What to do

[+ GregM]

So my RM ad is finally approved and online! WOOO HOOO!!!! I have been listed in almost a year so I understand that I am the new kid on the block or fresh meat listing for RM. I've noticed theres a few guys whove viewd my profile 6-8 times each. Would it be pushy if I sent them an email, say howdy and break the ice? I don't want to come across as a thirsty hooker.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[MartyB]

So my RM ad is finally approved and online! WOOO HOOO!!!! I have been listed in almost a year so I understand that I am the new kid on the block or fresh meat listing for RM. I've noticed theres a few guys whove viewd my profile 6-8 times each. Would it be pushy if I sent them an email, say howdy and break the ice? I don't want to come across as a thirsty hooker.

 

Hugs,

Greg

It's never offended me if an escort acknowledges that I've viewed their profile. It does break the ice. Dialogue can commence. I say go for it.

[Kevin Slater]

I say if they've looked at your ad multiple times, they're well aware of your existence. They'll contact you if and when the mood strikes.

 

Kevin Slater

[+ jrhoutex]

When I first began this hobby, depending on the communication I found it either welcoming or assertive. It is nice to know someone is interested without being overbearing. The key is to strike a balance. I will tell you that some of the earlier communications did eventually leave up to a hiring session.

 

Some clients don't like to be contacted while others don't mind. A lot of it has to do with the communication and perhaps how long they have been hiring.

 

@Kevin Slater is right, they are aware of and like your ad and will pull the trigger when they are ready.

[+ poolboy48220]

I'm flattered if they contact me, but if it peters out without a hire then they contact me again without seeming to know they've contacted me previously, that's definitely offputting.

[+ MostlyLurking]

Hi Greg. Congratulations on getting your RM listing up!

 

For the link on your signature here, you might want to link to the Rent.Men site rather than RentMen.com. It's a better version of the site.

 

I've been contacted a few times by escorts whose pages I'd looked at. I have had mixed feelings. It made me uncomfortable to realize that guys knew that I'd looked at their ad six times. I'm afraid they'll get the wrong idea. Or worse, that they'd get the right idea. It also made me uncomfortable to be contacted by somebody who didn't appeal to me: I hate saying "no" almost as much as I hate hearing it. On the other hand, I'm pretty solidly bottom and at least marginally submissive. So there's a thrill in being asked, and besides, it may be an indication that the meeting would go well. Like I said, I have mixed feelings. For some time I turned on the privacy switch so escorts couldn't see that I'd looked at their profile. Recently I've turned it back on. I don't know what's changed.

[BabyBoomer]

So my RM ad is finally approved and online!

 

I think you look great in all the pix, considering the hell you went through last year. Good luck.

 

~Boomer ~

[+ GregM]

I think you look great in all the pix, considering the hell you went through last year. Good luck.

 

~Boomer ~

 

All the pics posted as of right now are pre treatment. I am lucky though in that I still look the same. The only thing that is different is that my hair on my head has more wave and is a lil softer. I'm still trying to figure out what to do with it.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ GregM]

So Imma take the general consensus is not to contact the persons even though they've neared double digits on views of the profile.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[SuperJunior]

I'm green as last night's grass to all this as a client, but I was ok with guys saying thanks for checking me out on RM. LOL to your "thirsty hooker" statement. There was a basement bar here in Atlanta called The Gallus that had a Thirsty Hooker cocktail. Oh, the 80s.

[MikeBiDude]

For the link on your signature here, you might want to link to the Rent.Men site rather than RentMen.com. It's a better version of the site.

That's not universally accepted as true, there are more than one threads elsewhere on these forum re: Rentmen v. Rent.Men. Results and preferences vary

[+ Keith30309]

I've hired 2 or 3 guys who messaged me and said hello who I may not have otherwise hired.

When I'm visiting a city and will only have a few days then I do the research in advance of the guy(s) I will hire, sometimes looking at someone's profile several times.

A friendly "Hello" may start a dialogue that ends up in a meet. If I'm on the fence or rushed then it's easier to continue a discussion than start a new one.

 

It's not a big factor but, on the other hand, I've never been annoyed by a polite hello.

[+ BigRic]

Don't "chase" clients, Greg. To quote Serge from Beverly Hills Cop, "This is not sexy, it's animal." Many won't admit it but a lotta those guys repeatedly peeping your profile are jacking off with no intent to hire.

[Michael Paul]

Hope it okay if I break into this conversation. I'm fairly new as well.... I have also sent a "Thank You for checking out my profile" note .... I guess it's just who I am and my Southern charm.

[KennF]

Would it be pushy if I sent them an email, say howdy and break the ice? I don't want to come across as a thirsty hooker.

 

Alternative Perspective:

 

It all depends on how you approach your communication. If you are aggressive, then you may startle or scare the person away. If you just say hi and thank them for visiting, then you're usually okay. You can even say that you're flattered that they've stopped by.

