Medin

Orientation is complex. The idea of a gay/straight binary caused me a lot of anxiety when I was younger.  There’s not a binary.  There’s not even a single-axis scale.  I think there’s a multi-dimensional scale for people’s sexual orientation. 
The Klein Sexual Orientation Grid (KSOG) gives one of the most succinct ways to describe a person’s sexual orientation that I’ve found.  You can take a quick seven-question quiz in the site that I linked and it will give you a grid describing orientation description table for your past, present, and future.
 

They might outwardly present or describe themselves as straight, many are married (I see a ring on their finger), some tell me they are exploring, occasionally they say I’m their first experience with a guy but if they’re contacting me they aren’t 100% straight. I don’t think it matters. I just want to know what they are looking for not what  label they give themselves. 

Nope if someone is hiring me a man to have sex with them they are not straight. Are some of them married with kids sure. But they are bi. Or at the very least heteroflexible. Class repeat after me… if you have sex with a man and you are a man you are not straight. 

He’s 5’10 right now on RM, still 5’7 on massage site…. eventually those will match one day lol

With wait staff, cleaning people, hotel staff, barber, etc I generally tip 20%-30% -- but I tip providers the same amount I tip my lawyer, physician, medical specialists, architect, psychiatrist. business consultant, private coach, etc. Once you get an hourly rate in excess of $200 per hour, tipping is not necessary (unless you have money to burn). 

You’re extraordinarily generous!

I contacted him several months ago.   He is on the RM escort site but only lists massage so I asked if he offers other services and got immediately blocked.   

It's happened to me twice.   The first time I walked out but the second time was only at the end when it was time for the HE and I saw him put on the gloves.  Definitely killed the moment.     

Much more context is needed.

Can you share any details about how you approached them and what you might have said or asked for?  Seems odd that you’d be rejected without some reason behind it.

I recently had an issue with this. Provider showed up looking nothing like his pics (I saw after they had been uploaded nearly 10 years ago) Also had an awful experience with him. provider blocked me before he even left, and then pretended we had never met as if I didn't show up. I had to get security footage of my building to show we did meet, and show text messages proving provider was lying. Then the provider updated his photos and RM response was 'we are taking the review down as we have confirmed he does look like his pics NOW." 
I had to go back and forth for a long time before getting the review back up - but I did NOT back down until it was up there. They made me change 'not like photos' to 'photos were outdated' or some such nonsense. The provider eventually returned the money he stole and I took review down to be done with it. 

I am a premium member of RM, but since the beginning of this year, you cannot, even as a premium member, publish a review unless you register your phone number for verification. As I do not want RM to call me or send SMS to my phone, this is a total showstopper for me. So I think this reduces even further the number of reliable reviews in RM.

I used to pay for RM and only bothered writing reviews when things were either amazing or a total disaster. I finally canceled after one of my honest, 100% accurate bad reviews got deleted at the provider's request. No reason for me to pay or trust RM reviews anymore.

Since you have to have a paid membership to leave a review, i think RM reviews are mostly useless now personally. A provider might see hundreds of clients who would speak highly of them but some of those providers have no reviews on RM because those clients aren't paid RM users. Some providers might have one client who has a bad time but that happens to be a client who is a paid member and thus would be more motivated to leave a bad review, making that provider seem worse than they actually may be. So unless it's a provider with dozens of good reviews, or dozens of bad reviews. Showing an actual track record of performance among multiple paid members. I personally think it's not a good enough data point to make any judgements on and i mostly ignore the ratings/amount of reviews unless it's a large amount of reviews. I get that having the paywall would help stop review botting/spamming, but it also makes for a much smaller user base that can leave legit reviews. There's no real good way to handle it.
As far as wanting providers to reply to reviews... Kinda feels a little needy to me personally. You write the review for other people to make use of, not to flatter and get a "thanks" from the provider.

I used to write reviews before such required a paid membership, which I refuse to do.

