs are sub-types[/TD]
[/TR]
[TR]
[TD]Chub[/TD]
 
[TD]Real big[/TD]
 
[TD]Maybe[/TD]
 
[TD]Any[/TD]
 
[TD]John Goodman[/TD]
 
[TD]Distinct from bears[/TD]
[/TR]
[TR]
[TD]Pup[/TD]
 
[TD]Slender[/TD]
 
[TD]No[/TD]
 
[TD]Young[/TD]
 
[TD]Joe Jonas[/TD]
 
[TD]Energetic, cute, and naive[/TD]
[/TR]
[TR]
[TD]Bull[/TD]
 
[TD]Super-built[/TD]
 
[TD]Maybe[/TD]
 
[TD]Any[/TD]
 
[TD]Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson[/TD]
 
[TD] [/TD]
[/TR]
[TR]
[TD]Twink[/TD]
 
[TD]Slender[/TD]
 
[TD]No[/TD]
 
[TD]Young[/TD]
 
[TD]Justin Beiber[/TD]
 
[TD]Self-centered, usually between 18 and the mid-20’s[/TD]
[/TR]
[TR]
[TD]Twunk[/TD]
 
[TD]Muscular but slender[/TD]
 
[TD]No[/TD]
 
[TD]Young[/TD]
 
[TD]The muscular version of Beiber[/TD]
 
[TD]A more muscular Twink[/TD]
[/TR]
[TR]
[TD]Gym Bunny[/TD]
 
[TD]Sculpted[/TD]
 
[TD]Maybe[/TD]
 
[TD]Under 50[/TD]
 
[TD]Shemar Moore[/TD]
 
[TD]Fitness associated with gym, not sports[/TD]
[/TR]
[TR]
[TD]Jock[/TD]
 
[TD]Muscular and athletic[/TD]
 
[TD]Maybe[/TD]
 
[TD]Any[/TD]
 
[TD]David Beckham[/TD]
 
[TD]Fitness is associated with sports[/TD]
[/TR]
[TR]
[TD]Gym Rat[/TD]
 
[TD]Very lean and well-built[/TD]
 
[TD]Maybe[/TD]
 
[TD]Any[/TD]
 
[TD] [/TD]
 
[TD]Addicted to working out[/TD]
[/TR]
[/TABLE]

If you're a (hung) Top (or can top) you'll do well regardless of your physique.
There's a shortage (almost crisis) of Tops in Toronto.
Bottoms and Versatiles can be found anywhere, especially hookup apps.

Hi there. You should have no problem establishing yourself in the market. I prefer guys 18-30 so twinks are definitely my type. And actually on the masculine part I prefer that over feminine guys. I'm into guys not girls so sometimes too fem turns me off. And on Toronto there is a lot of competition so make sure you have a good ad, good pictures, and you should be fine. Would love to see your ad once you create it and maybe we could get together then once the border opens back up. Would love to maybe be one of your first clients.

Sometimes I order steak, sometimes salad, sometimes the pasta. Same with dudes. I don’t want twinks all the time, but when I do, nothing else will satisfy.

I haven’t fallen in love with any of the gents I’ve engaged, but I have become very fond, and very comfortable with a few thru the years. We socialise, speak over phone and text, been to each other’s homes - all off the clock. Two of the gents are a couple, and are retired from this vocation, the others are still active.
 
I will say, I think it can be easy to fall for or think you have fallen for a gent. Especially if they are skilled in their vocation. Have I ever found myself laying there after they’ve left, letting my mind wander to all sorts of scenarios where it’s he and I as a proper couple? Sure. But then I catch myself, shake my head, laugh, and roll over.
 
I believe there are a few fellow hobbyists on this board that have stated they are in intimate, romantic relationships with gents they originally engaged, so it does happen. Hopefully they’ll contribute their two cents here.
 
As far as your gent not replying - that may be down to a variety of factors -> he may be in a relationship already, what you wrote may have given him pause, especially if it was your first booking with him, he may have no interest in anything beyond the transactional with any hobbyist, etc..

I can barely say that I watched the ceremony. I had it on, to the bitter (and terribly miscalculated) ending, but it couldn't hold my attention. Regina King set the tone with her rambling and self-consciously "witty" (?) repartee, and it just droned on from there. I want my evening back...
 
(I won't say there weren't highlights that did get my attention, but they were few and far between. I'd say that Glenn Close was the unexpected winner of the broadcast, even though she didn't win the award.)

I totally agree with you, @Scott Virginian, Helix has known much better times. Besides cuties like Sean Ford and Justin Owen, I liked Corbin Colby a lot: he was a fantastic rimmer. Oh, the memories...

What are opinions on Helix Studios? They appealed when Blake and Sean Ford were there, but in the last year they've gone super-twinky and it became frankly a turnoff.

I always wonder if there are any downstream effects of being a porn star in your 20s like these guys were. Would love to see an interview with them.

They were great in their day, though many of those videos are many years old and the stars have left CF behind. Aidan, Cain, and Dawson are apparently happily living in relative anonymity with girlfriends/families (and hey, good for them).
 
Does not, however, make those vids any less enjoyable! Aidan in particular, yeah, whooo. Just IMHO, I liked his earlier vids for CF before he bulked up. There's a line between "ooh, you look like you work out" and "um, are you sure you're not on steroids?"

My heart goes out to The Queen. Both she and Prince Philip epitomize devotion to duty and public service.

The Queen has lost her life's love and her mate of over 70 years. It must hurt horribly, and I have dreaded this day and the hurt it would bring her.
 
But I would submit she is not and will not be devastated by the loss. From what I have read of her, and what I know of the trials and losses she has had to bear, she is, at least, two things: resilient and pragmatic. No one married to a man of 99 hasn't come to terms with with his inevitable, and probably increasingly imminent, death. She knew it would come, and more so sooner than later, I suspect. A month long stay in hospitals might have been a sign.
 
And I think the only thing she was more devoted to than Philip was Duty. She will honor that duty to her last breath. Her pragmatic side will give to Charles and William, greater shares in the "being seen" side of the job, as concessions to age and the challenges to her mobility. In fact, that's already happened. But she will go on fulfilling the oath she made on her 21st birthday, "I declare before you all that my whole life, whether it be long or short, shall be devoted to your service."
 
Plus - and said only with great reverence and respect - she's a tough old broad, one with a steely determination covered in matching hat and coat. She'll be fine because she can see no alternative.

I just discovered this thread and hadn't known about Guy's passing. I'm really sorry he's gone, and my condolences to his friends here.

Alam Wernick's thighs:

My concern was unnecessary. I just played around with the console for a bit and you can't actually type in a unit number. You can only search by name. That said, I have nonetheless found some of the responses highly entertaining.

Use good quality escorts. The top guys know everything and will never ever be indiscreet.
 
If I turn up at a client’s place I’m dressed smartly, I’m discreet and could be viewed as your lawyer or accountant.

That's very true. It is evidenced by the fact that he allowed those who act like pigeons shitting on a monument to remain members regardless how annoying they might be (and how much we'd like them to target a different statue)

honest eexpression should not be dismissed. Daddy could be an asss. but he did good and deserves to be celebratd.

Thanks for that, @latbear4blk. I'll pass the link on to his other tech friends who are working to preserve his sites and close out his affairs.

What a wonderfully written tribute! Thank you for that.

Yasssssssss........
I mean, anyone who comes to this forum NOT expecting clashes of opinion from intelligent, educated gay men is, uh, naive at best.