Seeking arrangements success!

[+ Coolwave35]

I met a boy from seeking back in August as I often do. He’s 20 and gorgeous. He’s 6’1” with a giant Dick and beautiful ass. He’s on the row team for a top 20 University. He grew up poor.  What I asked from him was to help me be a better top.  His ask of me was to travel and learn how to make horizontal income. 

He spent the last two weeks of his Summer break in August at my house.  When we get together, we have the greatest time.  We go to sex shops and pick out toys that I can use to explore bringing pleasure to his prostrate.  

Our next trip together is to Paris in a few weeks.  We’re both really excited. 

I taught him how to identify products to sell on Amazon. He’s making $350 a week in profit and he just started before Labor Day. He’s really hungry to identify more products and his passion and ambition is a HUGE turn on. It’s also my first arrangement that isn’t transactional hour by hour, or meeting by meeting.  
 

For example; his compensation for Paris, per his proposal, is the travel itself. This is the first boy that I’m taking on a trip that isn’t being compensated for his time outside of the trip’s expenses. I’m worried that it’s a recipe for disaster but I agreed to it. He has a seeking mindset, not a rentmen mind set and it’s been very challenging for me to learn the difference.  When he spent the two weeks at my house, his compensation was a Prada wallet, some designer sunglasses, upgraded tech for his dorm room and a new iPad. It amounted to less than $2k for having his company in and out of the bedroom for two weeks. He was ecstatic but I had a hard time because I felt like I had taken advantage of him. This seeking thing really is a different world and a serious game changer to the traditional hiring experience. 
 

https://mega.nz/file/g41mGTpB#GVHSeKweGKsHAw72LN3v4ZY0Zrt1mWfUXvU_pGha9Rk

 

[BSR]

8 minutes ago, Coolwave35 said:

I met a boy from seeking back in August as I often do. He’s 20 and gorgeous. He’s 6’1” with a giant Dick and beautiful ass. He’s on the row team for a top 20 University. He grew up poor.  What I asked from him was to help me be a better top.  His ask of me was to travel and learn how to make horizontal income. 

He spent the last two weeks of his Summer break in August at my house.  When we get together, we have the greatest time.  We go to sex shops and pick out toys that I can use to explore bringing pleasure to his prostrate.  

Our next trip together is to Paris in a few weeks.  We’re both really excited. 

I taught him how to identify products to sell on Amazon. He’s making $350 a week in profit and he just started before Labor Day. He’s really hungry to identify more products and his passion and ambition is a HUGE turn on. It’s also my first arrangement that isn’t transactional hour by hour, or meeting by meeting.  
 

For example; his compensation for Paris, per his proposal, is the travel itself. This is the first boy that I’m taking on a trip that isn’t being compensated for his time outside of the trip’s expenses. I’m worried that it’s a recipe for disaster but I agreed to it. He has a seeking mindset, not a rentmen mind set and it’s been very challenging for me to learn the difference.  When he spent the two weeks at my house, his compensation was a Prada wallet, some designer sunglasses, upgraded tech for his dorm room and a new iPad. It amounted to less than $2k for having his company in and out of the bedroom for two weeks. He was ecstatic but I had a hard time because I felt like I had taken advantage of him. This seeking thing really is a different world and a serious game changer to the traditional hiring experience. 
 

https://mega.nz/file/g41mGTpB#GVHSeKweGKsHAw72LN3v4ZY0Zrt1mWfUXvU_pGha9Rk

 

I'm thrilled for you that you found a great connection on Seeking.  Gotta admit, though, I'm a little bummed for your SB because it sounds like he doesn't know his worth.  I mean, that cock alone ...

[MscleLovr]

1 hour ago, Coolwave35 said:

He was ecstatic but I had a hard time because I felt like I had taken advantage of him.

Congrats @Coolwave35. I feel sure that you “had a hard time”😎
 

Seeking is for a continuing arrangement, and in the past I did the same as you. Being direct, I simply asked the young men what they wanted and how I could help. When they demanded outrageous gifts, I passed. When their requests were reasonable, I was often over-generous but it meant that my desires were readily met. Being fair meant that no-one felt exploited.

 

[guru68]

4 hours ago, Bryan Dube said:

You mean he's not really in ny? or wherever he claims to be? 

IKR? It's like he's some kind of faker.

