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LOVE morning sessions!

It’s not so much about lust/desire; it’s more about timing/convenience.  Most people work during daytime.  For me, work and its associated stress are the biggest boner-killer.  It’s more favorable to have fun with a work-free mindset.  Therefore, late afternoon / night / weekend / vacation hours are more optimal.  Of course, the client’s fun time is the provider’s work time.  This conflict partially explains the mismatch between the clients’ and providers’ wishes in terms of appointment time.

I agree, morning sex is best. Nothing better than having a big breakfast after a morning client. The only challenge is if I’m bottoming because it does mess up my regularity if you know what I mean😂

I love morning sex, the time of day when I am probably the horniest. 🤷🏻‍♂️

It’s not!

Someday, I'm sure I'll start hiring providers. And when I do, it'll be for morning stuff. Why is morning sex so unpopular?

YES

Yes, book in advance. I’ve someone booked for next May! That’s extreme. If you leave it to ‘hey are you available today?’ I probably reply with ‘sorry I’m busy’ because I plan things ahead. I’ll probably have someone booked, or another commitment. Last minute rarely works. Last minute clients are usually flaky anyway; they haven’t mentally committed to it, it’s a whim. ‘Hey, free now / next hour or so’ is a big red flag. 

Hello,
I travel a fair bit - mostly work trips that I often stretch into a little leisure - in places like LA, NY, and Chicago. When I’m hoping to see a provider, I’d much rather arrange something ahead of time so I can plan around meetings and flights.
The thing is, most of my early, polite inquiries never get a response. It makes me wonder if the norm is more “reach out in the moment” than “book days out.”
Is that just how this world works? Or am I missing a key bit of etiquette here? I’m genuinely curious because I’d rather be respectful than clueless.
Thanks for any perspective.

I suggest reading this post in the Lounge:
The title alone is a good reminder to always behave like a Gentleman in this gentlemanly hobby

I'm pretty new, so I can't speak to the slowdown. But my hooker friends all say it's gotten slower. 
All of my in-person interactions have been lovely. Online is another matter. It seems echoing some of the stuff other people here have said: people tend to forget that we're also humans with feelings, loved-ones, and a life outside of this. Nothing worse than telling your friends to go have fun without you, and then sit at home alone because a client ghosted 😔

Wanted to take a beat and faun over you.  Had I been able to travel more than a couple nights with any of my clients, nothing would have made me feel more grateful than a trip to Iceland, a country I love. Without family money, it's Impossible for a young man to visit Iceland on his own, it makes Japan look inexpensive (it's not).  But bringing along your young escort-friend to that remarkable place, that's beyond generous.  Good on you.

I take great pride in showing mutual respect toward the provider, acknowledging their boundaries, personal space, and time. It is quite simple to ask rather than assume that something is acceptable, to remain courteous, and to be considerate of another person’s schedule. Maintaining proper hygiene also speaks volumes.
Whenever I engage someone’s services, I make every effort to behave respectfully, even in the rare instance that the same courtesy is not immediately returned. Once an appointment is agreed, I ensure I arrive punctually, well-groomed, fresh-smelling, and with clean breath. I always allow the provider to set the tone, taking their lead at all times.

I think kindness and civility have been on the decline in general for some time now. Many years ago, porn/actor provider I know rather well, showed me some of the abusive text he received on a regular basis from potential clients. Some of the stuff that was said was insane.
I guess some clients think of providers as property and not human, but a thing to be had, used, and controlled. (And not as part as some fantasy play.)
There are or were people on this forum who even had this attitude towards providers.
I treat each provider as individuals and make sure I don’t do anything to purposely harm them, physically or emotionally. I want them to have fun as much as I am (if I can help it).Not that long ago, I remarked in the “Escorts say the darnedest things” forum thread how a provider thought I was mad at them because I had to postpone our meet up. He had been so mistreated by clients… that was his first assumption. It’s truly wild.
 

I am finding that there are more clients out there not treating providers with respect.  Primarily for me these are the ones that will call last minute looking for a last minute appointment.  Also for me it's the way some of the way that a client will talk to a provider.  Yes I am a sexworker but I am also a human so treat me with the same respect you'd want yourself.

I have only been hiring since early 2024, but I’ve never felt that a provider was intentionally disrespectful or unkind- sometimes actions or even words can be perceived differently from how they’re intended.  I’ve also never (to the best of my knowledge) been unkind or disrespectful… I think that because this field is all about human interaction, part of being a good provider or client is being able to deal with different kinds of personalities and presume good intention.

Personally, I haven't noticed any change in dynamics. I tend to stick to a few regular and semi-regular guys, and only occasionally hire someone new. Over many years of hiring, whilst I have indeed come across a few bad eggs displaying impertinent qualities of character, these have been far and few between.
Most escorts, like people in general, are kind and respectful. I do, of course, speak from anecdotal experiences, which is all I can do. 

This is deviating slightly from the topic. I don’t agree that civility has disappeared but it is, in my opinion, most certainly in abeyance. And I miss it. 
I hope that I am treating providers as I would want to be treated, which is to say with kindness, courtesy, respect, and, yes, civility. I believe that I deliver that but ultimately it will be up to the provider to decide if I accomplish that goal. 
I hope more providers will chime in; I would love to know what they have to say on this topic. 

That’s downright rude.  

I don't confine it to only providers and their clients.  My perception is that mutual respect and neutral civility have all but disappeared from society in general. 

I have been tricked or disappointed by more than one, but while I may have adjusted my tactics accordingly, I think I treat all with respect in our time together.   

I think I’m polite and respectful when I communicate and hire providers, but I’ve had a recent encounter when a provider cancelled me an hour before hand so one of his regulars could see him. The provider didn’t offer to reschedule, so I won’t be reaching out to him again.

Like any facet in life, you have the good and not so good.  As a client, I think you can gauge a lot from the profile, then that initial communication.  
I just got back from Vegas after meeting 3 amazing providers.  Everything one could ask for.  They also gave me feedback that they so much appreciated how I treated them which made them go the xtra mile.  Kindness and respect is what its all about.  I've said here many times that I hire guys that I feel are out of my league look wise but I rarely have less than an amazing connection.

My number 1 red flag for scammers is when then agree to book you, never having asked about rates. Serious clients always ask, even the really rich ones.

Same here. I prefer to book clients in advance. Same day is a crapshoot.