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I saw a client recently whose hole was very hairy and very tight. Neither is my preference. It was an escort session and he wanted to get fucked but first time I tried it was like breaking into the Bank of England. Eventually I got in but it was a struggle. Later on in the session he’d loosened up so it was easier to go back in a couple of times more. I should charge extra for all the lube. It’s so much simpler with a smooth hole, less lube needed, no hairs in your mouth, and I think visually more appealing. 

Yes, THIS!!
This is one of the great potential joys of a client/provider relationship.  You have the gift of being able to fully free yourself of the pressure of wondering if your provider is having fun.  It's a situation inherently structured around you getting exactly what you want in a zero judgement safe space.  Are you harming your provider or causing undue discomfort?  No?  Then don't worry about it. 
Also, consider that maybe some of us are wired differently.  Some of us are drawn to being providers because our sexual joy comes from providing.  If you can relax, let go, and enjoy feeling like a king for couple hours... that's when your provider truly enjoys himself. 
(Fully ignoring the kooky implication that you only pay providers for things they don't enjoy.  That's bonkers.)

I like blowjobs but it says it can be cancerous of course STI ,so I just prefer hugging,kissing,and just looking at the dick ,I also lost my libido

Whether we providers genuinely enjoy the experience is irrelevant. The question is: did YOU enjoy the experience?
If so, pay the guy and see him often. He’s providing a high level of value to you. Reciprocate that value to him.
A client hired me for an overnight recently. Given, this was not for massage although he does like some massage time, but that’s beside the point. We have a good long time rapports going and it works because we both understand the transactional nature of the relationship, respect the boundaries, and yet have a great time together anyway. It’s possible to be genuine and still provide a professional service.
For example, while he was fucking me, he hit just the right spot and we stayed in that position for a while me riding him, and it gave me a non-ejaculatory orgasm lasting for a solid few minutes. I didn’t hold back at all. My voice, breath, expression, and demeanor matched the intensity of my feelings. It was amazing! I usually am the one fucking him for most or all of the session, and it was refreshing to switch roles for a bit. I wasn’t acting at all while I enjoyed myself in that moment. He told me later that it’s important to him that I am genuinely enjoying myself too and that he appreciated me sharing moments like that with him. For some clients, an important element of value we provide is to actually enjoy the experience, which in turn gratifies the client.
You can’t buy that on a hookup app.
Acting is part of the job. Once in a while, I truly have to ‘act’ and I don’t like it, but I do it. I can’t genuinely be in ecstasy at every moment with every client. That’s unrealistic. I may not even enjoy the experience at all, but who’s to say? Fortunately I have very few clients where that is 100% true. I like to play up the moments I am enjoying and play down the moments I don’t enjoy as much. That way, it’s more an augmentation of reality rather than a false reality. With most clients I find something about them and/or what we are doing together that I like and I focus on that. It’s often multiple things. In that way, it’s not acting as much as it is focusing. It takes an experienced savvy provider to walk this line well.
A while ago a client gave me one of the best blowjobs. Top 10, easy. And you don’t want to know how many BJs I’ve had from how many different men over my life. It would make us both blush. It’s difficult to find men who give truly excellent head. Plenty of so-so, decently proficient, and lots of really bad head out there. So when I come across a rare encounter with a truly skilled man, I relish the experience. I thought to myself in the moment, “I should be paying him!” And then I snapped out of it and remembered that everything about the experience is on his terms, for his benefit. We meet when he wants, do the things he likes, the way he wants, for as long as he wants, and I am not dictating any of it for my own pleasure. I’m doing everything for his ultimate gratification. My reward is monetary. Any pleasure I get out of it is incidental.
So whether your provider enjoys the session or not - and whether you CARE if he enjoys the session or not - he is giving you what you want. Passive or active, he is delivering value to you on your terms. And at the end of the day, if he genuinely likes it, wouldn’t this be a nice bonus for you both? And if he’s acting, wouldn’t you rather not know? Pay your professional providers. Tip them. Hire them frequently. 
And please ….clients…. stop overthinking his level of enjoyment or lack thereof. Focus on YOURS!

I understand what you mean. That for a provider to lay back and get a great BJ and get paid on top of it is a sweet gig. That's why I stick to guys who will take around $200 - $250 just for that. If I'm paying over $300+ then I am looking for way more. But since we're paying it's gonna be a guy hopefully way hotter than anyone we can get for free.

He’s done his job. Of course he’ll want paying. Just because he enjoyed it doesn’t mean you don’t have to pay him! I enjoy all my client sessions (and if I don’t they wouldn’t be able to tell…) but I still expect to be paid! 

Front and back don't match at all. No way he could be that ripped from the front and not from the back.

Getting back to the original query, OP stated that the masseur’s rate is already high. He has been multiple times, which suggests he has no problem paying him his quoted rate. For me, paying his already high rate is sufficient. Only tip if you feel he deserves something extra. Sounds like he doesn’t. If he ghosts you because of it, take it as a sign that this relationship has run its course and find someone more appreciative. 

I really don't care what they are "expecting".  Actually I was just at what is oxymoronic, a moderate priced restaurant on the Vegas Strip- $40 entrees,  and for a party of 7 they added the tip, as expected, and only 18%.   And I strongly object to using the post tax amount for the basis.   Sales tax is for the state, as someone noted, businesses don't charge it, they collect it for the state,  and it has no relationship to the meal served.    I was talking about tipping more at Denny's but does the server work any harder to serve you a $50 bottle of wine than and $500 bottle, or do they just have a bigger grin because of the tip they expect and had how much work is that anyway and you are going to tip $100 to bring a bottle to the table.?   The whole system is insane.     

Some of his pics have been reposted over and over again for at least 10 years! 

