Do good escort reviews lead to increased expectations?

[azhiker]

Over the last 8 months I have hired 4 escorts in different locales that have very good reviews. My experiences did not match the good reviews. All were mediocre at best. For the $$($), my expectations were high. OK, so you would think there is something wrong with you, the client.

 

But non-reviewed or seldom reviewed escorts I have hired in the same period exceeded my expectations and are normally (not always) less expensive. Do escorts coast on clients they perceive as one time only (out of town for example) or am I just getting these guys on bad days? Or do they rely on good reviews generating business? Or are the client reviews written with glowing prose if they have not had sex in a while? I know I have done that at least once. He is still well reviewed.

 

Maybe when writing reviews, clients should pay more attention to “recommend” or “satisfactory”. I am hesitant to select the last description and often don’t submit a review on those escorts. I wonder if other forum members feel the same way.

[OneFinger]

I don't think you can believe everything you read in an escort review. I believe some clients post a very positive review as a favor to the escort. Or, perhaps, they want to feed their own ego and "brag" that they hired a well-known escort.

 

I've posted several reviews (although not recently). But, I certainly didn't review every escort I hired. I chose to only review those that I truly enjoyed or felt they exceeded my expectations. Since one of my homes is in Salt Lake City, I tried to post of experiences there to help others who might be looking for an escort in a very small market.

 

I've had several "mediocre" experiences with multiple guys. But, I don't recall ever posting a negative review. That's just not something I would personally do unless I felt there was intentional fraud, deception, health risk, or safety issue.

 

When I read gushing reviews of an escort I'm thinking of hiring, the first thing I do is try to search the history of the poster. This includes their previous reviews and message center history. I feel it is just an important to review the longevity / history of the poster. Are they a recent or new poster? Do they have an established track record on this site? Do they participate in the forums and how do they present themselves here? In short, do they seem credible?

 

In the past I've seen people post here asking for information on a particular escort. If I've hired the guy and wasn't impressed, I'd often start a private message with the poster looking for input.

 

But, to answer your original question. I'm a "born again skeptic". Escort reviews don't lead to my increased expectations.

[RyanDean]

I find that I've come to approach reviews here the way I do reviews in the newspaper, on amazon, or on yelp.

 

Not a guarantee of anything.

Usually says as much about the reviewer as about whatever's being reviewed.

But can provide valuable bit of context to consider as I contemplate taking the plunge, especially when (if possible) read with/against other reviews.

 

And for the one or two times I've had a "meh" experience with a well-reviewed guy, I've chalked it up to being just an off mix of circumstance/chemistry. Sort of like being underwhelmed by the Broadway show that everyone else can't stop raving about.

[+ newatthis]

Over the last 8 months I have hired 4 escorts in different locales that have very good reviews. My experiences did not match the good reviews. All were mediocre at best. For the $$($), my expectations were high. OK, so you would think there is something wrong with you, the client.

 

But non-reviewed or seldom reviewed escorts I have hired in the same period exceeded my expectations and are normally (not always) less expensive. Do escorts coast on clients they perceive as one time only (out of town for example) or am I just getting these guys on bad days? Or do they rely on good reviews generating business? Or are the client reviews written with glowing prose if they have not had sex in a while? I know I have done that at least once. He is still well reviewed.

 

Maybe when writing reviews, clients should pay more attention to “recommend” or “satisfactory”. I am hesitant to select the last description and often don’t submit a review on those escorts. I wonder if other forum members feel the same way.

How many times have you gone to a movie highly recommended by your friends only to be disappointed? It wasn't a bad movie, but it didn't live up to the hype. Or seen some highly touted natural attraction and found it less than stunning?

 

When we're expecting to be wowed, it's very easy to be disappointed. It may not be you; it may not be the escort. It may just be normal psychology.

[+ SundayZip]

When I read gushing reviews of an escort I'm thinking of hiring, the first thing I do is try to search the history of the poster. This includes their previous reviews and message center history. I feel it is just an important to review the longevity / history of the poster. Are they a recent or new poster? Do they have an established track record on this site? Do they participate in the forums and how do they present themselves here? In short, do they seem credible?

 

I tend to submit a review when I have something very favorable to say and skip the review if the experience was mediocre or just satisfactory. I suppose I don't want to bias others against the escort just because I had a less than great experience. Of course if everyone does this, even mediocre escorts will get an occasional great review and prospective clients will assume that he's always that great.

 

Hey OneFinger, I too have attempted to search posting history of a reviewer, but have only figured out how to search forum postings if the review name is the same as the forum name. Is there a way to search reviews based on a reviewer name? If so, it would be super useful.