[+ Coolwave35]

3 hours ago, MscleLovr said:

Congrats @Coolwave35. I feel sure that you “had a hard time”😎
 

Seeking is for a continuing arrangement, and in the past I did the same as you. Being direct, I simply asked the young men what they wanted and how I could help. When they demanded outrageous gifts, I passed. When their requests were reasonable, I was often over-generous but it meant that my desires were readily met. Being fair meant that no-one felt exploited.

 

You hit the nail on the head. I told him while we’re in Paris, it may be fun for him to shoot with a photographer and memorialize the trip with some professional photos he could have forever. He was soooooo excited.  It became a costly part of the trip but he’s totally worth it and I’m glad it makes him happy.  He then goes a little extra to make me happy. 
 

Having this layer of added consideration is definitely interesting and more challenging to navigate than your typical “how much to do this to me for this long” conversation I mastered ages ago. 

[MikeBiDude]

8 minutes ago, Coolwave35 said:

You hit the nail on the head. I told him while we’re in Paris, it may be fun for him to shoot with a photographer and memorialize the trip with some professional photos he could have forever. He was soooooo excited.  It became a costly part of the trip but he’s totally worth it and I’m glad it makes him happy.  He then goes a little extra to make me happy. 
 

Having this layer of added consideration is definitely interesting and more challenging to navigate than your typical “how much to do this to me for this long” conversation I mastered ages ago. 

Similar to the two days of surfing lessons I arranged in San Diego for a Midwestern young man I’ve recently met on Seeking. He too is about the travel, new experiences, etc. It’s not a transactional arrangement, he’s a student…we meet when we can and enjoy our time together.

 

4 hours ago, Coolwave35 said:

This is the first boy that I’m taking on a trip that isn’t being compensated for his time outside of the trip’s expenses.

Don’t sweat it, go with the flow! It’s working….

There are some on this forum who bash these Seeking posts on occasion. I’m a big fan of Seeking, but as I’ve said before it takes time and patience. Sometimes a lot. I messaged with the young man mentioned above almost 18 months before we met…bit of an outside exception due to Covid restrictions, but makes my “be patient” point.

[Prime38]

I have just recently started using Seeking in August as I had an arrangement with someone else for 4 years and now thinking we should end it.  It has now been a little over a month of trying out Seeking and I'm kinda in the same boat as a lot of people on the thread.

I live in the Los Angeles area and I turned to Seeking because the people out here (I'm sure like in every metropolitan area) are complete flakes and the cities here are so far apart with traffic making it hard to actually date someone. I was also tired of just renting because I wanted a more meaningful relationship that was both beneficial, I generally like taking care of and helping people out. 

When I signed up, I also noticed that so many guys said they lived in LA but they really didn't or said I'm planning to move to LA soon. Some were just there to be attractive and expect that their beauty would be enough for a relationship. Some reached out to me and turned into the LA flakey people and never wanted to set up a meeting. I had one guy that we meet in West Hollywood and literally turned around and walked away after 5 minutes of meeting them. 

I did end up narrowing it down to 4 potential guys, all of them saying that weren't really looking for someone to take care of them, so I've been confused and completely not used to how to handle this situation like @Coolwave35 was mentioning.

3 of those guys eventually just fell off my radar, but with the one final guy we've been texting since August and have meet up twice in person. I was starting to notice that I kinda was falling for him, he's in his last semester of college and I helped with his books and dorming this week, he passed along nudes to me without me asking which made so happy. I did ask in return for the books and dorming that we meet up this weekend and he said yes. I have been texting him since this past Friday to make the plans, he never committed. I then found out via social media that he ended up going out and parting with his friends while I could have used what I helped him this week to have a good time at Adonis and not feeling lonely by myself on a Saturday night.  

I'm still trying to make sense of Seeking, but I can't tell if this normal LA flakiness or maybe I'm just not being as direct as I should be. Anyone have thoughts?

Edited September 19, 2021 by Prime38

[+ Coolwave35]

7 minutes ago, MikeBiDude said:

but as I’ve said before it takes time and patience. Sometimes a lot. I messaged with the young man mentioned above almost 18 months before we met…bit of an outside exception due to Covid restrictions, but makes my “be patient” point.