Excellent points.  I suspect there are community members who refrain from making original posts or even commenting because they know the mean girls are just going to make them regret it.  

We’ve all seen it happen: A benign thread on this site that gets derailed by haughty and venomous users who seemingly delight in belittling and bullying others. Sometimes their comments reflect an inability, or maybe an unwillingness, to accept that others simply disagree with them. Perhaps more disturbing are the times when their spite and snark emerge with no clear provocation, leaving the rest of us to wonder whether participating on this site is worth the hassle. Either way, this mean girl dynamic — the bullying of fellow users into submission and silence — is difficult to avoid on Company of Men, and it undermines this site as a space where all of us can convene and connect.
 
Outside of reporting such behavior to site administrators — an imperfect response that raises its own set of challenges — I see no clear path toward curbing this dynamic on CoM. (If others have suggestions, feel free to share.) I am naming it here for the benefit of others who, like me, are troubled by the mean-spiritedness of some of our fellow site members. You are not crazy; some of our peers on CoM are terribly unkind, and their petty and spiteful communication styles can make it difficult to spend time here.
 
And sure, this is not unique to CoM. Aggressive and malicious comments from others pervade practically every online domain imaginable. But I find the mean girl dynamic on CoM particularly disheartening because of the purpose of this site. As a gay man of a certain age who is often invisible in bars and clubs catering to the gym-bodied under-40 crowd, and who engages in the type of encounters discussed on this site, I don’t have many people that I can talk to about my specific “extracurricular activities.” (I imagine this is the case for some — not all, but some — of you as well.) I was so relieved when I finally discovered this site after years of wasting time and money on unskilled providers just looking to make a quick buck. I was also incredibly grateful for the outlet (and on some days, the lifeline) this site provided during the COVID lockdown. CoM has the potential to nurture a spirit-lifting camaraderie for those of us who struggle to find it elsewhere. I wish some of us weren’t so seemingly hellbent on tearing others down.
 
Note: I have not named any specific users in this post, as the issue at hand extends beyond any single user. I implore anyone who chooses to comment on this thread to follow suit.

Yes, he’s heavier than photos.  

I saw him and I wish I hadn’t.  He became very angry with me and I don’t even know why.  He said I wasn’t relaxing my shoulder (which has 3 plates and 8 screws in it) enough.  He asked me to leave and before I could, he decided he wanted me to stay.  It was weird and definitely uncomfortable.

I just saw this guy and would definitely NOT recommend.  He is probably 75 pounds heavier than in his ad. I should have left when he opened the door.  He has zero skills or personality and I ended up walking out.  DM for more details.  Disgusting.  

Gee, and here I was hoping this topic would have revealed the finger pic as a way for the provider to suggest he offers prostate massage 😏😁 

Definitely ask!  I had a guy who had “ask me” listed as his position quote me an exorbitant extra charge for providing oral… I declined.  Prior to that, I had assumed that it was a given that anyone providing escort services to men would give oral unless explicitly stated otherwise.

Maybe?  Maybe Not?
Sometimes the experience means more than the view. 

I'LL BEGIN IN CAPS SHOUTING CUZ I CARE ABOUT YA'LL. Do not ever board Frontier airlines from Ft Lauderdale to Detroit. Something happens that is worse than Amelia disappearing in her transatlantic flight. For instance Brianthon here...he boarded a plane in Florida to visit Detroit for possible one hour employment sessions. He was 28 at point of departure (i.e. Rentmasseur). It's a 3 hour flight. Yet something bad took place cuz when he landed in Motown he was 30 (i.e Rentmen).  Hell even when Diana comes home she don't age!

I wouldn't escalate it with an actual threat, just the statement about already having talked to the police would be enough I think.

As long as you keep giving, he will keep asking.  Tell him no, that you are blocking his number and that if he contacts you again from another number you will contact the police and file a complaint. Then ignore him. He doesnt want to make waves, he is just taking advantage. 

He needs money for this, he needs money for that. He claims he has compromising pictures (which is just barely possible--I'm convinced that he or his partner in crime drugged me). I've been just worried enough to give in, but he keeps coming back, despite the advice of my bankers not to. I'm giving in one more time. Then that has to be it.
Partly I'm asking for advice, but mostly I'm warning folks to stay away. He's very charming, and very clever, and very dangerous.

I need to thank everyone for ALL of the opinions that have been expressed on this matter. I'm always torn about tipping providers when I'm already shelling out $300 an hour.  I will admit I tend to go the "gift" route - gifts of nice underwear, new jockstraps or good chocolates. In larger cities when I know that a provider is driving to me I have given gas station gift cards. If a provider has taken a cab or used Uber/Lyft I might throw in a few bucks extra to off-set that expense. But "tipping"? No. 

My point was that we’re already paying them a lot. I personally don’t feel a need to give them more. 

Here is a bit of back of the envelope math. It obviously oversimplifies everything to make the point.
 
Most of the escorts ask for at least $300 for a 1-hr session. In things like consulting, the rate is generally based on a 2000 hour work year (50 40-hr weeks). At $300/hour you’re trending to $600k annually-so on par with partners in a successful law firm. Even an escort who sees one client a day, five days a week will gross $75k/yr. The US median income is around $62k, so a guy working one hour per day earns 20% more than that. 
 
Theoretically at least, doing massage is less taxing on one’s body than escorting. Assuming a masseur charges $200, that still averages out to a $400k salary. Assuming he sees 2 clients per day, that is $100k a year. 
 
So, no. I generally do not tip at these rates. If someone goes above and beyond and their rate is reasonable, I may round up. I may also give an occasional gift or help out in a crisis.
 
Lastly, when I travel to other countries and meet gorgeous, friendly men who ask for a pittance, I will always give them a tip. Those few extra bucks mean nothing to me but will help them.