Clients & Escorts: Ever reveal personal info?

[Guest ncm2169]

I'm sure that many (discreet) clients and most (all?) escorts don't use their real names. I'm also guessing that, on occasion, a client and an escort will share personal info. I'm curious how often and under what circumstances this occurs.

 

As always, sorry if this has been covered here before.

[ted]

Most escorts do not use their real names, many do use their real first name or middle name with a made up last name. ALthough I may not always be entirely upfront with my full name for a first time meeting, with guys who are well reviewed here I do give out my name, even on the first meeting. All my meetings occur when I'm traveling and checked into a hotel, and although I can think of a few scenarios to get a fake name registered, it is becoming more difficult. Many hotels won't put a call through to Room xxxx without the name attached, although saying I'm returning a page usually works. I travel with the guys I see regularly and then knowing each others name becomes almost mandatory. With the guys I've gotten to know, they've been to my home, I've been to theirs, I've met significant others, and we talk about things going on in our lives, so I know probably as much about them as a casual acquaintance, as they do about me. Never had any problems with indiscretions from anyone.

[nate_sf]

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Clients will often ask if Nate is my real name (it's my real middle name) and once we've met, will sometimes ask what first name I go by outside of escorting. If they seem like OK guys I don't mind telling. I've found most clients use their real first names, but there's usually not an occassion to reveal last names unless it's an apartment building with a doorman, or as Ted mentions, a hotel. I've found every hotel asks for the full name to put a call through.

 

Beyond names, I've found a lot of clients ask if I escort full time, and when I tell them it's just part time, there's (good natured) curiosity about what my "day job" is. This can be tricky, especially when I meet someone who is in a professional field closely related to mine, and it's tempting to break out of character, so to speak, and engage in shop talk. Generally I try to keep the discussion fairly generic and not go into too much specific detail, not so much out of fear of being discovered, but because it just seems too strange to have things overlap like that.

 

I've found clients vary in how much they want to reveal about themselves beyond their names, and I always respect that. Many will tell me all kinds of things about everything, from their jobs to their domestic life, which I enjoy since I've found most of the guys I meet are really interesting. But of course whenever I'm leaving, the lip is zipped!

[marc anthony]

Yes... but only after trust is developed. Escorts I trust know a lot about me, and escorts who trust me tell me a lot about them.

[Chuck50]

Most escorts that I have gotten to know know my name and me theirs. But yes we have already established that trust. We have shared lots of other Personal Information as well. HUGS Chuck:-)

[Uncle Bill]

I always give each guy my real first name and appreciate being told their real first name as well -- I typically book sessions that might last several hours (with dinner etc.), and it just makes me feel closer to the guy and like we're building some trust. It's by no way mandatory for them, just something I like.

 

If I'm traveling and they need to know the name on the room, I give it to them since I believe that's SOP (and I'm gullible). A couple have visited my house, so they know where I live, and I've been to several of their homes/apartments.

 

I have also been given the real first and last names of several escorts for "professional" reasons (booking them for rooms or flights, checking ID for age, etc.). This has always been with someone I have already met before (even with the age check, we had met for coffee the week before to get better acquainted).

 

I never share any escort's personal info with anyone else without their prior permission, and I expect (and, to my knowledge, have received) the same in return. That even applies to their real first names -- however, when I'm in a 3-way, it takes a lot of concentration to use the "right" names (escpecially when I know the real names of both of the other guys but one or the other doesn't want it used).

 

In any case, I'm typically very careful about screening the guys before I meet them (using this site, email and phone). Also, most of the guys that I have hired have seemed to "click" with me, and the mutual trust starts building early. It's definitely a lot more fun that way -- I'm not looking for anonymous sex, I want to feel a connection.

[Guest]

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I always use my real first name, and once I meet the escort and he can see I'm a regular guy and not a cop or sicko, he almost always tells me his. One escort I hired actually used his real first and last name on his website! I can undertand why most escorts don't want to use their real names on their websites, but in some ways it's a bit silly. After all, if you offer to send them an airplane ticket, they pretty much have to tell you. Any truly obsessed client could meet any escort he wanted to. He'd just have to hire them. And if you have your picture on a website, well, you're not exactly anonymous to anyone who knows you, are you?

A question which would interest me, is whether any escort has gotten into trouble for revealing his name. I think this was asked before, and I don't recall any positive responses...

