Ever Been Mistaken For Another Gender?

[+ Avalon]

My usual attire are sweat pants and a tee shirt. I've not had a haircut in over three years. I've been called "ma'am" on occasion.

 

I don't get around much. I have arthritis in both knees. I'm slowly going downhill. Next stop the nursing home (I've looked into it).

 

Last week I went outside to start my car engine up for a few minutes. But yesterday when I went out I fell down in the parking lot. I could not get up. But a woman saw me fall and called the rescue squad. I could hear her on the phone; she was using all female words to describe me. Afterwards I told her that I was a man.

 

We chatted for a few minutes and she told me that she had a lesbian daughter whom she accepted her lifestyle.

[Kenny]

I’ve never been mistaken for a lesbian.

[+ sniper]

As people get older the secondary sex characteristics tend to blur. I'm too tall and broad-shouldered to be mistaken for a woman, but my tall and broad-shouldered and somewhat flat-chested sister when she was a rookie cop with a short haircut was quite often mistaken for a man.

[+ Gar1eth]

My voice is on the higher side.

 

Not quite so much lately, but over the course of my life I’ve been mistaken for female over the phone many a time.

 

Gman

[+ sync]

My voice is on the higher side.

 

Not quite so much lately, but over the course of my life I’ve been mistaken for female over the phone many a time.

 

Gman

 

Me too.

[marylander1940]

My voice is on the higher side.

 

Not quite so much lately, but over the course of my life I’ve been mistaken for female over the phone many a time.

 

Gman

 

And you're a top. Talking about judging a book by its cover.

[thickornotatall]

I see so many people at the grocery store wearing non-descript/gender neutral clothing..short haircuts..no lip color...and those are the men. Leaving the house looking like ???? makes me wonder man or woman? doesn't make too much difference to me..Don't expect me to guess and get it right Mr Lady!

[+ bashful]

I don't get around much. I have arthritis in both knees. I'm slowly going downhill. Next stop the nursing home (I've looked into it).

 

Have your considered one of those Continuing Care Retirement Communities. Some accept those who are in mid 50s, or early 60s. Can be expensive depending on the facility, but would let you live independently in an apartment, and if needed, transition to nursing care either temporarily, such as recovery from knee replacement, or when you can no longer live independently.

[+ Pensant]

My usual attire are sweat pants and a tee shirt. I've not had a haircut in over three years. I've been called "ma'am" on occasion.

 

I don't get around much. I have arthritis in both knees. I'm slowly going downhill. Next stop the nursing home (I've looked into it).

 

Last week I went outside to start my car engine up for a few minutes. But yesterday when I went out I fell down in the parking lot. I could not get up. But a woman saw me fall and called the rescue squad. I could hear her on the phone; she was using all female words to describe me. Afterwards I told her that I was a man.

 

We chatted for a few minutes and she told me that she had a lesbian daughter whom she accepted her lifestyle.

I’m sorry to read that, Avalon. I can’t imagine how arthritis affects one’s life.

[liubit]

I've not had a haircut in over three years.

How can you manage that? Your hair must be touching your toes by now

[Deadlift1]

id go for a small house in a 55 and over community first.

[+ Avalon]

Have your considered one of those Continuing Care Retirement Communities. Some accept those who are in mid 50s, or early 60s. Can be expensive depending on the facility, but would let you live independently in an apartment, and if needed, transition to nursing care either temporarily, such as recovery from knee replacement, or when you can no longer live independently.

 

I'm barely ambulatory in my apartment; that wouldn't work for me.

[+ Avalon]

How can you manage that? Your hair must be touching your toes by now

 

It's just a little past my shoulders. My doctor told me that hair stops growing in 6 years.

[+ Avalon]

id go for a small house in a 55 and over community first.

 

I'm going to need help with most everything.

[+ Charlie]

If you don't actually need nursing care yet, it would be better to look into an assisted living facility, which is much cheaper than a nursing home.

[+ Avalon]

If you don't actually need nursing care yet, it would be better to look into an assisted living facility, which is much cheaper than a nursing home.

 

I'll be talking with both the doctor and the conservator's office and see what they recommend.

[+ sniper]

Are you getting in-home physical therapy? If you're falling, that's something your insurer would probably be happy to pay for to reduce the risk of future falls.

[+ Avalon]

Are you getting in-home physical therapy? If you're falling, that's something your insurer would probably be happy to pay for to reduce the risk of future falls.

 

No I'm not. That's something I could talk to the doctor and conservator about. I'm just feeling down and want to get my affairs taken care of; this will give me a chance to start over.

Edited April 27, 2018 by Avalon

[Walker1]

No I'm not. That's something I could talk to the doctor and conservator about. I'm just feeling down and want to get my affairs taken care of; this will give me a chance to start over.

Rheumatoid or regular arthritis? Yeah that is tough. One of my relatives is going through that , the last fall was horrible resulting in spinal injury and now complete bedrest for a couple of months. Family looking at options-luckily medicare eligible age, but talking options of in home care -adamantly does not want to be in a home with no family around. it is tough.

[+ sniper]

I don't know where you are from, but states vary widely in terms of what is available for in-home care. I know New York state has significant assistance available to keep people out of nursing homes, up to and including covering in-home aides around the clock, but you want to consult an elder care attorney about putting your assets in a trust so you can still use the money for your household expenses without jeopardizing your eligibility. New Jersey is pretty shitty about it.

[+ Avalon]

Rheumatoid or regular arthritis? Yeah that is tough. One of my relatives is going through that , the last fall was horrible resulting in spinal injury and now complete bedrest for a couple of months. Family looking at options-luckily medicare eligible age, but talking options of in home care -adamantly does not want to be in a home with no family around. it is tough.

 

Doctor told me but all I remember is arthritis.

 

I was afraid to get into the shower (it's a bath / shower combo) but I had to this morning. I unlocked the front door and took my cordless phone into the bathroom with me. It was a quick shower.

[+ Avalon]

I don't know where you are from, but states vary widely in terms of what is available for in-home care. I know New York state has significant assistance available to keep people out of nursing homes, up to and including covering in-home aides around the clock, but you want to consult an elder care attorney about putting your assets in a trust so you can still use the money for your household expenses without jeopardizing your eligibility. New Jersey is pretty shitty about it.

 

Thanks! That might be something the conservator will talk to me about.

[+ Avalon]

Life Alert is coming out next week to set me up.

 

http://www.lifealert.com/

[Kenny]

I’m sorry to read that, Avalon. I can’t imagine how arthritis affects one’s life.

Cannibis can be helpful in reducing arthritic inflammation.

[Walker1]

Doctor told me but all I remember is arthritis.

 

I was afraid to get into the shower (it's a bath / shower combo) but I had to this morning. I unlocked the front door and took my cordless phone into the bathroom with me. It was a quick shower.

For my relative, we are looking at the handicapped bath. You open the door on the side and scoot in. Still looking-it is tough.