The text/email after...

[+ Lefty82]

Good morning, or afternoon, or evening wherever you are. I am new here, only my 2nd post. I am also new to the hobby of escorting, having hired my first in October, and my second just last week. In both cases, I text each escort after they/I left (first was out, second was in) thanking him for his time, apologizing for my performance issues (medical, long story, but thankfully almost over), and saying I hoped to see him again. The first one responded saying he had a great time, that I really was a cool guy, and that he def hoped to see me again. We have since talked -- his dog was going through some serious medical stuff when we met and I text him about a month later to ask him how she was doing. The second did not respond to my text at all, or the email I sent to him on RM (it was read though). I know I shouldn't really care, but I do because in both cases I really had a good time, and I like to think of an escort as more than just an object. Plus, the second grew up in the town I live in now, so we at least have something in common (its a small town and he knew that before we met and saw my picture, so I don't buy into that being the issue or he wouldn't have agreed to meet me in the first place)

 

So that's the long way of asking if that is normal to send (client) receive (escort) messages after the session like I sent? And would it be nothing that I didn't get a response back? Sorry, I'm not as insecure as this post makes me sound I promise lol. Thanks for any and all responses!!

[+ GregM]

I sent a thank you text or email after I meet someone. Although I'm the hooker. It's a personal message letting them know I truly enjoyed the time together. I'm probably such a dork that I often do this after a rare hookup as well. Time is valuable and there's many hookers out there. If someone chooses to spend a couple hours or over night with me I'm thankful.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ Avalon]

Have to remember too that many young people never learned etiquette.

[jawjateck]

Having recovered from the shock of your avatar......hahaha! Let me say that some guys are great at handling communications and developing their client portfolio, and some guys do not care too much until you text them again with cash in hand to spend on the next appointment. Don't get too carried away with either case. The former will not be super duper awesome at all times, in all ways, to all people, and the latter is not the scum of the earth, probably just clueless, and living moment to moment, never thinking too far ahead.

 

But given the interactions you described, you know how best to allocate your hobby dollars in the future.

 

P.S. I hope yall beat the crap out of Awwbarn on Saturday.

[cany10011]

I usually follow up with a thank you text, especially if it is someone I would like to see again. As for the duds i sometimes unfortunately meet, i just chalk it up to "tuition" and put a note next to their number in case they text/call me back for a second appointment.

[MikeyGMin]

The former will not be super duper awesome at all times, in all ways, to all people, and the latter is not the scum of the earth, probably just clueless, and living moment to moment, never thinking too far ahead.

Took the words right out of my mouth!

 

I disagee with @Smurof though. I have had several guys send me a text after a meeting saying they enjoyed the experience and hoped to see me again. It was right away -- not days later as if fishing for new business. Far from an invasion of privacy, I found it very sweet.

 

A current favorite sent such a text shortly after our meeting and he completely stole my heart.

[Stormy]

I send a text if I had an exceptionally good time. Otherwise I skip it. I wouldn't worry about the escort who didn't acknowledge your text. Given that you grew up in the same area, he may have second thoughts about losing his anonymity. Besides there are many more fish in the sea

[+ Keith30309]

I’ve always been puzzled by the lack of any post-meeting “thank you” message in about 90% of my meetings, particularly first time meets.

It’s fast and free and seems like common marketing sense. And I don’t entirely buy the “discretion” explanation, especially 5 minutes after I walk out the door.

 

Even more puzzling has been some of the responses to my thanks you’s to first-time meets. If it was a good experience I try to send a couple of thoughts and a genuine thank you - no hidden agenda... just a courtesy.

 

Most guys respond with something brief but nice. I’ve also gotten no response... a response a week later... and a handful of others: “you’re welcome”, “anytime”, “sure thing” and my favorite “no problem”.

 

You can really tell who “gets it” in how they respond.

[+ GregM]

I’ve always been puzzled by the lack of any post-meeting “thank you” message in about 90% of my meetings, particularly first time meets.

It’s fast and free and seems like common marketing sense. And I don’t entirely buy the “discretion” explanation, especially 5 minutes after I walk out the door.

