Escort terminology

[Guest Listen for the pop]

I have used different terms in conversations with escorts, and have heard different terms here. I used the term sex-worker, with an escort in a very casual conversation. He adamantly expressed his distaste of that term. I have seen that term in writing elsewhere as well. I do not know what term(s) most widely used for myself, John, client, benefactor?

 

I am sure there will be a lot of responses to this along the lines of “it depends on the person.” I would really like to know what terms there are out there? There are MANY terms used for strippers; some complimentary, some derogatory. I just want some ideas and many will find some acceptable, and the same term distasteful to another. I’m just looking for terms I may not know? Thanks...

[+ Avalon]

Sex should not be "work"; sex should be fun. Sex should be hot and sweaty!

[Rudynate]

"Escort" and "client" are perfectly serviceable expressions.

[+ not2rowdy]

Not an escort here but here’s something for your educational enjoyment:

 

http://andrejkoymasky.com/lou/dic/a.html

 

Bypassing the “numbers” (many of which are derogatory) the first alphabetical answer that might be applicable to your question is:

“Adventurous Heterosexual”

 

Good entertainment just to click through definitions

(you don’t have to close the “response window” each time - just click on the next entry of interest)

[+ pitman]

Libidinal Enhancement Engineer

[+ José Soplanucas]

Escort, provider, companion, professional.

[+ tassojunior]

I have learned that people who have sex for money abhor the word "trick" and insist on the word "date".

[+ José Soplanucas]

I like the Argentinean term "taxi-boy". In porteño slang, "tachos". ("tacho" means also trash can in more standard language, but in slang it is used to name taxi-cabs).

[BaronArtz]

I like 'trick'. Or 'turning tricks'. I don't hear it often anymore, maybe it was a 1990s thing ...

[+ José Soplanucas]

My physical therapist.

My plumber.

My therapeutic companion.

My candy.

My angel.

My bodyguard.

My driver.

My rider.

My pacifier.

My God.

My treasure.

My treat.

My mercenary.

My boy.

My man.

My Lord.

[Guest Listen for the pop]

I like 'trick'. Or 'turning tricks'. I don't hear it often anymore, maybe it was a 1990s thing ...

Did you ever see the 90’s movie Trick? It’s a really cute movie, and has nothing to do with the “escorting” aspect of the term trick. I recommend you see it, if you do; remember I said “IT BURNS!” LOL Also if for no other reason... Neve Campbel’s Little brother!

[+ Avalon]

Did you ever see the 90’s movie Trick? It’s a really cute movie, and has nothing to do with the “escorting” aspect of the term trick. I recommend you see it, if you do; remember I said “IT BURNS!” LOL Also if for no other reason... Neve Campbel’s Little brother!

 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trick_(film)

[Guest Listen for the pop]

I like the Argentinean term "taxi-boy". In porteño slang, "tachos". ("tacho" means also trash can in more standard language, but in slang it is used to name taxi-cabs).

WOW... I really don’t know what else to say other than WOW!

[Guest Listen for the pop]

Not an escort here but here’s something for your educational enjoyment:

 

http://andrejkoymasky.com/lou/dic/a.html

 

Bypassing the “numbers” (many of which are derogatory) the first alphabetical answer that might be applicable to your question is:

“Adventurous Heterosexual”

 

Good entertainment just to click through definitions

(you don’t have to close the “response window” each time - just click on the next entry of interest)

OMG this is HILARIOUS!

[+ saminseattle]

I have used different terms in conversations with escorts, and have heard different terms here. I used the term sex-worker, with an escort in a very casual conversation. He adamantly expressed his distaste of that term. I have seen that term in writing elsewhere as well. I do not know what term(s) most widely used for myself, John, client, benefactor?

 

I am sure there will be a lot of responses to this along the lines of “it depends on the person.” I would really like to know what terms there are out there? There are MANY terms used for strippers; some complimentary, some derogatory. I just want some ideas and many will find some acceptable, and the same term distasteful to another. I’m just looking for terms I may not know? Thanks...

 

I prefer the terms “sex work” and “sex worker” to “prostitution” and “prostitute” because I think the latter tend to be used more pejoratively and have a generally negative connotation in our culture. In contrast, recognizing that individuals who provide this service are engaged in “work” just like other professional service providers, attempts to reduce the unfortunate stigma that is often associated with those who trade sex for money.