[+ WmClarke]

Hey OneFinger, I too have attempted to search posting history of a reviewer, but have only figured out how to search forum postings if the review name is the same as the forum name. Is there a way to search reviews based on a reviewer name? If so, it would be super useful.

If you add a site to a Google search, you could try the reviewer's handle to find all of his reviews.

 

Like so:

 

site:daddysreviews.com <<reviewer name>>

[body2body]

Several years ago there was an escort who was a "star" of the forum, numerous rave reviews, escort of the year finalist, etc. When I saw that he was coming to my city, I booked a two hour appointment with him. On the appointed evening I arrived at his Hotel with great anticipation. He was every bit as handsome as his photos, but he seemed to be in a cross mood. We started off and within a few minutes I came to the realization that we had zero chemistry. Still, we both gave it our all and a joyless hour later we achieved some kind of mechanical climax. I stayed and talked for a few more minutes and then left. I was disappointed and unhappy ( not the desired effect of an appointment with a highly regarded companion). However, looking back I had very high expectations based on what I read here, perhaps too high. Since then, the first appointment is always 1 hour. There is no accounting for chemistry.

[+ dutchmuch]

A 'review', or set of 'reviews', is only one part of the due diligence you should do, before getting all wound-up...

[Alec Andrews]

I concur with most everyone's response here. Quality, Amazing, Satisfactory...etc... all very, very subjective words. It truly is all about chemistry... but mostly... like most things in life... it comes down to RESPECT.

 

How I work as an escort... the psychological aspect... I find one or two things about my partner that I like/love. Hair, eyes, skin, smile, charm, kindness, shyness, laugh... something. Every single person has wonderful attributes about them. This helps me create an instant connection. Secondly, I get aroused and excited by knowing I am pleasing someone and making them feel good.

 

So what happens when a client comes in and brings to the table really super hard obstacles to surmount? I'm not talking about personal appearance or age. Those are not problems for me at all... What if the client has uncontrollable Halitosis or Body Odor... like super super bad... but he LOVES kissing. What am I to do? What if a client loves to treat me like a whore and is bossy and tells me every 5 seconds what to do and how to do it? What am I to do? What if I am with a client that has zero communication skills (for whatever reason... just strange, intimidation, shyness)... What am I to do? What if a client loves to just rim and rim and rim.. but his short stubbly little goatee is literally rubbing me raw... should I just let him? What should I do? What if a client wants me to do something that I just can't or don't want to do... cumming sometimes, pissing, etc.etc..etc... All of these examples have happened to me. I suspect many of these clients felt I gave them just a satisfactory, just ok, meh experience.

 

What I am going to do is do the best I can and still give 110%. Bu these clients are not being RESPECTFUL of me... as an escort.. as a lover.. as person. Be clean, be kind, be respectful. I'm not a robot... I'm not a mindreader... and I respect myself. I'm not perfect, I have off days sometimes, I'm human. I come to the table as best as I possibly can be... the client has the same responsibility to come to the table... clean, with an open mind to have fun, and kindness. Yes this is a business transaction, but we are both still human beings with feelings and both of us want an amazing fun experience. We should both strive for such.

[m4hotness]

I have yet to write a review. The first well reviewed escort I hired did not have face pics when I met him, I was disappointed. I kept the appointment he is very good in the sack though! I have yet to meet others that match up to him in that aspect.

Another guy with reviews was a nice enough guy but I felt he was somewhat lazy in bed he would jack off and come in less than a minute or two and with him coming, I felt I had to come too! Once we came that was it. It was sleep time.

I've so far had a good experience with a nonreviewed escort whom I've been with 3 times so far. He always makes sure I am having a good time.

So what my message is that some non reviewed escorts can be great and reviewed ones may not live up to all the hype. If you want to know whom I'm referring to you can pm me.

[thickornotatall]

I don't write many reviews...primarily because most of my hires are not what I call "professionals"...I know I'm repeating myself...Steve Roberts was the platinum standard..for me...He could make me feel as if I was really his boyfriend....after a few times I felt it too....We had a definite chemistry...I had to be very careful not to fall overboard...Other well reviewed escorts were less than stellar..and one was just plain awful....My best hires have come from Craigslist....Backpage and a few I have met while walking around downtown....When I read some reviews I think "Fairy Tales"...one reviewer will go on and on and on...so I look at the stats and compare...night and day...then I look at the reviewer's stats and try to make sense...one registers 7" cock....the next fro the same escort 10"...height is different...age may be too....All in the eye of the beholder...My best advice...no chemistry?...end it quick....no way..no how can I fake the feeling and don't expect that from someone else....be honest...I will say "this is not working for me..what can we do?...I want to be fair ....but not a fool.....Tell me what you guys would do...thx

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

Over the last 8 months I have hired 4 escorts in different locales that have very good reviews. My experiences did not match the good reviews. All were mediocre at best. For the $$($), my expectations were high. OK, so you would think there is something wrong with you, the client.

