Are you ever surprised what your willing to do sexually?

[mike carey]

But there is one who. I try to see as often as possible for whom I have developed an affection from the first time I met him. While I enjoy sex with all the guys, being with him is always pleasure and sex with him, because it involves deep feelings, is always very special, or I might say fabulous.

I can imagine it is!

[BasketBaller]

My first time having sex with a man was with an escort, and I did it to "get it out of my system." I'd been curious for a long time but resisted, telling myself I didn't really want to do that. My plan was to hire someone whose reviews made him sound sympathetic and sensitive, let him fuck me, I'd hate it, and I could leave and go on with life knowing I was straight in spite of how much gay porn I'd been watching. One reason I held off for so long was that I thought of bottoming as submissive and that didn't appeal at all.

 

It almost worked. During penetration and just after, I did hate it, and almost stopped him. But I had come to get this out of my system so I had to do it all. And he was skilled and smart and read my signals so well, that it started to feel good. Real good. Verrry goooood! The first surprise, although I was not coherent enough to realize it until afterwards, was that I didn't feel like I was submitting to him, it felt very mutual. And the bigger surprise was that as it went on I was having physical sensations I didn't know I could have.

 

I left his hotel room physically satiated in a new way, and aware of my suspicion that it wasn't out of my system, that I'd want more. I wouldn't yet have been willing to identify as a bottom, but after another couple of attempts as sex with men I had no choice but to acknowledge that that was what I was. Am.

[mike carey]

Beautifully put, @BasketBaller.

[MartyB]

My first time having sex with a man was with an escort, and I did it to "get it out of my system." I'd been curious for a long time but resisted, telling myself I didn't really want to do that. My plan was to hire someone whose reviews made him sound sympathetic and sensitive, let him fuck me, I'd hate it, and I could leave and go on with life knowing I was straight in spite of how much gay porn I'd been watching. One reason I held off for so long was that I thought of bottoming as submissive and that didn't appeal at all.

 

It almost worked. During penetration and just after, I did hate it, and almost stopped him. But I had come to get this out of my system so I had to do it all. And he was skilled and smart and read my signals so well, that it started to feel good. Real good. Verrry goooood! The first surprise, although I was not coherent enough to realize it until afterwards, was that I didn't feel like I was submitting to him, it felt very mutual. And the bigger surprise was that as it went on I was having physical sensations I didn't know I could have.

 

I left his hotel room physically satiated in a new way, and aware of my suspicion that it wasn't out of my system, that I'd want more. I wouldn't yet have been willing to identify as a bottom, but after another couple of attempts as sex with men I had no choice but to acknowledge that that was what I was. Am.

You pretty much described my first encounter with being a bottom. I credit my escort as well. I do like to top as well but when u meet a man who is versatile each encounter makes it so exciting.

[Rudynate]

My favorite person got me to FF top him recently... something I never even considered. It was nerve-wracking but exhilarating after.

 

Congratulations! You've entered a whole new world.

[big-n-tall]

Nope. There are things I was/am always willing to do and some I just won't (because I have no interest in doing it).

 

For the right guy, I'm willing to do things I'm curious about. I don't have a fetish for feet, but if I know a guy really gets off on me worshipping their feet, I will. I'm not big into spit play either, but there is a particular guy in Philly and one who occasionally visits from Barcelona I have done it with. A popular guy on this forum has joked a lot about water sports the last few times I saw him. For him I would definitely try it. Hell, two working guys on two separate occasions mentioned to me they want me to do a mmf threesome with them. Both want to watch me have sex with a woman. And when its time for the finale... for me to cum on her nethers so they could lick/eat it off her. I haven't done it yet.

 

I never plan to fist, punch/beat, crap on, or cut someone.

[Rudynate]

Nope. There are things I was/am always willing to do and some I just won't (because I have no interest in doing it).

 

For the right guy, I'm willing to do things I'm curious about. I don't have a fetish for feet, but if I know a guy really gets off on me worshipping their feet, I will. I'm not big into spit play either, but there is a particular guy in Philly and one who occasionally visits from Barcelona I have done it with. A popular guy on this forum has joked a lot about water sports the last few times I saw him. For him I would definitely try it. Hell, two working guys on two separate occasions mentioned to me they want me to do a mmf threesome with them. Both want to watch have sex with the woman. And when its time for the finale... for me to cum on her nethers so they could lick/eat it off her. I haven't done it yet.

 

I never plan to fist, punch/beat, crap on, or cut someone.

 

 

Even the most flexible usually have a few hard limits.

