KinkyNEguy

I sent him a message and got unwarranted c*nty reply.  Seems like a prick.

Boytoy is Gayguides before the merger with the Asian forums. During Daddy's regency, posters banned here would shelter over there and spit their unhappiness. It still happens.

trying to keep this politics-free.....
mention was made upthread about the somewhat-parallel history of this forum (COM) and the forum now called gayguides......I'm not an insider, but can offer some comment from what I've learned for those interested in the history and for those newer to all this......others here in the forum know a lot more than me about the various personalities involved and are much-invited to correct any mistake I make here!
way back in "hooboy" days (pre-2006 or so), there was just one primary forum about providers (escorts).....hooboy started a website about 1999 called something like "male4maleescorts" because of his great interest in the subject and his desire to help others who dabbled in the hobby....in the early 2000s, hooboy was notorious for repeatedly losing his laptop while globetrotting, but was obsessed with getting the daily provider reviews posted on time......what is now the current COM forum you're at right now was also alive and well in those early "hooboy" days and had lively discussion and a host of charismatic posters (as we have today!).....at one point, I believe hooboy broke off political discussion into its own subforum to unclog the primary discussion forum......
hooboy died about 2006 and two of his techie IT-ish guys, believing in the "mission", vied to carry the site on.......there was something of a minor estate battle involving the "value" of the site between hooboy's real-life heirs and these two IT guys.....one of the two IT guys ("totallyoz" at gayguides) eventually created a site called, I think, "maleescortreview" (?) and the other IT guy ("daddy", who died in early 2021) created "daddysreviews" which has descended into this forum......both had/have popular forums and reviews......many here in the daddysreviews/COM forum famously referred only to the "other site" (avoiding mention of its real name) because "daddy" and "totallyoz" didn't get along in some way after hooboy's death......various forum members have come and gone, some joining both sites along the way (sometimes even with different handles!!) and occasionally offering vigorous commentary on the pros and cons of each site!.......of course, there are also many who join only one site or the other and have no interest in, or knowledge of, "the other site"......
possibly because of financial or marketing concerns, "totallyoz" of the "other site" eventually merged with larger messageboard hosting services (yuku and one or two others) and what is now called "gayguides" resulted.......as suggested upthread, it has become very much the leader of the two sites in international destination discussion of providers/sex work because, in part, totallyoz, I believe, lives overseas and because many of its forum members are only interested in those destinations.....
I think I have most of this correct......corrections or additions invited!
   
       

LMAO…you went back?!?! Oh lord. 
That must be some haircut.
To each his own, but I would have bolted at the start of the first “silent” treatment. You went back for more? That’s on you in my book. 

Fuck off. 

Not always.
I have had a couple of instances where the person who showed up was not the person in the advertisement photos.  They were not even close. 
How they got several five star reviews on rentmen is a mystery to me.  
So, I disagree that the client owes the money if the lying fake "escort" shows up and expects a client to go forward with the meeting merely because they meet.  
The client has the right to leave after discovering the person is not as advertised.  

I agree with @MscleLovr . The anticipation of unloading in the guys mouth is part of the excitement and the memory later. I am not so lazy....I'll even slap your face a bit while I cum if you will enjoy it.

I find the pervasive feeling taken advantage of problem interesting.
At 21 I was leaving for Costa Rica to do some field work.  I was also flat broke.  A friend who was coming to Minneapolis from Honduras for the summer agreed he was going to rent my apartment at $150/month while I was gone.  Two days before my departure, he told me he was going to live in his parent's empty for-sale house in Minnetonka instead.  I was incredibly hurt.  Part of that hurt was the panic, I did not have $1 to play with, much less $150.  I ended up selling skis, back pack, climbing gear, all sorts of stuff at Play It Again sports, at a HUGE loss, just to make up the money the day before I left.
My point is, we had an arrangement, he backed out of it, and I felt taken advantage of LARGELY because I had no resources. 
What I don't understand, is when people who have resources allow themselves to feel taken advantage of, or, rather, I get it, but I think that people should be able, maybe with therapy, to think past it.  
My blindspot on this problem may stem from the fact that I've never had money. I can't know what it feels like to have money and to feel like others have their eyes on it.
Still, as I've said here before, if you have the means, gift to people, don't loan. (Fuck Polonius, he's dead...and made up).
If you can afford to let a hot young guy stay at your place rent free for a few months, for a year, for the foreseeable future, forever, do so. 
If you can help someone, and it's no big financial cost to you, maybe try to adjust your feelings and take a look at the benefits....to both of you.
 

