The caveat of same day appointments/available now:

[JB_Studio38]

I’m sure this has been brought up before, but it always seems to be a new dimension to it each year. I been finding the same day meetups to be more common lately. I used to get emails asking about my travels in advance, now it seems mostly people texting the day of looking to meet. 
 

I have across all my ads that I prefer 24 hours notice. If I take on a same day meet, 2 hours notice is the minimum but: people don’t understand that if it takes an hour or 2 to confirm, that is then added to the amount of notice I need. For example: If someone texts me at 4 PM, but doesn’t complete confirming along with address and/or deposit until 5:30 p.m. (likely due to asking questions, breaks in texting, etc etc) I’m not going to meet them at 6 p.m. The amount of notice will start from the 5:30 that they confirm. Which could mean 7-7:30 IF I have nothing else going on at that moment.

But what happens? The person may not be willing to meet after such and such time. So wait: you wanted to catch me off guard and be available, BUT you’re also limited on time that you can meet. How does that work 🤔 For example, some people ask for same day appointments but then attach conditions to it like, “but I have to meet before 3 p.m. or 4 p.m. or 9 p.m. Well, if timing was so important, why try and do it at the last minute to begin with? Why not ping me the day before or atleast EARLIER in the day (I had one recently text me at 6 pm on a Friday asking to meet tonight…how many people do y'all know, that can be available at the last minute on a Friday evening?). When I suggested it would be 2 hours at least before I could be available, the plan fell thru. 

In regards to “available now”: I sincerely wish all sites removed that label and changed it to “available today”. It’s not that same day appointments are so bad, it’s moreso people expecting NOW. It’s not possible to stay ready for an appointment 24/7, especially if like me: you’re only used to seeing clients 2-4 times a week max. So when someone pops up asking to meet right away, I don’t know to expect that.

Part of me wants to do away with all same day appointments, but I can appreciate the unexpected earning (and a nice alternative to cumming 💦 , that doesn’t require going to a cruising bar or using a hookup app…which is tempting on days I don’t have clients) it can bring. They certainly come in handy, but I also don’t like cancelling what I have going on, to accommodate.

Sometimes same day isn’t a problem at all really. The problem is I find, once I agree to a same day appointment one time, there’s an expectation that I can do it ALL the time. And usually I’ll allow it once but the 2nd time they ask I’ll usually have to say no. It’s like: I’ve mentioned during our last visit the amount of effort it takes to do an appointment same day.

My Solution: I wish all same day/same night appointments would CONFIRM by 12 p.m. Why 12 p.m.? Well if I’m in a hotel, it gives me time to extend a day. Even if I’m not in a hotel, confirming by noon ensures I can make plans early enough that won’t interfere with friends or family. I just don’t want it to be confused with “all same day appointments must MEET by 12 pm”. No, it’s like a cutoff time for a utility/credit card bill: But instead have it to book by noon, for your appointment to be had that day. 

And to the ones who “don’t know my schedule/just had time pop up”…you know you like to look at escort/masseurs. Even if you have to wing it and put down a retainer of $50/100 to someone you’re familiar with, in the event you may be free but aren’t sure.

[jeezifonly]

Maybe others can post links, but short answer, this topic has discussed before. There was this one provider a couple years back who used to post long screeds about this topic - Jared Something (I think)

I recall later reading somewhere that he finally left the sexwork business due to lack of interest, and returned to Customer Service at the DMV. 

[mike carey]

I seem to recall something like that as well.

[+ nycman]

[JB_Studio38]

32 minutes ago, jeezifonly said:

Maybe others can post links, but short answer, this topic has discussed before. There was this one provider a couple years back who used to post long screeds about this topic - Jared Something (I think)

I recall later reading somewhere that he finally left the sexwork business due to lack of interest, and returned to Customer Service at the DMV. 

No idea who you are referring to but, not sure that has anything to do with same day/available now appointments.
 

If and when you do have something relevant to say about that, you can continue. 

 

[56harrisond]

A few "same day" related threads

[+ PhileasFogg]

3 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

Maybe others can post links, but short answer, this topic has discussed before. There was this one provider a couple years back who used to post long screeds about this topic - Jared Something (I think)

I recall later reading somewhere that he finally left the sexwork business due to lack of interest, and returned to Customer Service at the DMV. 

Click the profile link and you’ll see that @JB_Studio38 is Jarred.

JB, you’ll need to figure this one out.   I have thoughts, but alas, history would suggest you don’t want to hear our thoughts and advice. 

Edited 4 hours ago by PhileasFogg

[Nue2thegame]

Many of us do prefer to schedule in advance and, to that group, you’re preaching to the choir. The other group operates differently and while your proposal makes sense to me, it probably won’t have much impact on them. Some are always going to wait for the first sign of an erection to schedule urgently.