Providers that won’t let you touch their nipples

[TxMaxx]

I’ve had a couple experiences with providers on Rentmasseur who won’t let me touch their nipples, which is a huge turnoff for me.

Anyone else has had a similar experience? Should you ask a provider in advance if he is “a nipple guy”? I wish these two providers had mentioned that in their profiles.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1 hour ago, TxMaxx said:

I’ve had a couple experiences with providers on Rentmasseur who won’t let me touch their nipples, which is a huge turnoff for me.

Anyone else has had a similar experience? Should you ask a provider in advance if he is “a nipple guy”? I wish these two providers had mentioned that in their profiles.

When I hire masseurs, they usually are dressed and I'm usually on a table with my hands by my side, so I am not touching their nipples.

When I hire escorts, we are both naked and on the bed/sling/floor/balcony and none of them have had issues with my touching their nipples.

[DMonDude]

I've never run into that, but I'm also personally not into nipple play, so I've never reached for them. But as far as gauging it from the profiles. If it's not listed on the I Am Into's section (where there very much is a specific check box for nipple play), i assume it's something they aren't into or are at the very least neutral about and should be asked for to confirm they're cool with it. Maybe those guys you hired have hyper sensitive nipples to the point that nipple play is painful for them? Kind of like how some guys love when you keep sucking after they cum and other guys it becomes painfully sensitive and you have to stop. I don't know.

I actually have this problem from the client perspective, i have a lot of providers both masseur and escort assume i'm into nipple play and start playing with mine while working. It's fairly common and popular, so i get it, but it doesn't do anything for me and i find having to tell them not to bother messing with my nipples to be awkward and momentarily a vibe killer. So definitely better they just not go for it to begin with. So maybe that's how the providers you hired are feeling too?

Edited 14 hours ago by DMonDude

[Nightowl]

Some guys don’t get any charge out of having their nipples touched.  Odd that they’d declare them off limits if their clients get off on touching them though.  

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1 hour ago, Nightowl said:

 Odd that they’d declare them off limits if their clients get off on touching them though.  

But it would be very difficult for the masseur to continue his massage with the client's hands on his chest.  Some guys care about offering a great massage.

[+ PhileasFogg]

I have some plans next week in FLL with a house full of guys and I was advised that one of them has extremely painful nipples     I don’t think it’s completely unusual. 

[jockstrapdaddy]

Had a TX based provider for whom nipple touching was a complete non-starter. He also had a bad attitude for the whole meeting. His bad attitude maligned all no-nips men for me. 🤣 

I now ask up front before we meet. 

It’s not even a specifically strong kink for me. 😅

[PetetKsfo]

I have done  worksops on consent and desire, and talk about this  subject with  clients, providers, and also guys in relationships.   

When looking at an agreement between two guys to participate in any given activity, there is a spectrum of consent that can be given.   This applies to both a cliaent-provider relationship and an unpaid connection between two partners.

Ranges of Consent
    -Enduring, allowing,tolerating   ---     willing, wanting, enjoying

The person proposing the activity is presumably proposing something that he is going to enjoy and wants (like playing with the provider's nipples.)     The recipeint of the action can give consent, but can have varying degrees of enthusiasm about the activity.      

In a relationship between two guys where it is not a client-provider situation, it is always great if both guys are on the willing, wanting, and enjoying side of consent.     

There may be times in a non-paid partner relationship where a partner tolerates or allows something because  he knows his partner wants do to, but he is not really getting a lot of enjoyment out of it.    "Enduring" something  implies that it does not cross into non-consent, but gets to the bottom of the partner's level of alllowability and will create tension or worse in the relationship.   

Now, in a client-provider situation,  the provider is not in this for his own enjoyment, but for the pleasure of the client.   A good provider should be willing to slip down into the tolerating, allowing, and even sometimes enduring levels  to do something that pleases a client.   This is where our job of turning on our acting skills comes into play to appear that we are really enjoying what we are doing    Now even the best of client-actors can't pull off a situation if we are in the "enduring" stage for too long.

So in summary, if an activity is not hurting me as a  provider,  is inside of my spectrum of consent, and even though it may not be on the top of my list for enjoyment, I think it is my job to allow it.  

Now many times, a client also gets pleasure from knowing (or believing) that the provider is also enjoying the activity together.    That is an entirely different angle on the wheel of consent for another day.

 

Edited 10 hours ago by PetetKsfo

[+ Pensant]

Strangely enough, I used to love nipple clamp play, but over the past 5 years that fetish has faded. Many providers love me to gently bite on their nipples. I haven’t ever found nipple play to be an issue with them.

[DunwoodyGuy]

If it happened once, it was probably just bad chemistry. If it's happened a few times, maybe the problem is with the way you're approaching their nipples.

[d.anders]

15 hours ago, TxMaxx said:

Should you ask a provider in advance if he is “a nipple guy”?

Absolutely. Communication is everything when trying to negotiate pleasure. If the service provider isn't into what you are into, you need to know that. Mentioning don'ts in an ad can be a counter-productive marketing strategy. It is far better to ask these things in private conversation.