[jackhammer91406]

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As most of you know, my experience with hiring is recent and limited. In the four times I have hired, I have ended up giving the escort my real first name because the rapport was there and I trusted them. In one instance, (with the no show in Atlanta, as already reported in a thread elsewhere,) I gave the escort my full name since he was coming to my hotel and would need to know it to find me or get a call through. This has only "blown back" (excuse the expression) on me once. And I am not sure if I am upset, just curious. I responded to thread of a guy looking to hook up in an area near where I knew an escort. So I referred him. Several days later, I got an e-mail from this guy through the private e-mail option on this board and he opened his email by saying hey ___, (using my real name)and asking questions about this escort. I have talked to the escort in question who says that the guy started his initial e-mail to him "saying ___ recommended you". I don't know how this happened and I am not paranoid yet because it seems harmless, but like Godiva says in an earlier post, maybe there is a "leak" in some info here that none of us know about (including Hoo, Daddy et al)

Not trying to stir things up, just responding to a thread with my experience. I think I read somewhere that there is on this site (though not avaiable to us) a place where escorts can review us. Maybe there is something in there?

[+ Charlie]

I rarely use my real name unless I know I am going to pay the escort by credit card. The name I normally use is actually a nickname that a number of people have known me by over the years, and originated among my straight friends in college. I share few personal details until I know whether I want to have an ongoing relationship, of any sort, with the escort. If I don't, then I sometimes find myself indulging in the creation of a whole new identity for myself, which energizes my imaginative capabilities.

[+ deej]

The last time I used any name other than my own was the last time I hired off the street.

 

If the guy is coming to a hotel, he'll need the real name just to get in many places, and as others have said he'll need it to call. If he's coming to my home, there's just too much sitting around with my name on it. The deception isn't worth it.

 

Some of the guys I've hired have shared their real names. One of my regulars actually uses his real name, but didn't tell me that until well into our friendship. Guys that I see more than once generally end up sharing a lot of information about themselves, but I suspect that's part of the "click" of intimacy that led to seeing him more than once in the first place.

 

This is one of those questions that has "it depends" written all over it. :7

[+ nycman]

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I use my real first name from the beginning.

 

I don't really care if an escort tells me his real name or not. Many spontaneously do give their real name after the 2nd or 3rd visit. I imagine getting called by a fake name gets very old fast.

 

That said, one escort I see frequently has told me his real first name. I prefer his escort name and I still call him that most of the time. I told him that I love his fake name. He said the loved it too and wasn't freaked out that I still use his escort name.

 

I'm curious, does anyone else continue to call an escort by his stage name even after they know his real name?

[Guest ncm2169]

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Hey guys...GREAT feedback. Let's have some more!

 

Deej, your admonition about "it depends" was right on. Clearly we each have our own comfort levels and we need to make our decisions accordingly. ;-)

 

As for an escort needing a client's name to call his hotel room, isn't that why the God of Escorting invented cell phones? }(

 

I do have another question for either clients or escorts who don't wish to reveal real names: have you figured out ways to make travel arrangements under those circumstances? :7

[LovesYng]

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I have five regular escorts I see in my home city, we both know everything about each other. Some of them I had to give my real screen name with no problem. Two have gotten out of escorting but I still see them 2 or 3 times a month and I know their real screen names also, I trust them all 100%. Even taking them all on trips with me with no problems. Now if it's a new escort he will know nuttin about me & the same from him, just what we need to know. As I start to see the new ones at other times we do learn more about each other.:* As for hotels whenever I check in it's always as two people and the front desk is given two names so when I do call for a escort I can use the second name with no problems. I travel a lot with my job & stay at three or four star hotels and have never had a problem signing in using two names, I just tell them the second person is coming in on a later flight:+ .

[Guest ncm2169]

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That's a very creative way to handle the hotel situation.

 

What about plane tickets, etc.? Are there ways to purchase, send, or arrange for them discreetly after 9/11/01? x(

[+ deej]

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>As for an escort needing a client's name to call his hotel

>room, isn't that why the God of Escorting invented cell

>phones? }(

 

Asking your guy to make a long distance call might not be received well.

 

I *do* use a cell phone myself. They usually have the number. But if I'm in a hotel in NYC and plan on meeting a guy from NYC I don't see why he should have to dial long distance.

 

There's also the problem of flake clients (and they ARE out there) who play games with cell numbers and aren't anywhere near. Some sickos get their jollies out of jerking an escort's chain. In fact, there's one well-known sicko in Boston who has a track record of calling for an escort but giving an address across the street from him. He watches from his window as the guy shows up and gets turned away.

 

I'll opt for the comfort level it gives them to know they're REALLY calling the hotel I'm staying in.

[Guest NakedTony]

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>Asking your guy to make a long distance call might not be received well.

 

I totally agree. That's why I have a personal toll-free (800) number. I only pay $3.75 per month plus 5 cents per minute usage.

