Seeking arrangements success!

[+ Keith30309]

Why the "brief crisis of self-identity", @Keith30309 ? In this particular context, Successful men are highly alluring to Attractive men. And who is to say they are wrong? ;-)

Well, it begs several questions... are they mutually exclusive? What if I’m neither ? Assuming I was one then when did I stop? Does that automatically mean I’m the other ? If I am one now... and I am alluring to the other... then what would make me stop being alluring ?

This is nerve wracking !

[MscleLovr]

Well, it begs several questions... are they mutually exclusive? What if I’m neither ? Assuming I was one then when did I stop? Does that automatically mean I’m the other ? If I am one now... and I am alluring to the other... then what would make me stop being alluring ?

This is nerve wracking !

 

Your suffering and trauma would merit an episode of "Frasier" @Keith30309 If you continue like this, you may encounter the dreaded celibacy!

 

I recommend you stop over-analysing and start enjoying the attentions of handsome young men - I know I do .

[+ José Soplanucas]

@Keith30309 If you continue like this, you may encounter the dreaded celibacy!

 

[fedssocr1]

The designation of me as “successful” by Seeking Arrangements has boosted my self esteem immeasurably

 

Did they lure you into buying "Diamond" status?

 

After a few months I've decided to stop paying the $90/month to read messages. In the end I met 3 guys only. Partly due to my travel schedule and partly because the local guys that I am most interested in meeting are too busy with work or school. And the guys I did meet were nice enough but not really anyone I'd want to have an on-going arrangement with. I sent the couple of guys I'd like to meet my email address and phone # and mentioned I was planning to stop paying for the service. When I told one of the guys I met how much it cost on the daddy end he was shocked.

[MikeBiDude]

Did they lure you into buying "Diamond" status?

No I haven been lured into that. The standard quarterly fee has been just right for me, and extremely fruitful for what I’m looking for.

[+ Keith30309]

I’d never go for Diamond... that site is already pretty expensive and I get lots of messages every day.

Now... if there was a way to block my profile from being seen outside the US... maybe.

I know you can filter incoming messages based on distance but that just shoves them into the archive with everything else.

[MikeBiDude]

Now... if there was a way to block my profile from being seen outside the US

Amen, brother!

[fedssocr1]

I find it's easy enough to ignore all of the messages and favorites from far away - whether that's abroad or in the US. I wish the "seeking" button on their app would actually only show me guys according to the parameters I set. Once it runs out of local guys it shows me people from everywhere. For me there's a bit of a "grass is always greener" syndrome. Tons of hot guys in Colorado for some reason and tons in California.

[fedssocr1]

Now they've suspended my account. I wonder if that's related to my decision to stop paying them. Buh bye, "Seeking (Arrangement)". It's funny that they claim now that they are not for finding a sugar daddy or baby.

[MikeBiDude]

Still having great luck meeting day-to-day really interesting guys....And I usually don’t need to offer escort level “allowances”. Great time of year as many return home for school breaks ??

 

But...I’ve had a recent run of 2-3 different guys who think their time and affections are worth $1000! WTF?

 

I’m very kind to these clueless ones....and tell them to keep trying “I’m sure there’s a match for you on SA...” Haha. If they get catty with me...I gently point them to our local RentMen.com listings for a reality check.

 

Not sure what these gents are thinking? One told me he needed $900 because that’s what his rent was, due in a few days.

 

But I still really like the experience there and who I’ve met from the site.

Edited December 12, 2018 by MikeBiDude

[tennisjock]

Still having great luck meeting day-to-day really interesting guys....And I usually don’t need to offer escort level “allowances”. Great time of year as many return home for school breaks ??

 

But...I’ve had a recent run of 2-3 different guys who think their time and affections are worth $1000! WTF?

 

I’m very kind to these clueless ones....and tell them to keep trying “I’m sure there’s a match for you on SA...” Haha. If they get catty with me...I gently point them to our local RentMen.com listings for a reality check.

 

Not sure what these gents are thinking? One told me he needed $900 because that’s what his rent was, due in a few days.

 

But I still really like the experience there and who I’ve met from the site.

I have had one tell me it’s $1k for a lunch etc session and had to start platonic with shopping sprees and another told me $3k but that was a whole date with meal and bedroom after Ian thinking omgwhat uf i am not interested in u when we first meet . Still others have been sweet and interested in a nsa ongoing thing so shall keep trying

[MikeBiDude]

I have had one tell me it’s $1k for a lunch etc session and had to start platonic with shopping sprees and another told me $3k but that was a whole date with meal and bedroom after Ian thinking omgwhat uf i am not interested in u when we first meet . Still others have been sweet and interested in a nsa ongoing thing so shall keep trying

I’m having amazing luck with 10am Starbucks meet, back with me at my house before noon and earning.

[+ Keith30309]

I’ve been traveling a good bit and found that adding a secondary location in a destination city a couple of weeks in advance to be very fruitful to good discussion.

[+ DERRIK]

Is seeking arrangements no longer. Active in US? Apple apps says it no longer allowed

[MikeBiDude]

Is seeking arrangements no longer. Active in US? Apple apps says it no longer allowed

I’ve never used an Apple App for it....just online website, usually with my iPad.

