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[Jaaymm]

I am a larger guy bald e5c amd have had some very intense intimate sessions with this guy and he is beautiful 

Salvxdor's profile on RentMasseur https://rentmasseur.com/Salvxdor

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 12/4/2025 at 9:41 AM, Peter Eater said:

The OP asked COM for recommendations of providers.

In 49 reply posts, exactly 2 recommendations were made. (Plus a couple by providers.) Both recommendations were in the first reply.

”Older chubs” seems to be a trigger. Maybe this topic thread should be moved into Questions About Hiring, or closed.

 

The OP didn't specific a city in the title.  As has been started repeatedly throughout the Deli, not including a city in the subject title yields little, if any, fruitful responses.

 

 

Edited December 5 by Vegas_Millennial

[Reggyreg56]

23 hours ago, Jaaymm said:

I am a larger guy bald e5c amd have had some very intense intimate sessions with this guy and he is beautiful 

Salvxdor's profile on RentMasseur https://rentmasseur.com/Salvxdor

Thank you for sharing this information!

[Nightowl]

44 minutes ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

The OP didn't specific a city in the title.  As has been started repeatedly throughout the Deli, not including a city in the subject title yields little, if any, fruitful responses.

Exactly.  If there’s no city in the title, I don’t look at it.  

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On 12/4/2025 at 12:11 PM, Jaaymm said:

I am a larger guy bald e5c amd have had some very intense intimate sessions with this guy and he is beautiful 

Salvxdor's profile on RentMasseur https://rentmasseur.com/Salvxdor

What is "e5c"?  I'm not so good with acronyms/abbreviations.  I usually resort to Google or the Urban Dictionary, but I didn't find any reference(s) for "e5c" that would relate to this thread.

[Bargara Leatherboy]

2 hours ago, Jay_lucas said:

i’m sorry someone said that that’s just cruel and I agree with you

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Well yes it maybe cruel, but its better to be rejected when you make the first enquiry rather than be rejected at the door (and that has happened).

I like to find a solution to every problem.

 

Problem is as a larger man - not everyone is attracted to you - but then everyone regardless of their physic is not attractive to everyone.

 

When I hire I want bang for my buck - if its not a fit - its not a fit and I would prefer to not waste time on those who are not a fit.

 

Is it cruel to go shopping for something you want - say a car - and finding the one that really suits you - are the other cars you reject suffering because the process of elimination is cruel.

 

Jay-lucas I thank you for your empathy - but I do not see it as cruel, its part of the due diligence you should do when you hire someone.

 

I have had escorts tell me that I am a great client as I am respectful, honest about what I want - show up on time and pay the agreed amount (here in Australia tipping is not part of our culture, but sometimes I tip) but the greatest compliment you can give an escort is hiring them again 

[Pd1_jap]

Gay men pay too much attention to body type. I've had encounters with chubby guys that are more gratifying than fit/muscle guys. 

I have a congenital birth defect that was somewhat corrected with surgery. Many guys get the ick when they notice it and the chemistry evaporates. I don't disclose this to guys because many people didn't notice it and I often forget that I'm a little different. I've only had one provider break things off because of it. 

Lastly, I've gone from fat to chubby to fit several times in my life. Honestly, I get more action when I'm chubby. Fit muscle guys that are model hot are extremely picky so even when I'm slim and well muscled they won't want me because I'm mid 40s or my congenital defect or they only want black guys or Latin or some other fantasy they have in their head. 

Bottom line: do what makes you happy and ignore the haters. They are just jealous that we get to eat carbs and ice cream. If a provider can't accept your weight that's his problem.

[Passionate_lover318]

I might be a little late since this conversation with May I add my experience. I am a larger man 230 pounds that is.  At one point i was a lot heavier about beautiful people on Batman just because of my way alone. I only saw a handful of people, but @Jay_lucas has been one of the people I’ve seen on the regular. he has been very helpful and patient with me and has helped me with my confidence with the time I’ve been seeing him.  One of the things I mentioned to him when I first started seeing him was if he would be OK with my weight.  he has been very sweet to me and I have been able to open up more in my journey. please keep in mind. I am not out and it is still a process for me.  what I’ve learned through this time is you have to find people who are not only gonna be OK with you but be gentle and patient with you at the same time.  I hope this helps and if you have any questions, feel free to reach out. 

[jmichaeliii]

7 minutes ago, Passionate_lover318 said:

I might be a little late since this conversation with May I add my experience. I am a larger man 230 pounds that is.  At one point i was a lot heavier about beautiful people on Batman just because of my way alone. I only saw a handful of people, but @Jay_lucas has been one of the people I’ve seen on the regular. he has been very helpful and patient with me and has helped me with my confidence with the time I’ve been seeing him.  One of the things I mentioned to him when I first started seeing him was if he would be OK with my weight.  he has been very sweet to me and I have been able to open up more in my journey. please keep in mind. I am not out and it is still a process for me.  what I’ve learned through this time is you have to find people who are not only gonna be OK with you but be gentle and patient with you at the same time.  I hope this helps and if you have any questions, feel free to reach out. 

Jay sounds wonderful and I have been lucky to find many like him.  You sound like you are around my size.

I have had so many wonderful experiences.  Those providers are out there and you can generally get a good idea about them from how they write their profile and the reviews they get.

