Now just wait one single second....

[+ purplekow]

Assuming you are not otherwise time pressured and also assuming you have been told that they will be with you as soon as they can but there has been an unexpected delay....how long would you wait for"

 

An escort you are meeting for the first time?

 

An escort you have met before?

 

At a fine restaurant when you have a reservation?

 

At a favorite restaurant when you have a reservation?

 

At a doctor's office with an appointment for a sick visit? for a healthy visit?

 

At a spa with an appointment?

 

At a hair salon or barber shop with an appointment?

[+ Truereview]

My thresholds despite time not being of the essence:

1. At a fine restaurant when you have a reservation? 10 mins
   
2. At a favorite restaurant when you have a reservation? 15 mins but I want to be acknowledged/recognized
   
3. At a doctor's office with an appointment for a sick visit? Ugh.. 15 min for a healthy visit? Ugh, 15 again
   
4. At a spa with an appointment? 5 mins - don't really care for spas so less patient
   
5. At a hair salon or barber shop with an appointment? 10 minutes
   
6. An escort you are meeting for the first time? 15 minutes max in LA or NYC, less elsewhere - he better be texting me w/ updates
   
7. An escort you have met before? he better be texting me, but my repeat guys are worth any wait time, just don't tell them!
   

[+ azdr0710]

assuming your assumptions and assuming I'm not causing a delay:

 

1. if he's coming to my room, 45 minutes if he's updating me with progress

2. an hour if he's staying in contact

3. ten minutes

4. eleven minutes

5. 30 minutes, 15 minutes

6. I hope my shadow never darkens the doorstep of a "spa"

7. my kind of barber shop doesn't take appointments

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

At a doctor's office with an appointment for a sick visit?

 

I've been told by multiple friends who have worked in doctors office that there is never a wait for someone who is vomitting or simply says, "I think I'm going to vomit."

[+ Keith30309]

I've been told by multiple friends who have worked in doctors office that there is never a wait for someone who is vomitting or simply says, "I think I'm going to vomit."

 

LOL - do you actually have to follow thru with that? Is it sort of like "Oh- I'm going to cum" and you're kind of on the hook to deliver?

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

LOL - do you actually have to follow thru with that? Is it sort of like "Oh- I'm going to cum" and you're kind of on the hook to deliver?

 

I think you get a pass for not triggering the vomit chain reaction in the waiting room.

[seaboy4hire]

For me minus the spa since I don't do them its about 30 mins. Although I have waited an hour for the barber. I recently had a 1pm appt for the Dr. I waited 30 mins past the time and lost it. Some might consider me ocd about being on time and often times I am no less than 30 mins early for any given appt.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[seaboy4hire]

My longest wait was when I went to gross stl to see my hag. She had me waiting for 3 hrs at the loop. I told her that this would be the last time I ever come see her for making me wait so long. I told her that if she ever wants to see me she will need to come up to Chicago. I wasn't going to waste my time and money going to stl.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[marylander1940]

Depends...

 

Do I have other plans for later, is it too late at night for me to wait, or am I free in the next hours?

[+ purplekow]

Depends...

 

Do I have other plans for later, is it too late at night for me to wait, or am I free in the next hours?

I believe the first phrase states, assuming there are no time pressures. Was trying to get a feel for what things people would wait for and which they would not.

[gallahadesquire]

My longest wait was when I went to gross stl to see my hag. She had me waiting for 3 hrs at the loop. I told her that this would be the last time I ever come see her for making me wait so long. I told her that if she ever wants to see me she will need to come up to Chicago. I wasn't going to waste my time and money going to stl.

 

Hugs,

Greg

 

Bitchy, but given Chicago transport, in ANY form: Not a bad idea.

 

Last time I was in tosn (2007) I heard that at 2:00 PM, the EIsenhouwer (I-294) from the Post Office to Elmhusrt (15 mi) was 1:50. That's when I dedcided I wouldn't move back.

When I was a kid, I live four houses south of the C&NW commuter rail. It was 22 min to down town.

[seaboy4hire]

Bitchy, but given Chicago transport, in ANY form: Not a bad idea.

 

Last time I was in tosn (2007) I heard that at 2:00 PM, the EIsenhouwer (I-294) from the Post Office to Elmhusrt (15 mi) was 1:50. That's when I dedcided I wouldn't move back.

When I was a kid, I live four houses south of the C&NW commuter rail. It was 22 min to down town.