 

But non-reviewed or seldom reviewed escorts I have hired in the same period exceeded my expectations and are normally (not always) less expensive. Do escorts coast on clients they perceive as one time only (out of town for example) or am I just getting these guys on bad days? Or do they rely on good reviews generating business? Or are the client reviews written with glowing prose if they have not had sex in a while? I know I have done that at least once. He is still well reviewed.

 

Maybe when writing reviews, clients should pay more attention to “recommend” or “satisfactory”. I am hesitant to select the last description and often don’t submit a review on those escorts. I wonder if other forum members feel the same way.

 

AZ, it sucks when you meet up with someone and have a meeting that underwhelms or completely disappoints. Without knowing specifics, it's hard to pin down what happened (or didn't) or what could have been tweaked to make your hires more successful and enjoyable. Unless it was an outright disaster, most meetings can be pushed a little in this or that direction and improve immensely. Sometimes it's a feeling of being desired, or listed to when you're talking. Sometimes someone makes an innocuous comment and sours the whole rest of the evening. It's important to realize that your positive experiences with less-reviewed escorts don't necessarily establish a correlation between whether or not you will get a good experience from Escort A, who has received a lot of reviews, so don't bother trying to logic it out that way. What I do question is why all 4 of the primo guys you hired weren't good experiences. It makes me wonder if there's a common quality or characteristic that sounds good on paper but doesn't work well for you in the real world. And yes—there's also the option that you're bringing something to the table that shouldn't be there.

 

What you should look at—like Alec suggests—is the potential chemistry between yourself and the other person (or people). Communicate clearly what you're looking for, be realistic, and don't think you're going to go to the moon and back because you're with someone who is popular. If someone tells me I'm a good kisser, I respond with: "No, we kiss well together. I'm actually getting excited by the fact that you're a good kisser."

[corndog]

I find one or two things about my partner that I like/love. Hair, eyes, skin, smile, charm, kindness, shyness, laugh... something. Every single person has wonderful attributes about them. This helps me create an instant connection.

 

This is a very special talent that, I believe, is the key to a successful career as an escort. It's a rare skill and a true gift.

 

I have long aspired to be able to do this, and, regrettably, I've never been very successful.

[rvwnsd]

I will start by answering your question. For me, a plethora of reviews does not raise my expectations of the escort.

 

Having said that, I recognize a review is that reviewer's impression of the time he (or she) had with an escort and is not necessarily a predictor of the time someone else will have with that escort. What one person thinks is the best sex ever might turn someone else off completely. Also, as OneFinger points out, not all reviews depict exactly what occurred. Years ago, a well-reviewed now-retired escort (whom I hired many times) received an excellent review that gave a blow-by-blow description of the session, including some things that seemed unbelievable. I asked him about the encounter and he stated that most of it was fiction and the rest was hyperbole. He didn't write a rebuttal out of respect for his client and because he was already semi-retired and wasn't taking new clients anyway.

 

Unlike many posters, I am comfortable hiring unreviewed escorts. Almost all of them have been stellar. On the other hand, most of the well-reviewed escorts I've hired were "OK." Two notable exceptions are Rod Hagen and Alec Andrews. My time with each of them was amazing.

[big-n-tall]

As I mentioned in another forum post. Take what you read as a guide in reviews, but come to your own conclusions. I don't know how truthfully other reviews are (mine are very accurate btw ), but I do pay heed to what is said. I have had good times with reviewed and non-reviewed escorts and I have had meh/bad with both.

 

But you can't go in and expect what happened in one review will happen with you. People are all different in some way... so experiences will vary somewhat, if not completely.

[jimboivyo]

sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. you can't piss and moan about it not always being the end all be all

 

go in with zero expectations and realize you're both starting from scratch

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. you can't piss and moan about it not always being the end all be all

 

go in with zero expectations and realize you're both starting from scratch

 

I disagree with going in with "zero expectations" or even low ones, because there has been story after story on this forum about how a client thought "Oh, this must be the way they all are" after a mediocre appointment. But having sky-high ones doesn't work either. Clients go for different things, so to try to generalize is difficult. But every client deserves to meet someone who 1) is honest, 2) does what they promise they will, and 3) is concerned with their client having a good time.

