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I do not play a doctor on TV but I am one in real life..   If you want to be totally safe, continue to be abstinent.  If you want to be as safe as you can reasonably expect to be, start Prep for at least two weeks and be faithful about taking it.  Do not start it until you are sure you are going to proceed as there is no reason to subject yourself to potential side effects if you are not committed.  
As to finding a man, go to RentMen and go to the listings for your area or the largest area within a reasonable travel for a weekend.  Look at each of the photos and read the comments.  Once you have narrowed down the field, come here with a list and ask for recommendation.  I suggest looking at all the ads as you never know what might strike your fancy and if you use the checklist, that man may have been passed over. 
As to the event itself, the first time I met with a man, my story was very similar to yours.  It is not a unique tale, n fact, it is common enough to be considered mundane.  So once, I got to the hotel and the escort arrived,. it took a bit of encouragement to start to do anything and once I got started it took all the willpower I had to stop.  Did not get to anal on my first encounter, nor my second encounter, which took place the next night nor my third encounter, which came two days later.  I then arranged an overnight while I was away on a trip and I finally had the time and was relaxed enough to try anal, as a top.   Many many men later, I decided to try bottoming and found it was not for me.  It took about 5 encounters to even get to the point where I was actually entered.  Word to the wise, do not become inpatient and just blurt out "just push the fucking thing in". I got what I requested but not what I wanted when I did that.      
You may have very specific requirements for the men you want to see at this time, but that will change and broaden as time goes by.  So consider being a bit less specific about what the man looks like and more about what kind of person he is.  For most of us here, the intellectual connection more than compensates for any perceive physical traits that the person may be missing from you checklist.  
My best advice, as opposed to Curious ByNature, do not wait for the perfect man and the perfect time or you may find that there is no perfect man nor perfect time.  But once you start to appreciate and accept your desires, almost any time can be the perfect time and you just need to allow your partner to be the perfect man.  If not, move on to the next one.  

There is no crime in talking with an escort on line through a service/. Even if the person is a known escort  and you know it, unless you make specific plans and then go about trying to complete the plans, there is no crime.  So you may have to confess to being a horny man who likes to talk on line to  men, that is about all you could face, that admission.  

I do not play a doctor on TV but I am one in real life..   If you want to be totally safe, continue to be abstinent.  If you want to be as safe as you can reasonably expect to be, start Prep for at least two weeks and be faithful about taking it.  Do not start it until you are sure you are going to proceed as there is no reason to subject yourself to potential side effects if you are not committed.  
As to finding a man, go to RentMen and go to the listings for your area or the largest area within a reasonable travel for a weekend.  Look at each of the photos and read the comments.  Once you have narrowed down the field, come here with a list and ask for recommendation.  I suggest looking at all the ads as you never know what might strike your fancy and if you use the checklist, that man may have been passed over. 
As to the event itself, the first time I met with a man, my story was very similar to yours.  It is not a unique tale, n fact, it is common enough to be considered mundane.  So once, I got to the hotel and the escort arrived,. it took a bit of encouragement to start to do anything and once I got started it took all the willpower I had to stop.  Did not get to anal on my first encounter, nor my second encounter, which took place the next night nor my third encounter, which came two days later.  I then arranged an overnight while I was away on a trip and I finally had the time and was relaxed enough to try anal, as a top.   Many many men later, I decided to try bottoming and found it was not for me.  It took about 5 encounters to even get to the point where I was actually entered.  Word to the wise, do not become inpatient and just blurt out "just push the fucking thing in". I got what I requested but not what I wanted when I did that.      
You may have very specific requirements for the men you want to see at this time, but that will change and broaden as time goes by.  So consider being a bit less specific about what the man looks like and more about what kind of person he is.  For most of us here, the intellectual connection more than compensates for any perceive physical traits that the person may be missing from you checklist.  
My best advice, as opposed to Curious ByNature, do not wait for the perfect man and the perfect time or you may find that there is no perfect man nor perfect time.  But once you start to appreciate and accept your desires, almost any time can be the perfect time and you just need to allow your partner to be the perfect man.  If not, move on to the next one.  

