What to do

[Michael Paul]

I think that whatever approach YOU take is up to you, and is perfectly OK if it's a genuine reflection of who you are. You can't control the response of the other person, and sending a message might turn them off or it might have them schedule an appointment, just as not sending a message might have some guys think you're not interested after they've checked you out.

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Eric...You sort of hit the nail on the head as far as how my mind works and how I treat people. Something in my profile peaked an interest in a potential client. What if he is that guy who is afraid to make that first move, or that guy that thinks because I did not contact him, must think I'm not interested in him. I feel in my mind that I should acknowledge them with my 'Thank You" for those very reasons. Beside the fact that I am a nice guy. I said it before there are different feeling on this topic, that is very true. With that said, those of us that are just getting into the business, we are not known as of right now. I feel confident that I will become one of those "Known" Escorts

Have a nice one,

MP

[Deadlift1]

[bigvalboy]

h 22... For me it's just me being me... I will say

" Thank You for checking out my profile, If there is anything I can do for you please let me know. Have a nice day."

Is that really that bad?

 

No...I think that response is perfect. It doesn't seem too pushy at all. I don't do Rentmen, so there isn't any contact with escorts from that site. I just don't trust the ads. If I'm going to hire an escort, it will be from this forum, and it will be based on recommendations from forum members that I trust, AND on how the escort conducts himself here.

 

Kindness is sexy...those with attitude are simply ignored. Life's just way too short.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Let's put it this way, and of course there will always be clients who see it in a different way. But thinking mainstream, imagine a movie in the far west. The hero walks into the saloon where all the whores are working. One whore is in the counter, checks him up, and just waits for him to make the first move. Another whore runs to meet him and offer him her services. Which one is the highest class whore? which one is in a stronger position to deal with the client?

[Michael Paul]

No...I think that response is perfect. It doesn't seem too pushy at all. I don't do Rentmen, so there isn't any contact with escorts from that site. I just don't trust the ads. If I'm going to hire an escort, it will be from this forum, and it will be based on recommendations from forum members that I trust, AND on how the escort conducts himself here.

 

Kindness is sexy...those with attitude are simply ignored. Life's just way too short.

 

Thank You kind Sir.... I was brought up right ....

[+ VictorPowers]

So my RM ad is finally approved and online! WOOO HOOO!!!! I have been listed in almost a year so I understand that I am the new kid on the block or fresh meat listing for RM. I've noticed theres a few guys whove viewd my profile 6-8 times each. Would it be pushy if I sent them an email, say howdy and break the ice? I don't want to come across as a thirsty hooker.

 

Hugs,

Greg

I have done this a couple times. I kept the message light and on one occasion it turned into an appointment. Ultimately, I found it to be a waste of my time. If they are too scared to contact you, maybe they will get cold feet minutes before an appointment and No show. I like to leave the ball in their court. Maybe they are viewing you since they are deciding between 2 different providers. There is also the possibility they are enjoying your private gallery

[crushme99]

Wow, I didn't even know that the number of visits to a RM page was tracked and counted. Makes sense, tho. I suppose checking on particular escorts – window shopping and monitoring schedules – could make a fellow look like a creeper. What an uplifting thought. LOL.

[myophile]

Call me creepy, but I do tend to visit RM profiles of favorite hotties multiple times, checking for new pictures, updated travel schedules, etc. : fanboy stuff, sure, but also legitimate research in pursuit of this hobby. But I would never actually contact an escort unless I was serious about hooking up, either then and there, or the next time his travel schedule allows.

[mike carey]

Wow, I didn't even know that the number of visits to a RM page was tracked and counted.

Call me creepy, but I do tend to visit RM profiles of favorite hotties multiple times, checking for new pictures, updated travel schedules, etc.

From looking at my profile (as a client) it appears that the counter for number of profile visits (on the right of the screen) clicks over when someone views it whether they have their profile visibility turned on or not. I can count the number of individuals whom I have seen view my profile on the fingers of one hand, but the number of profile views is in the high double figures, so I have no idea who most of them are. I check escorts' profiles for the same reasons and myophile so have profile visibility turned off to avoid that creepy or stalkish look.

[Pepper Young]

Actually, as a client, I don't mind if the escort reaches out to me. It's a pleasant surprise. Of course, it may not go anywhere. But I tend not to visit an escort's page multiple times because a) they can see who is looking at their page and b) it's sort of creepy.