 

Upon calling my 1-800 number they are asked to enter a pin. Their call is then rerouted to my cell phone. I can set up pins either over the internet or over the phone. Each escort gets their own pin. If they abuse it, I just cut them off.

 

The toll-free number is a great way to ensure an escort can contact you in case they have to cancel.

 

I also like the idea of checking into the hotel under two different names. I hadn't thought about that idea before and like the protection that would offer for first time visits.

 

However, most of my "usual" escorts know my real name so I only use a "fake" name for the first visit.

[Guest Love Bubble Butt]

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I must admit that using two names when checking in is quite clever. I guess the only disadvantage is that you have to pay a little more for the "second" occupant. But it would be worth it.

 

This board is so informative.

[Guest ncm2169]

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I agree that there could be some downsides to cell phone communication, but I really don't think long distance charges is one of them. In my (admittedly limited) experience, most escorts have cell phones. Most cell plans offer free long distance calling anywhere in the continental US, ergo, no extra charges. ;-)

 

When I began contacting escorts I changed my cell voicemail greeting: instead of saying, "Hi, you've reached Mark...", it now just says, "Hi, you've reached 555-5555..."

 

The 800 number idea is also a good one.:*

[LovesYng]

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>I must admit that using two names when checking in is quite

>clever. I guess the only disadvantage is that you have to pay

>a little more for the "second" occupant. But it would be

>worth it.

>

>This board is so informative.

 

Never had to pay for the second occupant yet, most good name hotels don't charge for a second person in the room:+ .

[chrismac]

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>As for an escort needing a client's name to call his hotel

>room, isn't that why the God of Escorting invented cell

>phones? }(

 

Good point - however, I had one experience with an escort who REQUIRED that he be able to contact me as a first time client directly at my hotel room, via the hotel phone (apparently there had been some sort of problem with a flakey client or two in the past). Thus, if I wanted to hire this escort, I would be required to give out my full name.

 

I found this a bit one-sided, since I'm certain the escort didn't use his real name (it's not the kind of name that one could believe is real). But that, in addition to the above-average charge for his time, was the price of admission. The experience was definitely above-average as well, and he did thank me for trusting him with my name, which made it a little easier to take - but I still found it a little irksome.

 

Like others here, I find it easy enough to use my real first name with escorts I've been with - but I wouldn't give out my full name to an escort on the first meeting, but made an exception this one time.

[+ Charlie]

In the "potentially embarrassing moments" column, I was at an escort's apartment one day when his BF arrived unexpectedly. The escort told him I was an old friend from college (we were dressed and not caught in flagrante delicto). I decided to play along, but we were almost undone when I happened to call the escort by his stage name. The BF gave a questioning look, and said, "Vince?" I quickly improvised and said, "Oh, yeah, in school we always used to call him Vince for 'invinceable'." The alert escort replied, "Yeah, I liked it better than Paul anyway." I don't know whether his friend really bought the story, but I said goodbye shortly thereafter and got away without a scene.

[chrismac]

I assume you didn't have to pay for that session (he should have paid you for your time spent, and your efforts to maintain discretion). Did he contact you later with at least a thank you, and an offer to meet again for free, or more time at a deep discount?

 

Just interested to hear the end of the story, or was that it?

[VaHawk]

Funny scenario. I was with a guy one time (not an escort) whose wife came home and found us in bed together. To her credit, she just politely closed the bedroom door without saying a word. Needless to say, I made a quick exit.

 

I doubt if this escort's relationship with his BF lasted long, as he wasn't very honest with him.

[Guest ncm2169]

Hey...back to plane tickets. How have any of you handled those, and have you done anything differently since 9/11/01? (Since passengers now have to show their ID with their ticket for boarding). x(

[+ Charlie]

The story did have a funny/strange ending, but also a sad one. I called him later and we did have a good laugh, and he told me the BF liked me and wondered why I never joined them socially. (I lived in a different city, so I suppose that was how Paul explained it away.) He said not to worry about the money.

 

Ten years later, I called an escort ad in NYC and went to an apartment, where I found a very handsome man, with whom I had hot sex. At the end we had a cozy conversation, and in the course of it I suddenly realized it was Paul, mature (prematurely greying), and much more muscular! When I reminded him of our earlier encounter, we both had another good laugh, and then he unaccountably began to weep. It turned out that he and Bill (the BF) had eventually broken up over his escorting, but had remained friends. Bill had then developed AIDS, and had recently died. I ended up staying the night to comfort him, and we stayed in touch for a couple of years, until we both moved and lost contact. Paul wouldn't accept a fee for the second encounter, either.