How do you handle hiring an escort that only does outcalls in your city?

[handiacefailure]

I normally only hire when I travel or once in a while I will hire when I'm at home if the escort is within an hour and can do in calls. If I'm travelling not a big deal for me to host, I just meet at my hotel.

 

I'm wondering if any of your guys have ever had an escort at your home? This is more of a massage with kink mixed in with a happy ending than sex) who I've seen probably seven different time and have seen him in a couple different cities (I was lucky enough to be in the same city at the same time he was) and we've always used my hotel with no problems.

 

He sent me a text saying he will be in my city in two weeks seeing a good friend of his and she lives in the suburbs and he can't host and wanted to know if I wanted to schedule something. I'm a little nervous about having an escort know where I live. Not so much safety in this case but I'm a little nervous about my address being googled or looked up on the county real estate site if he decides to be nosy and having a lot of personal info such as my profession, real name (he knows my real first name but not my last name), etc.

 

Just curious how you guys handle this when hiring at home. I don't want to spend a lot of money on a nice hotel room and the pay by hour hotels here are real dumps and in all honesty I don't want to lay on their beds or use the shower after at a place like that. Unfortunately there aren't any bath houses here either

 

There's another escort visiting here right now as well that sounds like he would be a great match as far as stats and what he is into but there is no way I am having an escort I've never met before who hasn't been reviewed coming into my condo.

[+ azdr0710]

there's only one guy I see currently who I'd trust to have in my home.....unfortunately, he's very rarely in my podunk burg and, when he is, he has a room, so I just go there.....

 

if there is a local or visitor who only does outcalls, I get a decent room, but not some five-star place.....part of the cost of doing business....and well worth it for the piece of mind you described......

[+ bashful]

I'm like you. I don't want to host at my home. I would forgo the meeting, or consider getting a hotel room. Got to use the points sooner or later.

[big-n-tall]

There are a few working guys who know where I live (they've sent me things and I've sent them things), but they have never been to my house. The reason being there are a lot of people (family) running in and out of my house. There isn't much quiet time for sexy time most days/nights. LOL!

 

The ones I have seen for years I have no problem them coming to my house just to hang out. Sexy time is another story, but again only because alone time isn't always easy.

 

Someone new, whom I had no connection with, would never get an invite.

[+ poolboy48220]

I seem to be the exception, I've had plenty of guys to my house (or apartment, years ago) and never have had an issue.

[trav05]

Your not alone. I've been hiring for 30 years and 75% I have had at home, without any issue.

[AdamSmith]

[Whitman]

As with a lot of questions about escorts (and all sorts of other things), isn't the best option (always) to defer to what feels comfortable for you (regardless of what others do)?

 

Trusting someone and feeling comfortable in his company doesn't have to include a willingness to forego personal discretion--and shouldn't if you suspect (as you seem to) that you're going to worry about that later.

 

Somewhere between the pay-by-the-hour fleabags and the high-end hotels in your area, within reasonable driving distance, there's a clean, moderately-priced establishment perfectly acceptable for your needs. It's up to you to decide if the added expense of that room is worth it to you, but it seems clear from your post that it's a better option than a good time in your own bed that you're going to start regretting right after the happy ending.

[MartyB]

I will never host in my place. Not an option. For escorts who cannot accommodate in calls I have to pass. I will not she'll out additional $'s for a hotel room in NYC. I have been with escorts who had a hotel room who are based in NYC and if they marked up the rate I was unaware besides most of the guys are my regulars and the rate doesn't vary.

[Mydavid]

I will never host in my place. Not an option. For escorts who cannot accommodate in calls I have to pass. I will not she'll out additional $'s for a hotel room in NYC. I have been with escorts who had a hotel room who are based in NYC and if they marked up the rate I was unaware besides most of the guys are my regulars and the rate doesn't vary.

 

Same here. I only go to the escorts who offer in-call service. Once I contacted with an escort who offered in-call service, but he asked me to pay some deposit because he needed to book a hotel. It was strange to me, and I moved on.

Anyone else has similar experiences?

[jawjateck]

I never host at my primary residence, and never will. I have hosted many encounters at a secure, high-rise condo unit. I always met a companion outside the secure area, and escorted them in if the immediate visuals were confirmed to be lusty. No one walked up to my door and knocked.

