KISSING

[+ glennnn]

Kissing is my favorite form of sexplay, even more erotic and intimate than sucking or fucking. But I like it to be slow and sensual, starting with soft lip brushes, proceeding to full lip involvement, adding tongue touches, building to open mouths and on to deep Frenching. A slow erotic beginning pretty much guarantees my satisfaction at the end.

 

Recently, I was disappointed when my partner for the afternoon grabbed me at the door and thrust his tongue down to my tonsils, completely filling my mouth. it threw me off, because it was like missing the first chapter of a novel entirely and, although we both got off later, the mood remained hurried and somehow falsely frantic throughout.

 

This is my question. What part does kissing play for you in a successful session? How do you like to proceed? Has this ever happened to you?

 

In this case, was it my fault for not specifically requesting a slow, senuous kissing time up front during the planning period? Should I have pulled back and tried to slow things down? I did take a bathroom break, but afterwards we were right back at warp speed with the first touch. I'm still very inexperienced and I didn't want to be rude- his kisses were passionate and expert. I know it's that old situation of communicating clearly!!! But I don't want to hand the guy a move-by-move script to follow. What would you have done?

[Rudynate]

I like it a lot. I like kissing and making out throughout an encounter. I recently spent an afternoon with a guy who is one of the best kissers ever. We just never stopped throughout the afternoon. He was good at a lot of things, but I just keep thinking about the way that guy kisses.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

While I usually have slowly building kissing sessions, every once in a while I enjoy a more aggressive kissing session. While they are never planned, I learned that there is simply something sexy and powerful in the urgency of latter style. Definitely more effective when I know the guy.

[Zapped]

In this case, was it my fault for not specifically requesting a slow, senuous kissing time up front during the planning period? Should I have pulled back and tried to slow things down? I did take a bathroom break, but afterwards we were right back at warp speed with the first touch. I'm still very inexperienced and I didn't want to be rude- his kisses were passionate and expert. I know it's that old situation of communicating clearly!!! But I don't want to hand the guy a move-by-move script to follow. What would you have done?

 

It's not a "fault" thing, just a learning experience. I'd probably have said something like, "Hold on! I like to move slower." Glennn, it is OK to ask for what you want or don't, whether with an escort or a guy you're dating or hooking up with. A simple request can be all it takes. Know you deserve to have the experience you want.

[Jbdesc]

It's not a "fault" thing, just a learning experience. I'd probably have said something like, "Hold on! I like to move slower." Glennn, it is OK to ask for what you want or don't, whether with an escort or a guy you're dating or hooking up with. A simple request can be all it takes. Know you deserve to have the experience you want.

 

To echo on what Zapped is saying - he is completely right here. I am still learning this myself but things are much better if you mention it. They're not mind readers, so having some open dialog before and even during can definitely result in a more mutually rewarding experience. This is something I have been trying to overcome as I am generally a timid, or reserved person around people I am not familiar with.

 

I am seeming to find that many escorts like to know, and take pride in the fact that they're giving someone a great experience. Not all people are like this, but so far my experiences have led me understand this.

[+ glennnn]

Glad to hear you are having fun. I am, too! We deserve it, my friend! Thanks for your thoughts.

[+ Italiano]

Kissing is ABSOLUTELY essential when I hire or hook up.

Starting slowly and building very intense, very deep and very wet kisses throughout.

Yum.

[Whitman]

...Recently, I was disappointed when my partner for the afternoon grabbed me at the door and thrust his tongue down to my tonsils, completely filling my mouth. it threw me off, because it was like missing the first chapter of a novel entirely and, although we both got off later, the mood remained hurried and somehow falsely frantic throughout...

You have a preference, glennnn. You are entitled.

 

The escort you mention (and your description of his greeting unmistakably identifies him) has a shtick. That's not a bad thing.

 

If you scroll through the multiple reviews of some longtime escorts, you will sometimes notice remarkably similar descriptions of time spent with them, a recurring choreography. Some clients probably hire based on that. ("I'll have what he's having!")

 

"A man with a plan" is unlikely to be a lazybones during your session; he will have his switch flipped on and will be committed to being fully present for the duration. My guess is that after a few not-that-into-it, low-energy encounters, most guys would greatly prefer the experience that you had.

 

That said, I hear what you are saying when you use the phrase "falsely frantic throughout." What might pass for "passion" in some men's minds lacked the sort of natural, organic flow that you would prefer. And the dilemma here--which I thought you expressed very well--is that, while communication is always key, the idea that you might need to communicate about things like pacing is kind of a buzzkill -- because, there too, any semblance of "natural, organic flow" is undone.