I do not play a doctor on TV but I am one in real life..   If you want to be totally safe, continue to be abstinent.  If you want to be as safe as you can reasonably expect to be, start Prep for at least two weeks and be faithful about taking it.  Do not start it until you are sure you are going to proceed as there is no reason to subject yourself to potential side effects if you are not committed.  
As to finding a man, go to RentMen and go to the listings for your area or the largest area within a reasonable travel for a weekend.  Look at each of the photos and read the comments.  Once you have narrowed down the field, come here with a list and ask for recommendation.  I suggest looking at all the ads as you never know what might strike your fancy and if you use the checklist, that man may have been passed over. 
As to the event itself, the first time I met with a man, my story was very similar to yours.  It is not a unique tale, n fact, it is common enough to be considered mundane.  So once, I got to the hotel and the escort arrived,. it took a bit of encouragement to start to do anything and once I got started it took all the willpower I had to stop.  Did not get to anal on my first encounter, nor my second encounter, which took place the next night nor my third encounter, which came two days later.  I then arranged an overnight while I was away on a trip and I finally had the time and was relaxed enough to try anal, as a top.   Many many men later, I decided to try bottoming and found it was not for me.  It took about 5 encounters to even get to the point where I was actually entered.  Word to the wise, do not become inpatient and just blurt out "just push the fucking thing in". I got what I requested but not what I wanted when I did that.      
You may have very specific requirements for the men you want to see at this time, but that will change and broaden as time goes by.  So consider being a bit less specific about what the man looks like and more about what kind of person he is.  For most of us here, the intellectual connection more than compensates for any perceive physical traits that the person may be missing from you checklist.  
My best advice, as opposed to Curious ByNature, do not wait for the perfect man and the perfect time or you may find that there is no perfect man nor perfect time.  But once you start to appreciate and accept your desires, almost any time can be the perfect time and you just need to allow your partner to be the perfect man.  If not, move on to the next one.  

I do not play a doctor on TV but I am one in real life..   If you want to be totally safe, continue to be abstinent.  If you want to be as safe as you can reasonably expect to be, start Prep for at least two weeks and be faithful about taking it.  Do not start it until you are sure you are going to proceed as there is no reason to subject yourself to potential side effects if you are not committed.  
As to finding a man, go to RentMen and go to the listings for your area or the largest area within a reasonable travel for a weekend.  Look at each of the photos and read the comments.  Once you have narrowed down the field, come here with a list and ask for recommendation.  I suggest looking at all the ads as you never know what might strike your fancy and if you use the checklist, that man may have been passed over. 
As to the event itself, the first time I met with a man, my story was very similar to yours.  It is not a unique tale, n fact, it is common enough to be considered mundane.  So once, I got to the hotel and the escort arrived,. it took a bit of encouragement to start to do anything and once I got started it took all the willpower I had to stop.  Did not get to anal on my first encounter, nor my second encounter, which took place the next night nor my third encounter, which came two days later.  I then arranged an overnight while I was away on a trip and I finally had the time and was relaxed enough to try anal, as a top.   Many many men later, I decided to try bottoming and found it was not for me.  It took about 5 encounters to even get to the point where I was actually entered.  Word to the wise, do not become inpatient and just blurt out "just push the fucking thing in". I got what I requested but not what I wanted when I did that.      
You may have very specific requirements for the men you want to see at this time, but that will change and broaden as time goes by.  So consider being a bit less specific about what the man looks like and more about what kind of person he is.  For most of us here, the intellectual connection more than compensates for any perceive physical traits that the person may be missing from you checklist.  
My best advice, as opposed to Curious ByNature, do not wait for the perfect man and the perfect time or you may find that there is no perfect man nor perfect time.  But once you start to appreciate and accept your desires, almost any time can be the perfect time and you just need to allow your partner to be the perfect man.  If not, move on to the next one.  

