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I contacted him several months ago.   He is on the RM escort site but only lists massage so I asked if he offers other services and got immediately blocked.   

A couple of the guys I hired in Manila had a “manager.”  The manager recruited the guys, set them up on RentMen (the photos were all well-done in the same style, ad text well-written, perfect English), handled all communications (when you contacted the escort via WhatsApp, it was actually the manager writing and replying to all texts), sometimes helped with transportation.  I assume if things ever got hairy with a client, the manager would intervene.  If a guy in the US ever asked me to deal with his “manager,” I’d run for the hills; but in the Philippines, I took it in stride.

I usually fold the bills for the flat fee together in one pocket with the anticipated tip bills folded together in another pocket.  A trip to the bathroom after I get dressed allows me to change the tip amount if necessary.  

Good luck with that. You and I aren’t 24 (or 29), I’m pretty sure, and we went to a different school. Somehow 20 somethings learned to communicate and even sometimes get laid, I’m told. 

I truly like big guys, and older guys, and big older guys. Grandpa bears have their fans! 

Our Canadian English is the only unaccented English in the world. Lol
The limeys, Aussies, Americans, Kiwis all speak with distinctive accents. Ours is neutral, at least to my ears. 😏

This is good to hear as he comes to San Jose quite regularly.
Call it a self esteem issue or something else but I always wonder if the provider is enjoying himself. I'm far from a big bear but rather a senior pocket gay, only 5'2", 135 and quite average looking. Fortunately I never experienced any negative engagements but it's always in the back of my mind. Being a senior is one reason why I choose older providers, preferably 40+, as I feel like there may be a better connection and they understand what it is like to get older. I tend to steer away from younger guys, even though there are so many hot ones, because I think they would not be interested and it would show in there performance.
I probably just need to work this out with a good therapist. That said I have a couple of regulars that I think like me as a client.🤞

Typical rates are $300 to $350. The odd ones go as high as $400. 

None that I know of. Do you report to Mr. Number “the VAST majority of people that contact” you?.

Talk about great assumptions! (notice the sarcasm) 

While it’s true that plenty of clients skim ads and waste providers’ time with questions like “Can you host?” even when the answer is clearly stated, the frustration definitely goes both ways. Providers can be just as guilty, many ignore messages completely, don’t bother to read client profiles with key info like preferences or boundaries or reply with vague copy-paste responses that barely address what was asked. This kind of mutual negligence isn’t unique to this industry, it happens everywhere.
Here’s a typical scenario I’ve run into way too often. When I reach out to a provider for the first time, usually when they’re listed as “available” on the site, my message includes four simple questions: rates, whether they’re comfortable with my expectations for the session, their availability on a given date and, if they host, a general idea of their location.
What happens next? I might get partial answers to one or two questions usually a day or two later. So I follow up with the remaining questions. If another couple of days go by without a clear response, I move on. From their perspective, I’m now a “time waster” because I texted twice and didn’t book. From mine, they’re the time waster because I spent days just trying to get basic information. So… who’s really in the wrong here?

Well, like I said, I'm not leaving a deposit. There are as many flaky providers as clients. That's why it would be nice if word of mouth worked both ways.  
I'm also happy to have a call with the provider to ensure their comfort level, but I'm not paying for anything in advance. 

perhaps because the VAST majority of people that contact has have no intention of hiring, and then the small percentage that actually do have intention have not read our adds properly and ask questions like 'can you host?' when the first line of our add said "I can not host" or some such nonsense. 

...and the vast majority of them think anytime you contact a provider and not end up hiring them you're a time waster.  

...and the vast majority of them think anytime you contact a provider and not end up hiring them you're a time waster.  

@Braziliancutee I don't know that there is a 'best' city for bottoms, but my advice is stick to the bigger cities where you have a bigger market - 
LA, San Francisco, San Diego, Chicago, NYC, Philly, DC. 

He just quoted me $350 so I passed.   Wouldn't come down on his rate either.  That may work on the coasts, but $350 is a lot for the Midwest. 
 

Mint boys is a low rent lower quality version of RM

A complete waste of time and money.   Avoid 

The vast majority of the traveling Latin escorts are all working for an "agency".   No idea if they all work for one pimp though.  Start comparing their photo-shopped profiles and you'll see the same clothes, shoes, backgrounds, etc.   

...and the vast majority of them think anytime you contact a provider and not end up hiring them you're a time waster.  

You wrote: 
This is essentially blaming the client for the provider being abusive. "Roughed up" refers to physical violence, not psychological distress. 
Just a moment...
WWW.COLLINSDICTIONARY.COM Since you feel that hiring a "thug" means you should expect to get roughed up, I suggested a common, less racialized type that escorts advertise as, which, if followed to your conclusion, would suggest the client is looking to be sexually assaulted. This is all pretty basic analysis. 

Toilet selfie. Hot! 🤨
There's two kinds of escorts: One type that's actually gay, and has the 'skillset' for this kind of work. And then there's the gay-for-pay 20-somethings who thought, "Hey, I have abs! I should be getting paid for that!" This guy is so clearly the latter. If y'all wanna keep hiring them, go ahead, but it takes a ton of self-confidence to hook up with someone like that and have a good time. There are definitely a few folks here who seem like they have that... but I suspect it isn't the majority by a long-shot.
It's not because of the bathhouse. It's not because of the advanced payment. 

Another suggestion is to avoid providers who post pics in their ads of themselves picking at their GOLD teeth.
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