 

Not bitchy at all. She kept telling me 30 mins and then 30 mins more. It turned into a 3 hr wait. That's just rude. As for driving in Chicago it seems it is mostly out of towners and people from the burbs that drive in the city. That's their fault and issue not mine.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ quoththeraven]

Escort -1st time: I was half an hour late to my 1st appointment because of traffic and weather despite having left home in good time. (I'd let him know I would be late, but had estimated less of a delay than there actually was.) If I'm going to the escort's location, I expect him to be there when I arrive. I'll give him 15 minutes before canceling and leaving, but will take his lateness and the reason for it into account in deciding whether to see him again. If he is traveling to my location, or we both are, we both have time to spare, and he lets me know what's going on, I'd roll with delay of as much as an hour before suggesting rescheduling or cancelling entirely, depending on my sense of how out of the escort's control the delay was.

 

Repeat appointments: Pretty much the same. I'd also like to point out that if the escort is traveling by plane or train, you are both at the carrier's mercy. Unless the delay is such as to make the planned duration of the visit impossible, it would be unfair to cancel because of it.

 

Restaurant reservation: 10-15 minutes

 

Doctor's office: As long as it takes. (Remember, we're assuming unlimited time.) Otherwise my trip there was wasted. But frequent significant delays affect my opinion of the practice and willingness to continue going there. And I will go to the reception desk every so often to check and make sure I wasn't skipped inadvertently. In actuality, I usually experience delays of half an hour.

 

Spa: 10-15 minutes, though I haven't made a spa appointment in years.

 

Hairdresser: I will wait as long as necessary. It takes enough effort and self-talk to make appointments that I don't want to have to reschedule. But if I feel I'm made to wait an unreasonable length of time (what's reasonable depends on the circumstances), I'll find another stylist or salon.

[Wolfer]

As a teenager I had this self-imposed rule that I would always wait one hour, for anyone, anywhere. Nowadays I'm a LOT less patient. But I have a tendency to show up early (way early) to appointments.

 

An escort you are meeting for the first time? Very low tolerance. I think a maximum of 15 minutes, although the two escorts that have made me wait outside their buildings luckily didn't let me go over ten minutes. I don't do incalls and I often arrive way too early. I let them know five or ten minutes prior to our agreed time that I have arrived (while in fact I may already have been there for thirty minutes). If they ask me to wait to come up until our agreed time, that's somewhat fine with me, although I always wonder how someone can be caught off-guard by a client being five or ten minutes early. Five minutes isn't enough to clean up your flat, do the dishes and vacuum your bedroom, honey. I want to clarify that the two who made me wait, made me wait ten minutes past our agreed time, on top of the ten minutes early I had let them known I was there.

 

An escort you have met before? I will be very patient. A repeat hire once had me wait an hour and a half (first in a nearby Starbucks, then in his living room) because he was still cleaning his flat. But I had traveled to London, so I couldn't really go anywhere anyhow. I was a little exasperated the other day when an escort texted me ten minutes before our appointed time asking me if I was gonna show (I had already seen him, and been perfectly on time for three sessions before) with me answering: "Well, I just arrived, actually! Can I come up now, then?" (in reality I'd already been there about half an hour) and him saying: "No, not yet, wait ten minutes." Why text me impatiently when you're not ready yet yourself?

 

Fine restaurant? 30 minutes.

 

Favorite restaurant? About the same.

 

At a doctor's office with an appointment for a sick visit? for a healthy visit? Endlessly. Because the appointments are very hard to get and they need to be planned far into the future. So I don't want to miss them.

 

Spa? That I don't know actually, I guess I would wait half an hour and then inquire.

 

Hair salon? I've waited very long times in the past. I just take it as part of the whole hair salon experience that you have to wait. Although it's been a lot better in the recent years. I've systematically weeded out professionals (of any service) that have made me wait too long or were too late for appointments.

 

When I am expecting a guest, I am often ready to receive them 15 minutes prior to their arrival time (often earlier). My hands will start to twitch to text them if they are ten minutes late and I haven't heard from them. If they're twenty minutes late I really need to sit on my hands or I will call them. I often do. Usually they are just at the door just as I call them. I actually do this: once I am ready to receive my guest, I will actually just sit down quietly and read a book or even just stare into space until the doorbell rings. Yes, I'm a bit odd like that.

