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In the gay community I know, condom utilization is close to zero. 

Reading this thread I kept looking to see what year it was being written in. Like 2008?
Gentlemen, it’s 2023. Have you heard of Descovy or Apretude?
I consider condoms unsafe and Apretude as safer sex. 

Mr. Number was not developed by an escort. Where did you get that idea? 😂😂😂

I’m on Apretude (the shot).  Anyone else on it?

Yep 👍

He’s not like a taxi.  No. 

I went to his small but clean place.  Started with a nice massage. Turned into a hot session. We flipped. He was great at both. Good kisser.  Nice guy.

Lol. The same way a black person can be racist.  There are a ton of homophobic gay people. The fact you ask the questions shows your blind spot. 

Lol. The same way a black person can be racist.  There are a ton of homophobic gay people. The fact you ask the questions shows your blind spot. 

Yes you are. You just won’t be prosecuted for it. 

So informed and on the mark. Marketing weighs heavily in how escorts advertise. Of course. 

So informed and on the mark. Marketing weighs heavily in how escorts advertise. Of course. 

Oh my God, thank you so much for weighing in. I see it all so differently now. Your feedback has changed my perspective in ways I couldn’t have ever imagined when I started this thread. I am forever in your debt.

Josh, Thanks first of all for your kind words. however, Tom is my regular client and not me... he signed up to defend me, that's what he told me. Believe it or not, it's true. 
The reason I asked you to remove private conversations in 2021 is cz we charge different rates in different cities or countries and if I'm charging 500 in Nyc or Dubai someone who reads will ask me to lower my rate for him. It's up to you if you won't remove it but imagine I post your number and our conversation screenshots on here. (I still have it, Never delete any conversation with any number but don't worry I will never do it...) That's exactly how I feel when you published my texts and rates.  
P.S. To be honest with all of you I no longer care how many hateful comments you will write on here. I'm staying away from it and from any negative energy. If any of you gonna bring this energy when we meet please don't make an appointment with me... 
Life is too short and I will always try to be a good man despite lots of hateful people in this world.
You don't need to respond. 
Take care.

Hope everyone is doing well  I don't post very often.  After reading this, I thought I would let you know my personal opinion about Gabriel.
I met Gabriel a few years ago, right before Covid hit.  To get right to the point, He was/is very handsome, beautiful features!!!  nice guy.  I had a lot of fun and would recommend.  
xoxox

I’ve hired Rainer and was surprised at the negative comments. I had a well above average experience. I’d recommend him and I’d return. 

I hired him at least 20 years ago. Many of the same pics. He was very professional and a good escort back then. Let us know what he looks like now. 
 
 
 

I’d pay it for Cade Maddox 

Kiddo is a yes all day and all night.   Supreme and stellar!  

Sharing some insights below to elucidate a couple of blindspots in our discussion so far:
1. There is a spectrum of attitudes and practices around drug-use among providers. 
The PNP designation can refer to personal use, but it can also refer to the acceptability of client use or availability of PNP drugs. The concordance of these three isn't 1:1:1 -- it can be a mixed bag out there (Ex: There are escorts who do not use but are ok with clients using.)
Regardless, among gay male escorts, many are users -- either in their personal or work lives. This should not come as a surprise -- while there are some out there with endogenously high sex drives (in frequency and quantity of sex daily and nocturally-shifted circadian rhythms, it is just as easily replicated and probably more common as a secondary consequence of stimulant abuse).
Of the ones who use, some are more functional. And -- surprise -- you have likely had sessions with them while they were high, unbeknownst to you and what your charicature of drug use may be. And others are less functional -- these are easy to spot -- they are the canonical disorganized, emotionally labile, terminally tardy, and physically unpredictable horror stories we read about. 
2. PNP advertisements aren't the full story.
Some choose to advertise -- the benefit is that they net PNP clients, who often prefer longer sessions and are hence more lucrative. Or they get clients who are ok if they use or are high in-session. The risk is that they lose clients who adversely perceive any proximity of a provider to PNP.
At the same time, others refrain from advertising, helpful at retaining potential straight-edge clients. But the omission does not mean a provider does not partake. PNP may still be on-the-menu or even part of their daily use -- just not advertised. There are also other factors that might influence the decision to advertise or not -- for example, some may not want those in their social/personal lives to know of their use, and care less about the perception of potential clients. 
3. Among the providers who advertise as drug-free, not all actually are.
Some personally PNP, but do not like it for work. And some use the designation to justify tacking on a surcharge, if asked. I'll analogize this to the issue of condoms -- some "safe only" providers do bareback -- for more. 

All of this is to say -- please ask yourselves what is important to you? 
Is it a drug-free environment? A meth-free environment? Someone who doesn't have sex with drug-users? Someone who can pass as put-together? Someone not actively on drugs? Someone who never uses drugs? 
Then take the lead and express your preference to your potential provider and if its a dealbreaker.
The exchange is quick and easy, more explicit about one's true preferences, relies on fewer assumptions on language that can be vague/omitted, and avoids the need to ask providers what their practices are -- which can be perceived as judgmental and might not even be accurate.
Chemical dependence is an issue that weighs heavily in our community, and the little things we can do to mitigate its stigma will make it easier for those -- including many of the providers we patronize -- seek help. 
TLDR: Our patronage of this industry places us at most 1 degree away from those who may be struggling with chemical dependence. We can be better stewards of the industry and supportive of the providers we see by (1) taking the lead and expressing what our preferences are around drug use to potential providers and (2) refraining from the use of language that reinforces stigma, which might incentivize some to be dishonest in their disclosures and adds to the obstacle of seeking help if needed. 

Why not? Are you a confident gay man or grovelling in denial from the 1980's? Contact him on the site. Ask him something you and he would know from working together. Say you always found him attractive and would like to take him to dinner to see if an arrangement will work. If it's really him and he is a 1980's closeted man then no response. If he is a 2023 professional he should take you up on the offer. Hell he may even say he found you interesting and attractive as well!
Such answers above are so in the closet from the gay liberal world it's amazing! Geez!!!

$400 is too much... For you. 
And that's fine. 
But don't speak for the entire industry, especially the working guys who can and do charge that rate without any push back. 

He’s not like a taxi.  No. 

I ended up hooking up with an Equinox masseur off of Grindr or Scruff.  We chatted there and then he proposed we meet at the Equinox where he worked.  He arranged for me to have a guest massage, locked the door, and, after a genuinely good massage, we went at it all the way.  Was a one time thing, and a couple of years ago.

You guys are over thinking it. I’ve been in exactly this situation. Just say due to economics you can only hire one and this particular time you’d like to hire so and so. Nobody will care.