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They provide a very personal type of service, only that certain individual can provide. This may not be a "first cum, first served" basis for them. They may not be hurting for business, and have a way on how they conduct themselves. Nothing personal.

 

To the OP: send him whatever info/photos you're comfortable with. Go for it, and have a great time together.

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How I respond to a request for stats, depends on the tone of the question. If the tone is "i'd like to know what to expect so I can better prepare to serve your needs"; no problem. If I don't like the tone I move on. I've once actually had a guy ask me "are you white" - now THAT is a red flag in my book. I never respond to a request for pics - personal rule.

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https://rentmen.eu/BradRockwell

 

Was considering hiring this guy, but he asked me for photos, age, and stats. Is this a red flag? I don't want to be with some arrogant, ageist guy. He really pushes all the right buttons for me, though. I'm torn.

 

maybe he's not cut off for the nature of the business and wants to screen his clients.

 

If I was you I'd move on.

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I do not think this is a "red flag," as that typically refers to a warning of a problem lurking ahead, such as a guy who will defraud, cheat, or steal. However, I won't hire a guy who in the first communication requests a picture.

 

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In the conventional sense I think it's a red flag only if you think the picture might be used against you somehow; I have difficulty thinking of such a scenario.

 

Everyone has their own take on this - some are quite alright with it and others are dead set against providing a photo.

 

I don't provide photos for two reasons:

 

1) The request may signal that he is someone with whom my experience would vary based on how physically attractive he finds me. I'm looking for an intimate experience where, if I've done my homework properly in identifying a companion, we will be able to develop some level of connectedness that's a little deeper than a hookup. (One of my very first escort experiences was with an Atlanta porn star who, it turned out, had a reputation among clients for turning a cold shoulder to paying clients to whom he was not physically attracted. My visits (2 !) went very badly.)

 

2) Privacy. I don't send pictures to anyone online. Period. No social media, no community affairs, and especially no guys I've never met. Once some bit of information is "out there" it can never be undone. I derive no benefit from my personal information being in the public domain so I don't allow it to happen.

 

 

I would consider this a blessing in disguise - forewarned is forearmed. I'd not even consider meeting a guy who asked for pics in the way you describe. This is exactly like the escorts who wrap parameters - of age, for example - around who they will meet ("to make sure I can give you a good session"). Even if I meet their criteria I'd never hire them because it tells me that their idea of what our time together should be is intractably different from what I think it should be. I already have the answer to my question "How am I likely to feel after spending time with this person?" thereby saving me several hundred dollars.

 

Perhaps in this sense it is indeed a "red flag".

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In the conventional sense I think it's a red flag only if you think the picture might be used against you somehow; I have difficulty thinking of such a scenario.

 

Everyone has their own take on this - some are quite alright with it and others are dead set against providing a photo.

 

I don't provide photos for two reasons:

 

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Clients in certain occupations could regret sending out a photo to escorts.

 

Even if the escort does not have bad intentions, there are some occupations that could be destroyed if proof leaked out that the person willingly released his photo on a male sex for hire site.

 

At a minimum, the potential related embarrassment is not worth sending a photo, regardless of how good looking an escort might be.

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This is a little off topic but somewhat pertinent. I was talking to a cute younger (24) guy on Grindr over the weekend. He asked if I was generous and I told him I could be. He sent pics, cute but a few pounds overweight. Would have definitely hooked up with him for free but not paying for "Average Joe." He took offense st that.

 

Moral of the story: I pay for a fantasy. No need to pay for sex with average guys. Just to be clear, I'm not model material.

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https://rentmen.eu/BradRockwell

 

Was considering hiring this guy, but he asked me for photos, age, and stats. Is this a red flag? I don't want to be with some arrogant, ageist guy. He really pushes all the right buttons for me, though. I'm torn.

 

You've been accused of being afraid of rejection, but it's clear that you're just trying to figure out whether the escort's motives expose an attitude issue. If the escort is so bold as to ask for such details I'd have no problem responding with, "sure, but I've never had such a request from an escort, so I like to know why you need the information." Sometimes the greatest gift an escort can provide is self-elimination.

