Is it a red flag if...

[youngboldone]

https://rentmen.eu/BradRockwell

 

Was considering hiring this guy, but he asked me for photos, age, and stats. Is this a red flag? I don't want to be with some arrogant, ageist guy. He really pushes all the right buttons for me, though. I'm torn.

[+ freecahill1965]

I would not even consider anyone who makes such requests.

[youngboldone]

Just curious as to your reasoning why that is a dealbreaker... It was a little off putting, I will admit. But in my market, the choices aren't many, so I can't afford to be too selective.

[+ José Soplanucas]

https://rentmen.eu/BradRockwell

 

Was considering hiring this guy, but he asked me for photos, age, and stats. Is this a red flag? I don't want to be with some arrogant, ageist guy. He really pushes all the right buttons for me, though. I'm torn.

 

Not a big deal for me, although it is unusual. When this happens I take it like the guy wants to make sure he can provide a good service. Not all professionals are able to find attraction in any client.

If I like the guy I would comply. I am not a middle school girl, I do not care about rejection.

[Kevin Slater]

This is meant to be fun and relaxing. You get to decide whether the request precludes it from being so.

 

Kevin Slater

[+ freecahill1965]

Just curious as to your reasoning why that is a dealbreaker... It was a little off putting, I will admit. But in my market, the choices aren't many, so I can't afford to be too selective.

latbear4blk makes a good point. BUT, I feel I am paying for a service. For example, I bring my clothes to the cleaners. At stop off, they do not ask me for the weight, amount of dirt or color of my clothes. We have a agreed upon price for the service. I would not go to a cleaner and pay for the service based on their inspection. My experience has been that escorts who have accepted me sight unseen have provided the best service. It seems to me they have the attitude that their providing a service and want to do it well. I wish I could put it in better words. On the otherhand, if you selection is small just like if their is only one cleaner in town you may have to make compromises. I am not sure this post helped any.

[bostonman]

This is meant to be fun and relaxing. You get to decide whether the request precludes it from being so.

 

Bingo.

 

And I think it also depends on the context of the question. If I contact an escort and he shoots back a laconic "age? stats? pic?" I'd give up right there. But if in the course of an initial and enjoyable conversation (phone or online) he casually asked me "by the way, what do you look like, just curious" - I don't think I'd feel offended. I see no harm in the all-too-human desire to want to know what a client looks like, etc - but it has to feel like it's part of wanting to get better acquainted rather than for screening purposes, etc.

[LaffingBear]

Send him a picture of your wallet, and tell him its old and fat!

[caliguy]

My experience has been that escorts who have accepted me sight unseen have provided the best service. .

Interesting concept but damn. they're not even curious? That is literally them saying I don't give a shit what they look like as long as they pay good.

[bostonman]

Interesting concept but I find any kind of chemistry would be impossible if they don't care enough to even be curious.

 

But they might indeed be curious - I would think most if not all escorts would be. I think the question is protocol - many escorts may just understand that asking for a description is considered bad form. So they don't do it. It may have nothing to do with a lack of curiosity.

[caliguy]

But they might indeed be curious - I would think most if not all escorts would be. I think the question is protocol - many escorts may just understand that asking for a description is considered bad form. So they don't do it. It may have nothing to do with a lack of curiosity.

There are more polite ways of going about it. Like tell me something about yourself? Most understand it's not about your favorite colors.

[+ freecahill1965]

Interesting concept but I find any kind of chemistry would be impossible if they don't care enough to even be curious.

 

I feel a good eschort creates good chemistry and or makes you feel good chemistry is present.

[+ freecahill1965]

But they might indeed be curious - I would think most if not all escorts would be. I think the question is protocol - many escorts may just understand that asking for a description is considered bad form. So they don't do it. It may have nothing to do with a lack of curiosity.

Agreed! Very well stated.

[caliguy]

I feel a good eschort creates good chemistry and or makes you feel good chemistry is present.