 

Even more puzzling has been some of the responses to my thanks you’s to first-time meets. If it was a good experience I try to send a couple of thoughts and a genuine thank you - no hidden agenda... just a courtesy.

 

Most guys respond with something brief but nice. I’ve also gotten no response... a response a week later... and a handful of others: “you’re welcome”, “anytime”, “sure thing” and my favorite “no problem”.

 

You can really tell who “gets it” in how they respond.

 

Slightly off topic but I really hate it when I thank someone and rather than saying your welcome they say no problem. That is like finger nails down the chalkboard for me. It makes me not wanna thank someone.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[wklucas]

My general way of handling / communicating with guys who become "regular" / ongoing hires is separate / different.....for a 1st time hire, I'm fine with ending it with a (sincere) hug & a (sincere) kiss....anything that needs to be said, will already have been said to each other before he leaves...he'll know if I enjoyed being with him / I will generally know the same about how he feels about me....no further thx required from either of us.

[Cliff]

Sometimes it’s the escort that sends a thank you, sometimes I do it. In either case, I like the civility of it. Also: It can be done discreetly so that if the text gets in the “wrong hands,” there’s not a situation. Here are some examples of good and bad thank you follow-ups, in my opinion:

Good follow-up: “Great meeting you, Cliff!!”

Bad follow-up: “Hey there, Cliff. Sure was great rimming your ass and fucking you silly.”

[KennF]

Welcome to the boards Lefty.

 

I find the texts immediately afterwards a nice touch. It certainly leaves the communication open, and when I'm considering another session, the ones that were nice always pop to my thoughts first. Their text to me encourages me to use that text to say "I was thinking about our session again..."

 

But each escort runs his business differently. Some think long term and want to build long terms client relations, while others see it as a strictly transactional business.

[jawjateck]

I’ve always been puzzled by the lack of any post-meeting “thank you” message in about 90% of my meetings, particularly first time meets. It’s fast and free and seems like common marketing sense. .

 

It may be a false impression on my part, but I think I received far more thank you/courtesy messages 15-20 years ago than the past few years. I certainly don't need them nor do I make re-hiring decisions solely on that basis, but I can see where the lack of basic courtesy would leave less favorable impressions on newbie clients. And if the provider doesn't even acknowledge a post-meeting commendation from a client, it is appropriate for that client to seek his fun elsewhere.

[wklucas]

Slightly off topic but I really hate it when I thank someone and rather than saying your welcome they say no problem. That is like finger nails down the chalkboard for me. It makes me not wanna thank someone.

 

Hugs,

Greg

When anybody says "Hello, Hi, Good Morning, Good Day, etc., etc." to me, my standard reply is (almost) always a simple "Hey".....except for my 1st run of the morning over to Starbucks usually right at their 4am open.....the workers there all know my drink of choice, make it without my saying a word & none of them expect any reply to any greeting before I have a few sips....sometimes I manage to mutter "thx" as I walk away.....(but oh yeah, I'm a good tipper....hope that counts for something).

[john1973]

That post-coital "thank you" really warms my heart and tells me they are eager to do business with me again. It's a small investment with a 250-300 dollar pay-off. Such easy money if you ask me, considering most folks are lucky to get paid 100 for a day's work.

[+ Lefty82]

I appreciate all of the insight in the replies. And my condolences for Saturday GT, hopefully the rematch goes exactly how I want it to this weekend. I have been in sales my entire life, so it just seemed natural for me to send the texts after my meeting. And I'm hoping on the second one that his lack of response is just because he doesn't know any better because I really did have a good time and would like to see him again (and I'm in Atlanta more than LR anyway). But we will soon see next month -- he is coming to the town where I live now (where he grew up) and I am going back to ATL for xmas so I will be reaching out hoping our schedules overlap at some point. My backup plan in ATL will be in Orlando over xmas so I might need some advice on a 3rd option from GTech if this guy flakes lol. Good to be a part of the forum

[+ poolboy48220]

Slightly off topic but I really hate it when I thank someone and rather than saying your welcome they say no problem. That is like finger nails down the chalkboard for me. It makes me not wanna thank someone.

