Is it a red flag if...

[Rudynate]

I don't get what's so wrong with escorts wanting to see the guy they're going to eventually be fucking in advance. I'm always glad to provide them with stats and a pic of myself when asked for one, I even let them preview the bed we'll be making love in sometimes...

 

We can't expect escorts to not have their own preferences like us, we as clients are always judging them based on their looks, age, cock size, body type, whether they're masculine enough or not, etc... The least we can do is provide them with a preview of ourselves whenever they request one.

 

 

Asking for a pic violates an implicit agreement in the client-escort relationship, that your wallet levels the playing field. It is a red flag in the sense that it signals that the guy may not have the mastery over his mindset that a good escort has.

[peter831]

I have had very few escorts ask for a pic or stats. In every case but one, I moved on. The one exception I provided stats. It worked out okay, but generally I see this as a "red flag." I'm not auditioning for them, and it's not a Grindr hookup for free.

[Guest]

could care less about what a client looks like, but I do ask for age as just because if they say they are under 35 I just move on. I just prefer older clients as I feel they are more serious in hiring

[Sandlapp]

I would never send a picture. You don't know this guy. Most escorts I've met have been honorable men, but a few have been con artists or flakes.

[+ freecahill1965]

Asking for a pic violates an implicit agreement in the client-escort relationship, that your wallet levels the playing field. It is a red flag in the sense that it signals that the guy may not have the mastery over his mindset that a good escort has.

 

Very well stated, thank you!

[Populist Fury]

Asking for a pic violates an implicit agreement in the client-escort relationship, that your wallet levels the playing field. It is a red flag in the sense that it signals that the guy may not have the mastery over his mindset that a good escort has.

 

I get what you're saying, and maybe I'll change my mind on this someday when I'm older, etc. It just happens to work out pretty well for me now. I tend to be a demanding diva when negotiating with guys and I feel like it'd be unreasonable of me to deny them a simple request like this one, especially when I don't have an issue with sharing my pics with them.

[+ JEC]

Any time you ask yourself "is it a red flag if....". IT IS!

[MxB]

If the conversation is going well, and I've decided to meet the person, I'll volunteer some basic stats (height, weight, age) and sometimes an innocuous face picture.

 

This whole thread is very constructive, and also reinforces my preference to continue meeting the guys I've met in the past and with whom I have an established relationship. SO MUCH less stressful for all concerned. But there's that challenge of how to get to that point if you're new to hiring, or in a new place. Or if there's a new provider or a visitor who piques your interest.

[youngboldone]

If the conversation is going well, and I've decided to meet the person, I'll volunteer some basic stats (height, weight, age) and sometimes an innocuous face picture.

 

This whole thread is very constructive, and also reinforces my preference to continue meeting the guys I've met in the past and with whom I have an established relationship. SO MUCH less stressful for all concerned. But there's that challenge of how to get to that point if you're new to hiring, or in a new place. Or if there's a new provider or a visitor who piques your interest.

Thanks for all the responses. This has been an interesting and informative thread. I ended up sending him two face pics, which I think are pretty innocuous, but now I am a little worried that if I don't end up scheduling with him he will retaliate somehow? I hate feeling so paranoid. I told him because of my demanding work schedule I wouldn't be able to meet him until October. He texted me the other night to ask how I am as. We chatted a bit. He didn't push me to set something up. I have a fairly good feeling about him. Lesson learned here, though: never send pics from now on.

[Rudynate]

I ended up sending him two face pics, which I think are pretty innocuous, but now I am a little worried that if I don't end up scheduling with him he will retaliate somehow?

 

Escorts certainly are subject to human foibles, but why assume that he is the kind of person who would do that sort of thing? I have met quite a few escorts and almost all have been exceedingly nice men.

[Gadfly22]

I've seen the term "innocuous face pic" used several times in this thread. Can someone explain to me what that means? Or better yet tell me what a non-innocuous face pic is - one where I can see your penis? Just thought that was a curious choice of words.

P.S. I know what the word innocuous means. That wasn't the point.

[MikeyGMin]

I've seen the term "innocuous face pic" used several times in this thread. Can someone explain to me what that means? Or better yet tell me what a non-innocuous face pic is - one where I can see your penis? Just thought that was a curious choice of words.

P.S. I know what the word innocuous means. That wasn't the point.

I'm sure different people have different definitions, but to me, it's one that can be easily explained away as "anyone could have gotten that off the internet." So it definitely shouldn't be sexual. It could be shirtless if it's a candid shot from a lake or beach. I have one like that I send sometimes and I'm perfectly comfortable doing it. I have zero ramifications if I'm "exposed," but if I wanted to, I could just say someone got it off of Facebook.

[Gadfly22]

Hmmmm wasn't expecting a reply as my question was rhetorical. A face pic is de facto innocuous. That was the point. It was just a small attempt at humor. As for sending them - why take a chance? At least that's how I feel.