[LoveNDino]

My first time having sex with a man was with an escort, and I did it to "get it out of my system." I'd been curious for a long time but resisted, telling myself I didn't really want to do that. My plan was to hire someone whose reviews made him sound sympathetic and sensitive, let him fuck me, I'd hate it, and I could leave and go on with life knowing I was straight in spite of how much gay porn I'd been watching. One reason I held off for so long was that I thought of bottoming as submissive and that didn't appeal at all.

 

It almost worked. During penetration and just after, I did hate it, and almost stopped him. But I had come to get this out of my system so I had to do it all. And he was skilled and smart and read my signals so well, that it started to feel good. Real good. Verrry goooood! The first surprise, although I was not coherent enough to realize it until afterwards, was that I didn't feel like I was submitting to him, it felt very mutual. And the bigger surprise was that as it went on I was having physical sensations I didn't know I could have.

 

I left his hotel room physically satiated in a new way, and aware of my suspicion that it wasn't out of my system, that I'd want more. I wouldn't yet have been willing to identify as a bottom, but after another couple of attempts as sex with men I had no choice but to acknowledge that that was what I was. Am.

See, when I read stuff like this, I start questioning why I have never bottomed. Damn you @BasketBaller !

[+ oldNbusted]

As far as the topic, not really, I started having sex with grown ups when I was 15 (my "demented jailbait" phase), before the plague years began, so I got that out of my system and settled on my boring preferences.

 

But, lthough I had been occasionally sneaking into bars (and sometimes not sneaking, one guy handcuffed us together and told the doorman "he's with me" as he held up our connected wrists), when I turned 18 (that was the legal age back then, kids), I knew I was going to be in a new environment, mostly on my own, so I took a vow of chastity for a year. I lasted 18 months.

[bostonman]

I still won't do certain things but damn I never realized how many erogenous zones I had on my body - what made me hard and what I loved to do with a man.

 

I bet that most of us learn more about our sexual desires as we go, especially as it comes to fetishes, kinks, erogenous zones, etc. I doubt, for instance, that most youngsters trying their first times in high school or even college are all that concerned with anything except getting in and getting off, lol - they may be aware of what specific body parts they like on their partner, or discovering that being touched in a certain place is exciting - but mostly, I would think it's about the mechanics of basic sex, and the excitement of being close to someone else in general, but not the finer points, lol.

 

I say this because in thinking about my own fetishes, erogenous zones, kinks, etc, I think I can trace some knowledge of all of them back to my teen years or even earlier. But I didn't start trying to explore most of them until at least college, and one kink I didn't try out until I was over 30. The ability to explore them may have been because of the specific partners I was with, or a budding maturity in terms of what I could accept within myself and the courage to try things that might have seemed "weird" at a younger age, etc. There are still plenty of things I know I don't want to do - but at 53 now, I'm very happy with my repertoire lol.

 

I think it may also have a lot to do with how we're taught about sex (or not taught). I still remember an eye-opening talk I had with a quasi-girlfriend in college when I finally admitted to her that I was bi (which I thought I was at the time - but I'm much closer to gay lol). This was just after AIDS had become an epidemic. She asked me, somewhat alarmed, "so, you really have sex with other guys?" I explained that I didn't do anal sex - the riskiest activity - because I really didn't enjoy it. Her response floored me. "But - fucking IS sex. Everything else is foreplay." And I realized that she was brought up to think of sex in a very hetero, traditional, conservative way, and yet I had already realized that sex, for me, could be many other things other than just penetration. Oral sex to her was "merely foreplay" while to me it could be actual sex. Ditto for any type of body exploration/fetish play, etc, which might be just as exciting to me - but for her, would only have been starting to round the bases, lol. And in some ways, my coming out just before AIDS started, with "safe sex" all of a sudden becoming such a huge new term as I went through college, helped me define, by necessity, ways that I could feel (and give) satisfaction in bed in a safer way - which for me meant finding the sensuality in sexual touch in general, not just the orgasm.

 

And, discovering erogenous zones - I honestly don't remember when I realized that my nipples were "hard-wired," but certainly by college I knew they were a major hot spot for me. I remember having this flirty relationship with a classmate (we never did sleep together, but we flirted around it a lot) and trying to describe to him what it felt like when someone touched me there - he was totally unaware that some men had sensation in their nipples. This fascinated him - whereas for me it was a given, and not unusual at all. I remember finding it very funny that he was so amazed by this.

 

But - for instance, even though I do remember starting to notice, even before adolescence, that male armpit hair held a fascination for me, it didn't become something I really dared to explore sexually until college at least. (By high school, I was aware enough that I knew I wanted to touch and explore a guy's pits, maybe more - but I would have been afraid to act on my impulse. Eventually, I was secure enough within myself that I could admit I wasn't a weirdo for liking that part of the body.)