 

The term “escort,” in contrast, refers to someone who provides companionship (not sex) for a fee. This distinction is legally important because sex work is currently a crime in most jurisdictions, whereas simply spending time with someone is not. Of course, some people argue that if sex “just happens” to occur during that time, after which a “donation” is freely offered, that this technically does not transform the situation from “escorting” to “prostitution.” Personally, I am skeptical about this view, but I believe it is widely held. I could speculate that if this is the situation you’re describing, that your companion’s aversion to the term “sex worker” could stem from a desire to maintain a sense of ambiguity about what is actually going on. Of course, I have no idea what may have transpired, so this is all speculation. Anyway, here are some other posts about the difference between escorting and sex work:

 

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/alex-dreamlover-im-not-a-prostitute-im-an-escort.130455/page-2#post-1399800 (post 26)

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/sentencing-of-jeffrey-hurant-rentboy-com-on-friday.126472/page-2#post-1325257 (post 27)

[nsguy45]

My physical therapist.

My plumber.

My therapeutic companion.

My candy.

My angel.

My bodyguard.

My driver.

My rider.

My pacifier.

My God.

My treasure.

My treat.

My mercenary.

My boy.

My man.

My Lord.

My boyfriend experience . . .

[LivingnLA]

@saminseattle beat me to it. I imagine the offense to "sex worker" was because you were in a place where such work is illegal. Escorting or Companionship are about "spending time" not "sex work."

[Walker1]

Temporary husband? I was reading an article a long time ago-can't find it and not sure if it is true. But apparently in Iran, some men marry the escort-female of course-have sex with her and then divorce her. Apparently there for a divorce, a man just has to repeat some specific word three times and hey presto-you are divorced!

 

I don't know if it is urban legend or true.

[bigvalboy]

I have used different terms in conversations with escorts, and have heard different terms here. I used the term sex-worker, with an escort in a very casual conversation. He adamantly expressed his distaste of that term. I have seen that term in writing elsewhere as well. I do not know what term(s) most widely used for myself, John, client, benefactor?

. I’m just looking for terms I may not know? Thanks...

 

How about their name...

If you are talking about terms used in actual conversations, unless I'm missing something, and I could be, why don't you use their name? I love strip clubs. I talk to and hire strippers all the time, and I've never used any term other than their name. The moment I meet someone, the first thing I ask is their name.

 

I'm trying to imagine a conversation with someone about hiring and using another term other than someones name. But that's just me...

[Guest Listen for the pop]

Thank you for the previous post links. I had been with this particular escort before. This was a conversation earlier in the evening of an overnight boyfriend experience. I appreciate the point of view too. Maybe I did severely offend the nature of what he had prepared for the evening. In retrospect, that may very well explain A LOT of what happened that night. I’m not saying it was a bad experience, but I did feel as though he was off his game somewhat compared to the first time.

[Guest Listen for the pop]

How about their name...

If you are talking about terms used in actual conversations, unless I'm missing something, and I could be, why don't you use their name? I love strip clubs. I talk to and hire strippers all the time, and I've never used any term other than their name. The moment I meet someone, the first thing I ask is their name.

 

I'm trying to imagine a conversation with someone about hiring and using another term other than someones name. But that's just me...

I was referring to a conversation about things I had read. It was a conversation of my sincere concern for his life, because of accounts I had read. The accounts I had read were more “clinical” and written in a limited third person format. I was really trying to better understand his life. I often speak without forethought as to how it can make a person feel. I do even worse when nervous, as in this case. Retrospectively, I guess the BFE he had prepared didn’t include such an inquiry. This was the first escort I have ever hired, and only the second time with him. I want to be better prepared the next time.

[myophile]

I like 'trick'. Or 'turning tricks'. I don't hear it often anymore, maybe it was a 1990s thing ...

 

More like an 1890s thing: https://www.etymonline.com/word/trick

[Bearofdistinction]

"Escort" and "client" are perfectly serviceable expressions.

 

I prefer the term Professional Gentleman or if I am sitting on the Veranda the term Gentleman Caller

[Rudynate]

I prefer the term Professional Gentleman or if I am sitting on the Veranda the term Gentleman Caller

 

 

It is fun to have your own private lingo, but sometimes you need to be understood by the rest of world.

[rvwnsd]

...I guess the BFE he had prepared didn’t include such an inquiry...

I can see where discussing you fears for his safety could put a damper on the boyfriend experience he had planned for the two of you. It probably would not be the first thing to cross my mind.

 

To answer your original question, I don't use any specific terminology. When referring to another escort I've said things like "a guy I hired" or "a guy I used to get together with." On the occasions where the topic of conversation has centered on escorts or escorting I have said "you guys" or "escorts." For example, when discussing the collection of characters an escort has met or spoken with I've said "you guys encounter all kinds..." or "it must be tough for escorts to sift through all the inquiries..."