[Bart]

Hello AZ, I was in your shoes once long ago, 13 to be exact. I have lots of reviews, I have met lots of guys. dutchmutch is very correct. Reviews should only be a part of what you are looking into. I have hired plenty of non reviewed gentlemen, as well as reviewed gentlemen.

 

In fact, using both gentlemen posting on this thread who gave some good insight, as an example, have reviews from me. Both are as different in body type as they are in there approach, as their location west coast amd east coast, but one common thread there are both excellent communicators. I met both with very few reviews, Chris had one by the time we met but I think we scheduled before he had any. Alec had two with Ryan when we met first and as a solo none when we met. I have known them personally, would I recommend them, Hell Yeah! To any and everyone, Hell No! I try hard to give a bit of who I am when I review and what I am looking for, I know I am not like everyone else. I like a minimum 2 hour outing. I like sitting and connecting a bit first, I love sex, I am great with BF experience or maybe something more risqué. I love 3-ways, I have many 3-way reviews. I am old bald overweight. These guys fabulous but I would never hire a guy just based upon my review. I know both these gentlemen prefer to have a conversation ahead of the meeting. You never assume an activity. Always be clear. I assure these two gentlemen as well as all the others I have reviewed and not reviewed are aware of my lengthy texts or emails which describe the who, what, where and why. If you are looking for something ask up front. Make sure the gentleman you are dealing with completely understands. One activity that tends to get misinterpreted is kissing. I love to kiss, French. It is so disappointing when I meet a reviewed gentlemen who lists kissing and the review has kissing and then there is just lips and pecks, no tongue or passion. Like what the hell. Worse the gentleman is well aware kissing is part of 3 must have requirements. So yeah it happens, even with lots of communication so there is no fool proof way.

 

Have I been burned by reviewed gentlemen, Yes. Have I been burned by non-reviewed gentlemen, Yes. I would say don't fall in love with the press clippings. See thread on guy who was going to cancel a well reviewed guy because he hired out of popularity rather than fit. This is not a fashion show, not that either of these guys would not look gorgeous on your arm the question is how good are they on the couch and the bed. I am sorry you had disappointment and who knows what the issue was. I agree expectation can formulate an opinion up front that may not quite be there. Everyone here has a little something different they are looking for. To me the reviews work best if you use them to

1. Verify that they are real and pictures are real.

2. Activities are of interest to me, I am a bottom so guys who top are what interest me.

3. They are professional in their appt. set-up, on-time, no back charges fees are clear.

4. Reviewer history has some play for me, although we all had a first review at some time.

5. Description of activity is important. Pointless reviews are one and two sentences, "He's Hot and had a great time" Wow that was certainly helpful to me.

6. Description of reviewer.

 

Anyway I hope this is some help. You have received some good advice from both sides of the fence. You really cant get much more. Good luck on your decision and future hires.

[Michael Wayne]

the gentleman who said ,"My best hires have been from Craigslist or Backpage," totally captured the current state of the escort biz in the USA. The big 3 gay escort websites are in trouble except in CERTAIN big markets and a few isolated other markets. Many escorts who refuse to compete in this alternate arena are being passed by and spending a lot of Friday and Saturday nights home alone or with their boyfriend or girlfriend instead of working. I was pleasantly surprised at the overwhelming response I recently got in San Antonio, texas from just the 3 main sites. I was surprised. DC also , of course, is good to me...so there are areas where one can live without CL or BP but it is increasingly difficult. The inherent risks of CL are scaryas we just saw in DC with the murder at the Donovan hotel..... @ www.rentmen.com/mikeyusatop

[BaronArtz]

This is a most interesting thread. Like some of you, I prefer the lesser-known escorts and generally stay away from escorts with a large number of stellar reviews. This is just my preference. To me, reviews are a bit like porn. I may have an initial interest in an escort's profile on a website, then when I find out he has done porn movies, I may look at a few clips. In many cases, there is something that turns me OFF. A specific aspect of his physique, a specific sex act ... it tells me I should just not hire the guy. It is the same with reviews. If there are too many 'stellar' ones, I think that (1) this escort has been around the block too long, (2) some of the reviews are written by the escort himself or by friend(s) or (3) something is mentioned in the review that really turns me off.

 

Having said that, I find reviews helpful for more mundane purposes. He was indeed the guy in the pictures. He did show up on time. He didn't cancel last minute. He didn't steal my credit cards. And frankly, some reviews are entertaining to read. But they rarely encourage me to actually hire someone.