 

That unit served me well, practically paid for itself. hehehehe!

[MikeBiDude]

I've hosted lots at home. Currently I live in a security town home complex. I meet my gentleman caller outside the security gate after having directed them to an address outside the gate (not my address, and via burner phone). A brief couple hundred yard walk let's us both check each other out, a chance to bail in relative safety.

 

When I know the person well, on future visits I'll sometimes cook a meal, use jacuzzi on my outside deck, etc.

 

This is far from the privacy/comfort level of many here, and that's ok. But it's worked for me for many many years and visitors.

[MikeyGMin]

Your not alone. I've been hiring for 30 years and 75% I have had at home, without any issue.

Same here. I actually dislike doing incalls. Dozens of guys over the years and zero incidents.

 

I understand it's all about comfort levels, but I get why many escorts don't do incalls in their hometown. The higher number of guys they meet increases the odds they will run into a trouble maker. So it seems like you really only have two choices if your comfort level won't allow someone into your home. Either suck up the extra cost or pass up a potentially good thing.

[OneFinger]

I'm like you. I don't want to host at my home. I would forgo the meeting, or consider getting a hotel room. Got to use the points sooner or later.

Ditto. I value my privacy too much to host at home. If there's someone in my home town that I really I want to see and they can't host, then I get a hotel room. It's not always a high priced room but it is always safe and clean. I've even picked up escorts that didn't have transportation and driven them to / from hotel.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I am split. I have hosted at my home guys I have seen before, usually for overnights. I made an exception for a escort traveling through town last year who was an occasional participant on the Forum.

 

However, when I want a massage, I tend to go to the masseur's location. Having the massage at his place lets him have the mood right and the table set up when I arrive. For me it is easier that way.

[LivingnLA]

I cannot host in my home or any property tied to me because that would potentially compromise my identity which basically violates the promise I made to my wife about absolute discretion and safety. Plus, my wife and kids all come and go with frequency and some unpredictability so it would be impossible to secure safe alone time.

 

The first time I hired, I went to the escort's place and ended up drugged unconscious. Since then, I haven't hired a ton of times, but every single time has been at a hotel room I paid for in a safe location and with a bar or restaurant in the lobby or nearby for a meet and greet to eliminate any concerns.

[MartyB]

I cannot host in my home or any property tied to me because that would potentially compromise my identity which basically violates the promise I made to my wife about absolute discretion and safety. Plus, my wife and kids all come and go with frequency and some unpredictability so it would be impossible to secure safe alone time.

 

The first time I hired, I went to the escort's place and ended up drugged unconscious. Since then, I haven't hired a ton of times, but every single time has been at a hotel room I paid for in a safe location and with a bar or restaurant in the lobby or nearby for a meet and greet to eliminate any concerns.

I guess I've been very lucky or my instincts are good. That's really terrible what happened with you. I agree with you on having an escort cone to my place never going to happen.

[+ WilliamM]

Your not alone. I've been hiring for 30 years and 75% I have had at home, without any issue.

 

Same for me, except my number at home would be 98%, without any issues. The number is so high because I live in Philly and some of the hires were with the escort agency Premier. I spent almost an entire weekend with former porn star Billy Brandt, and I trusted him completely

[+ Funguy]

You can always try hotelsbyday.com and rent a room for a few hour block of time.

You don't pay til you check in either so if there is a last minute cancel you aren't out anything.

[Mo Mason]

I've hosted several escorts at my home. It's a chic and minimal little house with nothing much of monetary value in it, so I'm not worried. Although one escort did steal a painting. It was gorgeous and it made me feel even more validated as an artist. Consider it sold!

 

But if it were an issue then I would get a hotel room nearby.

[whipped guy]

I have only hosted one guy at my home and a multiplicity of times, and I trust him implicitly. I have been to his home as well. There is one other person who I would invite as well, but he rarely travels so it is a moot point. Bottom line, it delends on how you interact with the guy and your comfort zone in such matters. Also, I would never do it with a first time meeting no matter how desperate I was to hook up. If he could not host it would be an indication to get a hotel room.