I read this in a seminar we took on customer service at a previous job - they warned that "no problem" was a turn-off to many people, in that it implied that doing your job might *be* a problem. I never really noticed it until then, but have noticed it a lot since, and wonder why employers don't coach their employees to avoid saying that. A simple "you're welcome" works better, and I often go with "Happy to help".

[+ GregM]

I read this in a seminar we took on customer service at a previous job - they warned that "no problem" was a turn-off to many people, in that it implied that doing your job might *be* a problem. I never really noticed it until then, but have noticed it a lot since, and wonder why employers don't coach their employees to avoid saying that. A simple "you're welcome" works better, and I often go with "Happy to help".

 

I like the happy to help. I have an employee that will be working more in my section and she always says no problem. Imma need to break her of that habit. I'll suggest the happy to help to her.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ GregM]

When anybody says "Hello, Hi, Good Morning, Good Day, etc., etc." to me, my standard reply is (almost) always a simple "Hey".....except for my 1st run of the morning over to Starbucks usually right at their 4am open.....the workers there all know my drink of choice, make it without my saying a word & none of them expect any reply to any greeting before I have a few sips....sometimes I manage to mutter "thx" as I walk away.....(but oh yeah, I'm a good tipper....hope that counts for something).

 

I like good tippers :D

 

Hugs,

Greg

[wklucas]

I like good tippers :D

 

Hugs,

Greg

 

uh oh, just to be clear....apart from my regulars, I don't "tip" escorts....they are free to charge whatever they desire.....I pay them their requested / agreed upon amount....that's it.....with regulars - once I let them in my life, they can benefit in a variety of ways above & beyond....in all other walks of general / social activity, I regard myself as a generous tipper.....including to sbux employees.....actually now that turkey day has passed, just this morning I added my holiday gift to their tip jar.....probably / maybe the 1st customer of the season to have done so.

[+ GregM]

uh oh, just to be clear....apart from my regulars, I don't "tip" escorts....they are free to charge whatever they desire.....I pay them their requested / agreed upon amount....that's it.....with regulars - once I let them in my life, they can benefit in a variety of ways above & beyond....in all other walks of general / social activity, I regard myself as a generous tipper.....including to sbux employees.....actually now that turkey day has passed, just this morning I added my holiday gift to their tip jar.....probably / maybe the 1st customer of the season to have done so.

 

I was referring to the "other" tip dear sir

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ Charlie]

I'm curious: do y'all send thank you notes to your doctors/dentists/lawyers/therapists after an appointment? Do y'all expect to receive them? I realize we don't all have the same understanding of the nature of client/escort relationships, but I tend to think of them as professional visits, so I never automatically send thank you notes or expect to receive them, unless I would like the relationship to develop into a different kind of friendship.

[+ Travis69]

A nice grope or a hot wet tongue in my mouth as they get ready to leave is the thank you I want, not a text or email later. Make it like a hot hook-up not like a date. Just my 2 cents. I hire or don't hire again based on how the appointment went not on the method of thanking me.

Edited November 28, 2017 by Travis69

[+ Keith30309]

I'm curious: do y'all send thank you notes to your doctors/dentists/lawyers/therapists after an appointment? Do y'all expect to receive them? I realize we don't all have the same understanding of the nature of client/escort relationships, but I tend to think of them as professional visits, so I never automatically send thank you notes or expect to receive them, unless I would like the relationship to develop into a different kind of friendship.

I receive a phone call from my dentist every evening after a 6-month visit. That’s the kind of practice he runs.

Everyone else thanks me with an invoice expressing their level of their gratitude for my patronage.

[BluDay]

That post-coital "thank you" really warms my heart and tells me they are eager to do business with me again. It's a small investment with a 250-300 dollar pay-off. Such easy money if you ask me, considering most folks are lucky to get paid 100 for a day's work.

 

This is a great business move in my opinion, especially shortly after the meeting. A text along the line of "Great visit" encourages a client to want to engage again since it shows the escort didn't forget you when the door closes.

 

I'm curious: do y'all send thank you notes to your doctors/dentists/lawyers/therapists after an appointment? Do y'all expect to receive them?

 

A number of that type of provider send me Christmas/Birthday cards. I've had thank you notes from jewelry shops where I've spent good money. It's an easy way of engaging with the customer beyond the normal bounds of service.