[MikeBiDude]

I’ve been traveling a good bit and found that adding a secondary location in a destination city a couple of weeks in advance to be very fruitful to good discussion.

Yes, a second (even third) secondary locations work really well. I get a lot of interest from my secondary location which is a city I visit frequently about 100 miles from me.

[CBA]

Still having great luck meeting day-to-day really interesting guys....And I usually don’t need to offer escort level “allowances”. Great time of year as many return home for school breaks ??

 

But...I’ve had a recent run of 2-3 different guys who think their time and affections are worth $1000! WTF?

 

I’m very kind to these clueless ones....and tell them to keep trying “I’m sure there’s a match for you on SA...” Haha. If they get catty with me...I gently point them to our local RentMen.com listings for a reality check.

 

Not sure what these gents are thinking? One told me he needed $900 because that’s what his rent was, due in a few days.

 

But I still really like the experience there and who I’ve met from the site.

I also have had the very pricy quotes from a couple of guys. Usually it is guys who list Men/Women as what they are looking for. I also have inquired more with a few as to why they have such high rates...one reason is the they have women friends that have commanded high rates without any physical interaction and recommended they try SA. I have informed a couple guts that they will not get many SD’s with rates that high. Some thank me, others tell me off and then block me. Some guys are just clueless as to how SA works. In the end though if you work at it you can find some very fun and handsome men on SA.

[MikeBiDude]

one reason is the they have women friends that have commanded high rates without any physical interaction and recommended they try SA

Yes! I’ve gotten the same....I always ask them how they found SA and a lot of them say a woman friend told them about it.

[FilmGeek]

So I gave it a try. I started chatting with one really hot guy who is a body builder, cute face, and very reasonable in his requests. Plus he has a kinky side which I love. I couldn't get over the fact that something about him seemed familiar however, so I hesitated on pulling the trigger, and never gave too much information about myself just incase. We've been chatting for a while now, and he's getting more eager, saying he needs some money for the holidays. I finally convinced myself I was being paranoid, and scheduled a date. Our date is Monday. Last night I went to a business Christmas party, and he was there. He's my old mentors grandson. I guess that puts an end to that.

[MikeBiDude]

Our date is Monday. Last night I went to a business Christmas party, and he was there. He's my old mentors grandson. I guess that puts an end to that.

Well....some of us would proceed, the mutual need for discretion would be paramount.

 

But that said, I don’t know your level of exposure or risk, so you’re probably wise to walk away. That said, I’m glad you realize SA is a good resource.

 

Got to be careful:

[MikeBiDude]

Our date is Monday. Last night I went to a business Christmas party, and he was there. He's my old mentors grandson. I guess that puts an end to that.

Well....some of us would proceed, the mutual need for discretion would be paramount.

 

But that said, I don’t know your level of exposure or risk, so you’re probably wise to walk away. That said, I’m glad you realize SA is a good resource.

 

Got to be careful:

[marylander1940]

The high-flying traveling guys that advertise on RM don't usually do it for me. More into guy nextdoor type guys who might be willing to meet to make some extra $$. If NYC guys here know any locals like that , I am interested in meeting during my upcoming visit to NYC. Prefer Caucasians/Latinos under 33. Please PM me. Thanks.

 

I know you prefer to receive all information by PM. You might consider asking referrals on here about guys who are not escorts but they go on dates for $.

[marylander1940]

The high-flying traveling guys that advertise on RM don't usually do it for me. More into guy nextdoor type guys who might be willing to meet to make some extra $$. If NYC guys here know any locals like that , I am interested in meeting during my upcoming visit to NYC. Prefer Caucasians/Latinos under 33. Please PM me. Thanks.

 

I know you prefer to receive all information by PM. You might consider asking referrals on here about guys who are not escorts but they go on dates for $.

[FilmGeek]

Well....some of us would proceed, the mutual need for discretion would be paramount.

 

But that said, I don’t know your level of exposure or risk, so you’re probably wise to walk away. That said, I’m glad you realize SA is a good resource.

 

Got to be careful:

 

 

It's not so much a need for discretion, as it is for respect for the grandpa. This nice older mormon guy went out of his way to help me in the business twenty years ago, setting me up with knowledge and contacts that have made me very successful. I don't feel I would be repaying his kindness by using the success he handed me for hireing his grandson for sex. Not that he judges me, and I don't judge the grandsons actions, it's just not an arrangement that would sit well with a man I really do respect, so it's off the table. Its too bad too, the guy is really hot.

[FilmGeek]

Well....some of us would proceed, the mutual need for discretion would be paramount.

 

But that said, I don’t know your level of exposure or risk, so you’re probably wise to walk away. That said, I’m glad you realize SA is a good resource.

 

Got to be careful:

 

 

It's not so much a need for discretion, as it is for respect for the grandpa. This nice older mormon guy went out of his way to help me in the business twenty years ago, setting me up with knowledge and contacts that have made me very successful. I don't feel I would be repaying his kindness by using the success he handed me for hireing his grandson for sex. Not that he judges me, and I don't judge the grandsons actions, it's just not an arrangement that would sit well with a man I really do respect, so it's off the table. Its too bad too, the guy is really hot.