I agree with @MscleLovr . The anticipation of unloading in the guys mouth is part of the excitement and the memory later. I am not so lazy....I'll even slap your face a bit while I cum if you will enjoy it.

I agree with @MscleLovr . The anticipation of unloading in the guys mouth is part of the excitement and the memory later. I am not so lazy....I'll even slap your face a bit while I cum if you will enjoy it.

IMO, the paranoid camp includes those believing vaccines have microchips that will be switched on by 5G cellular technology to establish the Gates/Soros world domination, that the vaccine for COVID exists, that COVID was created as part of the world domination conspiracy, and that Gates is merely delaying the release of the vaccine to align with 5G.
 
I first heard this theory from a massage provider 4+ months ago, and more recently on an NPR report on conspiracy theories. I expect there are members of the Forum that believe some or all of that.
 
The data, the information, and the knowledge about COVID are not perfect. No arguments about that. We may not know the best ways to treat and to prevent. This is new territory. We are making it up as we go. My health care provider (Hoag) initially told me not to wear a mask. Now a mask is required before entering their facility. We can sit in the corner and pout about that. We can ignore government health warnings and just carry on with a "fuck it" attitude. Or we can try to follow steps to mitigate risk.
 
If you choose to ignore news that the virus is not diminishing, that's your business. But to me it seems critical.
 
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Please keep politics out of the Lounge.

WOOF!!! Some smells can be nice depending on the person. Years ago I used to see a part-time dancer in Montreal who loved that I also enjoyed and shared a personal fetish of his. He told me something in French that translated he said into something like "It stinks good!" ?

Yes. We own a large vacation home, with tons of acreage, in a bucolic area. The person who inquired was very upfront about their needs and intent. Normally, the renter is required to leave the cleaning fee at departure, confirmed by the caretaker. In this case, we required a larger prepaid fee for the rental. We also requested that they not show certain specific rooms, which they obliged.
 
In the end, the film crew cleaned up as good as our cleaners, and we ended up giving them back the fee. It was surprising. The liaison was renting for a known, though not large producer. I won't name them as we do want to keep things discreet. The decision was greatly debated between us, but I was pleasantly surprised. We have had worse luck with people planning normal private parties.

Yes. We own a large vacation home, with tons of acreage, in a bucolic area. The person who inquired was very upfront about their needs and intent. Normally, the renter is required to leave the cleaning fee at departure, confirmed by the caretaker. In this case, we required a larger prepaid fee for the rental. We also requested that they not show certain specific rooms, which they obliged.
 
In the end, the film crew cleaned up as good as our cleaners, and we ended up giving them back the fee. It was surprising. The liaison was renting for a known, though not large producer. I won't name them as we do want to keep things discreet. The decision was greatly debated between us, but I was pleasantly surprised. We have had worse luck with people planning normal private parties.

@CuriousByNature, if I may have a go at this...
I once was in London and staying at a decent hotel in Bayswater. One evening I was lying in bed and was about to fall asleep when I heard some moaning coming from the room next door to mine. Suddenly I heard their door open, so I looked out and saw a guy in a towel heading to the ice machine across from my room. I opened my door, which caused him to turn around. Suddenly his towel dropped and soon there was moaning coming from my room! And that, my friends, is the closest I have ever come to a travel sex story...
 
