Sex Parties/Play Rooms/Group Play

[RockyHardon]

Quite a few years ago I was invited to quite a few of these parties and always spotted a few escorts I recognized - all were playing and having a great time. More than once I wanted to call and organize a private appointment as a result. Maybe I am naiive, but I just assumed that the host had thoughtfully invited them and paid some sort of nominal fee - ensuring a good time for all the guests and obviously for the escort counting that several ppl like me would contact them later for privates.

 

Did you actually call any of the escorts and orgainize your own event or for a private session, or was it more a passing fancy that you never acted upon. And did you hire any other escorts during that time period, and if so, why didn't you contact one you saw at the party? Or were you attending the parties in lieu of hiring an escort.

[+ nycman]

When I was younger I went to sex parties all the time. The reason was because fucking men is fun.

 

Once again, I fall for my luxury top brother.....please come to NYC!.....grin

[RyanDean]

For a couple years, when I was a wee tot, I worked the door/coatcheck at an underground party in the East Village (Vinny's aka Tava's Pier Murals). This was in the pre-Giuliani days of J's, Wally's and Prism. Mandatory coatcheck, shoes required, etc... I don't recall knowing for sure whether any of the superhot regular guys were working guys, though it did seem clear that, on occasion, a particular duo/trio included one (typically gorgeous) guy who was likely on the job.

 

More recently, I connected with a gent who suggested that we meet at a party (since neither of us could conveniently host in Manhattan). It worked well, with him being the one to be emphatically clear with lookyloos and gropers alike that it was my call whether anyone else could join in the fun. Dunno if it was obvious that he was working, though the fact that he was gorgeous and I was average-to-schlumpy might have cued some. But, yes, soooo many poppers.

[jjkrkwood]

For a couple years, when I was a wee tot, I worked the door/coatcheck at an underground party in the East Village (Vinny's aka Tava's Pier Murals). This was in the pre-Giuliani days of J's, Wally's and Prism. Mandatory coatcheck, shoes required, etc... I don't recall knowing for sure whether any of the superhot regular guys were working guys, though it did seem clear that, on occasion, a particular duo/trio included one (typically gorgeous) guy who was likely on the job.

 

More recently, I connected with a gent who suggested that we meet at a party (since neither of us could conveniently host in Manhattan). It worked well, with him being the one to be emphatically clear with lookyloos and gropers alike that it was my call whether anyone else could join in the fun. Dunno if it was obvious that he was working, though the fact that he was gorgeous and I was average-to-schlumpy might have cued some. But, yes, soooo many poppers.

 

YES, apparently poppers make everyone look "Hot & Beautiful".....

[+ glennnn]

Attending a sex party is also on my bucket lust. How does one start? I could never just go by myself! Do I hire an experienced escort to accompany me? Do I ask one of you to go with me? How aggressive can one be? I mean , I don't want to stand and just watch. Is it like a dance where you approach some one and ask, "Would you care to fuck?" Is "cutting in" allowed? What happens to your clothing? I need a book on etiquette at a sex party. Suggestions?

[RyanDean]

It's pretty simple, actually. Every established party (as opposed to private gatherings) I've been to has been superficially quite different but basically the same. (That said, all of my experience is in NYC, I believe.) And, yes, going with a buddy -- either an actual buddy or a gent you've hired previously who's game for the adventure -- might alleviate some of the uncertainty.

[jjkrkwood]

Attending a sex party is also on my bucket lust. How does one start? I could never just go by myself! Do I hire an experienced escort to accompany me? Do I ask one of you to go with me? How aggressive can one be? I mean , I don't want to stand and just watch. Is it like a dance where you approach some one and ask, "Would you care to fuck?" Is "cutting in" allowed? What happens to your clothing? I need a book on etiquette at a sex party. Suggestions?

 

You find your party, groom yourself to the hilt, pick out a pretty outfit and show up. It's pretty much freeform from there, and pretty organic in how things evolve. Yes there are rules of etiquette, but you'll quickly catch on, and the guests generally will let you know if they are interested in you or not. If you can function 1-on-1 with an escort glennn, you will have no problem at a sex party .... (provided there are guys there that want to play with you)... And if not, just be voyeuristic and have fun anyway.

[+ poolboy48220]

Is it anything like the etiquette at a bathhouse? There, I'll watch for signs and body language, but generally I'm not shy about moving over next to a guy and indicating my interest, by just putting my hand on his leg or his chest and waiting for some signal that he's good with going further, or not. Oddly enough, it's rarely spoken signals there. Although I do remember one guy, sitting on the ledge above me in the steamroom - I reached over to his leg, waited for some signal, and he told me "Go for it". :-)

[DonaldTramp]

If you see someone you like...grab them by the pussy.

