When escorts cancel at the last minute

[nsguy45]

I'm seething, I'll admit it. Had a firm confirmation early this morning from an escort I've seen multiple times and he texts me less than an hour before he was to arrive that he's "sick" and cannot make it tonight. Yes, it's winter and people get sick, but I feel if he were truly ill, why wait until the last minute to inform me?

[sutherland]

no, he was not ill. He probably received communication from somebody else offering him a 2-hour session or an overnight and he was more interested in pursuing the big bucks. The fact that you have seen him multiple times doesn't enter into the picture at all.

[Boomxyz]

Another idea. Let's look at it with optimism. Maybe he had a flu, was hoping to grab some pills to hide the symptoms, but it didn't help. Finally no flu for you.

[+ nycman]

Take a deep breath.

 

It’s not the end of the world.

 

Find another hooker....or beat off and go to bed realizing you

just gave your self a $300 hand job. Always makes me giggle

and sleep tight.

 

These tend to be the nights where I say “fuck it” and take one

for the team and hire a relative (or totally) unknown that

I wouldn’t normally take a risk on. I figure...what the fuck...

I’m already disaapointened....it can’t get much worse.

 

Often, I just end up hiring another loser....but every now and

then I find that elusive diamond in the rough.....and end up

having the time of my life.

 

Lemons or lemonade....your choice!

[needbodywork]

no, he was not ill. He probably received communication from somebody else offering him a 2-hour session or an overnight and he was more interested in pursuing the big bucks. The fact that you have seen him multiple times doesn't enter into the picture at all.

 

Yes either this or he had more appealing social plans w/his friends.

Very common story lately.

[MikeyGMin]

Yes either this or he had more appealing social plans w/his friends.

Very common story lately.

Especially if you like the 20-somethings. It's awfully hard to compete with their friends on a Saturday night if there is something good happening.

[nsguy45]

Take a deep breath.

 

It’s not the end of the world.

 

Find another hooker....or beat off and go to bed realizing you

just gave your self a $300 hand job. Always makes me giggle

and sleep tight.

 

These tend to be the nights where I say “fuck it” and take one

for the team and hire a relative (or totally) unknown that

I wouldn’t normally take a risk on. I figure...what the fuck...

I’m already disaapointened....it can’t get much worse.

 

Often, I just end up hiring another loser....but every now and

then I find that elusive diamond in the rough.....and end up

having the time of my life.

 

Lemons or lemonade....your choice!

Take a deep breath.

 

It’s not the end of the world.

 

Find another hooker....or beat off and go to bed realizing you

just gave your self a $300 hand job. Always makes me giggle

and sleep tight.

 

These tend to be the nights where I say “fuck it” and take one

for the team and hire a relative (or totally) unknown that

I wouldn’t normally take a risk on. I figure...what the fuck...

I’m already disaapointened....it can’t get much worse.

 

Often, I just end up hiring another loser....but every now and

then I find that elusive diamond in the rough.....and end up

having the time of my life.

 

Lemons or lemonade....your choice!

nycman, Thanks for the dose of reality. It was too late to find an available quality escort here in the Boston area for tonight, but have booked a potential keeper for Sunday evening.

[marylander1940]

Especially if you like the 20-somethings. It's awfully hard to compete with their friends on a Saturday night if there is something good happening.

 

maybe he fell in love with someone he met on Grindr, and decided to put love/lust first, and money second.

[marylander1940]

no, he was not ill. He probably received communication from somebody else offering him a 2-hour session or an overnight and he was more interested in pursuing the big bucks. The fact that you have seen him multiple times doesn't enter into the picture at all.

 

Let's give folks the benefit of the doubt.

[+ azdr0710]

have booked a potential keeper for Sunday evening.

 

let us know if tomorrow's meeting is positive or negative and submit a review either way....as you might know, detailed reviews aren't allowed in the forum.....but you can post something like "great meeting with Boston'sBest....PM me for details.....review submitted"....

 

thanks

[SizeQueen16]

Especially if you like the 20-somethings. It's awfully hard to compete with their friends on a Saturday night if there is something good happening.

