Finding Out an Escort's Real Identity

[Tigger]

I had been seeing a guy for a couple of years, a colleague of mine asked me to join LinkedIn. I did and it went through my contacts, and lo and behold there was the escort. I was horrified and stopped the whole process before it could continue. But I did learn that he was a high level executive with a major enterprise. After that I always thought of him as my Belle de Jour, after the character in the Luis Bunuel film. He made more money than I did, and obviously escorted for the emotional charge it gave him.

 

Personally, I don't understand why you were horrified and why you stopped? Is the escort totally ignorant of your life? Are you only two ships who collide every once in a while in the night (or morning or afternoon)? Knowledge is safety-maybe after seeing him for so long you didn't really need it. But that information at the beginning of the relationship would have been very helpful in assuaging any fears he might be a scam of some kind. As for me, I'd say I know a fair amount about most my regulars. It's almost unavoidable if you fly them to you and make the reservation for them.

[pubic_assistance]

Facebook is constantly "outing" my escorts. Some sort of design that links phone numbers though your smartphone to their facebook page and then back to yours asking you to 'friend' them. As I am a gentleman and a professional, I hope they respect my privacy so I do the same, no matter how "friendly" we have become.

[+ WmClarke]

Facebook is constantly "outing" my escorts. Some sort of design that links phone numbers though your smartphone to their facebook page and then back to yours asking you to 'friend' them. As I am a gentleman and a professional, I hope they respect my privacy so I do the same, no matter how "friendly" we have become.

This just happened to me--a "people you may know" posting. And unless the escort uses the same phone number for business as on his personal Facebook page, I don't know how it linked us. Unless it's using facial recognition software and snooping in my photos as well.

[pubic_assistance]

This just happened to me--a "people you may know" posting. And unless the escort uses the same phone number for business as on his personal Facebook page, I don't know how it linked us. Unless it's using facial recognition software and snooping in my photos as well.

If you have the Facebook app on your phone and your escort friend has the Facebook app on HIS phone too...then it's fairly simple for the Facebook cookies to dig around into your business.

[+ WmClarke]

If you have the Facebook app on your phone and your escort friend has the Facebook app on HIS phone too...then it's fairly simple for the Facebook cookies to dig around into your business.

Must be it. I don't use the app--but I do use the browser on my phone for FB.

[gezellig4u]

I have found that the What'sApp texting application for iOS also does this. Specifically, when I refresh the What'sApp "Favorites" list, all kinds of identified-by-name hits pop up, including the occasional former date.

Edited September 17, 2016 by gezellig4u

[phraughy]

Hello, everyone.

 

I'm in a bit of a pickle.

 

Through a photo that he posted on his escorting Twitter account, and some not-very-difficult sleuthing, I was able to find out the identity of a guy that I'm seeing next month for an overnight. By this I mean I was able to find his real social media accounts—he participates in them almost daily.

 

Our first time seeing each other was only for 2 hours, so we didn't really chat much. This time around, we'll be together for about 12 hours, and obviously not all of it will be intimate. I asked that when we're not in bed that we'd hit up a local bar and just drink and talk.

 

Because I feel relaxed around the guy, I highly doubt I'll be able to stop myself from uttering something from his not-escort life, if not at the beginning of the overnight, most definitely once I've had a few beers or wines in my system.

http://media.zenfs.com/en-US/video/video.snl.com/SNL_1606_10_Surprise.png

On one hand, I'm pretty sure he'll be cool with it. On the other, he might freak out.

 

My question is a very broad one, but I think it's most pertinent: Should I tell him that I know or should I just let things happen and hope for the best?

Dont say a word. Keep the info to yourself. Even if they disclose to you what you already know, do not reveal that you knew. There is a very fine line between due diligence and stalking in their minds.

[AndreFuture]

Also (as I have found out), social media sites track you and compile and share info about you based on your IP address. so if you're using the same device for work and civilian stuff, there's still cross over—even if you use different email address and phone numbers.

[AndreFuture]

Dont say a word. Keep the info to yourself. Even if they disclose to you what you already know, do not reveal that you knew. There is a very fine line between due diligence and stalking in their minds.

Personally, I would prefer to be told that I have such a information leak. Right now I'm racking my brain trying to figure out how my escorting persona got linked with my private/professional social media accounts, as I *thought* did a decent job keeping them separate. It really hurts my whole "discreet services" angle if my business is all out there.

 

So...if any of you gents have come across my real identity, I'd appreciate a heads up

Edited February 2, 2018 by AndreFuture

[Bearofdistinction]

Hello, everyone.

 

I'm in a bit of a pickle.

 

Through a photo that he posted on his escorting Twitter account, and some not-very-difficult sleuthing, I was able to find out the identity of a guy that I'm seeing next month for an overnight. By this I mean I was able to find his real social media accounts—he participates in them almost daily.

 

Our first time seeing each other was only for 2 hours, so we didn't really chat much. This time around, we'll be together for about 12 hours, and obviously not all of it will be intimate. I asked that when we're not in bed that we'd hit up a local bar and just drink and talk.