Work for you? As a playful edit?

Yes. We own a large vacation home, with tons of acreage, in a bucolic area. The person who inquired was very upfront about their needs and intent. Normally, the renter is required to leave the cleaning fee at departure, confirmed by the caretaker. In this case, we required a larger prepaid fee for the rental. We also requested that they not show certain specific rooms, which they obliged.
 
In the end, the film crew cleaned up as good as our cleaners, and we ended up giving them back the fee. It was surprising. The liaison was renting for a known, though not large producer. I won't name them as we do want to keep things discreet. The decision was greatly debated between us, but I was pleasantly surprised. We have had worse luck with people planning normal private parties.

Like my father, I started losing my hair in my early 20s, and being gay, I was very sensitive about it. I was persuaded to get a hairpiece, before the change in my appearance became dramatically obvious, but I found it a real nuisance to maintain it, and awkward when I was having sex ("Don't run your fingers through my hair!!"). After less than a year I decided I would be better off just going natural, so I put the hairpiece in a box in the back of my closet, where I discovered it years later and threw it out.

Sure, why should anyone care about 500k people all over the world dying in 6 months or 131k Americans dying in 3 months or untold 100s of thousands with long-term physical damage? That is certainly worth being able to do my nightly bar hopping and random one nights stands.
 
The lack of empathy some people display here sickens me.

Looks to me like you hijacked your own thread getting upset with @sam.fitzpatrick responding to a sensible question from @Charlie about social distancing in a legal proceeding. You got your knickers in a twist over a minor digression in what was an interesting discussion. Conversations ebb and flow between topics when people gather in person, admittedly rare nowadays, why would written posts online be any different?

Chill...
The forum has a default font. Whenever there are replies in big, bold, non-default colored fonts (links may be an exception) it shows up to me as self attention grabbing.

You have had a personal and physical relationship with someone for 10 years, that’s a long time. If you have a relationship where to call on the phone to catch up, I would call and inquire if that is what he is really thinking/feeling. Then with that information, you can make your decision.
Has he changed the group of people he used to be with? Maybe he is scared-disturbed with all hell breaking loose and is looking towards when things were “normal” by his perspective. Health issues, small strokes, TV control lost and stuck on FOX?
This is going to be a very difficult change for everyone. Maybe you are one of the people in this person’s life to be there at this time to offer a different opinion where he does not feel attacked.
It must be weighing heavy on you to post. Be good to yourself, you have been though a lot lately regarding loss. Anton

There is no reason for them to have it. That is what underlies the new merchant agreements. This is a result of some of those mega breaches we have all seen in the past decade. But all the information is already out there and it isn't going away.
 
I have also had providers attempt to blackmail me with video they have secretly taken, most recently last summer. So the risk of blackmail is broader than credit card information. I disagree that being rich places you in a worse stance. It always gives you better resources to combat dangers in this world.

You are very trusting.
 
I wonder how many rentmen customers are comfortable knowing their identification is photocopied and left on file with a sex site.
 
Those with a sensitive occupation could possibly have this come back to negatively haunt them in the future.

Visa and MasterCard have rules in their merchant agreements about the ID issue. The latest I have read is that they may request to see ID (the copy at hand) but not refuse the transaction ( so long as the card is signed). So it seems RM could reasonably ask for a copy of both sides of the credit card, but not the license. Your card would need to be signed for online purchases.
 
It is interesting that for in-person transactions with chipped cards processed via terminal, the signature on the back of card is no longer required, though that is not widely understood by merchants. This was a result of signatures not being required for transactions under $50.00 (this level may have changed in the past two years).
 
RM requested this of me twice over the past 8 years. I do get that merchants often are screwed over by fraud, as are we the customer. I might not comply for a new vendor, but as Daverw implies for his experience, I don't think RM is trying to scam me, so I would likely just send it rather than spend a lot of time with it.
 
(this does seem more Loungey than Deli no?)