 

 

That's definitely a peeve for me. I had someone that I have met with multiple times send me a text hours before our session stressing that I need to be precisely on time because he now had plans to go out after our session. So I just canceled it altogether. I'm not interested in competing with your friends. If your social life is more important than meeting with people you advertise to then you really don't need my money.

[LaffingBear]

What difference does his genuine reason, or the conveyed excuse, make?

 

Clients cancel on escorts all the time.

 

We live in times where people cancel for all sorts of reasons. New hires accept job offers then never show. Service providers and contractors dont appear as agreed.

 

Im personally dealing with a situation - today -where an acquaintance agreed to attend an event requiring ticket purchase, then canceled day before due to work emergency. Except, a few hours later, sent an email confessing work emergency was fabricated, and just not in the mood, but didnt want to lie.

 

Societal norms and expectations evolve. Commitment, or even the obligation to inform or reply, have changed.

 

Just move on.

[+ purplekow]

That is the standard? Accept bad behavior and move on? So exactly who is lowering the standard, the people who do this or the people that accept it? I agree there is nothing to do about this particular escort, except not hire him again and let him know why. Then move on and continue to expect people to meet their work obligations. At the very least, a phone call rather than a text would have personalized the situation and that may have been enough to have me consider another date in the future, if he was somewhat remorseful and asked for a postponement to another day.

[jawjateck]

It's good that you are trying to set up another fun session. And whether it's justified or not, once bad feelings creep into one of these business relationships, it's best to move on and never turn back.

 

Enticing, efficient, exceptional communications are becoming rare. It's one of the reasons I may pull the plug on this hobby in the near future. I am slowly losing interest because the pursuit has become too dull....in many cases. In years past, the chase was part of the fun. Now, not so much......

[+ OliverSaks]

People get sick all the time. Sometimes it creeps up on you at the last minute. Food poisoning from a bad meal, for instance...

 

Stop being so pessimistic! (It’s better for your health)

[marylander1940]

What difference does his genuine reason, or the conveyed excuse, make?

 

Clients cancel on escorts all the time.

 

We live in times where people cancel for all sorts of reasons. New hires accept job offers then never show. Service providers and contractors dont appear as agreed.

 

Im personally dealing with a situation - today -where an acquaintance agreed to attend an event requiring ticket purchase, then canceled day before due to work emergency. Except, a few hours later, sent an email confessing work emergency was fabricated, and just not in the mood, but didnt want to lie.

 

Societal norms and expectations evolve. Commitment, or even the obligation to inform or reply, have changed.

 

Just move on.

 

Exactly!

People get sick all the time. Sometimes it creeps up on you at the last minute. Food poisoning from a bad meal, for instance...

 

Stop being so pessimistic! (It’s better for your health)

 

That's a very frequent excuse used by clients to cancel on escorts, at least that's what I've been told many times.

[+ Keith30309]

I very much appreciate not being given the flu or a cold, though I'm sure that this may be untrue in some cases.

 

I guess the truth cuts both ways. One guy told me three hours AFTER our meeting time (i.e, he stood me up) that he had been contacted by a regular who wanted to hire him for the weekend and, because it was significantly more money, he decided to not meet me for our 2-hour appointment (no explanation about about not letting me know in advance)

[jawjateck]

One guy told me three hours AFTER our meeting time (i.e, he stood me up) that he had been contacted by a regular who wanted to hire him for the weekend and, because it was significantly more money, he decided to not meet me for our 2-hour appointment (no explanation about about not letting me know in advance)

 

If he told me that upfront with as much notice as possible, I wouldn't think much about it, but no-showing me and then telling me that info after the fact would def finish our biz relationship.

[MikeyGMin]

If he told me that upfront with as much notice as possible, I wouldn't think much about it, but no-showing me and then telling me that info after the fact would def finish our biz relationship.

I agree with you completely. I don’t rehire guys who I don’t truly like. That means I want success and good things for them. Given notice, I would have no problem rescheduling a short session so they could go make some big bucks.

 

But a a no show would be a completely different matter. If I really liked the guy it would hurt. If I just sort of liked the guy it would just anger me. Either way, the goodwill would be gone and there would be no point in continuing the business relationship.