[mike carey]

An escort you are meeting for the first time?

Depends where we were meeting and how far I had travelled. If I had booked a hotel room I would be very flexible.

An escort you have met before?

As long as he kept me informed and was plausible, I would wait. And I have done so!

At a fine restaurant when you have a reservation?

10 minutes, and then if I had an assurance that it would only be a moment. I would wait longer if I was alone.

At a favorite restaurant when you have a reservation?

15 minutes, beyond that it would depend on how they engaged with me and how important it was that I got a table.

At a doctor's office with an appointment for a sick visit? for a healthy visit?

As long as it takes, they have a reputation for being late and if I'm ill I need to see the doctor. If it were a healthy visit it depends on when I had to pay: non-refundable co-pay on arrival and I would just wait!

At a spa with an appointment?

I wouldn't be there in the first place.

At a hair salon or barber shop with an appointment?

My barber doesn't have appointments.

[Guest]

My thresholds despite time not being of the essence:

1. At a fine restaurant when you have a reservation? 10 mins
   
2. At a favorite restaurant when you have a reservation? 15 mins but I want to be acknowledged/recognized
   
3. At a doctor's office with an appointment for a sick visit? Ugh.. 15 min for a healthy visit? Ugh, 15 again
   
4. At a spa with an appointment? 5 mins - don't really care for spas so less patient
   
5. At a hair salon or barber shop with an appointment? 10 minutes
   
6. An escort you are meeting for the first time? 15 minutes max in LA or NYC, less elsewhere - he better be texting me w/ updates
   
7. An escort you have met before? he better be texting me, but my repeat guys are worth any wait time, just don't tell them!
   

Wow. Not the most patient guy, are you? You've really never had to wait over 15 minutes to see a doctor? I can't see that happening in most primary care or even most surgical offices. I can't think of too many specialties other than psychiatry or dermatology in which one can predict with great accuracy how long a visit will last. The very nature of most medical practices is that one has to expect the unexpected. One cannot simply kick a patient out because his problem's too complex and time-consuming. For surgeons, it can get even more unpredictable, with either surgeries that may be more complicated than usual, staff not being all available, the prior surgeon's case taking longer than expected, etc. Of course, if a patient comes in 10-15 minutes late, that can set the whole schedule back for the entire half day. What if your first patient of the day, say the 8 AM patient, comes in at 8:12? Not the doctor's fault, and it happens all of the time.

[+ Truereview]

Wow. Not the most patient guy, are you? You've really never had to wait over 15 minutes to see a doctor? I can't see that happening in most primary care or even most surgical offices. I can't think of too many specialties other than psychiatry or dermatology in which one can predict with great accuracy how long a visit will last. The very nature of most medical practices is that one has to expect the unexpected. One cannot simply kick a patient out because his problem's too complex and time-consuming. For surgeons, it can get even more unpredictable, with either surgeries that may be more complicated than usual, staff not being all available, the prior surgeon's case taking longer than expected, etc. Of course, if a patient comes in 10-15 minutes late, that can set the whole schedule back for the entire half day. What if your first patient of the day, say the 8 AM patient, comes in at 8:12? Not the doctor's fault, and it happens all of the time.

 

Thanks for the perspective, Uni! You make a good point that I come across as impatient. I am! I'm particularly impatient when I know something can be done to respect people's time. Let me explain.

 

I consider my time equally as important as the doctor's. Therefore, I found my primary after extensive research and have been with her for 5 years. She employs a "master scheduler," and the most I've ever waited was 5 minutes in 5 years. Why? He and the doc build-in 30-minute windows in between patient visits. This allows the doc to rest, build rapport, or adjust for derailers. The master scheduler does rounds, keeps things moving, and frankly serves as a host of sorts...everybody loves him bc he respects everyone's time. He also knows us almost as intimately as the doc. Since he came onboard, I'm told wait time went way down. Key to success was that the doc was willing to sacrifice # of patients for quality of experience. Also, if you, as a patient, show up late (10 minutes), you have to either wait for a no-show or reschedule. Whether the delay was your fault or not, I like owning what happened to my schedule instead of passing on my own fault or misfortune to patients who showed up on time. I loved signing my punctuality acknowledgement form with the master scheduler. It made me remember that I'm also accountable, not just the doc. This may not work for everybody, but it works for me.

