"The "best" guys are scooped up & "kept" by the wealthy" - true? false?

[+ newguy]

Several forum members more experienced than myself noted (usually

woefully) that some escorts who were exceptionally desirable

had been "scooped up" and privately "kept" by extremely

wealthy older gay men.

 

They are noted to be "off the market."

 

In your experience, or to the best of your knowledge, is this

generally the case in this private world of ours?

 

NG

[MikeBiDude]

I'll let others with more experience speak specifically. But, I'm thinking maybe it's not as common as you might be led to believe. At least for longer terms.

[Chuckball]

I have not seen situations where this happens. However, I have on occasion hired escorts who charge "over the going rate" and found the experience no better and in some cases worse than escorts who charge a more reasonable rate. It gives lie to the old expression "you get what you pay for". So I am not worried in the least that all the best guys are being scooped up.

[jawjateck]

Two guys that I know who tried it, meaning they had exclusive arrangements, both told me that it was the worst mistake of their lives.

[mike carey]

I can only speak to this issue hypothetically. I think 'the best' is a subjective judgment not an objective fact. So if some guys are in exclusive arrangements (good luck to them) it would be because one rich guy took a liking to them and took them out of the wider market. That doesn't mean that the rest of us would think the men in question were 'the best'. From the thread about best escort experiences, there are many guys who some clients think are the best ever. Many of the ones commonly on that list seem to revel in their freedom to see a variety of clients. There are a few guys who if they disappeared into an exclusive arrangement, I would be mortified even though I haven't met them (yet), but they don't seem inclined to take that step.

[AdamSmith]

Two guys that I know who tried it, meaning they had exclusive arrangements, both told me that it was the worst mistake of their lives.

The one I know who did this for a bit over a year said exactly the same thing.

[big-n-tall]

One of my best hires was Tylor (Ashton from Sean Cody). He is the only guy I have met who was scooped up by a billionaire. The same guy who was extorted by Jarec (also from Sean Cody). As everyone knows by now that didn't necessarily go well. Tyler occasionally advertises for women and m/f couples. Sadly not for men anymore.

 

It's more likely the best hires settle down with their significant others, retire, or just move on.

 

I've been fortunate enough that a decent number of my fav guys (who have retired/moved on), I still get to see either platonically or other. ;p

[+ newguy]

One of my best hires was Tylor (Ashton from Sean Cody). He is the only guy I have met who was scooped up by a billionaire. The same guy who was extorted by Jarec (also from Sean Cody). As everyone knows by now that didn't necessarily go well. Tyler occasionally advertises for women and m/f couples. Sadly not for men anymore.

 

It's more likely the best hires settle down with their significant others, retire, or just move on.

 

I've been fortunate enough that a decent number of my fav guys (who have retired/moved on), I still get to see either platonically or other. ;p

 

Any more examples of "creme de la creme" scooped up by billionaires or

poor multi-millionaires? Inquiring minds want to know (more)!

[MscleLovr]

I've "scooped up" 3 extremely hot young men in my time and had relationships of several years duration.

 

The first was very charming and had a beautiful, symmetrical physique. He was sexually voracious and enjoyed being very compliant. He gave me some of the best sex of my life, and we were together for a long time. He is now middle-aged, still very fit but living on his own and working in an ordinary office job.

 

The second was an A&F model. He was hot and glorious-looking but in private was rather a demanding hustler. Sex was great but he'd "ration" me to get what he wanted. It didn't last much more than a year with him. Since then, he's moved onto 2 other older men but he can't change his character and each has got rid of him after a while. Now in his early 30s, he's aimless, without a patron, and trying to make his way as a freelance.

 

The third was charismatic with a ripped, muscled body. He was enthusiastic sexually. He worked hard to please me in and out of bed for several years. He worked then as a personal trainer but lately has decided to retrain as a teacher.

 

Speaking purely for myself, the arrangements worked well and I found the expense quite reasonable. Certainly it suited both parties and, with one exception, the endings of the relationships were amicable.

 

I also encountered several other, very handsome young men over the years. Some I met at group 'parties' and some approached me individually. All were hoping and looking for such an exclusive arrangement. I know that 2 of the guys did indeed find patrons. So my answer to the OP's question is Yes.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

The smartest guys don't let themselves be 'kept.' It's a fool's gold investment.

 

The most powerful word in any escort's arsenal is 'no, thank you.' You can't easily say that when you only have a singular stream of kept income.

[Epigonos]

Mike Carey makes an excellent point. Just exactly how do we define "exceptionally desirable" -- exceptionally desirable in whose eyes? That term in very, Very, VERY subjective. My exceptionally desirable guy might well be another guys dog. Additionally as time has gone by I find that guys I found exceptionally desirable a number of years ago don't strike me that way today. The one thing I do know, FOR CERTAIN, is that the word monogamous has no place in my vocabulary.

[MscleLovr]

The smartest guys don't let themselves be 'kept.' It's a fool's gold investment.