 

Because I feel relaxed around the guy, I highly doubt I'll be able to stop myself from uttering something from his not-escort life, if not at the beginning of the overnight, most definitely once I've had a few beers or wines in my system.

http://media.zenfs.com/en-US/video/video.snl.com/SNL_1606_10_Surprise.png

On one hand, I'm pretty sure he'll be cool with it. On the other, he might freak out.

 

My question is a very broad one, but I think it's most pertinent: Should I tell him that I know or should I just let things happen and hope for the best?

 

No Go Ahead and Tell Him - You Know who he is/what is real job is/his wife and mothers name and their addresses and where all of them work.

 

Then ask him to chain you to the bed . . .

 

Respect should be mutual -- SO Bury his cock down your throat so you don't do/say something stupid/disrespectful/unnecessary/and potentially dangerous to you . . .

 

OR

 

Go have fun! --- Mouth Full or Shut -- Respect Mutual - Outcome Good!

[nsguy45]

I easily discovered the identity of a regular I've been seeing after our first session, just by a Google search using three words from information he conveyed in conversation. He could just as easily unearth much personal information about me with a Google search using my address.

[MikeyGMin]

I'm late to the party on this thread, but I ran into a very odd scenario yesterday. I use two separate iPhones. My personal phone has personal FB, email, and contacts. My FB has every thinkable filter and privacy setting on. My work phone has separate contacts, work Twitter, WhatsApp and work email.

 

Yesterday a client informed me that my full legal name popped up on his phone. He felt I needed to know that somehow his Samsung Galaxy S8 identified me.

 

To fix this, should I port my number to an ATT business account instead of an added line on my personal one? I was very thankful that he was telling me his phone identified me..

Wouldn't Google Voice separate everything and allow you to use a single device?

[+ VictorPowers]

Wouldn't Google Voice separate everything and allow you to use a single device?

Yes but I have hundreds of phone numbers. Google Voice in one device would just be insane.

[LaffingBear]

I had a similar situation. Although no sleuthing was involved. The rentguy overtly stated that he wanted to be 100% private and anonymous. Even asked me once if I had looked through his phone when he went to the restaurant bathroom. Except, he was pretty bad at remembering to be careful with his identity, and by the third visit, I knew his full name, his other occupation, the city he lived in, etc. All because of his actions, not because I went looking.

 

I considered telling him. Even if only as cautionary advice. I never did. And, to this day, never told anyone, not even referring to his pro-name on boards such as these.

 

Ultimately, I was sorry I knew. Except a very small part of me thought it might prove to be handy information if things went sideways. (We were driving through the San Francisco Civic Center, windows open, when a homeless guy stuck his head into my car, startling the rentguy in the passenger seat. He was not only startled, he flashed anger, and as I started to drive on, the rentguy wanted to jump out of the car and engage the homeless guy. I had to restrain him, and cautioned him "if that lunatic picks up a rock and throws it at my car because of you, its coming out of your fee!" It was after that incident that I considered knowing his personal info as a 99.9% unlikely to be used safety net.

[phraughy]

This is very interesting (and scary, but forewarned is forearmed).

 

I'd like to think I'm fairly discreet and personal info would only be available to someone who 1) is technically adept, and, 2) who REALLY wants to know badly, but recursively aggregating and correlating data and meta-data can lead to surprising places. I may not be as isolated as I think.

 

For those who have found information about others how was the data aggregated? Obviously Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Tumblr can all reveal info my matching photos and phone numbers.

What other ways does this happen?

 

What say ye, technical wizards?

Google. It is all about the keyword. You would be amazed at what you can find on google.

[GTMike]

I'm torn because i really want to know in advance a few key pieces of information like is the escort a real "professional" versus being a fraud/scammer, affiliated with the law, or a psycho. So the diligence/"digging" is primarly to determine that and afterwards only maybe clues about compatability so neither of us waste our time, not to otherwise get into his personal business. But honestly my experience has been that 90% of the time by the end of the 2nd time we've hung out, the escort has openly and freely in conversation communicated real name, hometown location, family situation and tons of personal information just as typically and naturally as two friends would getting to know each other. Though i suspect that possibly is because (besides being completely, cool, trustworthy and respectful hahaha , they may be most at ease, as i always host in my home, so i've obviously revealed just about everything anyway.

[Rudynate]

+1000

 

For the life of me I will never understand why people do this kind of sleuthing. Checking the review sites and anything related to their professional reputation is understandable, but the kind of sleuthing that so many people do is just a nice word for stalking and it puts you in this exact awkward situation.

 

I understand an image search if you think the guy might be using someone else's pictures, but that's where I end it. It is sloppy on their part if they have the same photos on their personal and professional accounts, but I would stop immediately if I hit their personal Facebook account and never say a word that would make them uncomfortable.

 

Just like most clients want to control the release of their personal information, the pros should be afforded the same courtesy. It also makes it kind of special when / if they choose to reveal things of a personal nature.

 

 

It's just that they need to get out more, broaden their horizons. If you have a demanding profession, one or two pastimes that hold your interest and a few friends, there isn't time to be sleuthing escorts on the internet.

