Masseur who offers professional and erotic massages

[Poll123]

Hello everyone, I’m new to this great hobby and had some questions about etiquette.

I have seen a masseur who after doing some digging operates a traditional professional massage therapy clinic and is fully licensed, but also has a separate more challenging to find erotic massage business. I’ve tried to make it known that I am interested in a sexual component, but after initially booking through their professional company, I’m worried that he may not want to cross that line. I’ve since booked through his erotic massage site in hopes that it demonstrates my desire.

What are ways that you can indicate that you want more? I do not want to cross the line, of course.

[viewing ownly]

Look for someone that advertises on both rent masseur and rent men. Unless on rent men it's made clear that it's only going to be a massage, gently reach to touch them and discover where your hand ends up. If it gets deliberately placed by him in a more special place, you'll likely get more. If your hand if violently slammed away from him back next to your body on the table, take the hint. 

Also look at what the reviews indicate. If EVERY review indicates a sensual experience, the odds are in your favor that getting more will materialize. If no reviews indicate that, avoid. 

[Nightowl]

If you managed to find his erotic massage service via some kind of ad, you could just reach out to him and say you found that ad and would like to book him for those services.  Sometimes guys will use different phone numbers for each place they advertise.  If there’s a different number on his erotic massage ad, reach out to him on that one so he knows how you found him.

[jeezifonly]

Reference the ad for erotic massage, including by addressing him by the name used in that ad, if it's not the same as his legit service name.

If he really wants to not offer you erotic massage, you can't stop him. Just move on.

[viewing ownly]

4 hours ago, Nightowl said:

If you managed to find his erotic massage service via some kind of ad, you could just reach out to him and say you found that ad and would like to book him for those services.  Sometimes guys will use different phone numbers for each place they advertise.  If there’s a different number on his erotic massage ad, reach out to him on that one so he knows how you found him.

I think having a different number isn't common, but you bring up something that IS common - a different massage name from an escort name. 

[+ Jamie21]

If you book through the licensed massage route all you’ll get is a therapeutic massage. Don’t try to make that session an erotic or sensual type of massage: you won’t have paid for that kind of massage (which will undoubtedly be more expensive) and he will not risk his license by offering that kind of massage in a therapeutic session. It’s a definite mistake to try and turn a therapeutic session into something different. Only the masseur can do that. 

If you want the massage to be sexual then book it via the other route and ask him what activities are included (if it isn’t clear from his advertising). Guys have different definitions of what erotic or sensual involves, so check with him. He might be coy about it if this is in the US where such discussion of payment for sexual services is unlawful, but in grown up countries it’s safe to have such adult conversations. 

Guys who do both types of massage will keep both services very separate. Different names, different platforms to advertise, different contact arrangements. If you don’t separate them you risk confusing your clients, offending them, losing your license, and giving sexual services for therapeutic prices. 

Also, someone mentioned to see if he advertises on RentMasseur. Every masseur advertising on that platform includes sexual services as part of massage. It’s the go to site for that kind of massage. Guys offering only licensed massage simply won’t be on there. 

 

[simongayx]

Also ask whether you will both be naked.   If the answer is yes, then that is an obvious signal that the session will get "interactive."   Most providers will give that information on initial contact, even if they will be reluctant to specify further sexual services.   

[RugbyBen]

So if you've booked through his erotic massage site have you seen him for that booking? Surely that's all you should have to do really.