It is a HUGE time commitment, and I go back and forth on whether I like that aspect or not. Do you regret/resent the time you put in to kissing all the frogs???  I’m fortunate to be proximate to NYC, so the options truly are endless. There have been some really bad experiences, some neutral, some pleasant, and this one wonderful one. 

[+ Coolwave35]

2 minutes ago, Prime38 said:

I'm still trying to make sense of Seeking, but I can't tell if this normal LA flakiness or maybe I'm just not being as direct as I should be. Anyone have thoughts?

Can I call you?  

[Prime38]

4 minutes ago, Coolwave35 said:

Can I call you?  

Of course

[MikeBiDude]

12 minutes ago, Prime38 said:

I live in the Los Angeles area and I turned to Seeking because the people out here (I'm sure like in every metropolitan area) are complete flakes and the cities here are so far apart with traffic making it hard to actually date someone.

I too am in the SoCal area. Yes, there are flakes. Maybe because I’ve been on so long my sixth sense has gotten really keen…the percentage of SA contacts I move on to directly conversing with via text and/or messengers has dropped dramatically from when I first started with seeking. The percentage of those that I actually arrange to meet, also is low.

11 minutes ago, Coolwave35 said:

Do you regret/resent the time you put in to kissing all the frogs???

No, as mentioned above I’ve gotten much more selective about who I’m comfortable taking the next step with. Lots of experiences, none dangerous/bad but some sad/frustrating. 

[Prime38]

5 minutes ago, MikeBiDude said:

I too am in the SoCal area. Yes, there are flakes. Maybe because I’ve been on so long my sixth sense has gotten really keen…the percentage of SA contacts I move on to directly conversing with via text and/or messengers has dropped dramatically from when I first started with seeking.

No, as mentioned above I’ve gotten much more selective about who I’m comfortable taking the next step with. Lots of experiences, none dangerous/bad but some sad/frustrating. 

Thank you, I'm hoping that my sixth sense starts to get to be more keen  

[+ glutes]

Anyone else getting shades of KrisParr?

 

Edited September 19, 2021 by glutes

[+ Coolwave35]

1 hour ago, glutes said:

Anyone else getting shades of KrisParr?

 

I am no KrissParr. But I do appreciate your skepticism. 

[BSR]

1 hour ago, Coolwave35 said:

I am no KrissParr. But I do appreciate your skepticism. 

Where are you staying in Paris?  Not the exact street address, of course, but what neighborhood, arrondissement?  Ever since I found out that the Notre Dame restoration will be done by the 2024 Olympics, I've been daydreaming of another trip. 

[GTMike]

6 hours ago, Prime38 said:

Thank you, I'm hoping that my sixth sense starts to get to be more keen  

I too am in SoCal and it does require time and patience. I have communicated with and met a wide variety of gentlemen.

For me the hardest aspect is trying to appropriately determine how to interact with each unique person. Truth is that some of the "sugar babies" truly are looking for a long-term relationship, some are just using it as another site for their escorting, some really are new and don't know what to expect and are malleable, some really are offended and don't want to be viewed as an escort as they have full time jobs and just are making money on the side when convenient. Some just want to professionally network and get investors, some authentically just want to travel or need a place to live.....And the list goes on and on.

So you should learn not to get too overly excited or in love with potential matches even after a few good communications, because they're not also upfront about what ultimately they really want. But i also wouldn't get too crazed trying to figure out the "right" or "wrong" approach and beating yourself up over it because what might be great for one person would be the opposite with another unfortunately.

Oh and I should add big categories. Some are all over the country and world who are remote to where you are, and in some cases they're scammers just trying to get gifts and money with no intention of meeting up or fulfilling promises they make, some are genuinely appreciative of the gifts and when mutual schedules align would absolutely follow-through on the relationship and some are genuine in their intention of being great video "pen-pals" sending (or selling) you personalized real video's in a mutually beneficial and satisfactory platonic arrangement. 

Time, patience and perspective. 

Edited September 20, 2021 by GTMike
Just adding to original comment

[Prime38]

Wow, @GTMike you really explained everything I've been seeing in the last month with Seeking. 

I'm learning to not be so overly excited or in love with potential matches. I need to be more direct and forward in what I want from this and see if they are willing to go along, not give gifts to them so quickly. I want to have fun with this and not feel broken hearted all the time. 