I do not play a doctor on TV but I am one in real life..   If you want to be totally safe, continue to be abstinent.  If you want to be as safe as you can reasonably expect to be, start Prep for at least two weeks and be faithful about taking it.  Do not start it until you are sure you are going to proceed as there is no reason to subject yourself to potential side effects if you are not committed.  
As to finding a man, go to RentMen and go to the listings for your area or the largest area within a reasonable travel for a weekend.  Look at each of the photos and read the comments.  Once you have narrowed down the field, come here with a list and ask for recommendation.  I suggest looking at all the ads as you never know what might strike your fancy and if you use the checklist, that man may have been passed over. 
As to the event itself, the first time I met with a man, my story was very similar to yours.  It is not a unique tale, n fact, it is common enough to be considered mundane.  So once, I got to the hotel and the escort arrived,. it took a bit of encouragement to start to do anything and once I got started it took all the willpower I had to stop.  Did not get to anal on my first encounter, nor my second encounter, which took place the next night nor my third encounter, which came two days later.  I then arranged an overnight while I was away on a trip and I finally had the time and was relaxed enough to try anal, as a top.   Many many men later, I decided to try bottoming and found it was not for me.  It took about 5 encounters to even get to the point where I was actually entered.  Word to the wise, do not become inpatient and just blurt out "just push the fucking thing in". I got what I requested but not what I wanted when I did that.      
You may have very specific requirements for the men you want to see at this time, but that will change and broaden as time goes by.  So consider being a bit less specific about what the man looks like and more about what kind of person he is.  For most of us here, the intellectual connection more than compensates for any perceive physical traits that the person may be missing from you checklist.  
My best advice, as opposed to Curious ByNature, do not wait for the perfect man and the perfect time or you may find that there is no perfect man nor perfect time.  But once you start to appreciate and accept your desires, almost any time can be the perfect time and you just need to allow your partner to be the perfect man.  If not, move on to the next one.  

There is no crime in talking with an escort on line through a service/. Even if the person is a known escort  and you know it, unless you make specific plans and then go about trying to complete the plans, there is no crime.  So you may have to confess to being a horny man who likes to talk on line to  men, that is about all you could face, that admission.  

There is no crime in talking with an escort on line through a service/. Even if the person is a known escort  and you know it, unless you make specific plans and then go about trying to complete the plans, there is no crime.  So you may have to confess to being a horny man who likes to talk on line to  men, that is about all you could face, that admission.  

Perhaps a little more tactfully in your initial introduction.  Something like…
“Hi HotEscort. I saw your ad on RM. I’m a 40-something gay Asian male who enjoys kissing, oral and bottoming for a beautiful man like you.  Would you be available for an outcall on Sunday at 10pm?  If so, what would your rate be?  I’m staying in a hotel near Times Square.”  
This way you’ve provided all the information so that the provider can assess whether you’re a good fit and what the rate may be. 

If the bottom is not hard and is into humiliation, I find that a good opportunity to make fun of him not having an erection. You have to know your partner and know his turn ons.  I have had one partner in particular who only got hard when bottoming when he was humiliated verbally alomg  with physical humiliation such as teasing slaps across the face.   He would answer back when he was hard, with things like "see I am a man" or "your cock made a man of me". "or no one else gets me hard like that" The exact words did not really matter so much as his realizing that his pleasurable erection was directly due to my control over him.  Now that I think about it, not sure who was controlling whom but it was fun and very hot.

If the bottom is not hard and is into humiliation, I find that a good opportunity to make fun of him not having an erection. You have to know your partner and know his turn ons.  I have had one partner in particular who only got hard when bottoming when he was humiliated verbally alomg  with physical humiliation such as teasing slaps across the face.   He would answer back when he was hard, with things like "see I am a man" or "your cock made a man of me". "or no one else gets me hard like that" The exact words did not really matter so much as his realizing that his pleasurable erection was directly due to my control over him.  Now that I think about it, not sure who was controlling whom but it was fun and very hot.

If the bottom is not hard and is into humiliation, I find that a good opportunity to make fun of him not having an erection. You have to know your partner and know his turn ons.  I have had one partner in particular who only got hard when bottoming when he was humiliated verbally alomg  with physical humiliation such as teasing slaps across the face.   He would answer back when he was hard, with things like "see I am a man" or "your cock made a man of me". "or no one else gets me hard like that" The exact words did not really matter so much as his realizing that his pleasurable erection was directly due to my control over him.  Now that I think about it, not sure who was controlling whom but it was fun and very hot.

My sister had that game.  In retrospect, I probably should have had greater insight into my sexuality based on my enjoyment of playing that game.  Poindexter was considered a bad date, but I was alway happy to open the door and find him there.  

My sister had that game.  In retrospect, I probably should have had greater insight into my sexuality based on my enjoyment of playing that game.  Poindexter was considered a bad date, but I was alway happy to open the door and find him there.  

My sister had that game.  In retrospect, I probably should have had greater insight into my sexuality based on my enjoyment of playing that game.  Poindexter was considered a bad date, but I was alway happy to open the door and find him there.  

My sister had that game.  In retrospect, I probably should have had greater insight into my sexuality based on my enjoyment of playing that game.  Poindexter was considered a bad date, but I was alway happy to open the door and find him there.  