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Great thread. Lots of thoughtful responses. To me an escort who asks a client base of mostly discreet professionals for pics either hasn't put a lot of thought into it or is (and can afford to be) very selective. Having said that its not a deal breaker for me. As someone has already said I will gladly reply with my height weight age race and most importantly what I am into. (In fact I like when they ask that.) If they want more I just say no. And I can only recall one instance (out of 4 or 5 times that this happened) where the guy declined to see me. So my question to the panel is: have you ever refused to send a potential hire a pic but continue the conversation rather than immediately moving on? And if you did what happened?

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Great thread. Lots of thoughtful responses. To me an escort who asks a client base of mostly discreet professionals for pics either hasn't put a lot of thought into it or is (and can afford to be) very selective. Having said that its not a deal breaker for me. As someone has already said I will gladly reply with my height weight age race and most importantly what I am into. (In fact I like when they ask that.) If they want more I just say no. And I can only recall one instance (out of 4 or 5 times that this happened) where the guy declined to see me. So my question to the panel is: have you ever refused to send a potential hire a pic but continue the conversation rather than immediately moving on? And if you did what happened?

 

 

It's a turnoff, but maybe it makes sense. If he's not turned on enough by you to perform to your satisfaction, its money NOT well spent.

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It's a turnoff, but maybe it makes sense. If he's not turned on enough by you to perform to your satisfaction, its money NOT well spent.

 

It is fantasy. A good provider can make the client feel like he is like no other or the special one no matter the age or appearance for the most part. It is this feeling that makes the experience such a thrilling fantasy and being with the escort so awesome. If they have to ask your stats before seeing you or if they have restricting stats in their profile it blows the fantasy and makes you doubt the abilities of the provider. At that point, you just move on to your next fantasy provider.

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It is fantasy. A good provider can make the client feel like he is like no other or the special one no matter the age or appearance for the most part. It is this feeling that makes the experience such a thrilling fantasy and being with the escort so awesome. If they have to ask your stats before seeing you or if they have restricting stats in their profile it blows the fantasy and makes you doubt the abilities of the provider. At that point, you just move on to your next fantasy provider.

 

That's true, but some providers may NOT want to do it.... If they are OK with limiting THEIR market, who are we to disagree with them ?

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That's true, but some providers may NOT want to do it.... If they are OK with limiting THEIR market, who are we to disagree with them ?

 

I agree with you with out a doubt. The thread is on red flags. For the reasons I mentioned, I think it is a red flag in terms of having the best experience, therefore I would pass them over.

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I agree with you with out a doubt. The thread is on red flags. For the reasons I mentioned, I think it is a red flag in terms of having the best experience, therefore I would pass them over.

 

 

Unless of course if you are exactly the escorts type, then he may even give you a discount ?

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I don't really agree. It may make me doubt his ability to work with any and all comers, but it actually increases my confidence that he will be able to work well with me if he has seen the pictures in my Rentmen profile.

 

Yeah, you maybe right but when I am the one paying being found acceptable just does not make me feel comfortable. Also, I think viewing your profile is different than directly asking for pics and then being approved. I always ask providers to view my profile as well.

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https://rentmen.eu/BradRockwell

 

Was considering hiring this guy, but he asked me for photos, age, and stats. Is this a red flag? I don't want to be with some arrogant, ageist guy. He really pushes all the right buttons for me, though. I'm torn.

 

I know that u say, he is your type. But, fuck me running! Where in the hell does that guy get picky about asking for pics and age and stats of anybody. In my opinion, the guys go lucky you want to hire them

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age and stats fine, but pic has different implications in the world of internet.....total deal breaker for me and have only ever been asked twice in many years....ran away really fast both times and both escorts fired back yelling emails in all caps claiming it is standard practice ;-) So glad I dodged those bullets

@youngboldone - My experience has been similar to @ncc1701d. The few times I've been asked for a photo, the escort was either young or playing games. I choose not to "audition" for an escort or deal with flakes. However, without knowing the reason this particular escort is asking or how tactful he was, I'm not sure speculation is going to provide a solid answer. First meetings can be tricky, and sometimes awesome. If his profile looked good to me, I might offer some basic information and see if things click.

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