I hope that if this happened to me that I would first ask why the guy was using gloves.  If he told me he detected something on my skin that he was worried was contagious, I could tell him that my dermatologist hasn't mentioned anything but that I would get it checked out.  I'd then give him a very small amount for the small amount of time he spent with me and I'd be on my way.  Assuming my dermatologist confirmed his suspicions, I'd contact him again to thank him and ask to hire him again, with a generous tip, if he was so inclined. If he told me he just does it as a general precaution, I'd leave without paying him anything.

I would have walked away immediately 

100% agree.  This guy is a total scam.   Stay away.  

He is a scammer, do not give him a deposit of any sort.......buyer beware !!!!!

Name change.  He is now going by https://rent.men/chris_HILL.   Still scamming though and still trying to get deposits.  
 
 

But only minutes earlier, GingerMuscleBoy had confirmed the appointment and said he was on his way!  No struggle for me to see his conduct as unprofessional and rude.

😂😂😂😂

I could not have expressed that better. Thank you. I choose my clients, that’s clear to me by the way I advertise, how I price my services and how I respond to enquiries. I have agency over all of those things. I also have agency about whether or not to do the work and that permits me the power to disregard body type and age. 

 

That’s a fair and well-cited counterpoint—but I think you may have missed the spirit of what was being said by @Jamie21
No one’s suggesting sex workers should lose agency, or be forced to accept every client regardless of comfort or preference. Of course empowerment and boundaries matter. But there’s also a distinction worth exploring between professionalism and preference-driven selectivity.
When someone positions themselves as a sex worker but only engages clients who meet their personal taste, it does start to resemble monetized dating more than labor. And for clients—especially those older or with non-normative bodies—it’s easy to spot when you’re being evaluated as a desirable conquest versus respected as a paying client.
It’s not about entitlement. It’s about clarity. If a worker is curating clients for attraction, that’s their right—but let’s not confuse that with what many consider professional sex work, which historically was about providing a service, not auditioning partners.
Empowerment includes transparency. And rejection isn’t the issue—the framing is.

Hmmmm...That particular carve out just doesn't appear in any of the statements from Wikipedia, National Harm Reduction Coalition, American Civil Liberties Union, Amnesty International USA, The Sex Workers Project, Human Rights Campaign, and the National Network Of Sex Workers on what a "proper" sex worker is.
In fact with all their statements on risk reduction, empowerment, self-determination, codification of tights, and unionization, it seems that all these organizations favor the idea that "proper" sex workers have more power and control in the choices they make concerning what they will and will not do and with who they do them.
I am sorry that all of our feelings get hurt when we get rejected. But rather than blaming the other person, could we possibly flip the explanation to recognize ta least some culpability ourseves? Maybe we are not always "proper" mature adults, that we are not as resilient as we might be as a "proper" adult, that we need to accept that we can't control so many, many things in our everyday lives but our lack of control is not simply because someone else is doing something wrong.
 
Sex worker - Wikipedia
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_worker
Sex Work Resources | National Harm Reduction Coalition
https://harmreduction.org/issues/sex-work/
Sex Work is Real Work, and it's Time to Treat it That Way | American Civil Liberties Union
https://www.aclu.org/news/lgbtq-rights/sex-work-is-real-work-and-its-time-to-treat-it-that-way
Sex workers' rights | Amnesty International USA
https://www.amnestyusa.org/issues/gender-sexuality/sex-work-rights/
Sex Work FAQ's - Sex Workers Project
https://swp.urbanjustice.org/sex-work-faqs/
HRC | Beyond the Stereotypes: A Deep Dive Into Sex Work
https://www.hrc.org/resources/beyond-the-stereotypes-a-deep-dive-into-sex-work
Sex Work Overview - National Harm Reduction Coalition
https://harmreduction.org/issues/sex-work/overview/
National Network Of Sex Workers
http://nnswindia.org/