[+ DERRIK]

Guys. it's going to become more common for amateur (curious, stalkers, neighbors, cousins, employers, web sites, government, busybodies, etc) to connect the dots in the future.

 

While it may be prudent for some to carry two cell phones - etc, etc. I am afraid it will become easier to track stuff down. Tons of postings here about image searches.

 

its true for both sides of the coin (clients and escorts)

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

It's just that they need to get out more, broaden their horizons. If you have a demanding profession, one or two pastimes that hold your interest and a few friends, there isn't time to be sleuthing escorts on the internet.

 

This.

 

Couldn't have stated it better.

[Nickf66]

A few weeks ago, I had a session with a terrific young man, fairly new to escorting. I think I might have been his 3rd or 4th client. During the introductory phase, I asked some general questions, made some comments about his well-decorated apartment, etc. He had some of his own artwork displayed - quite talented. We proceeded to the bedroom for some fun, and every so often took a little break, had some wine and resumed. During the breaks, the alcohol must have kicked in, and he started talking about his new business venture (web design) and a part-time teaching gig. Anyhow, the evening progressed and ended with us both drained, sweaty and satisfied. We said our goodbyes and I told him I’d be calling again for another date. When I got home, just for giggles, I googled a couple of things he mentioned, and 3 clicks later, there he was, with about 10 Youtube videos displaying his artwork, along with some scenes of him talking with a friend, relaxing on his patio sans shirt, oh my. And a link to his Facebook page and other contact information. I have resisted the urge to call him again. Something about hiring him once more is nagging me. I wonder if he’s really that open, or clueless, or ... but admit I have watched the videos numerous times with a box of tissue nearby.

[Rudynate]

A few weeks ago, I had a session with a terrific young man, fairly new to escorting. I think I might have been his 3rd or 4th client. During the introductory phase, I asked some general questions, made some comments about his well-decorated apartment, etc. He had some of his own artwork displayed - quite talented. We proceeded to the bedroom for some fun, and every so often took a little break, had some wine and resumed. During the breaks, the alcohol must have kicked in, and he started talking about his new business venture (web design) and a part-time teaching gig. Anyhow, the evening progressed and ended with us both drained, sweaty and satisfied. We said our goodbyes and I told him I’d be calling again for another date. When I got home, just for giggles, I googled a couple of things he mentioned, and 3 clicks later, there he was, with about 10 Youtube videos displaying his artwork, along with some scenes of him talking with a friend, relaxing on his patio sans shirt, oh my. And a link to his Facebook page and other contact information. I have resisted the urge to call him again. Something about hiring him once more is nagging me. I wonder if he’s really that open, or clueless, or ... but admit I have watched the videos numerous times with a box of tissue nearby.

 

 

Why is he clueless? Maybe you hit it off so well that he trusted you. Are you implying that his trust was misplaced? I've had escorts tell me all about themselves. I've had interactions with other escorts where they tell me nothing about themselves. When an escort reveals a lot about himself to me, I just enjoy the connection. I assume he fully knows what he's doing and is sharing the information because he wants to, and likes and trusts me, not out of cluelessness or stupidity or naivete.

[MikeyGMin]

Why is he clueless? Maybe you hit it off so well that he trusted you. Are you implying that his trust was misplaced? I've had escorts tell me all about themselves. I've had interactions with other escorts where they tell me nothing about themselves. When an escort reveals a lot about himself to me, I just enjoy the connection. I assume he fully knows what he's doing and is sharing the information because he wants to, and likes and trusts me, not out of cluelessness or stupidity or naivete.

Maybe clueless is a little harsh but any escort who reveals much personal information on a first meeting is naive at best. People lie. People appear to be trustworthy and are not. People make promises that they do not fulfill. It takes more than a couple of meetings to really get a sense of a person.

 

I believe trust needs to be earned -- not given out because you have a good feeling about someone on a first meeting.

[rvwnsd]

...To fix this, should I port my number to an ATT business account instead of an added line on my personal one? I was very thankful that he was telling me his phone identified me..

You could ask AT&T to change the caller ID name to something other than the name on your account. My cousin is on my cell phone plan, so imagine my surprise when my landline rang and it was me calling. We changed that.

 

PS: I no longer have a landline.

[nsguy45]

It's just that they need to get out more, broaden their horizons. If you have a demanding profession, one or two pastimes that hold your interest and a few friends, there isn't time to be sleuthing escorts on the internet.

You make it sound like it's time consuming or complicated to unearth one's identity on the Internet. As I stated in my previous post, I located the true identity of an escort using just three words in a Google search. It took me less than a minute.

[Rudynate]

Maybe clueless is a little harsh but any escort who reveals much personal information on a first meeting is naive at best. People lie. People appear to be trustworthy and are not. People make promises that they do not fulfill. It takes more than a couple of meetings to really get a sense of a person.

 

I believe trust needs to be earned -- not given out because you have a good feeling about someone on a first meeting.

 

But if an escort has few or no secrets, he has pretty much neutralized the ability of someone to use his secrets against him.