[rvwnsd]

So Imma take the general consensus is not to contact the persons even though they've neared double digits on views of the profile.

 

Hugs,

Greg

Although I am perfectly comfortable with an escort reaching out to me on RM, I agree that someone who has looked at your profile upwards of 10 times has had ample opportunity to contact you. Don't bother with them. That being said, I have looked at guys' profiles multiple times when they indicate they might visit my city in the future. I do that to see whether they have a visit scheduled. However, if I see that they ARE visiting I send them a note. my guess is I'm NOT the norm. Most guys who look at your profile over and over are probably using it as JO material.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Do you not see how desperate it looks like? It means you do not have enough clients reaching out to you and your free time is abundant.

[+ WmClarke]

Do you not see how desperate it looks like? It means you do not have enough clients reaching out to you and your free time is abundant.

It doesn't mean that at all.

 

I have had escorts contact me after I looked at their profile. A brief conversation is always appreciated. I am completely up front and let them know if (1) I'm interested relatively soon, (2) I may be in their area later in the year, or (3) I'm just looking.

 

And one of my most frequent hires contacted me first via rentmen. A popular escort who is sometimes difficult to contact. Certainly not someone who is "desperate" and who certainly does not have "abundant" free time.

[LaffingBear]

Do you not see how desperate it looks like? It means you do not have enough clients reaching out to you and your free time is abundant.

I dont infer that when a RentMan messages me.

 

Those who wrote that there's no one correct (non) response got it right.

[AquaNYC]

Actually, as a client, I don't mind if the escort reaches out to me. It's a pleasant surprise. Of course, it may not go anywhere. But I tend not to visit an escort's page multiple times because a) they can see who is looking at their page and b) it's sort of creepy.

I wasn't aware an escort could see that you checked out his profile multiple times if you selected the privacy feature in settings. Can they still see your activity? If so, OMG, they must think I'm a huge perv. I travel often for business and when I have trips coming up, I do tend to peruse the ads to see any new pics, info, and make selection plans (haven't quite found my "regulars" yet). Typically, I plan ahead, so I do peruse multiple times to make up my mind.

[+ poolboy48220]

To the best of my knowledge the privacy settings work, they can't see that you've visited the profile if that setting is on. I rarely leave it on, though.

[pubic_assistance]

I don't want to come across as a thirsty hooker.

It never comes across as "thirsty", merely ambitious...which as a businessman myself, I respect. I say, a quick hello can break the ice that forms around some gay men who are nervous to finally take the plunge.

[mike carey]

I wasn't aware an escort could see that you checked out his profile multiple times if you selected the privacy feature in settings. Can they still see your activity?

To the best of my knowledge the privacy settings work, they can't see that you've visited the profile if that setting is on.

They can't see that you have looked if you have the privacy setting on. I did a test on that with and escort about 12 months ago. While they can't see that you looked, they can see how many views their profile has had, so they will know someone has looked that many times since they last checked their total views.

[AquaNYC]

They can't see that you have looked if you have the privacy setting on. I did a test on that with and escort about 12 months ago. While they can't see that you looked, they can see how many views their profile has had, so they will know someone has looked that many times since they last checked their total views.

What a relief

[Mocha]

That's why despite the occasional annoyances, Adam4adam is good. It's less intrusive to send a smile to a potential client.

 

For a minute i was recommending to contact people who looked at your profile. However i revert back to my previous stance. You can look back or maybe say hi. But it's hard enough getting interested people to follow through versus randomly passing through people who looked at you.

 

It's like in public...people look at me all the time. Men with girlfriend and kids seem to look at me all the time. I want to ask, "can i help you"...but i know they want nothing. They just looking for no reason at all. Some people ain't learned it's not polite to stare unless you want some. They ain't want any of this. Or maybe they do but are too afraid to say it.

[Mocha]

That's why despite the occasional annoyances, Adam4adam is good. It's less intrusive to send a smile to a potential client.

 

For a minute i was recommending to contact people who looked at your profile. However i revert back to my previous stance. You can look back or maybe say hi. But it's hard enough getting interested people to follow through versus randomly passing through people who looked at you.

 

It's like in public...people look at me all the time. Men with girlfriend and kids seem to look at me all the time. I want to ask, "can i help you"...but i know they want nothing. They just looking for no reason at all. Some people ain't learned it's not polite to stare unless you want some. They ain't want any of this. Or maybe they do but are too afraid to say it.