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[Sunlit_wilderness]

Hi!

I noticed that there have been several queries in The Deli about guys who have some sort of public persona (usually porn actors or onlyfans creators). In the thread, the OP asks if these guys are available for hire and how to meet them. Many times, these guys don’t have RM profiles, so the commenters suggest to reach out using Instagram or Twitter DMs. 
 

I’m potentially interested in doing something similar, but I’m just curious - what would an initial reach out message look like for these sorts of interactions? It’s a little more straightforward with RM considering it’s designed for that and everyone knows what to expect. 
 

Interested in your thoughts. 
 

Thanks!

[DMonDude]

In my experience, asking if they're available for meet ups seems to be the code for that. I've seen some porn/onlyfans creators on twitter who specifically put "i don't do meet ups" on their profile bios. And i've known others who don't have that to be hire-able despite not being on RM and sites like that. You also probably could ask about if they're into meeting "gen"/"generous" guys. That's the more usual code i see on Grindr and hook up apps for.

[Clt704guy]

Yeah, I’ve had tremendous luck DMing guys on Instagram and OF to ask about meet ups. Not an issue at all. 

[+ Jamie21]

Don’t DM on instagram. Especially don’t mention paid meetings or anything similar on there. Instagram will ban suspend or ban the model’s account if they discuss such a thing on there. You’d need to move the discussion off instagram if you wanted to discuss hiring him. Similarly on Onlyfans: they will ban or suspend any creator discussing meets. 
I get guys messaging me on both my IG and OF about meeting and it’s difficult to respond to them directly. Best to contact guys for meets via their X / Twitter (they don’t care!) or via his contact number which you’ll find with a bit of simple research if he’s open for business. 

[DMonDude]

9 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Instagram will ban suspend or ban the model’s account if they discuss such a thing on there. You’d need to move the discussion off instagram if you wanted to discuss hiring him. Similarly on Onlyfans: they will ban or suspend any creator discussing meets. 

This is true in that it definitely is firmly against both sites Terms of Service, but I've personally found they don't enforce it unless someone actually uses the Report function. Not saying people should go try it all willy-nilly. But it's, in my past experience, not to the level of merely asking or bringing up the topic gets you instantly flaggged/banned. Maybe it's different and more strict from the model account's perspective in that they can't be the one advertising/soliciting though? OnlyFans specifically does have a list of keywords they don't let you send in a message, like Escort (the message will simply bounce back and say your message contains a banned word but won't tell you which one, but it's usually obvious which word it is and you can re-edit the message and send). But Esc0rt with a "0" rather than an "o" is not on that list.

Meet is also one of the words but you can use M33t and get around it last i recall. And discussing it in more subtle ways is even less policed. These sites list rules like that because they have to for liability reasons, but they are not putting in that much effort to enforce them in my experience. This was only like two years ago last time i had a conversation with a creator like that on OF, back before i knew about RM and stuff.

But yeah to your point though, for the OP. Twitter doesn't care at all, that site is the wild west haha. A lot of creators I've also noticed have Telegram channels you can message them on to buy content (which cuts out the OF middle man taking 20% of the creators sales), but I'd imagine it's also much easier there to set up other transactions with them if you have the proximity and the means.

[+ Jamie21]

9 minutes ago, DMonDude said:

Maybe it's different and more strict from the model account's perspective in that they can't be the one advertising/soliciting though?

Yes and the model has more to lose by having their IG banned or suspended so they’ll be very careful about even responding to requests to meet. I direct all such enquiries to my linktree which has info on how to contact me for discussions like that. OF is the same, and one definitely doesn’t want to engage in any kind of meet up discussion on there. Unfortunately naive clients do sometimes send such messages and I guess they assume the answer is a ‘no’ when they get a bland or no reply when the reality is they just don’t understand how to play the game….

[+ PhileasFogg]

I’ve not done this, but if I did, I’d be inclined to reach out on the platform offering a text number or email address for follow up off-platform.

Your outreach should be written in a way as to assuage any concerns about your legitimacy 

[+ PhileasFogg]

Here’s a mocked up version Of a template I default to

 

my name is xxxx and I live inxxxx.  I follow your profile on xxx and I’m inquiring to check your interest in a weekend trip to xxxx

I’m yrs, bi, top, negative and on prep, healthy and in good shape.  I like cuddling, eye contact, kissing, etc

Are you interested in such a trip?   If so, then I'd like to set up a video call to "meet" and discuss possibilities.  This is an introductory call...I will not riddle you with endless requests for texts and pictures, etc.   it’s simply to talk about possibilities and see if we vibe in mutual interests on such a trip  

Please let me know if you're interested….

 

ill add, they need to determine if this is a law enforcement sting, a dangerous person, a flake, etc   When I use my actual number they can look me up on MrNumber, see my name…and then they’re a Google search away from knowing a lot about me in establishing safety… remember, you’re paying for their time as a travel companion and nothing else   On these platforms, I’d suggest no mention to compensation…in dialogue, I’d reference nothing more than compensation  for their time…but you have to find your conversational comfort  there 

 

 

 

 

[DaddyCares]

I honestly never considered doing this, and it's definitely something that I'm going to consider. And now that the topic has been brought up, I wonder who I believe messaging next. I'd love to see some examples of this working out for people