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Rape fantasy is pretty common and simulated rape is very hot. Make sure you have a safe word or another means of interrupting a scene if things get too rough (which is okay to do). Actually being raped, not so much, doesn't matter how hot the rapist is.

Rape fantasy is pretty common and simulated rape is very hot. Make sure you have a safe word or another means of interrupting a scene if things get too rough (which is okay to do). Actually being raped, not so much, doesn't matter how hot the rapist is.

Does it ever happen outside of role play and erotica/porn, but excluding gay bashing? There was one hot dude who walked by me and started throwing me racial and homophobic epithets, I got swept up in anger and almost got into a fist fight with him before we got broken up. I was so aroused and wished that he would physically dominate me and make me his bitch.

These are sound advice. My reply was not meant to be persuasive, and the purpose wasn't to convince, but rather some thoughts on what I have synthesized from everyone's response and my own reflection and to provide my perspective. I'd like to note that we should also allow some degree of idiosyncracies in our interactions and play by ear (which I didn't do well in this instance), instead of relying on the perfect form response.

Rape fantasy is pretty common and simulated rape is very hot. Make sure you have a safe word or another means of interrupting a scene if things get too rough (which is okay to do). Actually being raped, not so much, doesn't matter how hot the rapist is.

Rape fantasy is pretty common and simulated rape is very hot. Make sure you have a safe word or another means of interrupting a scene if things get too rough (which is okay to do). Actually being raped, not so much, doesn't matter how hot the rapist is.

I don't hire straight providers as a principle to keep the money in the community, but I've been reconsidering this stance. Not because I found one so hot I have to have them, most straight providers off with a Fabio vibe that I find quite off-putting, at least in their profiles, and I'm not in the market for bodice ripping. Anyway, I'm pretty left-leaning without identifying as a leftist, so please tolerate this bout of neurosineurosis.
Straight providers may just be also part of the community because (potential justifications)
1. Straight is just self-identification, but if you have sex with men, you may not be gay, but you ain't straight.
2. Sex workers are automatically part of the queer community
3. Straight used by gay or bi providers as a marketing ploy, since for every one man who eschew straight dick like me, there's likely more than another with a straight fetish.
 
 

Rape fantasy is pretty common and simulated rape is very hot. Make sure you have a safe word or another means of interrupting a scene if things get too rough (which is okay to do). Actually being raped, not so much, doesn't matter how hot the rapist is.

I get hired because of my size, some clients just like taking big cocks. 

I always downplay my size. I like them to be pleasantly surprised 

Under promise and over deliver. 
Kevin (actually 14") Slater

It's not the way i would've approached this, but I think that @Jamie21 is right that the initial message is within the wide bounds of acceptabilty, particularly given app culture.  That said, I don't like app culture.
When I reach out to a new guy, I usually have something the lines of:  Hi Provider, I'm Interested.  I saw your profile and would like to arrange a meeting.  Are you available [date and time/or timeframe] for [desired amount of time]?  If it's a timeframe, I usually mention whether I can be flexible within a certain time.
Basically I try to remember that there's someone on the other end and talk to them as though they were standing in front of me.

The construct of the provider's texts suggests that there may have been some language barrier in the mix that further complicated the exchange.

Yikes 😬 you def escaped that one, all questions you asked are normal, he’s clearly having a bad day. His comment about flakes I get it, but that doesn’t give him the right to just be an asshole to a potential client who was simply polite and interested. You’re better off❤️

Hey just to add…I wouldn’t worry about it. I get all sorts of enquiries, some short and abrupt, some long and detailed. I think clients are all different and part of my role is to understand and accommodate those differences (within reason) and make them feel welcome and comfortable.
I think people get anxious approaching a sex worker (after all, it’s not something most people do very often is it?) so I understand if they might come across a bit awkward sometimes. It’s no big deal. Once the initial awkwardness or anxiety is overcome I usually find the person to be polite and respectful. If on a rare occasion they’re not then the meeting doesn’t happen. That’s rare, most clients are delightful. 
Good luck with your hiring.