 

The most powerful word in any escort's arsenal is 'no, thank you.' You can't easily say that when you only have a singular stream of kept income.

 

I feel that Benjamin Nicholas is quite correct. To me, the important word in what he wrote is "escort".

 

Please note that I mean no disrespect at all to escorts when I state this. The men with whom I had exclusive relationships, as well as the individuals I encountered who sought exclusivity, did not define themselves as escorts. They displayed no interest in advertising nor in being hired for sessions by many men. They may have referred to themselves as "being kept" occasionally but just as often they said they were into "older men" (who obviously could take care of them). I described it as being in a mutually supportive relationship.

[Mydavid]

I feel that Benjamin Nicholas is quite correct. To me, the important word in what he wrote is "escort".

 

Please note that I mean no disrespect at all to escorts when I state this. The men with whom I had exclusive relationships, as well as the individuals I encountered who sought exclusivity, did not define themselves as escorts. They displayed no interest in advertising nor in being hired for sessions by many men. They may have referred to themselves as "being kept" occasionally but just as often they said they were into "older men" (who obviously could take care of them). I described it as being in a mutually supportive relationship.

It is like SeekArrangement, both of you have an individual life but date often, or you live together like a couple?

[needbodywork]

True. Lots of very attractive men on Rentmen, but if you're talking about guys who are model looking - the most desirable objectively - they are not on Rentmen or not there very long. They are indeed "scooped up" and do things discreetly.

[needbodywork]

True. Lots of very attractive men on Rentmen, but if you're talking about guys who are model looking - the most desirable objectively - they are not on Rentmen or not there very long. They are indeed "scooped up" and do things discreetly.

[BaronArtz]

Two guys that I know who tried it, meaning they had exclusive arrangements, both told me that it was the worst mistake of their lives.

 

That's interesting. What were the reasons for them saying that?

[BaronArtz]

Two guys that I know who tried it, meaning they had exclusive arrangements, both told me that it was the worst mistake of their lives.

 

That's interesting. What were the reasons for them saying that?

[+ FreshFluff]

That's interesting. What were the reasons for them saying that?

 

I was wondering the same thing.

[MikeyGMin]

Just exactly how do we define "exceptionally desirable" -- exceptionally desirable in whose eyes? That term in very, Very, VERY subjective.

In my case an exceptionally desirable man is physically attractive but also strong and independent. Any way you view it an exclusive "mutually beneficial" relationship is a sugar daddy and a sugar baby. More power to the guys and the boys who can enjoy such a relationship. But those kind of arrangements and "exceptionally desirable" are mutually exclusive for me.

[+ sniper]

That's interesting. What were the reasons for them saying that?

Well one that I know of both found himself in IRS trouble and the sugar daddy was also stalking him and trying to make trouble for him after the deal ended.

[+ purplekow]

Such relationships are all measuresd in the color green. Greenbacks. Green eyed monster. Greener pastures.

[Good Grief]

You are correct @purplekow. Fine with me.

 

Though, the green has given me the pleasure of seven weekends in the past year with an amazing fellow.

 

$ for him to use as he likes - we enjoy our time together - within the sheets, uncovered and then covered for adventures.

 

More to come.

[+ purplekow]

You are correct @purplekow. Fine with me.

 

Though, the green has given me the pleasure of seven weekends in the past year with an amazing fellow.

 

$ for him to use as he likes - we enjoy our time together - within the sheets, uncovered and then covered for adventures.

 

More to come.

Well I am glad you are enjoying the success while it is there. But if there is a monogamy component to this, eventually the green eye monster will rear its head and that young man will be headed for greener pastures soon after. It is an oft told tale, no less sad despite its frequency.

[MscleLovr]

Such relationships are all measuresd in the color green. Greenbacks. Green eyed monster. Greener pastures.

 

Well I am glad you are enjoying the success while it is there. But if there is a monogamy component to this, eventually the green eye monster will rear its head and that young man will be headed for greener pastures soon after. It is an oft told tale, no less sad despite its frequency.

 

I agree with some of what you've written, purplekow. I think everyone here understands how money is helpful in these arrangements. Also I feel that older men understand that nothing is forever.

 

But I would hate to see an element of moralizing creeping in with the reference to monogamy. In my case, it's the young man who asked that our relationship be exclusive and monogamous. I prefer monogamy for a number of reasons but I had wanted my guy to feel that he had freedom if he chose. I found out that he prefers to feel committed and is reassured by my commitment.

 

Curiously I find that straight women and straight male friends are relaxed and welcoming to my much younger lover, while some of my gay male friends have been rather snippy. Perhaps they fear that he may prove to be a gold-digger. I'm relaxed about that possibility because, as should be the case in any relationship, we discussed money/finances prior to him moving in with me.

 

Obviously I'm not prescribing for others and their relationships. I simply view mine as bringing me great pleasure in late-life and I want that enjoyment to continue as long as possible.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

I decided early on in my career that I had absolutely no interest in being a kept man. I've been with my man for almost 6 years and though we have some common bills, we are otherwise financially independent.