An Escort, His Roommate and You

[Guest Starbuck]

Do you have any qualms about visiting the homes of escorts who have roommates, boyfriends, partners or husbands? It’s a scenario that applies to some NYC guys I’ve seen. I haven't yet encountered the circumstance of a housemate BEING HOME while I was there, but I did bump into one just as I was leaving--and kissing the naked escort goodbye at the door. I didn't care; I can't say whether either of them did. But there is a fellow with a husband, and although that husband is fully aware of what's going on, I suspect I would feel ... AWKWARD ... if I ran in to him.

 

Any thoughts about this? Does it make a difference if the roommate is a boyfriend or husband (or wife!)? Does it compromise your sense of discretion? Or, if the escort is comfortable having "gentleman callers" over to his shared living quarters, are you good with it too?

[Rudynate]

I wouldn't like to have anyone else there, but if I encountered the roommate/spouse/partner in passing as they were coming home and I was leaving, I might be a little uncomfortable, but not so much that I wouldn't go back.

[RyanDean]

Your post reminds me of the many scenarios on this thread (especially Nvr2Thick's)...

 

Parents, roommates, boyfriends, patrons -- the mere idea of such passing encounters sorta freaks me out. (But I'm the sort who has actually worried that I might be invading the privacy of a guy hosting me for an incall if I happen to notice something on the dresser/bookshelf/sink/wall that tells me something specific about the guy that he hasn't himself told me.) The whole notion just makes me want to have him come to my hotel room and leave it at that.

[marylander1940]

Do you have any qualms about visiting the homes of escorts who have roommates, boyfriends, partners or husbands? It’s a scenario that applies to some NYC guys I’ve seen. I haven't yet encountered the circumstance of a housemate BEING HOME while I was there, but I did bump into one just as I was leaving--and kissing the naked escort goodbye at the door.

 

He wasn't there while you were fucking but technically he was still at the apartment and just leaving as you arrived. I guess you had to be buzzed into the building, he could have left right before and ran into you in the stairs but he didn't. In a city where everything is now he was kind of lazy to get out of the door when you arrived and not before. Did he say hello to you? Did the escort introduced the 2 of you?

 

Damn, just 4 decades ago I would have been the one getting it for free and now on my 70's I have to pay for it, those would have been my thoughts if I. had been in your place. That must have been a weird scene but not as weird as seen an older gentlemen (obviously a client) leaving the door and knowing you'd be next and possibly he didn't even showered.

 

When it comes to escorting the bigger and more discreet the hotel/building the better, I want to walk in and out when I'm satisfied. I saw an escort in the French Quarter once, it was a house turned into a hotel just like a B&B and I had to ask for directions to his room, the concierge told me: "you'd gonna have a good time Sir". (He was Cajun...)

 

That ain't classy.... The escort should ask the client to text him when he's nearby so his roommate, bf, hook up or previous client gets out of his apartment to go check his iPhone at the nearest Starbucks. When the client is gone, the escort should text his roommate, bf or friend: "done".

 

I didn't care; I can't say whether either of them did. But there is a fellow with a husband, and although that husband is fully aware of what's going on, I suspect I would feel ... AWKWARD ... if I ran in to him.

 

I would care, I ain't famous but that would be a turn off and a lack of good professional behavior from the escort.

 

Any thoughts about this? Does it make a difference if the roommate is a boyfriend or husband (or wife!)? Does it compromise your sense of discretion?

 

Previous client, roommate, boyfriend, husband or wife?

 

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Or, if the escort is comfortable having "gentleman callers" over to his shared living quarters, are you good with it too?

 

If the escorts takes incalls at home is because he wants to do it is his choice just keep it classy and ask the client to let him know when he's nearby.

 

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[Guest Starbuck]

He wasn't there while you were fucking but technically he was still at the apartment and just leaving as you arrived.

 

To clarify, I was leaving (probably about 20 minutes past the scheduled end of the session) and the roommate was just arriving home. I knew there was a roommate and that he was "also in the business." (I was told those things once I arrived for the session, not in advance.) I didn't recognize the roommate. We said "hello" to one another, but there were no introductions. I assumed that the escort didn't have a problem being seen naked by his roommate because, well, naked looked really, really good on him. I went back a couple of other times and never saw the roommate again.

[Rudynate]

Your post reminds me of the many scenarios on this thread (especially Nvr2Thick's)...

 

Parents, roommates, boyfriends, patrons -- the mere idea of such passing encounters sorta freaks me out. (But I'm the sort who has actually worried that I might be invading the privacy of a guy hosting me for an incall if I happen to notice something on the dresser/bookshelf/sink/wall that tells me something specific about the guy that he hasn't himself told me.) The whole notion just makes me want to have him come to my hotel room and leave it at that.