 

I'm in the middle.  I agree that your first text is a bit off-putting.  Instead of asking for a vague availability, ask for what you want (tonight or tomorrow, for example).  I also agree that asking whether an escort barebacks in the first text seems odd.  If their RM profile indicates "anything goes," you probably have your answer already anyway but you could certainly confirm what you want in a later text.  But as with asking about availability, your inquiry might come across as more genuine if you had written, for example, "I like to top without a condom.  Are you okay with that?"  Or, conversely, "I only have anal with condoms.  Is that okay with you?"  I'm basically saying your approach might make someone who's already a bit weary of prospective clients to react with skepticism because you aren't asking for what you want but rather asking, in a curt way, for the escort to divulge details about himself.
All that said, the escort should have handled your inquiry better.  Had he simply replied, "Sorry, didn't get your text until now.  I'm available today.  If you are still interested, let me know a time that works for you and let me know what you are looking for."   That would put the ball back in your court in a friendly way.
Neither of you contributed to a successful exchange of information after that.  You were put off by the escort's demeanor, and he was put off by yours.  Last night was history, so there wasn't much point in saying, "I was looking for last night" when the guy asks what day/time works for you now.  Rather than be vague, why not just ask "Are you available tonight at 8pm for an in call?"  But given that this guy is self-employed, he's certainly clueless when it comes to attracting business.  He was very quick to assume you were just wasting time and did nothing to actually advance his agenda (book an appointment).  Seems like he was more interested in playing a victim and feeling indignant than he was trying to succeed at scheduling a prospective client.  I would 100% understand that stance if your texts had been going back and forth for a lot longer, but he basically copped an attitude with you so fast that it didn't really offer an opportunity for success on either of your parts. 

Unfortunately, I differ on sides here and don’t share the other’s perspective: it sounds like both of you were hot headed, and regrettably, you came off like I just mentioned in another thread the other day. I can elaborate on each point:
#1: your 1st text comes off a bit badgering, and you’re asking 3 questions in one text (the first text at that), without volunteering any info about yourself. That’s the 1st mistake.
#2: You didn’t address the escort by name. That immediately comes off a bit disconnected. You don’t include your name either, just a profile screenname. 
 
#3: Asking if someone barebacks in a 1st message shows off the bat disrespectful, and my experience is that many clients who start that way end up being just that. There’s been clients who admit on the forum they’ll ask escorts that, not because they want bareback, but to “suss” out if they play safe.
#4: Don’t ask an escort how long they are in town. People often ask me that when I’m traveling, and I just say: when are YOU looking for? If the escort can’t make it, they’ll let you know. Don’t think ahead of the pace of the conversation. There’s been many times I’ve stayed in a city an extra day or 2 longer than planned for a confirmed client. I wasn’t in a rush to leave town, and I have flexible means of travel.
#5: By the time you say sigh, you’ve just disrespected the escort again. Setting up a visit with an escort isn’t the time to give off sarcastic vibes.
 
#6: Your last message resorted to being a bully and you stormed off like a petulant child. Block you? What’s with clients thinking escorts need permission to block them? Again, you called the escort first, not the other way around! What would have been better is to apologize, and simply offer a time and day that would work. You came to him 1st, with a need. You have to yield his procedures or how he wishes to arrange appointments. Even if you had to wait a few minutes and think about it.
 
To approach him with a bossy attitude was absolutely uncalled for. That was your 6th mistake. 

However, I will say: thanks for posting this. It shows you’re willing to learn, from your mistakes. I think if more people would discuss these things, it would make for a better escort/client relationship. 
 
In your favor, the escort didn’t really do a whole lot either to bridge the conversation gap. One word responses and curbing questions completely don’t really drive things in the right direction. However, you were the kindling to his fire, and instead of creating love…y’all created this:

Yes, things like ‘availability’ is a bit abrupt maybe, but not enough to warrant his response. Your questions etc are all reasonable. It looks like you had a lucky escape from hiring an arsehole. 

Just had the following initial interaction with a provider. For the record, I ALWAYS ask for the rate and a few clarifying questions if not clear in the provider's profile in my first text and I've never had any problem. In this particular case, I was hoping to book him last night when I first texted. He didn't respond until the morning (understably, since I texted late at night) but didn't answer any question. Then the conversation got weird and somehow escalated. Am I the asshole here and should I have approached him differently, either initially or in the subsequent interaction? (Provider number blurred to protect his identity; as for mine I use the same username on RM so why bother).
 

Sounds like the guy is bitter and has a chip on his shoulder. Your approach was just fine.
The only thing I could think to suggest is instead of asking "availability?" ask something a bit more specific such as "available tonight or tomorrow night?" But if the guy had any grace he'd have worked with your inquiry regardless.

In reading this I would say that you are not the one with the problem.  If your approach to initiating a conversation has never ended like this before,  I think it is safe to say that your approach does not require a change.  You will probably never know what triggered this individual, and I would not waste time wondering if your words contributed in any way to his response.  The same for those people who get blocked for looking at a profile or for requesting that photos be unlocked - sometimes things just don't make any logical sense.