[escortrod]

Is it anything like the etiquette at a bathhouse? There, I'll watch for signs and body language, but generally I'm not shy about moving over next to a guy and indicating my interest, by just putting my hand on his leg or his chest and waiting for some signal that he's good with going further, or not. Oddly enough, it's rarely spoken signals there. Although I do remember one guy, sitting on the ledge above me in the steamroom - I reached over to his leg, waited for some signal, and he told me "Go for it".

I would assume the etiquette is the same. Certainly the sex clubs I have been to use the same 'system', so I can't imagine why a sex party would be any different.

[RockyHardon]

If you see someone you like...grab them by the pussy.

 

This deserves repeating.

[LADoug1]

You find your party, groom yourself to the hilt, pick out a pretty outfit and show up. It's pretty much freeform from there, and pretty organic in how things evolve. Yes there are rules of etiquette, but you'll quickly catch on, and the guests generally will let you know if they are interested in you or not. If you can function 1-on-1 with an escort glennn, you will have no problem at a sex party .... (provided there are guys there that want to play with you)... And if not, just be voyeuristic and have fun anyway.

What's the best way to find a party?

[jjkrkwood]

What's the best way to find a party?

 

Often, gay sites like A4A have a "parties" section which lists them in your area. Or gay publications also list them. All it really takes is for you to attend 1 and get your name on a mailing list. It seems those lists circulate and then you get contacted. It's probably a lot easier here in NYC than in smaller cities, where they may very well have parties BUT it is kept a tight underground secret. Or word of mouth, just like we are doing here.

[RockyHardon]

In reading the responses to my original post, I realize I know too much. Thank you everyone who contributed to this thread.

[happyguy2]

Did you actually call any of the escorts and orgainize your own event or for a private session, or was it more a passing fancy that you never acted upon. And did you hire any other escorts during that time period, and if so, why didn't you contact one you saw at the party? Or were you attending the parties in lieu of hiring an escort.

I hired plenty of others, but the guys who I saw at parties were more of "star quality", kind of out of my league, financially for sure, but also in terms of their orbit. I am an ordinary guy who likes ordinary guys!

[RockyHardon]

I hired plenty of others, but the guys who I saw at parties were more of "star quality", kind of out of my league, financially for sure, but also in terms of their orbit. I am an ordinary guy who likes ordinary guys!

 

Interesting...you could tell they were above your price point. Very interesting observation.

[FrequentMassageGetter]

The Zone is boring as hell. Slammer is the better one, at least the men there are actually there to fuck. It is mostly bareback though. If that's your thing, you'll have fun. Wish I could have experienced the Vortex.

 

Came across this hilarious sex club video comparing gay sex clubs with straight sex clubs... I think they used footage from the Zone and Slammer

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V-8QzrfXEkU

[+ José Soplanucas]

Too many generalizations here. My main outlet for sex is sex parties, and there are many venue in NYC for this genre. They often have a varied clientele and there is usually something for everyone. Typically, you can usually make a solo connection with someone and steer clear of the group play, if that's your scene. Like anything else, there can be disappointments, but I'd rather be disappointed for $20 admission than for $350 on a 1 hour hire. The main selling point of these parties is that there are options, if you dont score with 1, move to another. And the safety" of them is totally up to you. It is always YOUR responsibility to "protect yourself" .

I agree. I would also add that the sex parties from the 90 s where not so perfect.

[+ OliverSaks]

I've never been to one, but it sounds like something I would be into.

 

Exhibitionist...

[Rudynate]

I used to like sex parties years ago, but hadn't been to one in a long time. I went to an invitation-only sex party on Folsom Fair weekend a couple of years ago and had a great time. Recently, I've been involved in a few great 3-ways.

[+ poolboy48220]

Came across this hilarious sex club video comparing gay sex clubs with straight sex clubs... I think they used footage from the Zone and Slammer

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V-8QzrfXEkU

That video's hilarious. After I came out, one of my straight female friends asked me about sex clubs/bathhouses and expressed an interest in finding straight sex clubs. Alas, I had no advice for her.

[+ poolboy48220]

I've never been to one, but it sounds like something I would be into.

 

Exhibitionist...

Oliver, what are you doing inside on the computer? You should be enjoying the sun and beach while you can. 26 degrees at the moment in Detroit.

[pubic_assistance]

I agree. I would also add that the sex parties from the 90 s where not so perfect.

I attended many sex parties in the 90s and some of the "more selective" guest list venues were about as close to PERFECT as I've ever seen. I remember one in particular where I played for over 5 hours and came multiple times. The crowd was so incredibly hot, I didn't want to miss an encounter with a single man there...and I don't think I did !

[+ OliverSaks]

Oliver, what are you doing inside on the computer? You should be enjoying the sun and beach while you can. 26 degrees at the moment in Detroit.

I was inside taking a break from the sun...

[beachboy]

I was inside taking a break from the sun...

Always had this strange fantasy of being a leaf!