 

Sometimes, even when you and an escort are both good guys, intelligent and well-intentioned, you're just not an ideal fit for one another. Chalk it up to experience.

[liubit]

I have said it many times, but I will say it again. Kissing is absolutely indispensable: no kissing, no hiring.

 

What part does kissing play for you in a successful session? How do you like to proceed?

Like you, @glennnn, I like to start slowly, and develop momentum to passionate tongue darting. One of my very, very favorites is when his tongue licks my outer lips in circles, just lightly teasing them, around and around, making them moist, hot and ready. I find this skyrocketing sensuous.

[+ glennnn]

I have said it many times, but I will say it again. Kissing is absolutely indispensable: no kissing, no hiring.

 

 

Like you, @glennnn, I like to start slowly, and develop momentum to passionate tongue darting. One of my very, very favorites is when his tongue licks my outer lips in circles, just lightly teasing them, around and around, making them moist, hot and ready. I find this skyrocketing sensuous.

 

Oh Gods, yes! And visa versa. I love to tease him, too, with small kisses and little licks on his face and chin.

[+ Funguy]

Softly, explore, lick, duel tongues, slowly build up, go deeper, repeat throughout episode.

[+ Axiom2001]

Kissing is my favorite form of sexplay, even more erotic and intimate than sucking or fucking. But I like it to be slow and sensual, starting with soft lip brushes, proceeding to full lip involvement, adding tongue touches, building to open mouths and on to deep Frenching. A slow erotic beginning pretty much guarantees my satisfaction at the end.

 

But I don't want to hand the guy a move-by-move script to follow. What would you have done?

 

Kissing is vital to me. I like to proceed slowly and then build up to the ultimate of our sucking tongues, having this long, wide organ almost reach each others tonsils and virtually "eat out each others mouths!"

So, in what you encountered, I do think that I, too, would have been "turned off" and upset with the rapidity of this particular sexual partner!

[jjkrkwood]

I cant get hard without kissing. It's almost like Magic !

[+ Lance_Navarro]

I feel the same way, kissing is SOOOOO essential. It saddens me when I'm with a guy (usually one that identifies as "mostly straight") that doesn't want to kiss. I understand also the difficulty of asking for what you want when it comes to kissing. My best recommendation is to phrase it in a way that is positive and productive rather than critical, in other words saying "can I get more lips and a little less tounge?". I've used this a few times with guys who seemingly attack with the tounge.

[liubit]

I cant get hard without kissing.

Neither can I. It simply doesn't work, my cock refuses to budge...

[+ sync]

For me, it's all about the lips with very little tongue.

[+ glennnn]

I feel the same way, kissing is SOOOOO essential. It saddens me when I'm with a guy (usually one that identifies as "mostly straight") that doesn't want to kiss. I understand also the difficulty of asking for what you want when it comes to kissing. My best recommendation is to phrase it in a way that is positive and productive rather than critical, in other words saying "can I get more lips and a little less tounge?". I've used this a few times with guys who seemingly attack with the tounge.

 

My mentor! Your kissing is perfection. I'll try a little coaching next time with your example in mind. BTW, I was still very satisfied and filled with cum when we finished!

[+ Funguy]

I could go for hours, cum, keep kissing, and on and on!

[+ glennnn]

I could go for hours, cum, keep kissing, and on and on!

 

 

"Could"? "Do"!!!

[+ WmClarke]

"Could"? "Do"!!!

What @glennnn said!

[liubit]

Same here!

[BasketBaller]

I love kissing, and won't hire a guy who won't. Way back I met a guy from craigslist who was good in every other way, but wouldn't kiss. He was hot, he knew what he was doing, but it was still disappointing.

 

Few things are more exciting to me than being on my back with a guy in me and we're kissing. His cock in my ass and his tongue in my mouth, bliss.

[+ glennnn]

I love kissing, and won't hire a guy who won't. Way back I met a guy from craigslist who was good in every other way, but wouldn't kiss. He was hot, he knew what he was doing, but it was still disappointing.

 

Few things are more exciting to me than being on my back with a guy in me and we're kissing. His cock in my ass and his tongue in my mouth, bliss.

 

 

It's almost as much fun the other way- my cock in his mouth, my tongue in his ass- but you nailed it. Being passionately kissed and s l o w fucked with my legs locked around his waist is exquisite!

[+ Funguy]

You guys are killing me!