 

And so forth.

 

In some ways, it's a classic "gee, I wish I knew then what I know now" - one wonders how much fun I could have had with fetishes and curiosities when I was a newbie had I been more aware of them lol - but as I said, I think our sexual desires develop as we grow,

[MikeBiDude]

I explained that I didn't do anal sex - the riskiest activity - because I really didn't enjoy it. Her response floored me. "But - fucking IS sex. Everything else is foreplay." And I realized that she was brought up to think of sex in a very hetero, traditional, conservative way, and yet I had already realized that sex, for me, could be many other things other than just penetration. Oral sex to her was "merely foreplay" while to me it could be actual sex

 

It's interesting, I find this girl's understanding of "sex" to be the same in MANY young men in the 18-26ish range that I chat up nowadays. I've found a profile for a young man that may say "no sex" doesn't mean no "fun". A guy from Seeking Arrangements that I've played naked-everything-but-anal with 3 times now, says on the phone the other day "do you want to have sex next time?".

 

Interesting and different from my young days.

[LoveNDino]

It's interesting, I find this girl's understanding of "sex" to be the same in MANY young men in the 18-26ish range that I chat up nowadays. I've found a profile for a young man that may say "no sex" doesn't mean no "fun". A guy from Seeking Arrangements that I've played naked-everything-but-anal with 3 times now, says on the phone the other day "do you want to have sex next time?".

 

Interesting and different from my young days.

I bet that most of us learn more about our sexual desires as we go, especially as it comes to fetishes, kinks, erogenous zones, etc. I doubt, for instance, that most youngsters trying their first times in high school or even college are all that concerned with anything except getting in and getting off, lol - they may be aware of what specific body parts they like on their partner, or discovering that being touched in a certain place is exciting - but mostly, I would think it's about the mechanics of basic sex, and the excitement of being close to someone else in general, but not the finer points, lol.

 

I say this because in thinking about my own fetishes, erogenous zones, kinks, etc, I think I can trace some knowledge of all of them back to my teen years or even earlier. But I didn't start trying to explore most of them until at least college, and one kink I didn't try out until I was over 30. The ability to explore them may have been because of the specific partners I was with, or a budding maturity in terms of what I could accept within myself and the courage to try things that might have seemed "weird" at a younger age, etc. There are still plenty of things I know I don't want to do - but at 53 now, I'm very happy with my repertoire lol.

 

I think it may also have a lot to do with how we're taught about sex (or not taught). I still remember an eye-opening talk I had with a quasi-girlfriend in college when I finally admitted to her that I was bi (which I thought I was at the time - but I'm much closer to gay lol). This was just after AIDS had become an epidemic. She asked me, somewhat alarmed, "so, you really have sex with other guys?" I explained that I didn't do anal sex - the riskiest activity - because I really didn't enjoy it. Her response floored me. "But - fucking IS sex. Everything else is foreplay." And I realized that she was brought up to think of sex in a very hetero, traditional, conservative way, and yet I had already realized that sex, for me, could be many other things other than just penetration. Oral sex to her was "merely foreplay" while to me it could be actual sex. Ditto for any type of body exploration/fetish play, etc, which might be just as exciting to me - but for her, would only have been starting to round the bases, lol. And in some ways, my coming out just before AIDS started, with "safe sex" all of a sudden becoming such a huge new term as I went through college, helped me define, by necessity, ways that I could feel (and give) satisfaction in bed in a safer way - which for me meant finding the sensuality in sexual touch in general, not just the orgasm.

 

And, discovering erogenous zones - I honestly don't remember when I realized that my nipples were "hard-wired," but certainly by college I knew they were a major hot spot for me. I remember having this flirty relationship with a classmate (we never did sleep together, but we flirted around it a lot) and trying to describe to him what it felt like when someone touched me there - he was totally unaware that some men had sensation in their nipples. This fascinated him - whereas for me it was a given, and not unusual at all. I remember finding it very funny that he was so amazed by this.

 

But - for instance, even though I do remember starting to notice, even before adolescence, that male armpit hair held a fascination for me, it didn't become something I really dared to explore sexually until college at least. (By high school, I was aware enough that I knew I wanted to touch and explore a guy's pits, maybe more - but I would have been afraid to act on my impulse. Eventually, I was secure enough within myself that I could admit I wasn't a weirdo for liking that part of the body.)

 

And so forth.