 

On specialists, you are absolutely right, Uni, it's a crapshoot! To try to overcome this, I've asked my doc for referrals to specialists who maintain a well-run office. So far, knock on wood, no major delays!

[+ SundayZip]

I really can't state definitively how long I'd wait in the situations listed. For me, it's very subjective. If I believe that a person I'm waiting for generally treats me with respect and is doing his or her best, I'll wait a long time. If not, I get impatient quickly and my wait time is short. Popular restaurants will often have a wait time on a busy night, even with a reservation. So I wait unless I know there's another good option close by that will not also have a wait time. I also have a ton of respect for the doctors and specialists that I see and truly believe that they would not make me wait unless the circumstances were beyond their control. Therefore I chill out, read a magazine and wait.

[geminibear]

Wow. Not the most patient guy, are you? You've really never had to wait over 15 minutes to see a doctor? I can't see that happening in most primary care or even most surgical offices. I can't think of too many specialties other than psychiatry or dermatology in which one can predict with great accuracy how long a visit will last. The very nature of most medical practices is that one has to expect the unexpected. One cannot simply kick a patient out because his problem's too complex and time-consuming. For surgeons, it can get even more unpredictable, with either surgeries that may be more complicated than usual, staff not being all available, the prior surgeon's case taking longer than expected, etc. Of course, if a patient comes in 10-15 minutes late, that can set the whole schedule back for the entire half day. What if your first patient of the day, say the 8 AM patient, comes in at 8:12? Not the doctor's fault, and it happens all of the time.

 

When does doctor see a patient before 9am?

[AdamSmith]

Lacking the patience to answer all those questions this is just to recall reading somewhere that the average American spends 15% of his/her waking hours waiting in line.

[Rudynate]

For me, there's always a little risk/benefit analysis in whether to wait or not. Is it going to cost me more time and more running around if I don't wait? Usually it will, so I wait. I had a primary care doctor who always ran at least 45 minutes late, but he was such a good doctor that I thought he was worth the wait. I waited close to an hour for an escort a short time ago, but he stayed in regular touch throughout the time. He was visiting San Francisco and probably had no idea how difficult getting around the city has become.

[+ glennnn]

I am always early, as I have an anxiety reaction to being late. Therefore, I am annoyed when the service provider isn't ready for me. BUT, it is so hArd to get an appointment with my doctor, escort, dentist, etc, I have to book so far in advance, juggle so many other appointments, plan,for parking, get up early, plan to leave work, ad nauseam, that once I am there, I tend to stay and wait until waiting is no longer possible, just to avoid the rescheduling process.

 

Just remember that abandoning the appointment because the provider is late probably punishes you more than he/her, because you still need the service and must start over from scratch with the whole mess. I tend to stay, have the appointment and then look for a new provider for next time if possible.

 

Also, always take a book, magazine, your knitting or macrame to fill the time. I've found taking a toddler with me into the bank, funeral home, hospital or doctors office gets me faster service lol.

[Rudynate]

 

Just remember that abandoning the appointment because the provider is late probably punishes you more than he/her.

 

 

"Punishment" is usually a poor motivation. From time to time, new clients often no-show. Because of this, if a new client is more than 15 minutes late for an appointment, I have them re-schedule, not to punish them, but to conserve my time, which I consider a precious resource.

[geminibear]

I've found taking a toddler with me into the bank, funeral home, hospital or doctors office gets me faster service lol.

 

I'm not sure I want to ask but curiosity as usual has gotten the better of me.....Where are you getting the toddlers from?

 

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[thickornotatall]

purplekowPrince

New

Assuming you are not otherwise time pressured and also assuming you have been told that they will be with you as soon as they can but there has been an unexpected delay....how long would you wait for"

 

An escort you are meeting for the first time? 30 min

 

An escort you have met before? one hour

 

At a fine restaurant when you have a reservation? 15-20 min

 

At a favorite restaurant when you have a reservation? 15-20 min

 

At a doctor's office with an appointment for a sick visit? for a healthy visit? I wait all too long due to double bookings and other patients lateness...when it's my time I refuse to be rushed..so I will wait for one hour....I am almost never sick...never have colds..flu or other stay at home illness...also my brother is my doctor

 

At a spa with an appointment? 15 min....I go once a week for massage....and or facial....2x a week for foot massage

 

At a hair salon or barber shop with an appointment? I never have to wait...my barber is always on time

 

I am never ever late..always a few minutes early....I won't put up with lateness....