I joined Seeking to help with the loneliness I've been feeling since COVID and my friends abandoning me for some reason since vaccinations started. But I realized today from a truly wonderful friend and person that I have more power in this than I think and I want too use it the way I want to and have nothing but fun from it from now on  

Edited September 20, 2021 by Prime38

[+ Coolwave35]

3 hours ago, BSR said:

Where are you staying in Paris?  Not the exact street address, of course, but what neighborhood, arrondissement?  Ever since I found out that the Notre Dame restoration will be done by the 2024 Olympics, I've been daydreaming of another trip. 

We’re staying here. if you have any advice, spots to see etc, please feel free to pm me. 
 

https://www.leburgundy.com

[Prime38]

That looks so beautiful!! 

[BSR]

20 minutes ago, Coolwave35 said:

We’re staying here. if you have any advice, spots to see etc, please feel free to pm me. 
 

https://www.leburgundy.com

The hotel looks great, and the location is as prime as prime gets.  After seeing that rather *ahem* impressive photo of your sugarbaby, I know you'd have a hella good time if you were sleeping under the Pont Neuf.  But at this hotel & in that location, it'll be a trip you'll never forget.

Uh, you will tell us all about it when you get back, right?  *pleaseohplease*

[+ Coolwave35]

46 minutes ago, BSR said:

The hotel looks great, and the location is as prime as prime gets.  After seeing that rather *ahem* impressive photo of your sugarbaby, I know you'd have a hella good time if you were sleeping under the Pont Neuf.  But at this hotel & in that location, it'll be a trip you'll never forget.

Uh, you will tell us all about it when you get back, right?  *pleaseohplease*

Thank you!!!  I’ve never stayed there but it came recommended. He already said that there will be photo AND video evidence!!!  And of course I’ll share it all. Cuz why not??? Lol

Edited September 20, 2021 by Coolwave35

[+ glutes]

[+ PapaTony]

On 9/19/2021 at 9:12 PM, BSR said:

The hotel looks great, and the location is as prime as prime gets.  After seeing that rather *ahem* impressive photo of your sugarbaby, I know you'd have a hella good time if you were sleeping under the Pont Neuf.  But at this hotel & in that location, it'll be a trip you'll never forget.

Uh, you will tell us all about it when you get back, right?  *pleaseohplease*

@coolwave how can I see his photo?

[+ Coolwave35]

11 hours ago, PapaTony said:

@coolwave how can I see his photo?

I will PM you his face if you’d like, but a few threads up, I posted a link to his very erect dick.

[+ goosh69]

On 9/19/2021 at 2:11 PM, Prime38 said:

I have just recently started using Seeking in August as I had an arrangement with someone else for 4 years and now thinking we should end it.  It has now been a little over a month of trying out Seeking and I'm kinda in the same boat as a lot of people on the thread.

I live in the Los Angeles area and I turned to Seeking because the people out here (I'm sure like in every metropolitan area) are complete flakes and the cities here are so far apart with traffic making it hard to actually date someone. I was also tired of just renting because I wanted a more meaningful relationship that was both beneficial, I generally like taking care of and helping people out. 

When I signed up, I also noticed that so many guys said they lived in LA but they really didn't or said I'm planning to move to LA soon. Some were just there to be attractive and expect that their beauty would be enough for a relationship. Some reached out to me and turned into the LA flakey people and never wanted to set up a meeting. I had one guy that we meet in West Hollywood and literally turned around and walked away after 5 minutes of meeting them. 

I did end up narrowing it down to 4 potential guys, all of them saying that weren't really looking for someone to take care of them, so I've been confused and completely not used to how to handle this situation like @Coolwave35 was mentioning.

3 of those guys eventually just fell off my radar, but with the one final guy we've been texting since August and have meet up twice in person. I was starting to notice that I kinda was falling for him, he's in his last semester of college and I helped with his books and dorming this week, he passed along nudes to me without me asking which made so happy. I did ask in return for the books and dorming that we meet up this weekend and he said yes. I have been texting him since this past Friday to make the plans, he never committed. I then found out via social media that he ended up going out and parting with his friends while I could have used what I helped him this week to have a good time at Adonis and not feeling lonely by myself on a Saturday night.  

I'm still trying to make sense of Seeking, but I can't tell if this normal LA flakiness or maybe I'm just not being as direct as I should be. Anyone have thoughts?

This is all more typical than Paris trips with hot jocks. Thanks.