 

The fact that you acknowledged them communicates you are focused on them. Which is, of course, what most clients want.... to have their wants/needs satisfied.

 

In the client's mind, just as at a bar or club or dating app or whatever, they may feel they've made the first step.

[KennF]

For the link on your signature here, you might want to link to the Rent.Men site rather than RentMen.com. It's a better version of the site.

 

That's questionable. It is newer, but not necessarily better. I still find I dislike Rent.Men and prefer the RentMen.com site. I find the search functions and picture layout annoying. On a phone, the Rent.Men site loads faster and is more responsive, but on a PC or Tablet, I find the Rentmen.com site much more appealing.

[AquaNYC]

I wouldn't mind if an escort reaches out to me after he sees I have been checking out his ad. I have sent emails through RM to a few and haven't received responses, so assuming that is not a preferred method of inquiry. I would see the outreach as a professional seeking business, and I much rather consider an opportunity with someone who really enjoys and likes doing this work.

[LaffingBear]

As a client, Im fine if a Rentman acknowledges that Ive viewed his ad, sends me a message.

 

Don't infer anything business-related from views. I wish I got business from all of my views on LinkedIn.

 

Remember this perspective with anything sexually oriented online. Tons of lookiloos.

 

Right now, there are many great clients on this site. Well-adjusted adults who actually hire. But Id bet that there are many non-registered viewers simply titillated by the discussions, and even a few registered users who post 411 request after 411 request.... masturbating over the fantasies they'll never act upon. You might be wasting your time if you message them. But, your message might be the thing that causes some pimply weirdo to climax.

[KennF]

But, your message might be the thing that causes some pimply weirdo to climax.

 

Or gets them to respond and gets an appointment.

[Michael Paul]

Seems like from what I can tell from reading all the post there is no definitive correct answer. Some of the season Pros think it's wrong, that if the client was interested they would have acknowledged the escort after they had viewed their profile. While others think it is alright... kind of like breaking the Ice. As for the clients that have replied the same situation applies to them as well. With the difference that some have stated that they like the "Thank You" messages. Seems like a catch 22... For me it's just me being me... I will say

" Thank You for checking out my profile, If there is anything I can do for you please let me know. Have a nice day."

Is that really that bad?

[+ poolboy48220]

No, it's not really that bad, just the once. To me it says the escort's aware of what's going on, and potentially interested himself. On the other hand, if I get multiple messages like that, every time I check out a guys's ad, with no indication in the message that he remembers that he's contacted me before; that tells me the guy is just auto-replying.

[LaffingBear]

Seems like from what I can tell from reading all the post there is no definitive correct answer.

I believe thats the subtitle for a soon the be released research paper on all social media

[tanman4u]

I've hired 2 or 3 guys who messaged me and said hello who I may not have otherwise hired.

When I'm visiting a city and will only have a few days then I do the research in advance of the guy(s) I will hire, sometimes looking at someone's profile several times.

A friendly "Hello" may start a dialogue that ends up in a meet. If I'm on the fence or rushed then it's easier to continue a discussion than start a new one.

 

It's not a big factor but, on the other hand, I've never been annoyed by a polite hello.

I was about to type everything that you just said in your reply. So... DITTO.

[+ Eric Hassan]

Seems like from what I can tell from reading all the post there is no definitive correct answer. Some of the season Pros think it's wrong, that if the client was interested they would have acknowledged the escort after they had viewed their profile. While others think it is alright... kind of like breaking the Ice. As for the clients that have replied the same situation applies to them as well. With the difference that some have stated that they like the "Thank You" messages. Seems like a catch 22... For me it's just me being me... I will say

" Thank You for checking out my profile, If there is anything I can do for you please let me know. Have a nice day."

Is that really that bad?

 

I think that whatever approach YOU take is up to you, and is perfectly OK if it's a genuine reflection of who you are. You can't control the response of the other person, and sending a message might turn them off or it might have them schedule an appointment, just as not sending a message might have some guys think you're not interested after they've checked you out.

 

I personally lean towards the @Kevin Slater approach - people have seen me, they know who I am, and they'll reach out if/when they want. I do, however, reach out if I notice that the person has some text or pictures that intrigue me enough that I'm compelled to respond. For example, I've had a few guys visit my page multiple times that clearly state they are a bit shy in their profile, and I might write to them just to break the ice. Otherwise, it's not my business why someone might visit my profile multiple times and sending message to multiple visit guys doesn't feel consistent with who I am or how I would want to be treated if I were a client.

[+ José Soplanucas]

@Kevin Slater is right. Do not make the first contact. It makes you look desperate and you are giving away all the power to the client. Don't do it.

 

So my RM ad is finally approved and online! WOOO HOOO!!!! I have been listed in almost a year so I understand that I am the new kid on the block or fresh meat listing for RM. I've noticed theres a few guys whove viewd my profile 6-8 times each. Would it be pushy if I sent them an email, say howdy and break the ice? I don't want to come across as a thirsty hooker.

 

Hugs,

Greg