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

22 hours ago, Jay_lucas said:

i’m sorry someone said that that’s just cruel and I agree with you

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A provider telling a client that he would not be a good fit is cruel? Really? Would it be better to say something like, "I don't take fatties on as clients?"
Bozo thinks that when a provider tells a client that he would not be a good fit, he is actually being kind and honest. The complete opposite of being cruel. If he allowed the client to book him and pay him, the client would likely have an unpleasant experience. By saying he wouldn't be a good fit, the provider is foregoing his fee, and going out of his way to be diplomatic and not hurt the client's feelings.

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[CuriousByNature]

2 hours ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

A provider telling a client that he would not be a good fit is cruel? Really? Would it be better to say something like, "I don't take fatties on as clients?"
Bozo thinks that when a provider tells a client that he would not be a good fit, he is actually being kind and honest. The complete opposite of being cruel. If he allowed the client to book him and pay him, the client would likely have an unpleasant experience. By saying he wouldn't be a good fit, the provider is foregoing his fee, and going out of his way to be diplomatic and not hurt the client's feelings.

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It's at the very least subjectively cruel when a 'good fit' comes down to one particular characteristic that the potential client is already self-conscious about.  Saying "I don't take fatties on as clients" crosses over from the provider being cruel, to him being an a**hole.

Ultimately, if a provider cannot consider a person a good fit due to their physical appearance, it says much more about the provider than it does about the potential client.

[ElleWoods]

13 minutes ago, CuriousByNature said:

It's at the very least subjectively cruel when a 'good fit' comes down to one particular characteristic that the potential client is already self-conscious about.  Saying "I don't take fatties on as clients" crosses over from the provider being cruel, to him being an a**hole.

Ultimately, if a provider cannot consider a person a good fit due to their physical appearance, it says much more about the provider than it does about the potential client.

100 true. It isn’t just about not being a fit. It’s about getting rejected because of the client’s weight. That’s cruel. 

[CuriousByNature]

1 minute ago, ElleWoods said:

100 true. It isn’t just about not being a fit. It’s about getting rejected because of the client’s weight. That’s cruel. 

Not to mention, when some people on this board have complained about providers having high donation requests and an unwillingness to provide a 'deal', others have argued that most people don't complain about the fees charged by other professionals, like lawyers and accountants.  So if we acknowledge that a provider is a professional and should be respected for whatever donation amount they set, we should also have an expectation that a provider would have similar levels of professional decorum as a lawyer or accountant.  Could anyone imagine going into a law office and having a lawyer look at your physical appearance, and then say, "we're not a good fit"?   That would be outlandish.  If a provider is unable to see a client due to their weight, the provider should own it themselves.  Own it, and tell the prospective client that there are better providers the client should choose from.

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

1 hour ago, CuriousByNature said:

Ultimately, if a provider cannot consider a person a good fit due to their physical appearance, it says much more about the provider than it does about the potential client.

Au contraire. Unlike a brick and mortar store, a provider is selling his services. And very intimate services. If a provider is turned off by the thought of being affectionate with a grossly overweight client (which is not unreasonable), it is far better to tell the client that he is not a good fit, rather than going ahead with a meet-up, only to give a subpar performance. It is much like when Bozo is perusing the ads and sees a provider covered in ink, or have an unappealing body. Some of those guys would literally have to pay Bozo, and in some cases, pay a lot of $$, for personal intimacy with them. Much as we clients have our personal turn-ons and turn-offs, providers are no different. 
The one thing we agree upon is that a provider saying to an obese, in some cases morbidly obese, client that he is not a "good fit" says a lot about the provider. You are correct. What it says is that the provider is being upfront, candid, empathetic, and most importantly, that he is willing to turn down his fee in order not to disappoint the client. It also saves the client his time, energy, a disappointing rendezvous, and his $$$.
Telling a client that he is not a good fit, compared to the other available options, is a positive reflection on the provider's virtue. Bozo only wishes there were more providers with those qualities.... many more.

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[ShortCutie7]

2 hours ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

Au contraire. Unlike a brick and mortar store, a provider is selling his services. And very intimate services. If a provider is turned off by the thought of being affectionate with a grossly overweight client (which is not unreasonable), it is far better to tell the client that he is not a good fit, rather than going ahead with a meet-up, only to give a subpar performance. It is much like when Bozo is perusing the ads and sees a provider covered in ink, or have an unappealing body. Some of those guys would literally have to pay Bozo, and in some cases, pay a lot of $$, for personal intimacy with them. Much as we clients have our personal turn-ons and turn-offs, providers are no different. 
The one thing we agree upon is that a provider saying to an obese, in some cases morbidly obese, client that he is not a "good fit" says a lot about the provider. You are correct. What it says is that the provider is being upfront, candid, empathetic, and most importantly, that he is willing to turn down his fee in order not to disappoint the client. It also saves the client his time, energy, a disappointing rendezvous, and his $$$.
Telling a client that he is not a good fit, compared to the other available options, is a positive reflection on the provider's virtue. Bozo only wishes there were more providers with those qualities.... many more.

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Totally agree!  I am very short, which is a dealbreaker for a lot of guys.  For my very first hire, I could tell from the moment I walked in that he was not remotely attracted to me, and (though he tried and I still had a decent experience) it kind of ruined the fantasy for me.  Even though I make every effort to make it clear that I’m very short, it doesn’t register with some guys until I’m standing in front of them- I would have much rather been rejected than have an experience that is difficult for the provider.