I would say the best guys in the business have real chemistry between themselves and the client. They always ask because they know getting to know the client is important in doing their job.

[MikeyGMin]

I wouldn't call it a red flag, but he most likely has limits and is screening for them. It could be age, it could be weight, it could be race. Hard to tell. I know I'm in the minority here, but it doesn't bother me. I maintain a Rentmen profile specifically to make it easy.

[+ freecahill1965]

Interesting concept but damn. they're not even curious? That is literally them saying I don't give a shit what they look like as long as they pay good.

 

They are a service provider. They provide a service. I would not feel comfortable about hiring anyone who sets conditions for their service when I am the one paying. AGAIN, I may compromise myself if I was desperate though I would not be proud of my action.

[bostonman]

There are more polite ways of going about it. Like tell me something about yourself? Most understand it's not about your favorite colors.

 

Yes.

 

Repeating from my earlier post:

 

"...if in the course of an initial and enjoyable conversation (phone or online) he casually asked me "by the way, what do you look like, just curious" - I don't think I'd feel offended. I see no harm in the all-too-human desire to want to know what a client looks like, etc - but it has to feel like it's part of wanting to get better acquainted rather than for screening purposes, etc."

[+ freecahill1965]

I wouldn't call it a red flag, but he most likely has limits and is screening for them. It could be age, it could be weight, it could be race. Hard to tell. I know I'm in the minority here, but it doesn't bother me. I maintain a Rentmen profile specifically to make it easy.

 

I agree having a RM profile helps to make it easier.

[ncc1701d]

age and stats fine, but pic has different implications in the world of internet.....total deal breaker for me and have only ever been asked twice in many years....ran away really fast both times and both escorts fired back yelling emails in all caps claiming it is standard practice ;-) So glad I dodged those bullets

[bostonman]

They are a service provider. They provide a service. I would not feel comfortable about hiring anyone who sets conditions for their service when I ask the one paying.

 

Yes, but many service providers of other sorts may indeed need to know specifics before they just show up and do their job. No, escorting may not be the same as a plumber needing to know what kind of pipes you have (no double entendes intended here, believe it or not), but in some cases knowing what a client looks like might help an escort prepare in his own way. (Hopefully, for instance, by a pic or description whetting his appetite, etc.)

[+ freecahill1965]

Yes.

 

Repeating from my earlier post:

 

"...if in the course of an initial and enjoyable conversation (phone or online) he casually asked me "by the way, what do you look like, just curious" - I don't think I'd feel offended. I see no harm in the all-too-human desire to want to know what a client looks like, etc - but it has to feel like it's part of wanting to get better acquainted rather than for screening purposes, etc."

 

I agree and I have shared under those circumstances but I did not interpret that was the case in the original post. I was under the impression it was more for screening.

[bostonman]

I agree and I have shared under those circumstances but I did not interpret that was the case in the original post.

 

Right. I didn't either lol.

[rvwnsd]

I do not think this is a "red flag," as that typically refers to a warning of a problem lurking ahead, such as a guy who will defraud, cheat, or steal. However, I won't hire a guy who in the first communication requests a picture. A few days ago I reached out to a relatively new escort and his reply was to the effect of "I need a physical connection, please send me a picture." Essentially, he doesn't understand that this isn't Grindr but for pay.

[Populist Fury]

I don't get what's so wrong with escorts wanting to see the guy they're going to eventually be fucking in advance. I'm always glad to provide them with stats and a pic of myself when asked for one, I even let them preview the bed we'll be making love in sometimes...

 

We can't expect escorts to not have their own preferences like us, we as clients are always judging them based on their looks, age, cock size, body type, whether they're masculine enough or not, etc... The least we can do is provide them with a preview of ourselves whenever they request one.

[+ sync]

I doubt anything can ever replace the convenience and ease of the good old hustler bars. What a great era for spontaneous fun that was.