Going rates? (And other first timer questions)

[ncc1701d]

On 1/20/2026 at 6:43 PM, jusmeinbr said:

Just my own approach:

Once quoted a rate, I either agree or decline.

On a couple of occasions, a provider has immediately dropped the rate (which I neither expected nor wanted), with one dropping it almost in half.  

When that happened about seven months ago entailing ale_aleman who’d also been VERY deceitful with me about where he even was when we began corresponding two hours prior, I did respond in a terse manner.

Thereafter, I was utterly lampooned by members of this forum (about 32 such entries with high fives and one member praising another member for “calling it like I see it” regarding me — he “called” a very obvious ball a strike — and one member posting a tutorial on rate negotiation which I neither asked for nor wanted).

Accordingly, I deleted the entire post.  The only comment I thought that was appropriate did come from @Jamie21, who basically said rate negotiation is very unlikely to result in a pleasing and fulfilling subsequent meeting.  I did feel vindicated when @johnwhatelse made this post on the individual in question.

You do what you feel comfortable with, but for me, a final “yes” or “no” upon being quoted a rate has served me well for 22 years, and I plan to stick with that firm policy no matter how many unsolicited (and unwanted) tutorials on “rate negotiation” may surface on any future post which I originate.

Agree...that's my "rule " too...I either agree or don't agree and move on. Never negotiated. For longer time appointments (greater than 2 hrs) but not Overnight I ask them flat out to tell me, and same i either agree and book, or say no. Similarly in those situatons some have come right back after i said I'll pass with a different and lower rate. 

[realestateguy75]

I've come to recognize at least for me that providers who charge less than 400 an hour are subpar to those model types. Some of the very hot model quality type have attitudes that match the stereotype, yes, but back in the day the 150 an hour guys seemed to have more attitude and not deliver anything close to a good service. A higher fee isn't always the mark of a better service but in my experience usually the ones that charge a higher fee have more often than not delivered a better quality service with a better attitude. 

[Bottom4Huge1]

I am not a first timer, but hoping to get a referral for a good, HUNG top in chicago

[hungry4darkmeat]

I think the plethora of new talent has driven prices down a bit, but I always say “good dick aint cheap and cheap dick usually aint that good.” I have spent up to $300 for an hour and that was for the top rated most reviewed legends of rent men. While they’re on my list, I haven’t managed to have the pleasure of playing with some of the most well known players like KeptSecret, Bastian Sass, Max Konnor XG Chase or PRK yet, it’s only because they charge so much and I know how to get so much more for my money. While I’m sure they are all worth every penny they charge, im just fine helping another upcoming king climb the ladder while learning the ropes from someone who has been hiring since the late 80s

[jeezifonly]

With Content Creators, the rate you are quoted factors in time lost to shoot content with someone they actually want to create nakedtime with. The escort-escort comparison is pointless when your real competition is ongoing passive income from symmetrical attraction. 
A client's personal chemistry with the provider should not be compared to the on-screen portrayal of chemistry. It may be better, or maybe not.

Sometimes it's absolutely worth it when they ask more than you budget. If you decide to book, I hope it is!

 

[hungry4darkmeat]

40 minutes ago, jeezifonly said:

With Content Creators, the rate you are quoted factors in time lost to shoot content with someone they actually want to create nakedtime with. The escort-escort comparison is pointless when your real competition is ongoing passive income from symmetrical attraction. 
A client's personal chemistry with the provider should not be compared to the on-screen portrayal of chemistry. It may be better, or maybe not.

Sometimes it's absolutely worth it when they ask more than you budget. If you decide to book, I hope it is!

 

Imo, If they want to shoot some content, they should offer a discounted rate.

[hungry4darkmeat]

3 hours ago, Bottom4Huge1 said:

I am not a first timer, but hoping to get a referral for a good, HUNG top in chicago

I recommend Wolf Titan Shogun- he’s headed to Chicago now . He is the roughest top Ive been with in years and he knows exactly what to say and do to make sure you leave smiling 

[Bottom4Huge1]

Thank you.  I've been trying to meet him for like 2 years now, but our schedule just never seem to mesh when he's in town