[GLEE]

More often than not, we understand the “need” to cancel at the very last minute. But such understanding shouldn’t be taken for granted. And sometimes people are just so lame at coming up with excuses. It’s an insult to our intelligence.

 

For example, once a guy I dated canceled on a meeting saying he’s got to cancel because his dog got sick. He probably forgot that back in the day when we first initiated the conversation, he said he’s got allergy issues so he can’t keep pets like dogs and cats.

 

I let out of a big sigh when reading his message and deleted all our conversations.

[LaffingBear]

People get sick all the time. Sometimes it creeps up on you at the last minute. Food poisoning from a bad meal, for instance...

 

Stop being so pessimistic! (It’s better for your health)

And the population claims illness more often than its members are genuinely ill.

 

Life would be simpler, and honest behavior would be reinforced, if people just said "I can't make it" and others accepted it.

 

Ask an experienced manager if they need to hear the detailed explanations when an employee calls in. If PTO, a simple "I cant make it" is enough. If separate sick and vacation policy "I'll be out sick today" suffices.... and is likely to be a lie anyway. If I had a dollar for everytime Ive listened to excessively detailed, or lame unbelievable illness descriptions, or overheard employees planning to call in sick... I could pay for an extended session with any rentguy discussed on the forum.

[nsguy45]

I'm seething, I'll admit it. Had a firm confirmation early this morning from an escort I've seen multiple times and he texts me less than an hour before he was to arrive that he's "sick" and cannot make it tonight. Yes, it's winter and people get sick, but I feel if he were truly ill, why wait until the last minute to inform me?

Okay, here's an update on my original post. The escort and I settled the matter through a flurry of texts on Sunday morning. I now truly believe that he was feeling ill and he totally admits he was in the wrong for confirming our session on Saturday morning for later that evening. Still, after the cancellation, I booked an hour with another Boston based escort and he was INCREDIBLE. It's been a while since I've remained rock hard for the entire hour without prescription assistance.

[julius]

As TB would say: “hooker drama”.

 

After many years, I’ve learned that cancellations, with or without notice or excuses of varying degrees of believability, are part of the territory. It’s annoying and sometimes infuriating. But it’s unavoidable.

 

Honestly, how I handle it depends much on the guy and sometimes my mood. I might give the guy another shot, I might not. One regular is such a friend now that a cancellation from him is no more upsetting than it would be with any other friend. There’s another regular whom, by all rights, I should never give the time of day given his repeated incommunicado no-shows and lame excuses, but I have a soft spot for the guy and for some reason I put up with it. Yet another (5-star celeb as far as these forums go) will never hear from me again after a half-hour’s notice cancellation with a ludicrous excuse after days of planning and multiple confirmations (all at his insistence) topped off with a nasty text from him when I dared let him know I was annoyed.

 

This last guy is incredibly well-reviewed here and the recipient of lavish praise, but the way I see it isn’t that I missed out on a great time with a top-notch provider, but that he missed out on one of the most easy-going, loyal, generous and undemanding clients he’d ever know. I say that because I hold myself to the same standards as I hold the escort. I try never to cancel; I can remember only once doing so because a hurricane forced me to cancel a trip, and I called the escort immediately and told him the truth. I don’t play games - a booking is a booking - and I keep my word regarding time, date, place, price and all other particulars.

 

I always have a backup plan. I only hire when traveling, so I make sure I have a Plan B (totally agree with the “take one for the team” mentality). That doesn’t always work out, though, so I have a nice meal, or a movie or some other event on the back burner just in case so I don’t feel like I’ve wasted a night.

 

Or day – I’ve grown to appreciate nooners. Lunch or afternoon sessions are much less subject to cancellation due to a better offer coming along, and give more time to schedule an alternative for that day if they do cancel.

 

BTW – since I’ll be in Boston soon – who was the incredible last-minute stand in?

[+ VictorPowers]

Especially if you like the 20-somethings. It's awfully hard to compete with their friends on a Saturday night if there is something good happening.

If plans with friends would make an escort cancel on a regular, it's time to retire.

[marylander1940]

And the population claims illness more often than its members are genuinely ill.

 

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That will happen a lot next year when the national team plays in the world cup. (except here because we don't care much about soccer).