 

I find the comments on the message board far more helpful. Sometimes somebody will respond to a PM I send them about an escort, and that information is usually excellent. People speak their mind more in a PM than they tend to do in a review or in the forum.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

At times, it is difficult to write a fair review.

 

Last year, I told an escort I had seen a few times that I would like to invite another guy to join us - - a new adventure for me. The three of us had a great time at dinner I really enjoyed the company of both guys. If I were to have written a review and included our playtime, it would have probably been read as unfavorable for the escorts. I was overwhelmed by the experience of splitting my focus between the two guys. Nothing wrong with what they did, but I would have done no favors to the escorts or other clients writing a review that would have been more about me than my experience with them.

[+ poolboy48220]

it's happened to me. After all his great reviews, when The Legendary Dave visited my town, I was pretty excited, and he and I had a couple long conversations about what I was into and how it would go. When I got there, we didn't click at all. He saw it too and said after the session we should not repeat.

[jimboivyo]

At times, it is difficult to write a fair review.

 

Last year, I told an escort I had seen a few times that I would like to invite another guy to join us - - a new adventure for me. The three of us had a great time at dinner I really enjoyed the company of both guys. If I were to have written a review and included our playtime, it would have probably been read as unfavorable for the escorts. I was overwhelmed by the experience of splitting my focus between the two guys. Nothing wrong with what they did, but I would have done no favors to the escorts or other clients writing a review that would have been more about me than my experience with them.

 

good that you figured this out though. group scenes aren't for everyone

[azhiker]

It is nice to know I am not the only one who wonders about expectations not quite matching reality. It’s also good to get escort’s point of view on the subject.

 

My take away is this:

 

When in NYC, don’t expect a $300 experience to wow you. Don’t have high expectations in the first place. When a high end well reviewed escort comes to town, same thing.

 

I wonder if too many reviews are bad. I don’t think that’s true for Justin from LA. I have not met Juan from BC but I know we would have a good time. Just a hug would be life altering. ;-) Same goes for Chris and I have had my eye on Mikey for a while. So there are exceptions.

 

Some have said the high end escort market is dying in other posts. Maybe true. I think some of us know that there are guys on Back page with zero reviews that deliver an experience where you say “That was amazing”. There is viable competition out there if you care to hire someone with very few reviews or no reviews at all. For less money.

 

I do know when I go to Brazil or Spain, I have a fantastic time. But you normally meet these guys in the flesh to see if chemistry is there. Very few of us review these guys as they seem to come and go.

 

Recently I met a guy off BP and have seen him 6 times in the last 2 months. Why? He is gorgeous, passionate, safe and affordable enough to allow me to see him frequently. I do plan to submit a review on him (with his permission of course). But there are duds on BP and don’t get me started on CL

 

To me, if you want a repeat, it must have been good. If you don’t, something felt missing. I prefer repeats and some of them have lasted for years. Others don’t just due to geography. It would be great to see more reviews on repeats, there have been several of those in the last week.

 

No matter how you meet someone, you want to come away with endorphins firing full bore and a big ole smile on your face. When I make hiring decisions, I look at anything I can find, reviews help, price matters and I am willing to gamble if the pics and stats are current.

[tanman4u]

I don't usually reply to posts using the "quote" thing but I will say to the OP of this post that I could (and probably should) have written that exact post myself. In the past year I've treated myself to two very well reviewed and (in 1 case) very highly regarded (in this forum) escorts. In both cases I went for an evening type of experience with dinner/playtime. In both cases I made the arrangements quite awhile in advance (unusual for me) and spent a lot of eager anticipation time.

 

I've gotta say that neither one really lived up to my expectations but it wasn't in a way that made me think I should write a negative or mediocre rated review. In both cases the guy completely lived up to his description. In both cases I ultimately had satisfying sex with them and I'm sure upon reflection I probably slept well those nights (neither was an overnight). I just ultimately felt like I could have used the same amount of money for several trysts with A4A type escorts. In one case I wouldn't consider hiring him again. In the second case I would but under different circumstances.

 

I'm pretty close to making the arrangements for one more attempt at the higher-end-well-reviewed escort scene and maybe this guy (who, apparently, from my communications in email and phone with him, and his participation in forums here may be one of the nicest guys on the planet) will change my mind.

 

And I would reiterate that I didn't submit a negative review (or any review for that matter) of either of the earlier ones as they didn't really do anything wrong it just wasn't all I had hoped for (oops, I meant all for which I had hoped--don't want to leave my participle dangling around here.)