 

As @bashful notes above once when it was more convenient to meet at a different location I did use points and got an inexpensive hotel room that was equidistant and it all worked out perfectly .... I even got an upgrade to a larger room and that made things interesting.

[Bearofdistinction]

I normally only hire when I travel or once in a while I will hire when I'm at home if the escort is within an hour and can do in calls. If I'm travelling not a big deal for me to host, I just meet at my hotel.

 

I'm wondering if any of your guys have ever had an escort at your home? This is more of a massage with kink mixed in with a happy ending than sex) who I've seen probably seven different time and have seen him in a couple different cities (I was lucky enough to be in the same city at the same time he was) and we've always used my hotel with no problems.

 

He sent me a text saying he will be in my city in two weeks seeing a good friend of his and she lives in the suburbs and he can't host and wanted to know if I wanted to schedule something. I'm a little nervous about having an escort know where I live. Not so much safety in this case but I'm a little nervous about my address being googled or looked up on the county real estate site if he decides to be nosy and having a lot of personal info such as my profession, real name (he knows my real first name but not my last name), etc.

 

Just curious how you guys handle this when hiring at home. I don't want to spend a lot of money on a nice hotel room and the pay by hour hotels here are real dumps and in all honesty I don't want to lay on their beds or use the shower after at a place like that. Unfortunately there aren't any bath houses here either

 

There's another escort visiting here right now as well that sounds like he would be a great match as far as stats and what he is into but there is no way I am having an escort I've never met before who hasn't been reviewed coming into my condo.

 

Meet him for coffee near a church - drug his coffee - go pray for forgiveness -- throw him in the trunk of your car

 

(In the most loving way possible) pull into your garage - drag him into the house -- and then slap him repeatedly till he wakes

 

up and say -- Hi LOVER -- Ready to play?

 

OR you could just take him to your house and have a lovely hot sexy time -- If he is not local chances are he will have no idea

 

where you live -- and if you are that paranoid then maybe you need to kick up the cash for a cheesy hotel room and some

 

corn-nuts ---

 

I have several gentleman who visit me regularly at my home and when I was ill went shopping and cooked for me and visited

 

to keep me company. I also shared a lovely kink wknd at my home with a nationally very highly respected gentleman where

 

we took turns keeping each other restrained. No problems - and LOtS of Fun === EITHER resign your Cabinet Position

 

or get over it!

[whipped guy]

Addendum to my post above and something for the OP to ponder. As a retired CIA agent I need to inform him that there are a million ways to search someone's identity other than via the real estate websites that he mentions. As I said above it all depends on your comfort zone. I know guys who will not visit an escort at their place because one needs to check in with security and there is a surveillance camera in the building where the escort lives. That's their comfort zone and so be it. If having the escort at your place is gonna freak you out then what's the point if it might put a damper on the fun factor. Remember it's a two way street. I know posters on this board who's hobby is researching the real identity of escorts. Yep, some get pleasure simply knowing other people's business when it really is none of their business.. Escorts certainly know that! Escorts want a certain amount of privacy as well and as such most respect others for that reason. Bottom line both escorts and clients have their comfort zones regarding privacy and unfortunately there is often little respect for privacy and simply because the temptation is there. Or to put it in a different way, there is so much information about each and every one of us floating around that it is virtually impossible to be invisible. So if ya wanna have some fun it's gonna cum with some risk!

 

Oh, by the way I was just kidding about the retired CIA thing... it was really the NSA... actually Wikileaks.

[rvwnsd]

I seem to be the exception, I've had plenty of guys to my house (or apartment, years ago) and never have had an issue.

 

Your not alone. I've been hiring for 30 years and 75% I have had at home, without any issue.

 

Count me into the outcall club. I typically host in my home without problems. If someone truly wants to find out who I am they will do so whether I host or travel, use my personal cell phone or a burner phone, or use my fake Yiddish accent when speaking. That being said, I live alone so there are no roommates, spouses, or children to worry about. If I did not live alone I would not host because a fun playdate could become awkward at the drop of a hat. However, there are plenty of clean and safe inexpensive motels in most every city. Granted, an unscrupulous escort can steal things from a motel, but if he is unscrupulous you will be just as unsafe with him at his place as you would be with him at a motel.