 

And that's one of the virtues of the escort/client relationship - it is self-limiting - inherently involving strict boundaries.

[Guest Starbuck]

Your post reminds me of the many scenarios on this thread (especially Nvr2Thick's)...

 

Thanks for the link, RD. I'd missed that thread, but I remember another one in which a guy went ahead with an appointment even though the escort's wife and infant child were in the next room. Or maybe the wife was at work and just the baby was there. I think the story was that the guy was escorting to feed his kid and make ends meet. A heartbreak and a buzzkill rolled in to one. I definitely would not have stayed.

[+ purplekow]

I met a traveling escort at a hotel here in NYC and I called him to let him know I was there and on my way up. His room was right near the elevator and there was a young man standing waiting for the elevator and a room door closed, just as I stepped off the elevator. The room door was to the escort's room and as soon as I entered the room, the escort told me, that if I had been a minute sooner I could have met his boyfriend. I later saw the escort and the boyfriend, the elevator patron, meet in the lobby and head down the street as i took care of some business in the lobby. They were a cute couple, but the illusion was broken and so it did distract from my experience.

[+ WmClarke]

I had a session with an escort visiting my part of the country. Just as I was about to leave his boyfriend walked in. I think we just said 'hi' to each other. Then I left and texted the escort that his boyfriend was HOT.

 

I must admit, I was *prepared* for it to seem awkward, but the boyfriend seemed cool with it so I just relaxed and went with it.

[AdamSmith]

Few years ago I somewhat regularly saw an escort who lived in East Boston in a 2br apartment with a roommate. The roommate was usually home when I visited, with his bedroom door open and the apt laid out so that I passed by there if I went to use the bathroom. First visit I thought it would be awkward, but he casually murmered 'Hey, sup' without looking up from his book as I passed, and was clearly cool with the doings. Which was a good thing, as the escort's bedroom did not have a door per se, only a heavy tapestry hanging over the doorway!

 

Ever surprising the things we can get used to.

[BaronArtz]

I had a massage appointment with a well reviewed guy, here on the upperwestside in NY. He was a good masseur whom I saw regularly, but scheduling was always 'iffy' with him. One day I show up, buzz the front door (nobody asked who I was), was let in and rang the door bell at the apartment. A chubby latin woman with a baby in her arms opened the door. So I said, is 'X' here? She said 'he is not in right now'. I said 'sorry this must be the wrong apartment' and left promptly. I could tell from the look in her eyes that she knew what the deal was. I felt horrible that I could have possibly damaged his relationship with her, but it wasn't my fault - I showed up on the day and the time we agreed upon. The masseur later apologized.

 

The more horrible story was with an escort appointment. I ring the door bell and the guy asks me to wait outside for 10 minutes. He comes down and says the previous client was taking time showering up. I should have left then and there, but I called his bluff and waited. Out comes this really horrible looking man, most probably the client. My heart really sank. I asked the escort whether the guy I saw was indeed the client. He confirmed it. He was an escort I valued very much and felt horrible about the whole thing. Talk about a total buzz kill. Part of my brain wants to say it is none of my business, but still ...

[Phil_musc]

Thanks for the link, RD. I'd missed that thread, but I remember another one in which a guy went ahead with an appointment even though the escort's wife and infant child were in the next room. Or maybe the wife was at work and just the baby was there. I think the story was that the guy was escorting to feed his kid and make ends meet. A heartbreak and a buzzkill rolled in to one. I definitely would not have stayed.

I think this would make a marvelous opera - now the only question would be whether it was opera comique or opera seri a.

[AdamSmith]

Out comes this really horrible looking man, most probably the client. My heart really sank. I asked the escort whether the guy I saw was indeed the client. He confirmed it. He was an escort I valued very much and felt horrible about the whole thing. Talk about a total buzz kill. Part of my brain wants to say it is none of my business, but still ...

 

After finishing an appointment with a female escort I had seen a couple of times, I was walking down the hall from her apartment toward the stairs, when up the stairs and into the hall comes a man who looked fully 90 years old, and a broken-down 90 at that. Looking over my shoulder, I saw him clearly going to her door.

 

I was overcome with admiration for her, and what she was able to do in a day, for a dollar, and for clients, whatever they might look like.

 

Saw her a few more times, booking myself as the last appointment in her day, then taking her to dinner and getting to know a little bit. Heart of gold.

[marylander1940]

I met a traveling escort at a hotel here in NYC and I called him to let him know I was there and on my way up. His room was right near the elevator and there was a young man standing waiting for the elevator and a room door closed, just as I stepped off the elevator. The room door was to the escort's room and as soon as I entered the room, the escort told me, that if I had been a minute sooner I could have met his boyfriend. I later saw the escort and the boyfriend, the elevator patron, meet in the lobby and head down the street as i took care of some business in the lobby. They were a cute couple, but the illusion was broken and so it did distract from my experience.