 

In some ways, it's a classic "gee, I wish I knew then what I know now" - one wonders how much fun I could have had with fetishes and curiosities when I was a newbie had I been more aware of them lol - but as I said, I think our sexual desires develop as we grow,

 

How else would certain pop stars be able to claim faithfulness to their "purity vows" if it weren't for these distinctions in their heads?

[bostonman]

It's interesting, I find this girl's understanding of "sex" to be the same in MANY young men in the 18-26ish range that I chat up nowadays. I've found a profile for a young man that may say "no sex" doesn't mean no "fun". A guy from Seeking Arrangements that I've played naked-everything-but-anal with 3 times now, says on the phone the other day "do you want to have sex next time?".

 

Interesting and different from my young days.

 

How else would certain pop stars be able to claim faithfulness to their "purity vows" if it weren't for these distinctions in their heads?

 

And of course, it was Bill Clinton's attempted defense against Monica as well - the idea that "oral sex" isn't "sex."

[LoveNDino]

And of course, it was Bill Clinton's attempted defense against Monica as well - the idea that "oral sex" isn't "sex."

Good point. As much as I am an avowed Clintonista, even I cannot defend that...

[Rudynate]

It's interesting, I find this girl's understanding of "sex" to be the same in MANY young men in the 18-26ish range that I chat up nowadays. I've found a profile for a young man that may say "no sex" doesn't mean no "fun". A guy from Seeking Arrangements that I've played naked-everything-but-anal with 3 times now, says on the phone the other day "do you want to have sex next time?".

 

Interesting and different from my young days.

 

I've always thought that - unless somebody gets fucked, it's only foreplay. Doesn't make sense, I know.

[+ Keith30309]

I've always thought that - unless somebody gets fucked, it's only foreplay. Doesn't make sense, I know.

 

LOL - this is interesting... I likewise know a 20-something (from SA) who is quite fine with giving/receiving oral but maintains that he is a virgin.

[bostonman]

I've always thought that - unless somebody gets fucked, it's only foreplay. Doesn't make sense, I know.

 

I certainly don't think it's an uncommon way of thinking - just that I had never thought of it in exactly those terms until that discussion with my then-gf (with whom, by the way, I had not had sex, lol).

 

With all the metaphors we have - terms like "heavy petting" (to distinguish from going "all the way"), or "running the bases" (to determine how far you went), it's certainly clear that many people view intercourse as the goal to get to (or the "home run" so as to not mix metaphors) - that's no surprise. I guess the difference is in how one rates everything else along the way, and whether there's meant to be a specific progression (does it have to go from kissing to handjob to oral to fucking, as the "bases" would imply?) or if "a la carte" is allowed lol. In my way of thinking, oral sex isn't necessarily a prep point along the way while you're waiting to get to intercourse - it can be the desired destination itself.

 

I think another factor for me, as I mentioned before, was the timing of my coming out and coming of age in terms of history. That is, I was starting to become sexually active (and already finding myself not all that interested in anal sex, but LOVING oral, lol) just a year or two before AIDS hit us - so I was the first generation molded by "safe sex." And I do think that safe sex forced a lot of people to rethink their sexual appetite in some ways. When I was growing up, the only true danger of (hetero) fucking (and the only reason to use condoms) was pregnancy (yes, we were told about VD, but at that point, STD's were considered easily curable). Now, all of a sudden, there was something called "unsafe" sex that could eventually kill. I think for someone like me with an already hedonistic view of sex (instead of it being about goal-oriented fucking), I all of a sudden felt much freer to explore other sensual/erotic avenues and realize that they could become as exciting as anything else. Even to the point where an intense sensual experience without reaching orgasm could possibly be just as satisfying as what we normally view as "sex." (The idea being - enjoy the moment itself, fully, not just where the moment might lead.)

 

So, I do tend to think that, especially for those of us who were becoming sexual creatures in the 1980's/90's, "safe sex" did shape our outlook on sex in general. And for people like me, it actually liberated my sexual expectations to where fucking didn't have to be the goal if I didn't want it to be. So there.

[samhexum]

Firefighters in Worms, Germany used a hydraulic saw and a grinder to free the entrapped man's member.Facebook

This guy couldn’t pull his own weight.

 

On Friday, a man in Worms, Germany got his penis stuck in the hole of a 5 ½-pound dumbbell plate at the gym, Fox LA reports.

 

Firefighters were called to the scene. It took a hydraulic saw, a grinder and three hours for Worms’ finest to free the entrapped man.

 

Later, the fire department shared a photo of the broken weight on Facebook. It’s captioned with a warning: “Please do not imitate such actions!” (The Post has reached out to the fire department for comment.)

 

The gym enthusiast is reportedly making a full recovery.