Driving home on a dark lonely highway, cool wind in my hair and the smell of the ocean rising up through the air that was me while listening to a similarly worded Hotel California by the Eagles.  While in the song the driver spotted a shimmering light, I spotted nothing and then heard a lough thud which shook the car and saw a antler pass by the driver's side window.  As it turned out, a deer running headlong from who knows what crashed into the side of my car.  As I later learned the deer had no damage to its body but significant damage to its head and the police put it down.  I had not stopped and when I arrived home I called the police.  Contacting my insurance company to check my coverage what I thought would be only cosmetic damage they sent me to a local shop and the decision was made by All State to total the car.  The car is 5 years old and only had 30000 miles and though it is an inexpensive car, Chevy Cruze, I have no desire to have the car totaled.  It is still running perfectly but one headlamp is broken and unlike the deer, there is some body damage to the front bumper, fender and hood.    Has anyone here had luck in getting an insurance company to fix rather than total a car?
In the past, when this has happened, I was not worried about the car being totaled because in 3 cases the car was totaled and in the other the car was old and the offer was a fair one and in one the car was replaced by company which owned the other car which was involved.    
Yes this is the sixth car to which  I have had this happen.   One had a muffler from another car come through the windshield/ One had a tire fly off after having a flat fixed and the tire changed at a garage. In one I was bumped off the road by an intoxicated driver and drove up and then rolled down an embankment.  In one, a driver deserted his car in the left hand lane of a major four lane highway without flashers or any notifying item and I crashed into the rear of the car as I pulled out from behind a semi to find the car there, That was the one in which the company that owned the car replaced my car.  The more recent one resulted from my hood not being properly closed after having my oil checked while getting gas.  As I pulled out onto the highway and got up to speed, the hood was blown open and smashed the windshield.   
Surprisingly, in all but one of the accidents I was not hurt.  In the rollover, I suffered friction burns to my left arm and hand but was luck that I was tossed into the back seat and wedged between the front seat and the back seat as the roof and windshield crashed into the driver's seat.    After some initial concern about the return of function of that hand, all turned out well there too.  
So, despite my experience with such matters, I would appreciate insight into how to persuade the insurance company to reevaluate the damages.  

I ;do not fear a text trail but I do prefer to hear someone's voice and I think phone conversations go more naturally than texts do, so I might ask for a brief call to clarify the details and to hear the voice.  A sexy Depp baritone or base makes the idea of the encounter more enticing. 

I ;do not fear a text trail but I do prefer to hear someone's voice and I think phone conversations go more naturally than texts do, so I might ask for a brief call to clarify the details and to hear the voice.  A sexy Depp baritone or base makes the idea of the encounter more enticing. 

I ;do not fear a text trail but I do prefer to hear someone's voice and I think phone conversations go more naturally than texts do, so I might ask for a brief call to clarify the details and to hear the voice.  A sexy Depp baritone or base makes the idea of the encounter more enticing. 

Local PBS station had the Birdcage last night.  I had not seen it in quite some time and I found it a bit dated but still very funny.   One thing struck me as odd.  At the end of the movie.  Gene Hackman is dressed in drag to escape past the waiting Paparazzi.  The resemblance between Gene in drag and Queen Camilla is remarkable.  Who knew.     Several close ups starting at 1:45 
 

Welp....I pulled out my travel bag; it's time to pack. Flying to Columbus Friday, and y'all know what that means.....the westward migration is drawing nigh! 😃
Looks like it's warmer up yonder this week than last. Thanks Oliver and SamFitz for turning on some heat prior to my arrival......😋

You might consider adding a link to your advertisement if you have one.  That may spark some interest in a more privat meeting during the time you are in PS, unless it is a non working trip.  

Local PBS station had the Birdcage last night.  I had not seen it in quite some time and I found it a bit dated but still very funny.   One thing struck me as odd.  At the end of the movie.  Gene Hackman is dressed in drag to escape past the waiting Paparazzi.  The resemblance between Gene in drag and Queen Camilla is remarkable.  Who knew.     Several close ups starting at 1:45 
 

Most black Americans do not vote at all, so educating people in general and black youth specifically in view of this lack of participation, is a wise use of volunteer time.  Explaining to them how to that their "vote counts best by not voting the way most people vote" is proselytizing not volunteering.