 

Why in hell he told you that?

 

I don't get it, of all possible subjects why mentioning he has a cute bf to someone who's paying to have sex with him...

 

Stupid!

 

Just talk about the weather, LOL

 

....

 

The more horrible story was with an escort appointment. I ring the door bell and the guy asks me to wait outside for 10 minutes. He comes down and says the previous client was taking time showering up. I should have left then and there, but I called his bluff and waited. Out comes this really horrible looking man, most probably the client. My heart really sank. I asked the escort whether the guy I saw was indeed the client. He confirmed it. He was an escort I valued very much and felt horrible about the whole thing. Talk about a total buzz kill. Part of my brain wants to say it is none of my business, but still ...

 

We had cellphones then, right? He should have told you he was busy doing XX, please wait downstairs for 10 minutes and ask you to come up later after that "horrible looking man" and others walked out of the building.

[nate_sf]

Years ago I went to see a masseur in SF. During the massage I could hear stirrings in the next room, and eventually a guy making a phone call. The masseur apologized and told me that his friend Talvin DeMachio was staying with him while he was visiting town. At this point Talvin was at the pinnacle of his career so I was pretty starstruck, despite the irritation of hearing him yaking though the wall. I'd only wished I'd ran into him in the hall, but alas the door to the room stayed shut.

 

From the escorting side, one of the more complicated arrangements I'd dealt with was a couple who a few times a year would each hire a guy of their liking, then each entertain their men in separate rooms. Great care was taken so that nobody would see anybody from the other pairing, whether it be in the living area or the elevator. On the various occasions I visited I never met the husband or any of his chosen escorts - indeed, in one appointment it appeared we all finished at the same time, so I had to wait 20 minutes or so for the coast to be deemed all clear before I could exit.

[mmk123]

other than 2 meetings with escorts in hotel rooms, any escort encounter I always had would have been in calls. I have always felt more comfortable having encounters in my own place.

[BaronArtz]

After finishing an appointment with a female escort I had seen a couple of times, I was walking down the hall from her apartment toward the stairs, when up the stairs and into the hall comes a man who looked fully 90 years old, and a broken-down 90 at that. Looking over my shoulder, I saw him clearly going to her door.

 

I was overcome with admiration for her, and what she was able to do in a day, for a dollar, and for clients, whatever they might look like.

 

Saw her a few more times, booking myself as the last appointment in her day, then taking her to dinner and getting to know a little bit. Heart of gold.

 

Awfully nice of you to do that, AdamSmith! It easy to forget that this can be a rough business indeed, often requiring a high price to pay. For a dollar, as you said.

[BaronArtz]

 

We had cellphones then, right? He should have told you he was busy doing XX, please wait downstairs for 10 minutes and ask you to come up later after that "horrible looking man" and others walked out of the building.

 

No we didn't have cell phones back then.

[Guest ChrisW]

I have found that I don't like traveling alone while I am in a city because I get lonely so sometimes I will bring a friend with me. What that means for seeing clients is that my friend knows that since I am seeing someone they have to be out of the hotel 15 min before the appointment and not come back until I am done. The friend I travel with is very considerate and understands the ins and outs of escorting which makes things much easier, "Hey I have a client coming over in an hour and I will text you when I am done. Want to grab dinner afterwards?". Its ends up working out pretty well.

 

Every so often I will travel with another escort for the same reason and it has always turned out to be a great experience. We are aware that we need to be out of the hotel and for how long then we usually end up doing something fun when we both have free time. Every so often when asked if we have a recommendation to bring in a 3rd it also makes things easier because I know the person I am traveling with is a quality escort and an all around good guy.

[marylander1940]

No we didn't have cell phones back then.

 

 

I wish you had said in your story that cellphones weren't popular/affordable/available, that's a very important piece of information that was missing in your story. I wouldn't have quoted you and make that statement that only applies to more modern times like 1995 and after.

 

No cellphone communication changes everything in this specific case, I guess you were on time and the previous escort was late or the escort just tried to squeeze one more guy in his agenda to make the day more profitable. In that case it was good for him to wait 10 mins for the other guy to leave, besides after having fucked/get fucked by a such "horrible man", even I would look like a Prince Charming to that escort.

 

I hope you had a good time, and I'm glad you waited for him.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I once hired an escort who was visiting my hometown with another escort. They advertised both individually and together, and when I made my appointed I was told they were rooming together; however, the other guy would not be there while I was there. When I arrived at the room, it turned out to be a suite with a sitting room in the middle and two bedrooms on either side. The other escort actually greeted me at the door as the guy I hired was in the shower. Once my chosen escort was finished in the bathroom, the second guy left the suite and left the suite to the two of us. He did not return while I was still there.