How much personal real-life information do you share?

[mike carey]

27 minutes ago, azdr0710 said:

.......or Wellington!

Most dangerous city in the world. That wind can blow you off your feet.

[+ azdr0710]

13 minutes ago, mike carey said:

Most dangerous city in the world. That wind can blow you off your feet.

Windy Welly

[+ Pensant]

Generally, I host at my place or, if traveling, at my hotel. I always provide my first name. Over the years, I’ve been struck by how few providers ask me personal questions. I’ve never had any issues.

[+ Jamie21]

I’m happy to answer clients questions about my personal life but there’s some aspects I’d keep private. I share with them about my work, my day to day life and what kind of things I like. As a provider I think it’s important to be able to chat in a relaxed way with clients. It’s often after the sex when you’re just laying there naked and covered in bodily fluids that you can have really interesting conversations. It makes the session more about connection and intimacy than about just having sex. 

[Rudynate]

On 2/20/2026 at 4:23 PM, Wings246 said:

How much personal real-life information do you share with your providers/clients?  And when?

I know anonymity and discretion are the cornerstones of this hobby.  Perhaps I’m too new to all these, too naïve, too foolish, and too trusting too quickly, but I tend to tell my providers everything about myself truthfully the very first time I meet with them.

Most of them know my real name, where I live/work, my real phone number (I don’t have a burner number), and many other personal details of my life.

So far, they all seem to be very decent, upright people.  That's why I’m not too worried about sharing my info with them.  I’m a nobody, small potatoes, your run-of-the-mill peasant.  I keep wondering, “What do I have to lose even if they know my personal info?”  I guess I’m lucky in that I still haven’t been burned…… yet.

Maybe I’m just too careless (or reckless even?)…… should I be more discreet?

I’m interested in learning from your perspectives and experiences.

And almost all of them are, but there is the occasional bad apple who is unusually resourceful at making improper use of the information you share. I don't lie to providers, I use my own name, but I definitely don't overshare with a guy who I don't know well.